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June 20, 2012 10:25 pm at 10:25 pm in reply to: You Dont Know Suffering #916034
I havent read all the posts, but I ask you, Goq, what advantage is there to anyone who rehashes their past, (unless ch”v they have no future)?
If youd invest that time doing gainful, enjoyable things, and focusing on your present and future instead of on the negatives in your past, wouldnt that give you more pleasure and make you more easy to be around, bringing about new friendships and asst other opportunities/possibilities with potential for increased happiness for you in the future?June 12, 2012 4:53 pm at 4:53 pm in reply to: Matisyahu – what are you doing with his cds? #886199
Making major changes in ones life when one is single is hard enough. Making changes when youre married with a child gets a lot more complicated. I hope his wife and him are on the same page, for the kids sake (being pulled in multiple directions). Does anyone know?June 12, 2012 2:52 am at 2:52 am in reply to: Matisyahu – what are you doing with his cds? #886187
What happened with his wife and child? Are they moving in his direction?June 6, 2012 2:15 am at 2:15 am in reply to: Constantly Losing Umbrellas #878628
Health “Esp. in our day and age where indentity theft is rampid”.
Yes, both rampant and rampid!
Take it easy. Its not a bank account, credit card or soc sec number. Unless youre unlisted, everyone has access to your name and tel number. Better yet, if you put a cell number on the umbrella no one knows where you live, and you can go to a public place to claim it.June 5, 2012 3:16 pm at 3:16 pm in reply to: Two questions: Where in NYC can a couple in their fifties go….. #878514
zahavasdad: Not sure what you mean by “Clean Entertainment”
Any kind of orchestra music as in Lincoln Center or trade shows or anything kosher. Anything permissible and potentially interesting.
Does anyone know of any other regularly sscheduled Shiur in addition to R Brog? Rebbitzen Youngreisz at Hineni is good but thats mixed seating and attracts a different crowd.June 5, 2012 3:17 am at 3:17 am in reply to: Constantly Losing Umbrellas #878617
Get a white ink permanent marker and write your name and tel number on the inside somewhere. Someone might call you to return it.June 5, 2012 2:43 am at 2:43 am in reply to: Two questions: Where in NYC can a couple in their fifties go….. #878510
Thanks for the suggestions!
Any Shiur ideas (separate seating) for a couple?May 30, 2012 7:42 pm at 7:42 pm in reply to: Are there filters that connect to the router instead of individual computers? #877204
2qwerty, thanks but Im not tech savvy enough to know how to set my router (I think my router is verizon westell). Theres no numeric choices on it.
Who do I deal with if I cant pay a bill at 2 am if Im not dealing with a company w good cust service- this sounds like a tech savvy-friendly self service sitch to me.May 30, 2012 3:47 am at 3:47 am in reply to: Are there filters that connect to the router instead of individual computers? #877201
I looked at opendns.org
How do I block or allow specific sites from my router (and not from a specific computer with a keyboard that would filter only that specific computer) if I cant type names of websites on the router to block or allow?
Can someone please explain how this works from the router?May 29, 2012 7:14 pm at 7:14 pm in reply to: Are there filters that connect to the router instead of individual computers? #877195
gaw, “your children can simply disconnect it and reconnect the unfiltered internet”
What about if I lock the room where the router is? Have I solved that problem?
I just looked into Barracuda and they are meant for corporations and cost thousands. They have a division called Cloud thats much smaller and different.
Someone said Iprism has a waiting list.
Any other router based internet filter? In my home, as in many others, there are computers coming and going. A filter on any one or two computers is useless.May 24, 2012 4:44 am at 4:44 am in reply to: Video of Internet Asifa at CitiField – Full Video Feed for Satellite Locations #876244
AMAZING AMAZING AMAZING!
In a million years Id never have believed Id be so overcome with emotion the entire time I watched it, watching some parts over and over! (I cried like a baby at times).
Whoever made it available, be gebentched!!!!!May 23, 2012 2:36 pm at 2:36 pm in reply to: let's make it easier to judge #1089201
Like +10, pba
Socks?May 21, 2012 3:51 pm at 3:51 pm in reply to: Secular media didn't find out about asifa!! #875691
May I add NY Mag (and its comments) to the above list….April 24, 2012 11:21 pm at 11:21 pm in reply to: Going off the Derech #1181345
Ive heard Dr Meir Wikler say that if you treat an OTD child with warmth and acceptance, you have a chance of having a relationship with your child, whether frum or not. If you dont treat the child with warm and acceptance, you lose the child either way.
Id love to hear what he’d say about giving liberties to a demanding OTD child if there are other children in the house.April 24, 2012 10:22 pm at 10:22 pm in reply to: Going off the Derech #1181340
What percentage of OTD kids come back? Is the parents’ approach to the child while going OTD, connected to which children come back?
Do experts feel certain approaches by parents yield a greater percentage of return?April 18, 2012 3:41 pm at 3:41 pm in reply to: What can Yeshivos and girls' schools do to prevent students' OTD feelings? #972719
apush “Especially if the parents (and other role models) are master practicioners of the “do as I say, not as I do” approach”
If kids are put through that, there is no calm. :>)April 18, 2012 2:18 pm at 2:18 pm in reply to: What can Yeshivos and girls' schools do to prevent students' OTD feelings? #972715
morahmom, “I just question why parents were left out of this question!”
You must have missed “Its agreed that a loving calm home life with praise and encouragement is the best prevention against having kids go OTD, in most cases”.
But when you read the OTD peoples reasons for dissatisfaction with a Frum lifestyle, parents are not always the ones they fault.
We can easily blame all parents, but its not that simple.
I wish Id be able to be a fly on the wall in the room where Gedolim discuss what can be done to lessen the OTD trend, outside of parents being more loving.March 13, 2012 8:55 pm at 8:55 pm in reply to: Do any Brooklyn Rabbonim say its OK to report molesters to police first? #860081
Im sure youre aware that not all Rabbonim have taken a stand on this issue. Mine, I believe, is one who hasnt. If he did, Im not aware and dont have to ask because I dont have any molesters to report, luckily.
Sorry, I rattled you, gabi.January 8, 2012 4:46 am at 4:46 am in reply to: Girls High School Curriculum: Maybe all the schools need to do this #870014
Child psychology and dealing with difficulties in life are far more important subjects. Ive been saying that for a long time. Less Chumash Rashi and some more psychology and tools for life. Even though most high school age girls couldnt care less about child psychology and dealing with difficulties in life, at that point in their lives, something might remain.January 1, 2012 4:49 am at 4:49 am in reply to: But how far is too far to excuse based on intentions alone? #840787
The Ultra Charedim can “peacefully protest” fin heint biz morgin, if their desires are not part of the constitution. If their desires are not part of the constitution, it will not change, and it musnt change. No one has the right to infringe on others’ rights.
For control over a country’s constitution, they have to be the majority and have those changes voted in (no short sleeves worn by women). Theyre not the majority.
“Peacefully protest” they may, though.
Accomplish? Doubtful!December 28, 2011 8:20 pm at 8:20 pm in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839366
Why has this thread run on so long?
It might prevent a reoccurence of Kol Halbin es Pnai Chaveiro…and Lashon Hara.December 28, 2011 6:24 pm at 6:24 pm in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839360
Jothar: “So my rav was the Chofetz Chaim”
Every single situation is different. They have a call-in number. Id speak to a live Rov and explain what you have proof of, what you plan on doing or saying, and what the chance of change/improvement/effectiveness is. Then I’d move on that advice. Its not that simple. You make it clear that there was no live Rov involved when you shot those hurtful accusatory words.December 28, 2011 2:10 pm at 2:10 pm in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839354
Jothar: “I never identified anybody. My mecha’ah was perfectly justified and well-measured”.
Justified and well- measured based on which posek? Please offer name.
“Just” as justified and well- measured as Charedis who spit at chilonis.December 27, 2011 6:11 pm at 6:11 pm in reply to: Household & Cleaning Tips #838611
What are the favorite brands of silver polish these days?
I used to love the pink Rokeach brand silver polishing cream, in the plastic jar. It was great. I think its no longer available.December 27, 2011 2:29 pm at 2:29 pm in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839329
Wow! Look what the Belzer Rebbe said this week:
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I think public condemnation on a board and hints to someone who posts are embarassing and certainly NOT gentle, and damaging at the end because it incites to go in the other direction, and therefore almost as wrong as Chilul Shabbos itself.December 27, 2011 4:52 am at 4:52 am in reply to: Increase in OTD Children… are made to feel like second-class citizens, #839788
(regarding women 60 years ago) “in most cases they just did whatever they wanted without any regard for any shittos( which are not to be relied on)”.
Oh my! This was the holocaust and post-holocaust upheaval generation and women who wore sleeves at all, during that era, are to be praised! Many doubted the existence of G-d.December 26, 2011 10:20 pm at 10:20 pm in reply to: Increase in OTD Children… are made to feel like second-class citizens, #839769
soliek, PEARLS OF WISDOM, I agree 100% (how about our forefathers?)! Thats the best attitide! Better to put effort into helping than criticizing, esp when the criticizing isnt l’toeles!
“the conclusion i reached is that there is no reason you can pin OTD on…all the reasons today are nothing new, going off the derech has been in vogue since the times of the beis hamikdash. what you CAN do is deal with these kids once it happens…”December 26, 2011 7:07 pm at 7:07 pm in reply to: Increase in OTD Children… are made to feel like second-class citizens, #839759
zahavasdad: Unsettling but how true!
“I think Its easiest to sum up some peoples views. Every Yiddishe Neshama is sacred and holy , unless they want to go to MY schools, be friends with MY kids, Daven at MY Shul or live in MY neighborhood.”December 26, 2011 7:18 am at 7:18 am in reply to: Increase in OTD Children… are made to feel like second-class citizens, #839737
“Inasumuch as they didn’t keep halacha- yes, they were less frum.”
Thirty years from now, when new chumras that I can’t even imagine will be the new norm; someone will write in the coffee room of 2041 about our time;
“Inasumuch as they didn’t keep halacha- yes, they were less frum.”
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Your post hit the nail on the head, I think. I share your sentiments. By 2041, we might have gederim around gederim around gederim around gederim…..December 22, 2011 3:32 pm at 3:32 pm in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839300
Sometimes those who are aggresive and lash out at strangers, not l’toeles, are doing so because they cant lash out at the source of aggravation at home.
Attn Accusers, Insinuators, Nitpickers, Overly nasty “straighten out the world-types” on senseless missions, and all those who “see the world through black glasses”, with a negative bend:
Its therapy time. Doesnt hurt. Can only help. It might change you into sweet, sensitive and caring… and that will be effective and l’toeles.December 22, 2011 5:20 am at 5:20 am in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839292
ZeesKite, you said that beautifully!
Any chance that the fingerpointing, negativity and ugly accusations will end anytime soon? Otherwise we ought to call this place The Yerida World (downwards spiral).December 20, 2011 4:28 am at 4:28 am in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839281
jothar, “The troll in question is not a tinok shenishba. Nobody knows who he is, so it’s hard to say there was biyush berabbim, as nobody knows who he is”.
Irrelevant! Blood rushed to his face for naught. A bunch of teenagery nuts here, fantasizing that mocking will change anyone for the better. Hahefech!!! Just the opposite! It will change for the worse! What are some of you smoking?
I just saw an interview w Matisyahu- “Matisyahu: “No More Chassidic Reggae Superstar” in 2 parts (WNYC) on Youtube.
Ill bet hes still frum, by most of us here’s guidelines. Power to him! Sounds very warm and sensitive.December 18, 2011 5:35 pm at 5:35 pm in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839272
flowers, NO WAY! (“This place has potential to be completely anonymous, and can make him/her just enough embarrassed to make him change”).
A Nechtiger Tug. We never know how anonymous anything is, because mods have access to ALL email addresses and who knows what else…
You might have the best intentions, but I strongly doubt any Rov would allow embrassing of any kind, anywhere! Thats the childish route.December 18, 2011 4:08 pm at 4:08 pm in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839269
flowers: “Being polite about the chilul Shabbos isn’t going to be “mekarev” her/him. And calling him on this behavior isn’t going to make the situation any worse nor make him decide to continue being MS”
Lets focus on what has been proven to help OTD people- behind the scenes hand-holding by experienced Kiruv professioanls, NEVER EVER embarassing anyone in public. Thats the modus operandi of immature know-nothing trigger-happy brats.December 18, 2011 3:39 pm at 3:39 pm in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839266
moi aussi, I agree with your statement below! Embarassing people, making blood rush to the face is like killing. No one has explained how any of this is l’toeles, and whether a Rov was consulted.
“People (Jothar & co) complain of chilul Shabbes, but they don’t know that shaming someone in public is worse than chilul Shabbes. Will they ever learn how to handle things privately?”
Sometimes I think mods are a bunch of teenagers on a pleasure/ego trip.
When does the public finally hear if its only his beard that disappeared or his frumkeit?
Some equate the two, I dont.
leitzim, “Shame on you! The worst chillul Hashem is when you talk like this in front of other jews. What do all of you think, when Matisyahu will read all of the shameful comments that the frum jews are writing about him? Why do you think he will want to remain frum when he sees how frum jews behave toward other jews?
midwesterner: Did anyone ask you if you said asher yatzar today”?
Beautiful answer!December 15, 2011 5:56 am at 5:56 am in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839136
Why dont the Mods come out with the evidence? Who are they protecting?December 11, 2011 6:16 am at 6:16 am in reply to: If you've read "NASI Project Responds", have you changed your mind? #847995
It will be interesting to compare older girl engagements’ statistics pre-“Nasi game-changing plan” to post-“Nasi game-changing plan”. Me thinks statistics will be the same and the only noticeable game-change will be the Shadchan pay. I hope Im wrong though.
If nothing else, it’ll help the Heimish economy.December 7, 2011 3:35 am at 3:35 am in reply to: If you've read "NASI Project Responds", have you changed your mind? #847946
How many girls have signed up? Is the public allowed to know in order to decide whether to join?November 10, 2011 4:52 am at 4:52 am in reply to: Socia Security for Dummies- can I collect and be employed full time? #825177
I spoke to someone who told me everyone in his shul (all very high earners) started to collect soc sec at the first possible chance, while still working f/t, a couple of years before age 65. I dont see the chochma in that. What would be the gain in that case (unless they think they’ll die young)?November 9, 2011 11:56 pm at 11:56 pm in reply to: Socia Security for Dummies- can I collect and be employed full time? #825170
So with continuing to work f/t with a salary similar to mine, Im told by most that there isnt any advantage to applying for benefits before 65. Although I know people who have similar salaries, are working f/t and ARE getting benefits before 65. Im getting conflicting opinions.November 8, 2011 11:27 pm at 11:27 pm in reply to: Socia Security for Dummies- can I collect and be employed full time? #825167
YW Moderator-72, thanks, but I want to hear others’ experiences, with starting to receive benefits early, versus waiting, etc.
I like the advice given here. Lots of sensible people here.
With a salary close to 100, and not wanting to retire early, might there be any advantages of taking Soc Sec early?November 8, 2011 9:40 pm at 9:40 pm in reply to: Socia Security for Dummies- can I collect and be employed full time? #825163
(BTW, those who have my job, working for private firms, at my age, are making double and more).August 22, 2011 5:42 am at 5:42 am in reply to: If Im the ony one to give complete down payment to children… #800735
aries, Im sure you are advising the above goodheartedly and with the best of seichel and intentions, but
1- Financially it doesnt make sense for us to give money thats irreplaceable and might end up in places we dont want it to. You, by comparison, B”H, seem to be somewhat of a bank, lending money left and right as the need arises to relatives and friends. We cant and we dont.
2- Nor does it make sense for the couple to continue paying rent and paying up their landlord’s mortgage.
So, Im asking for the most tactful way to accomplish the goals in the most sensitive and least painful manner and with the least financial risk and potential for regret.August 22, 2011 2:00 am at 2:00 am in reply to: If Im the ony one to give complete down payment to children… #800729
First of all, this marriage is strong B”H, and I dont want it to go in any other drection, ever, B”H.
Throughout this marriage, my side has been the only side giving.
Hey, I can take this money and buy lots of stuff for myself. Many people, much wealthier than myself, have given nothing to their children and live like kings and queens and stand tall and proud among their children and their communities. The children have no choice but to make peace with it.
In my life I’ve seen too many cheery optimists taken to the cleaners and regretting it very badly. But, if thats the way you want to go, Kol Hakovod. I don’t!May 6, 2010 9:38 pm at 9:38 pm in reply to: Your Feedback: New YWN Website #992781
IMHO, if only the ads would be still and not action packed, they’d be more tolerable.May 3, 2010 9:30 pm at 9:30 pm in reply to: Need Tips on getting the first accounting job #684004
artchill, I forwarded your post. Thanks. SJSinNYC, he applied there already.
Thanks.May 3, 2010 4:47 pm at 4:47 pm in reply to: Need Tips on getting the first accounting job #684001
1.Please clarify what you mean by MULTILINGUAL (Urdu, Talalog, Spanish, Polish, etc.). Yiddish and Hebrew are of no value in the real working world.
Sure. Dutch, Flemish, German, in addition to English, Hebrew, Yiddish (all fluent).
2.Please enlighten is this person willing to move out of town?
I also wanted to add, said person would consider a decent non-accounting job, with some growth potential.