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  • in reply to: Bycc, YSV, Bas Mikroh or Ateres #1063213

    basmelech
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    My Yeshivish granddaughters go to Bas Mikroh. I think they’re happy there. YSV may have Yeshivish crowd too, but, I only know more modern kids who go there.

    in reply to: Inviting friends' spouse to wedding #919118

    basmelech
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    It is proper to invite the spouses, but, I know that in my case if my husband doesn’t know the other party, he wouldn’t go to the wedding anyway and the same goes for me.

    in reply to: What does your Havdalah "kit" look like? #1017151

    basmelech
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    this is a weird question. we make havdala on our dining room table, with a becher, silver candle holder and silver besomim holder.

    in reply to: lack of menchlichkiet yeshiva administration #846834

    basmelech
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    The invitation was meant as a courtesy not a chiyuv. If you can’t make it, don’t take it so hard. I have foregone several grand children’s school events because it was not convenient for me to attend and I didn’t get all upset about it. Send your grandchild a mazal tov card or something.

    in reply to: What brand of gefilte fish do you use? #1133864

    basmelech
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    I’ve used A&B, but, they add matzoh meal. I’ve used Freund’s which doesn’t add matzoh meal, but, it’s too sweet. They are both very good, but, when I have time I make my own gefilte fish and it’s the best (also expensive, I don’t add any fillers)

    in reply to: The Real Fraud: The Shaitel Business #721835

    basmelech
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    I would gladly go without a sheitel except for peer pressure that I want to look “normal”. Every time I see a woman at a simcha or in shul with a different head covering (I am not talking about in a chassidishe oilam) I go over to her and praise her, because I believe she is doing what is really right. I don’t wear a $3000 wig or even a $1000 one, but, a simple shortish one that wasn’t too expensive. I hope when Moshiach comes we will all do the right thing and if the psak is to go without a sheitel, I will gladly do so.

    in reply to: Where's The Mentchlichkyt?! #738200

    basmelech
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    First of all it does not matter how you spell menschlichkeit in English because it is not an English word, but, I believe this is the most accepted spelling. Second of all, I do believe that one should hold the door for someone coming after them. You should always check if someone is behind you and hold the door until he/she gets through or holds the door him/herself.I also think you should say thank you for any courtesy given whether it is door holding or moving over in the street or a chore that your kids or husband do, even if it’s their job. I thank my mailperson for delivering mail even though she is paid to do so etc.Everyone should teach their kids basic common courtesy toward others and also how to say thank you etc.

    in reply to: Do you have a TV at home #722471

    basmelech
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    NO, and I’ll comment on why not. I grew up in the 50’s in a community where it was common to have a TV. In those days it was much cleaner and more benign than it is now.My parents didn’t have one, but, when I went to the neighbors to watch occasionally they didn’t object. In school my friends would always discuss certain shows they’d seen the night before and I felt left out. I told myself that when I am earning my own money I will buy myself a TV. When I started working I was already in seminary and I realized that I absolutely did not ever want a TV in my home.And today I for sure do not ever want a TV. I do have internet and I only access certain Jewish websites like this one, send e mail, pay bills and do some shopping and research on line, but, that’s it and my children never have access to the internet at home at all.

    in reply to: Need Help – Making Latkes For 120 People #712773

    basmelech
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    I don’t know what kind of cooking facilities you have, like how many frying pans you can have on the stove at once or do you have a commercial griddle that’s large enough to make a whole lot at once. I’d say you need at least 3 or 4 latkes (small size) or 1 or 2 large latkes per person, maybe even more depending on everyone’s appetites and how much other food you’re serving. look up a recipe on line, see how much it makes and multiply it by how many portions you need. you can partially fry them to get them crisp on the outside and then finish baking them in the oven to free up your frying pans.If you put some lemon juice or citric acid in the latke mixture it won’t turn black or ruin the taste. Why don’t you call someone who cooks for a yeshiva or a camp and ask him what to do. I imagine it would take sevral hours and although they can be frozen, they taste better fresh. You can refrigerate them for a few days and reheat them. Good Luck and Happy Chanuka!

    in reply to: Shalosh Sedos Food #709882

    basmelech
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    I only serve challo and fish unless I have company, then I also make salads

    in reply to: Orange Soda #704345

    basmelech
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    I have no problem washing out chrain, or grape juice, but, I never tried orange soda, never buy it or drink it.Cola is good for cleaning car battery terminals.

    in reply to: Are the Reform and Conservative Still Jewish? #755290

    basmelech
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    I can’t be bothered to read all the different comments on Conservatism vs. Orthodox, but, bottom line is Orthodox includes Yeshivishe, Heimishe, Litvish, Chasidish, Modern Orthodox etc because they don’t deny any of the 613 mitzvos and consider them all binding but, Conservative is mechallel Shabbos and doesn’t keep a lot of other mitzvos, like tsnius and proper kashrus and many other mitzvos so how can they consider themselves Torah true Jews. The whole basis of Yiddishkeit is Shabbos. The Torah has never changed and may not be changed just to suit the times. It always suits the times, one just has to follow the Torah and not follow his whims.

    in reply to: Help with Cold #702829

    basmelech
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    Take a hot bath with half cup of apple cider vinegar and soak for about 20 minutes, trying to get most of yourself covered with the water. Then go to bed for the rest of the night.Apple cider vinegar helps to detoxify oneself.

    in reply to: Help with Cold #702828

    basmelech
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    Try an onion sandwich – really! Take two slices of good bread put a thick piece of onion (try a milder type onion, like Spanish onion, if you can’t tolerate the real sharp kind) and ingest! It works for my husband – I never tried it.

    in reply to: Chicken Soup, Friday Night? #702910

    basmelech
    Participant

    I’ve had soups other than chicken on Fri. night and it just felt like something was missing.

    in reply to: Limericks! #1221148

    basmelech
    Participant

    I know my rhymes are inane

    but, at least I am not insane

    I am really quite smart

    in music and art

    but poetry is just not my game

    in reply to: Limericks! #1221147

    basmelech
    Participant

    There once was a Cat in a Hat

    Who made a mess in someone’s flat

    He got Thing one and Thing two

    to clean up the whole zoo

    And then he skiddaddled -Stat!

    in reply to: Limericks! #1221146

    basmelech
    Participant

    There once was girl named Chanie

    Who wanted to be a Mommy

    She got married at twenty

    Had kids aplenty

    and now just wants to be Granny

    in reply to: Spooky: FDA says no right to choose what you eat? #702504

    basmelech
    Participant

    Many people in the alternative health field believe (rightfully so) that raw unpasteurized, non-homogenized milk is a beneficial food and pasteurized homogenized milk is not good for you. I am of the same belief and I grew up drinking such milk as a child, and even now I also acquire such milk from time to time.It tastes very good and as long as the cows it comes from are healthy the milk is a very healthful product.

    in reply to: Broken Telephone #5 #706140

    basmelech
    Participant

    Oops! I just spilled my coffee – Ill call you back later

    in reply to: Broken Telephone #5 #706139

    basmelech
    Participant

    Sounds like games I used to play in school during class

    in reply to: Why don't heimeishe ladies use baby slings to schlep babies? #696207

    basmelech
    Participant

    Hey, I’m a frum lady and I used to carry my babies in a backpack over 25 years ago. In certain situations a backpack or a sling is the preferable choice over a stroller, like when hiking in Eretz Yisroel, or if you have a baby and a toddler and don’t have a double stroller. I used to put my baby in the backpack and my toddler in the stroller when I traveled by train or bus. It was easier than a klutzy double stroller. As for being “crunchy” I guess I meet some of the requirements (natural birth,nursed for more than a year, health food etc.)But, actually, I look as conventional as everyone else.

    in reply to: Short Skirts – No Excuses #696474

    basmelech
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    to: to: Im in a dillemma. Im very concious to make sure my skirts cover my knee at all times. I just bought a very nice straight skirt- when im standing it covers way below my knee (at least 4 inches) And when im sitting it also covers. But when i got into a car my skirt rode up a little to make me feel uncomfortable. I really like the skirt and it covers all the time its just cars thats the problem. I don’t know what to do. I don’t think lengthening it will help. Is it wrong to wear it and just be extra careful while getting in a car?

    answer:I forgot to add, maybe you can have a kick pleat put into the skirt to give it a little more width.

    in reply to: Short Skirts – No Excuses #696472

    basmelech
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    to: Im in a dillemma. Im very concious to make sure my skirts cover my knee at all times. I just bought a very nice straight skirt- when im standing it covers way below my knee (at least 4 inches) And when im sitting it also covers. But when i got into a car my skirt rode up a little to make me feel uncomfortable. I really like the skirt and it covers all the time its just cars thats the problem. I don’t know what to do. I don’t think lengthening it will help. Is it wrong to wear it and just be extra careful while getting in a car?

    answer: The problem is not the length, it is too tight. Straight skirts may fine in all directions except for when you are getting into a car, so they are a problem. I have a skirt that is really tsniusdik, but I can’t go up the steps in a van or a Suburban, in other cars I can just slide in and keep my knees covered. Try not to wear that skirt when going in a car.

    in reply to: salad recipes without vinegar #812103

    basmelech
    Participant

    I always make a basic salad with a little olive oil, freshly squeezed lemon juice,and a little salt, that’s all. Its easy and very good.Fresh lemon juice is far better than the bottled kind.I just cut up the veggies, pour on the seasonings, mix it up, and – it’s done!

    in reply to: wearing a tank top with a shell under??? #694357

    basmelech
    Participant

    P.S. As far as leggings under skirts, if a skirt is long enough by itself and one is wearing stockings besides (not bare foot) then if her legs don’t stick out so no sees you’re wearing them, it shouldn’t be wrong to wear them. But, if one is wearing them to cover her legs if they stick out from under her skirts (I am talking about the part of the leg that is supposed to be covered according to Halacha), I think that’s wrong, because they are tight and reveal the shape of the legs. Go ask your Rov (a frum one)

    in reply to: wearing a tank top with a shell under??? #694356

    basmelech
    Participant

    I would love to go bike riding, but, haven’t done so since I got married many years ago. I don’t think it would portray me as a tsniudik woman if I rode around on a bike (maybe in a secluded area, if one can be found, I would still ride a bike). There are some things that one just has to forgo if you want to do Avodas Hashem in the proper way. As for shells over T shirts, I think if they are figure revealing, they just aren’t proper. Who started this style anyway? Was it someone Jewish or is it coming from the goyim? What’s wrong if we Jewish women and girls proudly wear our own style of tsniusdik clothing, made with a modest look, not eye catching and figure revealing? I think one can look quite nice in looser clothing.

    in reply to: Funny Shidduch Questions Asked About a Boy/Girl/Family #913984

    basmelech
    Participant

    a mother of an only son (no daughters either) called to inquire what size my daughter(who was suggested for her son) was. I answered she is a person not a size. So the woman persisted in knowing if she isn’t bigger than a certain size (I forget what size), so I answered she sews her own clothes and there are no labels in them. Well, she wasn’t interested in the shidduch. I think she wanted an anorexic daughter in law for her precious only child, who probably wouldn’t know the difference if he met a size 2 or a size 10, since he didn’t have any sisters. I should have asked the mother what size she was!

    in reply to: Sheitels in Halacha #692538

    basmelech
    Participant

    I think that although covering one’s hair with a natural looking sheitel is technically not ossur as far as hair covering is concerned, it may be ossur for mar-as ayin, that it looks like one’s hair is not covered, and also if it is so eye catching that it makes men want to look at a woman, then it is an issue of lack of tsnius. Just like one shouldn’t wear clothing that make a man look at a woman, her sheitel should also not be attention getting.

    in reply to: Hilarious School Pranks #1228998

    basmelech
    Participant

    to peerimsameach – you were so busy pulling pranks and cheating on tests that you didn’t learn how to spell.

    in reply to: Sheitels in Halacha #692506

    basmelech
    Participant

    I personally would be very happy not to wear a sheitel. I only wear one so I shouldn’t stand out a different from anyone else, and I admire those who are not ashamed to wear other headcoverings at simchos. (Usually I do not wear sheitels, only when going out on Shabbos or to a simcha) If I am in Eretz Yisroel, I go out even on Shabbos without a sheitel because so many women there do, and if I am in a community where sheitels are ossur, I for sure don’t wear one.I would be very happy if all the rabbonim would assur sheitels altogether.

    in reply to: Before the fast recipes #690328

    basmelech
    Participant

    lots of grapes keep you from getting thirsty and hungry.

    in reply to: Screen Names #1176033

    basmelech
    Participant

    because I am a Jewish Princess.

    in reply to: Breach in Tznius: Recent affliction attacking Klal Yisroel #1025720

    basmelech
    Participant

    I didn’t read all these posts so maybe my point was mentioned before. The issue about what part of the knee should be covered is moot. There really should be no problem with this issue if women weren’t giving in to their yetzer horas and trying to be so fashionable and stylish in public, to look so “with it” etc. A really tsniusdik woman is not concerned that her appearance to others might look a little untrendy because her skirts are “too” long. It’s only those who worry about what others may think of them that feel they have to wear shorter skirts (and other tsnius issues, such as leaving hair sticking out of one’s snood, or fall, or going barelegged, etc.). If one truly care about her tsnius she would dress neatly but, covered properly and could still look very nice. Who are you dressing for anyway? for Hollywood? some immoral designer in Paris? or for Hashem?

    in reply to: What Does The Word Yishivish Mean? #689808

    basmelech
    Participant

    Until I lived in Lakewood,I thought people were either frum regular or frum chassidish, or modern orthodox or not religious at all.Now that I am here many years, I realize that there are all sorts of yeshivos so you can be yeshivish Lakewood, Yeshivish Ner Yisroel, Yeshivish Torah Vodaas, etc. Within the framework of yeshivish you can be more or less modern, more or less chassidish, more or less Zionist, more or less gashmiusdik,more or less tsniusdik etc. If you live in a town that is based around a yeshiva and your husband learned there, then you are yeshivish. If you moved there because it was better than living in the city for various reasons, then you may or may not be yeshivish.

    in reply to: Learning But Not Being Supported #689895

    basmelech
    Participant

    It’s hard but it can be done. My husband was in kollel for 5 years and when he started working money was still tight. You don’t have to live in the lap of luxury, you have to learn to sacrifice your olam hazeh for your olam haboh, but, isn’t that what we’re here for any way? I have several sons in kollel and they’re not being supported (yes, we give them occasional help from time to time, but, not on a regular basis, because we have a large family and have to give everyone something and we’re not rich)

    in reply to: Learning But Not Being Supported #689893

    basmelech
    Participant

    It’s hard but it can be done. My husband was in kollel for 5 years and when he started working money was still tight. You don’t have to live in the lap of luxury, you have to learn to sacrifice your olam hazeh for your olam haboh, but, isn’t that what we’re here for any way? I have several sons in kollel and they’re not being supported (yes, we give them occasional help from time to time, but, not on a regular basis, because we have a large family and have to give everyone something and we’re not rich)

    in reply to: What Does The Word Yishivish Mean? #689788

    basmelech
    Participant

    I meant that the term Yeshivish is; just about anything goes.

    in reply to: What Does The Word Yishivish Mean? #689780

    basmelech
    Participant

    It’s being frum, and ehrliche, not too worldly,with it but, not too modern, a bissel chassidish is okay, black suit, black hat, white shirt, good hashkofos.

    in reply to: Young Bochurim Hitching? #619620

    basmelech
    Participant

    I heard about the hitchers in Monsey. They are downright rude, and consider ityour obligation to give them free and private taxi service. Someone tried to put a baby into my friend’s car to take home, without a car seat! A Chasidic man once jumped into my friend’s car for a ride, not realizing the driver was a woman at first! I can go on and on about the chasidic chutzpadik hitch hikers in Monsey!


    basmelech
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    Why do Jewish women feel they have to flaunt everything? If it attracts men, it is wrong. A woman has to be attractive to her husband and look neat and properly covered up at all times, in and out of the house.If her appearance causes men to look at her, she is doing something wrong. We should not be letting goyishe fashion designers dictate how we should be dressing and the Jewish clothing manufacturers can fashion very nice tzniusdik clothing. Those who dress otherwise probably know better but, don’t want to be told what to do. I don’t know why the writers of these letters continues to daven in such a place and if his Rov tolerates such behavior, he should chosose another Rov and another shul. It sounds like a house of sin to me and not a proper place to daven.

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