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  • in reply to: Kiddush Hashem #1895968
    commonsaychel
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    @ Reb Eilezer
    that is more a halachic discussion, not the discussion of individual acts. this is what I want to hear, not a halachic analysis .

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1895808
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    @Charlie Hall,
    They stopped writing mazal tov for gay marriage in the shul bulletins and they stop having females lead services.
    Those were the things that the OU said the will pull the plug on.

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1895457
    commonsaychel
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    @Charle Hall
    “That is not accurate. The Hebrew Institute of Riverdale remains an OU member synagogue and cooperates with RCA rabbis and YI synagogues.”
    In the past 5 years HIR was twice warned to change its policies or risk being thrown out of the OU

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1895223
    commonsaychel
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    @Charlie Hall
    Wikipedia:

    The Conference of European Rabbis followed suit that same month, stating, “The Conference views with great pain the deviations from religious foundations emanating from the movement called ‘Open Orthodoxy’, and warns that those who act in this spirit, alumni of the aforementioned movement… will not be recognized by us as rabbis, with all that entails.”

    Similar sentiments were echoed in a press release of a ruling by the Rabbinical Alliance of America on February 22, 2018, likening Open Orthodoxy to Reform and Conservative Judaism, and stating, “The clergy of this movement are espousing philosophies of the generation of the Sin of the Golden Calf.”[36]

    Prominent Central Orthodoxy leaders have also stated that Open Orthodox practices or beliefs are incongruent with Orthodox Judaism. These include Hershel Schacter, Rosh Yeshiva at Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Theological Seminary (RIETS), Yeshiva University[37][38] and Avrohom Gordimer, a rabbinic coordinator at OU Kosher[39][40] among others.

    OU/RCA response
    Steven Pruzansky, rabbi of Congregation Bnai Yeshurun in Teaneck, New Jersey and a trustee of the Rabbinical Council of America (RCA) on the Board of the Beth Din of America,[41] argues that Weiss’ approach closely resembles early 20th century American Conservative Judaism and in his opinion would more aptly be called “Neo-Conservative” rather than “Orthodox” Judaism. Concluding an opinion piece in Matzav.com he states that “clarity and honesty at least demand that we recognize before our eyes the creation of a new movement in Jewish life outside the Orthodox world, one that we have seen before. It can be termed … Neo-Conservatism. ‘Open Orthodoxy’ is a deceptive brand name, an advertising slogan, and an attempt to remain tethered to the Torah world to re-shape it from within, but far from the reality. The reality is that we are living through the rise of the Neo-Conservatives.” [42] Moshe Averick, a columnist for the Jewish magazine The Algemeiner Journal and author of Nonsense of a High Order: The Confused and Illusory World of the Atheist, agrees with Pruzansky that Weiss has created a new Jewish movement in America, comparing him with Isaac Mayer Wise (founder of Reform Judaism) and Solomon Schechter (founder of Conservative Judaism in the United States). He compares Weiss’s ordination of three women as Maharat on June 16, 2013, with the so-called Trefa Banquet of 1883, which marked the split between Reform and Traditional Judaism in America. Says Averick: “Weiss’ movement, a form of Judaism that enthusiastically embraces the ideologies of feminism and liberal-progressive-modernism while coating it with a strong Orthodox flavor, could accurately be labeled as Ortho-Feminist Progressive Judaism,” but “the term coined by Rabbi Steven Pruzansky … Neo-Conservative Judaism … has managed to fit neatly into the slot to the left of Orthodox Judaism and to the right of Conservative Judaism.”[43] In October 2013, dozens of rabbis who defined themselves as “members in good standing or [who] identify with the Rabbinical Council of America”, signed a letter arguing that Open Orthodoxy has “plunged ahead, again and again, across the border that divides Orthodoxy from neo-Conservatism”.[44]

    The Orthodox Union (OU), Rabbinical Council of America (RCA) and National Council of Young Israel have all in turn responded to Open Orthodoxy by severing their ties with the Open Orthodox institutions. The RCA does not accredit the rabbinic qualifications of Yeshivat Chovevei Torah[45] or Yeshivat Maharat[46] graduates, the OU and Young Israel do not accept females as rabbinic clergy,[47] and Young Israel Synagogues no longer accept candidates with YCT accreditation.[48]

    Two years later Lopatin resigned from the Rabbinical Council of America.[55]

    The Hebrew Institute of Riverdale, where Weiss served as rabbi (“Senior Rabbi”) until his retirement in 2015, and where he continues as “Rabbi in Residence”, continues to define itself as “an open Orthodox synagogue.”[57]

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1895099
    commonsaychel
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    @anonomous jew,
    You want hard facts the the MO community is shrinking?
    Fact: 10 MO schools closed or merged in the last decade,
    Source: AVI CHAI ten year census of Jewish School, 2020.
    Fact: The MO community is aging
    Source: Wikipedia: of the top 25 largest YI, 10 are located in retirement communities.
    Fact: All but two MO shuls in Suffolk County do not have regular minyan
    Source: Godaven.com

    Now prove to me that the MO community is thriving.

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1894951
    commonsaychel
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    @anonymous jew, you know what? the MO community is growing by leaps and bounds and new MO schools are opening right and left. Rabbi Schoenfeld is just being delusional. now your happy?

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1894895
    commonsaychel
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    I did, It may not be to your liking, but the fact remains that the MO community is shrinking.

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1894856
    commonsaychel
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    @anonymous are you saying that MO community is growing?

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1894810
    commonsaychel
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    For those who are saying Elul, I am not gloating I am merely commenting on the article.
    Fact is the MO community is shrinking, Yeshivat Rambam, Yeshiva Atlanta, Hebrew Academy of Suffolk all closed due to declining enrollment, Shulamit of Brooklyn sold its building and now rents a floor for its school.
    ASHAR in Rockland took a hard turn to the right.
    Of 25 or so MO shuls in Suffolk County only 2 have a daily minyan rest can hardly muster a minyan during shabbos.
    That’s just two examples of shrinkage in the MO community

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1894784
    commonsaychel
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    @annyomus
    I put out a list, can you match it with the one from the MO?

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1894756
    commonsaychel
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    @Charlie Hall,
    Its very nice that everyone is singing kumbaya in Riverdale, fact of the matter is the RCA, OU and YI banned anything to do with Avi Weiss and his ilk of open orthodox.

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1894677
    commonsaychel
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    @anonymous Jew, what numbers are you questioning? I got the data directly from the sources.
    If you tell me what comment your referring to I will be glad to give you the data.

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1894536
    commonsaychel
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    @shebbesonian,YU lost ground to Turo because Touro made a concerted effort to attract Yeshivish and Chasidish.
    I wrote Successful Businessmen meaning worth in the multi Millions or Billions not a partner in a law firm,
    for example:
    Ruby Shroen -Yeshivish
    David Lichenstein -Yeshivish
    Benzion Freshwater- London Chasidish
    Ellish Englander -Chadish
    Shlomo Rechnitz- Yeshivish
    Ralph Hertzka -Yeshivish
    Yosell Tabak- Chasdish
    Shlomo Werdiger- Gur Chosid
    Harry Klein -Chasidish
    Hershal Schreiber _Chasidish
    Leizer Kestenbaum -Chasidish
    Barry Ziskind and Karfunkel brothers- Yeshivish
    Shimmy Glick- Yeshivish
    Ruven Dressler- Yeshivish
    Hershy Freidman- Yeshivish,
    Can You match a similar list of MO people in that net worth?

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1894491
    commonsaychel
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    @rubinb, other then those 5 mentioned place MO is dying out, and even in the 5 towns there has been a hard shift to the right in the past 25 years, fyi about half of the frum doctors are yeshivish, the fact is MO communities are shrinking and black hat and chasidish are growing by leaps and bounds, look at Staten Island for example the frum community was slowly diminishing very year until the chasidim came in the frum population shot up.

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1894469
    commonsaychel
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    @shebbesonian, I am well aware of the shuls in Riverdale, I was addressing this to Charlie Hall and about the Hebrew Institute.
    I can tell your that Riverdale is the exception rather then the norm, look at the number of MO shuls that closing or merging and the declining enrollment in YU and Mercaz Harav and the lack of space in Lakewood, Mir and Brisk.
    PS most successful frum businessmen in the US are either black hat or Chasidish.

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1894435
    commonsaychel
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    The fact is the MO community is withering away. 20% of the YI shul are barely functioning or not functioning.
    a bunch of MO shuls merged with Chabad, YU has declining enrollment and REITS hardly function, contrast that with Lakewood, Mir and Brisk that are bursting at the seams .
    Coed Day Schools are closing up or merging and the average age at a YI is 75.

    in reply to: State of the MO communtiy #1894430
    commonsaychel
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    @CharlieHall, the Hebrew Institute is a open orthodox place, not MO.
    MO community including RCA, YU and YI want no part of anything affiliated with Avi Weiss or his ilk.
    PS Avi is Rabbi In Residence at the Hebrew institute.

    in reply to: Is anyone going to Uman this year #1894029
    commonsaychel
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    @godol, A few years ago during the Ukrainian civil war, my grandmother a Auschwitz survivor ask me if one side was most pro Jewish so I told her both were about the same, so she said if that the case let them shecht each other out, the most vicious guards in the camps were the Ukrainians.

    in reply to: Will you be in shul on Rosh Hashanah #1893735
    commonsaychel
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    shul members also run services at another location for about 180 more. However, with social distance, only about 25 people can be accommodated in the outdoor terrace, about 50 in the main shul, and about 30 in the social hall. And there aren’t a lot of other options.
    Wow, so some good came out of Corona, less people getting drunk at the kiddush at Avi Weiss’s so call shul, that is a huge plus

    in reply to: Will you be in shul on Rosh Hashanah #1893475
    commonsaychel
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    @syag, I like your boat analogy. I happen to own a boat, I don’t force anyone onto my boat,
    Some boat owner make all passengers wear life jackets, some just children and some not at all.
    If you don’t like the boat rules don’t go on that boat.
    Each shul can and does decide what works for them, you don’t like it do go there.

    in reply to: Will you be in shul on Rosh Hashanah #1893291
    commonsaychel
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    @Syag, I didn’t write respect, I wrote ” I respect the right” and likewise I expect the same in return.
    What ones motivations are is frankly none of anyone’s business, I don’t go up in shul and ask some random stranger who he is saying kaddish for, I don’t ask some random stranger who made a meshabrach lcholeh who that person is and what is that person suffering from, and I don’t ask some random stranger who benched gomel why that person benched.
    Everyone should do what works for them and its none of anyone business.

    in reply to: Will you be in shul on Rosh Hashanah #1893283
    commonsaychel
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    @Forshayer, CTL, Greatfulblac, Yosefserbow
    I respect your right to daven beyididus or with social distance outdoors, I am asking that you show the same respect for those who wish to daven with a minyan indoors without masks.
    PS Gratefulblac I remember reading somewhere that Kol Nidray can substitute for htaras nidorim.

    in reply to: Will the eventual closure of the USPO impact you? #1893110
    commonsaychel
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    @n0m, nope that bh stopped with corona, emails and calls only, i will show at your if I am invited

    in reply to: Summer Travel 2020 #1893105
    commonsaychel
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    @syag, I flew three time since tisha bav, and the planes were packed, godaven has tons of minyan posted, every resport area within 300 miles of NYC is packed with frum people

    in reply to: Will you be in shul on Rosh Hashanah #1893071
    commonsaychel
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    @forshayer, you maybe have your outdoor minyan with people 100 feet apart, I can tell you that Sheiners is PACKED to the gills, with a new minyan every ten minutes, Rottenberg is full, Rudinsky is full, Twersky is full. so we must be talking about a different Forshay

    in reply to: Will you be in shul on Rosh Hashanah #1892984
    commonsaychel
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    90% of the frum olam in the tri state area is davening with minyan, just a few nervous people don’t, my guess is that almost all frum shul save some YI and Avi Weiss type shul will be operating normally on Rosh Hashanah.
    I would be davening with a minyan and with a new appreciation of me begayfah.

    Edited

    in reply to: Will the eventual closure of the USPO impact you? #1892958
    commonsaychel
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    @CTL, Just check rural CT. local town offices, Libraries and County clerks in NY all do passports, most money orders demand are from the unbanked and the check casher can fill the void.
    Quit crying and be thankful for the many years you rode the gravy train.

    in reply to: Will the eventual closure of the USPO impact you? #1892871
    commonsaychel
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    I get three types of mail.
    Give me
    Pay me
    Buy me
    and I can do without all of the above.
    CT LAWYER, I feel for you and I feel for most real estate people, but you average zlob working from paycheck to paycheck does not have real estate trusts, so be happy that you had the gravy train for all those years.
    As to all ancillary services provided by USPS, the town and county clerks are passport acceptance agencies, most check cashers will give money orders for .50 to $1, and UPS stores have pick ups stations.

    Sorry if I sound crass but Taxi were hurt by Uber, Typesetters were hurt by graphics computer programing and the buggy whip manufacturers were hurt by cars, its called change.

    in reply to: Looking for a minyan at Skydive Finger lakes #1891834
    commonsaychel
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    when do you make the asher yotzah?

    in reply to: Looking for a minyan at Skydive Finger lakes #1891712
    commonsaychel
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    Well everyone else is posting minyanim so I figured why not, as to Tehillm I don’t think one kapital would suffice.

    in reply to: Get accepted into Brisk #1891112
    commonsaychel
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    I once saw a cap, “I go to Mir but was accepted to Brisk”

    in reply to: Minyan in Poconos Aug 17-19 #1890850
    commonsaychel
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    quite a number of camps in the Poconos and a lot of postings on go daven, should be no issue of a minyan during the week

    in reply to: Minyan in Maine #1890693
    commonsaychel
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    Old orchard beach has a shul as does Shary Thipila in Portland

    in reply to: Amazing World #1890511
    commonsaychel
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    @Gadol, Yes I flew out to LV and drove 2.5 hours to Kanab Utah out flight had at least 50 bucherim on it.
    I and my entire family are antibody positive so I was not fixated on getting covid, in fact if I would have driven to Utah instead of flying chances of me getting into a car crash vs me getting corona was significantly higher.

    Hate to break it but those parks are amongst the busiest in the system, Grand Canyon ranks as second busiest, Zion as fourth and Bryce as twelfth, and all of them were packed.
    You have to wear a mask from the time you enter the terminal until your in your rental vehicle unless your eating or drinking, so I made to eat and drink a lot.

    in reply to: Amazing World #1890333
    commonsaychel
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    Just came back from a week in SW Utah, was in the North Rim of the Grand Canyon, Lake Powell, Horseshoe Bend, Zion and Bryce.
    There were quite a few groups of families and bucherim in fact we put together minyam mincha in North Rim, Bryce, Horseshoe Bend and Zion.
    Glad to see we are expending our horizons beyond New Hampshire, Poconos, Jiminy Peak and the Catskills.

    in reply to: Tuition: Are We Paying Enough? #1888356
    commonsaychel
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    A lot of the prior generation gedolim went to public school, For example Rav Avigdor Miller, Rav Mordechai Gifter, Rav Ahron Feldman just to name a few

    in reply to: Country for shabbos #1888005
    commonsaychel
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    Econo or Holiday inn in Syracuse, County Inn or Hilton Garden in ROC.

    in reply to: Country for shabbos #1887810
    commonsaychel
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    plenty of cheap places Syracuse or Rochester NY near shuls, that is the real Upstate

    in reply to: Tuition: Are We Paying Enough? #1887809
    commonsaychel
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    @n0m, First get married, then have a child, then register your child, then worry about tuition, meaning that this topic is not negiyah to you for at least five years.

    in reply to: Country for shabbos #1887600
    commonsaychel
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    home?

    in reply to: Tuition: Are We Paying Enough? #1887525
    commonsaychel
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    @n0m, after you start paying high tuition feel free to join the discussion.

    in reply to: Tuition: Are We Paying Enough? #1887515
    commonsaychel
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    @syag, I fargin all my neighbors, if he works at B and H, a Rebbi, grocery or a plumber, I mention it to show I have zero resentment to people in chinuch, my resentment comes from people who say we should pay more when they have a pretty cushy life for the most part.
    edited

    in reply to: Tuition: Are We Paying Enough? #1887409
    commonsaychel
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    @CT Rebbe, not for profits all have boards and are required to under law and so do the yeshivas. the board members are often family or friend and little have true oversight.
    The output is from the rank and file and and if the Rebbe is devoted I show my appreciation directly on Chanukah, Purim and Yom Tovim.
    PS as I said in the prior post the two nicest houses on my block are owned by two rabbim, one put up an additions costing 250K other 350 K, I totally fargin them and wish everybody could afford it

    in reply to: Tuition: Are We Paying Enough? #1887380
    commonsaychel
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    @syag, you may not like my answer of how it fits in.
    When the person I meet with from the tuition committee in under Federal investigation for his business practices, when the Menhal is living rent and tax free in a house owned by the yeshiva, when his kids drive around in high end SVU leased to yeshiva, that is glass houses.
    How do I know all the this? Close Friend got a Grand Jury subpoena re board member, public records on the house, and son in law was rear ended by the high end SUV

    in reply to: Tuition: Are We Paying Enough? #1887226
    commonsaychel
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    @Syag, its very simple, people who live in glass houses should not throw stones

    in reply to: Tuition: Are We Paying Enough? #1887188
    commonsaychel
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    @CTRebbe,
    Lets see, my sister in Real Estate in Monsey and most of the sales are in the 4-600 K range, not that high range, Lakewood is even lower, FYI there are two rebbis on my block who just renovated the houses to the tune of 300 K.
    Most of the people attending the peasch programs were not Heimishe/ Yeshishish / Chasidish.
    The clothing stores were losing ground to the online shop prior to corona,
    Just about everyone employed by a yeshiva is driving a leased car.
    I fargin the yeshiva staff but before they increase the tuition let them open the books for all to see,

    in reply to: Tuition: Are We Paying Enough? #1886953
    commonsaychel
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    @ CT rebbe:

    lease cars (or drive only new model cars)
    Most drive older models or lease mini van at the cost of buying a use car

    take vacations to Florida/EY 1-2 times per year
    hardly your average person, most are lucky to get away for a week in New Hampshire or Lake George.

    eat out 1-2 days per week
    , most will buy out a pizza pie to give mommy a break

    buy food without looking at the price
    Not the case

    take bar mitzvah boys to EY
    Far and few

    provide regular support to married children
    Agreed, whole other discussion about elite bucherim and entitlement.

    rent summer bungalows at a price comparable to what people pay today
    Most bought years ago.

    higher cleaning help as frequently as today
    most are household where both spouses work and have one or maybe twice a week.

    shop in clothing stores with prices comparable to today
    Most shop online and search or bargains,

    spend on simchas what people do today
    Not since Covid 19

    pay for housing comparable to today
    Wrong, people are move out of the main areas, Dover Twp, Jackson, Garnerville, Pearl River. Linden, etc.

    pay people others for basic maintenance, landscaping etc.
    Most pay landscapers twice a week.

    send girls to seminaries in EY for $25k+
    Not since covid 19

    pay comparable prices for sleepaway camps
    Not since covid.

    perform mitzvos requiring expensive chumros
    Hardly not evenone does it

    How about the Yeshivas opening up the books and showing what all the staff earns?

    Edited

    in reply to: Tuition: Are We Paying Enough? #1886811
    commonsaychel
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    @1, that’s bunk, 75% of yeshiva parents live paycheck to paycheck and a very simple lifestyle.
    We had a forum here two weeks ago about the expenses of the not for profits and the salary of the administrators.
    Let them show the overhead before they raise tuition,

    commonsaychel
    Participant

    your whole response was a stick gaava, I would rather take a mediocre boy whole is normal and and does not think how great he is, then take a iluy who make you worship the ground he walks on.

    commonsaychel
    Participant

    Wow, your statement reeks from gauyvah, I feel sorry from that families that there boys marry into, no wonder we have a shidduch crises with such arrogance.

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