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    “Where do the Chasidim I’m Baltimore send their kids to school? Are the Chasidim in Baltimore the same type of Chasidim you’d find in Boro Park, Williamsburg and Monsey?”

    ” The Chassidishe community/cheder is kind of artificial. The entire thing is a multi-Chassidus kollel supported by one guy and they also operate in seclusion with little interaction with the major frum community”

    Artificial and seclusion are partly true but unfair characterizations. Khal Chassidim is a splendid place to daven and I find the Chassidim in the Kollel to be friendly and open. Their schools do accept people from the community but the screening criteria are understandably tight. I heard they have 3 grades in their Cheder and opening a 1st grade in the Girls school. One thing is for sure – they have by far the coolest playgrounds in the city/county. The community is growing – I heard Chassidim are moving from NY and other states to join this “insular” community.

    As far as crime, FreddieFish should keep quiet so we can get more Chassidim to move and they can try “chapsem” on the indigenous population.

    in reply to: Holding hands after a Chuppah #1743136

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    see this from Sefer Bayis Ne’eman:

    ונציין עוד, שאף מנהג [הספרדים] אנשי ירושלים, לנהוג במנהג זה (ראה שולחן העזר, פ”ח, סעי’ ח, סק”ג). ובפרי האדמה (לרבי רפאל מיוחס, ח”ג, הלכ’ שבת, פרק ל) מביא בטעמו של דבר, על פי שיטת הטו”ז הנזכר, שאף באופנים שאין חופה מועילה, מועיל ההולכה לביתו, ולדעתו ההולכה היינו דוקא כשמוליכה בידו. ומאידך בספר שער המפקד (מנהגי ירושלים, לרבי רפאל אהרן בן שמעון, אב”ד קהיר. הלכ’ קידושין אות יב), חולק עליו, ולדעתו אין בזה משום קנין חופה, מכמה טעמים – עיי”ש. ולדעתו טעם המנהג לאחוז ביד, מקורו במנהג שנאמר אצל האבות, “ויביאה יצחק האהלה שרה אמו…”. עיי”ש רמזים נוספים.
    ובשלחן העזר (שם), מביא טעם נוסף, בכדי להרוויח את קושית ‘המקנה’ (קו”א, סב, א. מובא פת”ש שם), שהקשה על הסוברין שברכות נישואין נאמרו ‘עובר לעשייתן’ לפני הייחוד, דאם זה עולה על הייחוד הלא הוה ההילוך בין מקום החופה לחדר הייחוד הפסק, כדעת הפוסקים (ראה או”ח ח) דהליכה הוה הפסק (ע”כ תוכן קושית המקנה). ולזה הנהיגו שיאחז החתן את הכלה תיכף ממקום החופה עד למקום הייחוד, שלא יהיה ההילוך הפסק.

    from Hidabroot:

    יש מביאים, שהמנהג הוא שאם הכלה טהורה, שהחתן והכלה הולכים שלובי ידיים מן החופה לחדר היחוד (ראה שו”ת פרי האדמה חלק ג’ סימן י, ושלחן העזר דף סז אות ג, ובמה שציין בזה בספר שרשי מנהג אשכנז חלק ד’ עמודים 502-515).

    in reply to: Holding hands after a Chuppah #1743135

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    see this from Sefer Bayis Ne’eman:

    ונציין עוד, שאף מנהג [הספרדים] אנשי ירושלים, לנהוג במנהג זה (ראה שולחן העזר, פ”ח, סעי’ ח, סק”ג). ובפרי האדמה (לרבי רפאל מיוחס, ח”ג, הלכ’ שבת, פרק ל) מביא בטעמו של דבר, על פי שיטת הטו”ז הנזכר, שאף באופנים שאין חופה מועילה, מועיל ההולכה לביתו, ולדעתו ההולכה היינו דוקא כשמוליכה בידו. ומאידך בספר שער המפקד (מנהגי ירושלים, לרבי רפאל אהרן בן שמעון, אב”ד קהיר. הלכ’ קידושין אות יב), חולק עליו, ולדעתו אין בזה משום קנין חופה, מכמה טעמים – עיי”ש. ולדעתו טעם המנהג לאחוז ביד, מקורו במנהג שנאמר אצל האבות, “ויביאה יצחק האהלה שרה אמו…”. עיי”ש רמזים נוספים.
    ובשלחן העזר (שם), מביא טעם נוסף, בכדי להרוויח את קושית ‘המקנה’ (קו”א, סב, א. מובא פת”ש שם), שהקשה על הסוברין שברכות נישואין נאמרו ‘עובר לעשייתן’ לפני הייחוד, דאם זה עולה על הייחוד הלא הוה ההילוך בין מקום החופה לחדר הייחוד הפסק, כדעת הפוסקים (ראה או”ח ח) דהליכה הוה הפסק (ע”כ תוכן קושית המקנה). ולזה הנהיגו שיאחז החתן את הכלה תיכף ממקום החופה עד למקום הייחוד, שלא יהיה ההילוך הפסק.

    from Hidabroot:

    יש מביאים, שהמנהג הוא שאם הכלה טהורה, שהחתן והכלה הולכים שלובי ידיים מן החופה לחדר היחוד (ראה שו”ת פרי האדמה חלק ג’ סימן י, ושלחן העזר דף סז אות ג, ובמה שציין בזה בספר שרשי מנהג אשכנז חלק ד’ עמודים 502-515).

    אולם יש שכתבו, שיש

    in reply to: How Shidduchim became a beauty pageant contest. #1708625

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    I request that Haimy retract his filthy statements about the Chareidim. In our circles there is a picture sent to get a general idea if it is shayich or not. Only the mother of the boy looks at the girl’s picture. The boy trusts his parents and obviously gets the final say or not. But “Haimy” is setting up straw men to knock down. How sad.

    in reply to: Can golus end but the geulah still did not arrive? #1695199

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    Bein Hashmashos, according to Rebbe Yosi, is k’heref ayin.

    in reply to: advanced technology? #1687957

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    Everything is on the Internet. Even things like yearbooks or newspapers which were printed before the Internet was invented. Poland, Romania and other countries are putting their archives online. court records are online. That means if someone has been arrested or convicted, that information is online. Forever. So it is foolish for anyone to claim that they are impervious.

    in reply to: Is “shushing” the “shusher” nekama? #1683295

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    1 is spouting narishkeit. “Screaming” at someone for talking in shul during certain parts of the davening is the Halocha. Straight out of the Shulchan Aruch. And many Conservative Jews go to shul every day; most go every Shabbos. It’s not Reform.

    in reply to: Kashrus on Delta Airlines #1649179

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    Frumguy please request this information on Dan’s deals. United has Glatt kosher both ways from reputable Hashgochas.

    in reply to: men going to mikvah on shabbos #1588010

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    warning for Litvaks: skip this post).

    There is a section of the Zemiros we say Leil Shabbos. It says “u’miyut avonos.”. Why would we ask Hashem for only a few aveiros instead of none? One answer is that it is technically assur to clap, dance and go to mikva on Shabbos. Sechita, whatever. But what kind of a Shabbos is it without clapping dancing and a hot mikva? It isn’t as geshmack. So we ask that the Aibishter forgive us these few.

    in reply to: men going to mikvah on shabbos #1587023

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    Lubavitchers hold of bor Al gabei bor. Others hold of zeria and neshika Boros. See Wikipedia or Google it.

    in reply to: How much to tip the barber for a haircut? #1587022

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    As others have said, I cut my own hair and that of my minor sons and have saved thousands of dollars over the past two decades. We cut our hair more frequently than many other people. I cut my daughter’s hair until she realized it was crooked.

    in reply to: men going to mikvah on shabbos #1586179

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    There are two types of filters. One draws water out of the mikva and recycles it through the zriah bor. The other type sits in the Mikvah itself and doesn’t draw water out at all. Most poskim hols, I believe, that for men toiveling is fine with either one running.

    in reply to: Incorrigible Children #1584604

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    There is no such thing. Anyone can change and anyone can do Teshuva. Even Nero, Nevuzaraden, Bnei Korach, Bnei bonov shel Homan. Acher.

    in·cor·ri·gi·ble
    inˈkôrəjəb(ə)l/
    adjective
    1.
    (of a person or their tendencies) not able to be corrected, improved, or reformed.
    synonyms: inveterate, habitual, confirmed, hardened, dyed-in-the-wool, incurable, chronic, irredeemable, hopeless, beyond hope; More
    noun
    1.
    an incorrigible person.

    in reply to: Uman #1571866

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    Rebbe Nachman spent the last five months of his life in Uman, and specifically requested to be buried here. As believed by the Breslov Hassidim, before his death he solemnly promised to intercede on behalf of anyone who would come to pray on his grave on Rosh Hashana, “be he the worst of sinners”; thus, a pilgrimage to this grave provides the best chance of getting unscathed through the stern judgement which, according to Jewish faith, God passes on everybody on Yom Kippur

    in reply to: Henna tattoos #1563384

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    Jeans, nail polish colors and secular videos all likely include halachic questions. Not realizing that can be a problem.

    in reply to: Henna tattoos #1560716

    BaltimoreMaven
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    Why not ask your Rov?

    in reply to: Tefilah Chinuch #1558623

    BaltimoreMaven
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    Have them read once a day from Praying with Fire

    in reply to: Is Yiddish Holy? #1557823

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    Let’s ignore the poor logic employed by hoover. Not worth a response.

    Allegedly the Chasam Sofer said any drosha not in Yiddish is treif.


    BaltimoreMaven
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    Park Heights. Greenspring. Ranchleigh. Belzer homes yeshiva lane. Dumbarton. The community of 4200 heimishe families is growing. Chai is now less frum oriented and more old age oriented. Director is MO. The best idea is to come for a Shabbos and walk around.

    in reply to: Brisk #1556361

    BaltimoreMaven
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    Brisk learns Kodshim.

    in reply to: Anyone With Info On Sanz Chassidus? #1556165

    BaltimoreMaven
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    Unfortunately you can now buy pre-made eggs and onion. Takes all of the fun (and risk) out of it.


    BaltimoreMaven
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    TOP – the prices are going up in part because the Chassidishe Kollel and other people are moving in. Rabbi Tesser and others have established new young vibrant shul’s. The neighborhood was on the edge of decline only a few years ago. That being said you can still buy houses in Park Heights for under $180k. Brand new houses on Fords lane are $250k. On the other side of the community the houses are more like 350-450 you should come to Baltimore now, buy up a lot of property, and get in on the ground floor. The only directions at property values are going is up! Don’t forget that we have for ambulances with Hatzolah. A solid Eruv etc.


    BaltimoreMaven
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    Midwest 2 +1
    I could not have said it better myself.

    in reply to: Baltimores chassidish community is growing by leaps and bounds!!!! #1554169

    BaltimoreMaven
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    Yes Baltimore has chassidishe shechita.

    in reply to: Anyone With Info On Sanz Chassidus? #1553369

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    Why not go to a Tzanzer tisch? Also you should make eggs and onion for Shabbos day seuda, at the table.

    in reply to: confused #1537233

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    The kid was 100% correct. It doesn’t matter who says it – if it is true then be Mekabel. Adults get insulted when a kid gives them Mussar? Why? One reason – ga’avah. I am pretty sure that this guy who “happened to HAVE to check his phone” would have had the exact same response to any adult who told him to put it away. Smart phones are a sickness and their addiction is bad. Admit it and get help.

    in reply to: Looking for post high school yeshiva advice #1535325

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    TJ – Tiferes Yerushalayim / Rabbi Greenwald’s Yeshiva in Bayit V’Gan.

    in reply to: How do you keep your children interested @ the Shabbos Seuda #1534181

    BaltimoreMaven
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    Words adding up to 7 in Mispar koton, in order of the seuda; Ner, Yayin, Challah, Dag, Maran, Bazar, Kugel (spelled chaseir). That’s at least 7 things.

    “He for example thinks one should eat Chulent at Melava Malka instead of the minhag Hamakon of Pizza (Because there is some “Holiness” of Chulent over Pizza)” – see Gemora Shabbos 119b I believe – the story of the egla tilsa – lechatchila one should eat freshly cooked bosor for Melava Malka (and wash).

    in reply to: How do you keep your children interested @ the Shabbos Seuda #1531714

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    Nobody sane will eat ptcha – thousands of people eat it and enjoy it. You might not. I don’t. That doesn’t make them insane.

    Having a food at the table that literaly makes you nauseous does not make a good seudah – incorrect. I despise liver but since my family and guests enjoy it, we serve it. Instead of being selfish and self centered maybe think more broadly.

    I see this argument is going nowhere and I don’t want to prolong the pain so I will refer those interested to the sources cited and for those who will zoom and eat nontraditional foods, I hope you enjoy your Shabbos too.

    in reply to: How do you keep your children interested @ the Shabbos Seuda #1531677

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    I don’t think speeding through the Seudos is a good idea or solution. The Seudos are there for our pleasure. If we don’t get pleasure from them, it’s us that is the problem – not the seuda. The Shabbos Seudos are supposed to be a 5 or 7 course meal. Fit for a King. Would the President zoom through his State Dinner so he can catch a ball game? Of course not. Shabbos in Baltimore must be different that in these places where people are dissatisfied with their Seudos. You all are welcome to come visit and enjoy.

    in reply to: How do you keep your children interested @ the Shabbos Seuda #1531674

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    I believe that it is the parent’s responsibility to steer the conversation towards “Shabbosdige” conversation – Parsha, Hashkofa – and not areas that are “Chol” or could easily lead to Loshon Hora. The Gemora clearly says “Lo Yehei diburecha b’Shabbos k’diburecha b’Chol (your speech should be different on Shabbos than weekdays). Indeed many Sefardim and others have a ta’anas dibbur on Shabbos and avoid all non-essential speech. This is codified in the Shulchan Oruch. Yes it’s a challenge but what the kids learn when they are young they mimic when they grow up. I heard that the Malachim don’t sing on Shabbos – that is left to the Yidden. So we should also sing a lot and there are wonderful participatory zemiros. On the issue of traditional foods, yes we can also serve foods the oilom likes but the foods we already eat are there for a reason. See the Shabbos Secrets book by Miezels. Many add up to 7 in mispar koton Gematria. As is usual in Yiddishkeit, the minhogim are there for a reason and to just discard them for our own reasons would be a mistake of tragic proportions.

    in reply to: How do you keep your children interested @ the Shabbos Seuda #1531649

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    OK the OP is obviously asking a serious question and isn’t getting straight answers. That’s so sad. Why don’t we take it seriously? Especially such a very important topic. How many of us actually enjoy the entire Shabbos seuda? I have been accused of schlepping out the Seudos and I may be guilty. But we do pack it full of games, Torah and zemiros. There are many resources in English and (even more) in Hebrew. First you can subscribe to many weekly Divrei Torah by email such as Rav Biderman and Meoros HaTzaddikim. They include stories which keep everyone interested. Shabbos Tisch is in pamphlet or Sefer form. Check the Feldheims website or Eichlers for English or Hebrew Shabbos stories. Rabbi Brull put out some great books with interesting stories of chesed. “4 Your Shabbos Table” and “Emes V’Emuna” are very good. In Hebrew I find the Rav Yitzchak Zilberstien seforim great – Aleinu LeShabeyach (also in English). His most user friendly IMHO is in Maaseh SheYayo form, called “Meah Shearim”

    in reply to: Meshulachim #1519678

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    Part of me wants to meet Joseph in the same room as the other CR personalities. Just to see the interactions.

    in reply to: Meshulachim #1519403

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    Baltimore pays $15 a day I believe.

    in reply to: shadchanim in America #1516603

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    Contact American shadchanim in Israel through the Mir. Rav Elefant knows many. Chanoch Teller used to do shadchanus also. The best shidduch is through friends anyways.

    in reply to: besamim that really smells #1513077

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    Fresh or dried out Hadassim work well.
    Go to Etz Bakbukim Kibbutz in Israel and buy a cured lemon in a bottle. The smell lasts for years.
    Buy a container of Besomim from the supermarket – Ner Mitzvah and others sell cloves.
    My favorite is to buy whole cinnamon sticks and crush them up.
    I actually know a few people who have no sense of smell and cannot say the Brocha on Besomim so we should appreciate what we have and use it well.

    in reply to: Questions for the experts #1510331

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    Why do I waste my time on inane posts like this one?

    in reply to: Shadchanus #1509700

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    There is a normative amount in each community.
    The Minhag in Yerushalayim – I have heard – was to give 1/3 of the shadchan gelt after the engagement, 1/3 after the Chuppah and 1/3 after the first child was born. Makes a lot of sense.
    Shadchan of course stands for “Sheker Dover, Kesef Notel”

    in reply to: Alarm clock shabbos #1509336

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    “The problem is hashmoas kol”

    – *A* problem is hashoas Kol but I doubt it can be heard outside. Another problem may be the Rav Moshe peak on using timers on Shabbos

    “And how will you turn it off?”

    – it used to be that almost all alarm clocks turn off after a minute. They still sell them.

    in reply to: Alarm clock shabbos #1509326

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    Rav Moshe

    in reply to: Yeshiva of waterbury #1509089

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    Rabbi Gluck in Monsey meets with boys and advises them on a wide range of Yeshiva options.

    in reply to: What if I don't want to buy back the chometz from the goy? #1501942

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    I’m not sure why Joseph doesn’t just learn Gemora Pesachim and the Shulchan Aruch etc. I think he’s just trying to start a conversation. Everyone agrees that the whole mechiras chometz is a halachic trick. It is truly a ha’ar’oma. Bitul b’alma sagi – from a Torah perspective Bitul is sufficient. All the rest is d’Rabbonon. Don’t forget that we also rent the part of the house / business that the chometz is contained in.

    in reply to: Challenge: Help Me Find an Intriguing Hagaddah #1495468

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    Rav Weinberg ZTZ”L from Ner Israel allegedly said it’s a Mitzvah d’Oraisa to buy a new Haggodah yearly as it is mekayem v’higadita l’vincha. We have a large collection – you are looking only for English or also easy Hebrew? Dubno Maggid mishaps? Stories?

    in reply to: How Careful Must We Be When Eating Out With A Hechsher #1491804

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    Star K has always required a mashgiach tmidi, although many Hechseirim do not. It’s not perfect but Star K also requires that the kitchen be locked and that the Mashgiach have the only key. The more failsafes built in the better.

    in reply to: He’s Hot, She’s Cold; Windows Open or Closed? #1483139

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    “It is nice to agree with yourself, is it not?”

    If there is anonymity then there is anonymity.
    If there is not, YWN might as well say so.


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    sweet fake cream sauce herring like shtiglitz.

    Why knock it? Some people love it. Also honey mustard.

    in reply to: How Was Vashti Killed? #1476701

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    Joseph:

    You are saying she was bumped off?

    in reply to: Single Malt Scotch #1473377

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    “I see idolaters everywhere”

    Uhhhh. Not sure what to say. Maybe read the Chazal that all avodah Zoran was uprooted and no longer exists?

    in reply to: Single Malt Scotch #1473339

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    idolater’s scotch – is this Purim Torah? So soon? Drink enough of any intoxicating beverage and bad things can happen. Chas v’shalom.

    in reply to: Single Malt Scotch #1473295

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    ” Why rely on a probably obsolete hazakah that a product is inherently kosher, when we can get the same product with certification from a proper kashrus agency.”

    Because it’s not the same product. Unlike Kosher wines, Kosher whiskey is not yet, unfortunately, even close to the quality of the non-hechshered brands.

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