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I havent read all the posts, but I ask you, Goq, what advantage is there to anyone who rehashes their past, (unless ch”v they have no future)?
If youd invest that time doing gainful, enjoyable things, and focusing on your present and future instead of on the negatives in your past, wouldnt that give you more pleasure and make you more easy to be around, bringing about new friendships and asst other opportunities/possibilities with potential for increased happiness for you in the future?
Making major changes in ones life when one is single is hard enough. Making changes when youre married with a child gets a lot more complicated. I hope his wife and him are on the same page, for the kids sake (being pulled in multiple directions). Does anyone know?
What happened with his wife and child? Are they moving in his direction?
Health “Esp. in our day and age where indentity theft is rampid”.
Yes, both rampant and rampid!
Take it easy. Its not a bank account, credit card or soc sec number. Unless youre unlisted, everyone has access to your name and tel number. Better yet, if you put a cell number on the umbrella no one knows where you live, and you can go to a public place to claim it.
Get a white ink permanent marker and write your name and tel number on the inside somewhere. Someone might call you to return it.
AMAZING AMAZING AMAZING!
In a million years Id never have believed Id be so overcome with emotion the entire time I watched it, watching some parts over and over! (I cried like a baby at times).
Whoever made it available, be gebentched!!!!!
Like +10, pba
Socks?
May I add NY Mag (and its comments) to the above list….
Ive heard Dr Meir Wikler say that if you treat an OTD child with warmth and acceptance, you have a chance of having a relationship with your child, whether frum or not. If you dont treat the child with warm and acceptance, you lose the child either way.
Id love to hear what he’d say about giving liberties to a demanding OTD child if there are other children in the house.
What percentage of OTD kids come back? Is the parents’ approach to the child while going OTD, connected to which children come back?
Do experts feel certain approaches by parents yield a greater percentage of return?
Child psychology and dealing with difficulties in life are far more important subjects. Ive been saying that for a long time. Less Chumash Rashi and some more psychology and tools for life. Even though most high school age girls couldnt care less about child psychology and dealing with difficulties in life, at that point in their lives, something might remain.
The Ultra Charedim can “peacefully protest” fin heint biz morgin, if their desires are not part of the constitution. If their desires are not part of the constitution, it will not change, and it musnt change. No one has the right to infringe on others’ rights.
For control over a country’s constitution, they have to be the majority and have those changes voted in (no short sleeves worn by women). Theyre not the majority.
“Peacefully protest” they may, though.
Accomplish? Doubtful!
Why has this thread run on so long?
It might prevent a reoccurence of Kol Halbin es Pnai Chaveiro…and Lashon Hara.
Jothar: “So my rav was the Chofetz Chaim”
Every single situation is different. They have a call-in number. Id speak to a live Rov and explain what you have proof of, what you plan on doing or saying, and what the chance of change/improvement/effectiveness is. Then I’d move on that advice. Its not that simple. You make it clear that there was no live Rov involved when you shot those hurtful accusatory words.
Jothar: “I never identified anybody. My mecha’ah was perfectly justified and well-measured”.
Justified and well- measured based on which posek? Please offer name.
“Just” as justified and well- measured as Charedis who spit at chilonis.
What are the favorite brands of silver polish these days?
I used to love the pink Rokeach brand silver polishing cream, in the plastic jar. It was great. I think its no longer available.
Wow! Look what the Belzer Rebbe said this week:
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I think public condemnation on a board and hints to someone who posts are embarassing and certainly NOT gentle, and damaging at the end because it incites to go in the other direction, and therefore almost as wrong as Chilul Shabbos itself.
Sometimes those who are aggresive and lash out at strangers, not l’toeles, are doing so because they cant lash out at the source of aggravation at home.
Attn Accusers, Insinuators, Nitpickers, Overly nasty “straighten out the world-types” on senseless missions, and all those who “see the world through black glasses”, with a negative bend:
Its therapy time. Doesnt hurt. Can only help. It might change you into sweet, sensitive and caring… and that will be effective and l’toeles.
ZeesKite, you said that beautifully!
Any chance that the fingerpointing, negativity and ugly accusations will end anytime soon? Otherwise we ought to call this place The Yerida World (downwards spiral).
jothar, “The troll in question is not a tinok shenishba. Nobody knows who he is, so it’s hard to say there was biyush berabbim, as nobody knows who he is”.
Irrelevant! Blood rushed to his face for naught. A bunch of teenagery nuts here, fantasizing that mocking will change anyone for the better. Hahefech!!! Just the opposite! It will change for the worse! What are some of you smoking?
I just saw an interview w Matisyahu- “Matisyahu: “No More Chassidic Reggae Superstar” in 2 parts (WNYC) on Youtube.
Ill bet hes still frum, by most of us here’s guidelines. Power to him! Sounds very warm and sensitive.
flowers, NO WAY! (“This place has potential to be completely anonymous, and can make him/her just enough embarrassed to make him change”).
A Nechtiger Tug. We never know how anonymous anything is, because mods have access to ALL email addresses and who knows what else…
You might have the best intentions, but I strongly doubt any Rov would allow embrassing of any kind, anywhere! Thats the childish route.
flowers: “Being polite about the chilul Shabbos isn’t going to be “mekarev” her/him. And calling him on this behavior isn’t going to make the situation any worse nor make him decide to continue being MS”
Lets focus on what has been proven to help OTD people- behind the scenes hand-holding by experienced Kiruv professioanls, NEVER EVER embarassing anyone in public. Thats the modus operandi of immature know-nothing trigger-happy brats.
moi aussi, I agree with your statement below! Embarassing people, making blood rush to the face is like killing. No one has explained how any of this is l’toeles, and whether a Rov was consulted.
“People (Jothar & co) complain of chilul Shabbes, but they don’t know that shaming someone in public is worse than chilul Shabbes. Will they ever learn how to handle things privately?”
Sometimes I think mods are a bunch of teenagers on a pleasure/ego trip.
When does the public finally hear if its only his beard that disappeared or his frumkeit?
Some equate the two, I dont.
leitzim, “Shame on you! The worst chillul Hashem is when you talk like this in front of other jews. What do all of you think, when Matisyahu will read all of the shameful comments that the frum jews are writing about him? Why do you think he will want to remain frum when he sees how frum jews behave toward other jews?
midwesterner: Did anyone ask you if you said asher yatzar today”?
Beautiful answer!
Why dont the Mods come out with the evidence? Who are they protecting?
It will be interesting to compare older girl engagements’ statistics pre-“Nasi game-changing plan” to post-“Nasi game-changing plan”. Me thinks statistics will be the same and the only noticeable game-change will be the Shadchan pay. I hope Im wrong though.
If nothing else, it’ll help the Heimish economy.
How many girls have signed up? Is the public allowed to know in order to decide whether to join?
IMHO, if only the ads would be still and not action packed, they’d be more tolerable.