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RY: Couldn’t have said it better myself…but..how can we both be so perfect..?
“One of the maalos of meeting someone outside of regular dating is that you can see what someone is like in real life. This is particularly true of Shabbos meals.”
LU: If you are at a shabbos meal to “meet” people you are not meeting them in “real life” as long as they know and you know it’s all just a show on a different playing field…
Go to Israel and walk around.
Is it yichud if there’s little tikes around?
LU: Is speed dating more or less draining as regular?
Anyone know how?
Everybody has a few (2-5) REAL *musts* that make it or break it but you have to get rid of all the nonsensical *musts* that people have when they start out. I know a guy that started out with a paper full of *musts* and now he’s just looking for a normal girl…
“If the food has a reliable kosher certification for Pesach, for example OU, then certainly it is kosher bli safek.”
mik5- According to who??
Do you know there are certain “reliable kosher certifications for example OU” that people do not eat all year round?
Good things about the CR:
1: It takes away from the internet.
2: You see other points of view.
3: You can talk to the opposite gender in a “kosher” way.
4: You can practice not accepting lashon hara.
The girls need to be constantly reminded of their roles in life (because nowadays there are girls that don’t believe that their MAIN role in life is to be a “wife and mother”)…that’s why they would “refer” to them like that.
RS: Why do you not like kids?
I know a guy that opened the door for the girl on the first date and then said from now on you can open the door for yourself don’t worry I have insurance…they have a kid…
Why do you even care? This world exists bshviel yisroel…why would you care for a (sort of) nice goy to get rewarded??
Just want to give a little chizuk to bochur2.0 (especially because I was a little harsh before): I know a guy who grew up very frum and went OTD he came back on a few years ago and just got engaged to a FFB BY girl!!!!!! MAZEL TOV!!!!!!
“I was very relieved when I heard this because there can be very good people who did not keep all the 7 Mitzvos perfectly or for the right reasons.”
Also the Rambam (I think it’s the same one as before) says that even if a goy does keep the 7 mitzvos if they don’t do it because hashem told them to they don’t get a chailek.
For example if a goy doesn’t kill or steal because it’s not moral (or against the law) or he’s loyal to his wife because he’s scared or he loves her…he WILL NOT get a chailek.
Not sure. I only looked at the rambam because he’s usually the go to on these types of issues…
LU: Either because he’s a great person and has great middos or because he’s really charming…but he does HAPPEN to have A LOT of money…
LU: It’s a mochlokes in the gemora in sanhedrin (although the Rambam does paskin that goyim do it’s definitely a different chailek then jews).
LU: No jokes. I think she was 18-19 so he was low 70s…
LU: He’s around 90 and they have a teenage daughter..she’s not his first wife…March 22, 2017 2:19 am at 2:19 am in reply to: American pop culture vs secular Israeli pop culture #1241399
Even if they have the same assur content would one be better or worse hashkafically?
I.E. Could it be easier to stop one over the other?
Is one less or more accepted in your community and would that be good or bad?
For an american is Israeli stuff “jewish” so that’s worse? Or maybe their less prone to get affected because their farther removed from that culture (and might not even understand it)?
So we do a courtship? Why do we call it dating and not “courting” ?
Pretty sure the second letter is not b…
I know a guy that is about 55 years older than his wife…March 22, 2017 2:06 am at 2:06 am in reply to: Best Android Filter or App Lock with No Monthly Recurring Fees #1241401
None. The kids can get around any filter with ease. Your best option is a dumb phone…
It’s the job of the husbands to make sure their wives dress tzniusly.
So to answer the question the men should have more yiras shomayim and tell their wives to dress tzniusly or their getting a divorce…
(the problem is the only people that would do this their wives already dress tzniusly)
LU: I was actually saying that not everyone agrees that goyim get olam haba…
Not sure if that’s agreed to by everyone…
I think we should repost what yechusdik posted everytime rebshidduch posts…
Miami is a much bigger community…
LU: Why is this the “one opportunity” ?
Melted cream cheese in a bagel is a taste of gan eden so if you’re a goy (and goyim don’t get a chailek) you should probably not toast it…March 21, 2017 8:50 pm at 8:50 pm in reply to: American pop culture vs secular Israeli pop culture #1241263
“If the content is assur why would there be a difference?”
If someone is doing something assur wouldn’t it be better if they were doing something less assur?
In US or Israel?
Is there a difference between gadol hador and posek hador?
Rav Dovid Feinstein is the posek of the yeshiva world in America (and maybe the world).
I don’t think anyone argues…
syag: LU got EXACTLY what I meant. Boys will be boys. The fact that they act a certain way does not mean their rabbeim / yeshivos told them to do so (this may come as a shock to you…). Maybe yeshivos should REITERATE to be more respectful but we’re talking about children they’re not mechuyav in mitzvos for a reason. This may also come as a shock to you but children sometimes act chutzpadik in yeshiva also! should we shut down yeshivos? NO we are mechanech them so that they’ll become the nachas to klal yisroel that we know they could be.
There are A LOT of adults that do not have proper decorum in shul maybe we should start with them and it might (probably will) have an impact on the children…
” And since we’re looking at the mitzvah of chinuch, would it not be prudent to teach talmidim to be respectful of someone’s tefiloh by not disturbing him in the middle of it? “
NO it would not be prudent they teach in yeshiva to disturb as much davening as possible…
Also they teach especially when collecting to be as annoying as possible so the people that don’t want to give have a good excuse…
NOFebruary 28, 2017 3:42 am at 3:42 am in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220716
randomex, i’ve been thinking that for a while I posted something they didn’t let through anyway there’s nothing else to say so RS do yourself and everyone else a favor and get some help.
Anyway i’m done with this thread so good luck and PEACE
bmyer outFebruary 28, 2017 3:01 am at 3:01 am in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220713
Rebitzen to quote YOU yesterday:
“he already went to yeshiva for close to 5 years and he still is not that religious.”
He became frum today?
“And they make that clear when they put out warnings and guidelines that don’t say that you are not allowed to drink, but instead tell you how to drink.”
That doesn’t mean they allow it. It means that they understand that no one will listen anyway so you might as well do it safely.
Lilmod, i’m no posek but I assume that if most the people in the country don’t follow the law then it’s not considered a law…
But, if all the goyim follow a law and the jews want to plead religious then ddm’d would probably come into play…
My question was are there any laws that we jews don’t follow because they’re “strange” and the goyim do?
“If it were, we would all be in trouble, because there are a lot of strange laws on the books that no one follows.”
Just curious as to which laws you’re talking about..? (no one meaning goyim or only jews..?)