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That is a question better asked of African Americans than a bunch of White JewsMost of us have no idea who most African Americans consider role models…………………
But you glaringly left out
Barak and Michelle Obama
Martin Luther and Coretta Scott King Jr.
Langston Hughes
Booker T Washington
George Washington Carver
Harriet Tubman
and the list goes on and on@ChaimShulem
There is a rebirth of frum Jewry in a couple of CT mill towns that had Orthodox synagogues and days schools dating back 100+ years, but when industry left so did most Jews.
You may want to consider looking at Waterbury (Mikvah, shuls, yeshiva, food) or the neighboring town of Naugatuck that just established a yeshiva and shul.
Housing is not expensive, Brooklyn less than 2 hours by car and it is on the Metro North RR of you commute to work in Manhattan.Just a consideration, not pushing it, but these are often overlooked
@AviK
uNo ticket, no shirt was the refrain at the laundry. One could not retrieve their clean items without the ticket issued when left off. Back in the day, the laundry was often operated by an immigrant who did not read or write English and needed the numbered ticket t match with the other half attached tio the clean items.Amil’s post was about entry and being waited upon in retail and food service establishments (see my reply above).
@AmilZola
Not only have I heard/seen “no shoes, no short, no service,” but had those signs posted at my retail stores in the vicinity of Candlewood Lake more than 40 years ago. Summer visitors from NY thought it was just fine to enter wearing only a pair of shorts of a bathing suit between Memorial Day and Labor Day. This was unacceptable and signs were posted at the entrries.@AviK
Your post was specifically addressed to me with the instruction to ‘go to the mall….:@AviK
I have far better things to do with my time (even answering your nonsense) than to drive to the mall a few times a day and receive a free paper mask and then to attempt to sell them and ship them via Amazon.If you had been reading my posts MRS CTL and I brought in huge supplies from China through our longstanding friendships and DONATED them to our local EMS and police and hospital.
As recently as last Wednesday another 20,000 surgical masks, KN95 and face shields arrived and have been distributed. I would not be profiteering during a Pandemic (or any other time)…..not my style.You at times seem quite intelligent, why would an experienced attorney who bills at an hourly rate in the hundreds of dollars chase nickels?
@Joseph
actually they could have danced with each other, but when we made the arrangements the limit on attendees/staff was 49 people so we did not engage musicians or a DJ. One of the Kallah’s brother played his clarinet after the Bedecken and proceeding to the chuoah and a few tunes afterwards.It was tough ti pull off the changes as the Governor’s relaxed Executive was issued on Shavuos. I read it in the local paper which is delivered to our front door each morning, but we could not call or text or email anyone not staying in the compound until Motzei Shabbos. It required an immediate yes or no response so we could go to the next person in the list.
I got to work on the additional food and beverages. A few of our close by non-Jewish neighbors volunteered to schlep and help set up and break down the chairs, tables, etc. and help serve the meal.
Because we have a vine covered 12×20 pergola the Chupah was in place and covered with flowers in bloom.I think the family and close friends were so relieved to have such a simcha and be out of confinement that the dancing was not missed. So many of the relatives had not seen each other in months that much time was spent visiting, without the usual problem of not being able to hold a conversation because of the too loud music in a wedding hall
UTTER NONSENSE
The Polish Partisans
The French Resistance
The German Underground
The AMERICAN ARMYthese were the true ANTIFA…………….
B”H my grandson was married in the CTL compound gardens last evening. Two days prior CT Governor Lamont raised the limits on outdoor ‘religious, spiritual and social gatherings’ to 150 people.
No dancing was possible due to the six foot social distancing requirements among non-immediate family members. We were able to take family photographs of the Chosson with his immediate family, the Kallah with hers and the Chosson/Kallah together after the Chupah.Since the gathering limit was lifted with little notice only those family members and closest friends within driving distance attended.
There was no way to ramp up the catering order with no notice, so Zaidy raided his freezers and put the BBQ pits and smokers into high gear.
A good time was had by all……….Mazel Tov@Doing my best………
BUT that is not what you posted. You can’t expect CR participants to be mind readers..That said I doubt the courts would consider it trespassing. The call for shoppers is a general invitation to the public and a storekeeper can refuse service or entry to an individual. BUT, it would require personal notification by the store personnel to the individual. It is too easy for the non-mask wearing shopper to say: “I didn’t see or read the sign” or “I don’t read (Pick a language).
An unlocked store with posted hours, lights on and a sign over the storefront (as well as advertising) create the general invitation to the public. The entry is not trespassing, but non-compliance with the posted rule is reason to ask the person to leave.@Doingmybest
It would help if you knew the definition of trespassing
The classical definition is to go onto or enter another’s property without permission. This includes leased premises.A potential customer of a retail or hospitality or service establishment, is in fact an invitee. The business exists to provide something in exchange for the visitor’s money. Even one who enters to browse is a potential customer so is also an invitee.
Thus an invitee is not a trespasser.That invitee may be refused service or asked to leave if not wearing a mask, but that does not make the entry a trespass.
Our local mall opened fro business on May 20. CT requires those entering businesses and shop to wear masks. There are security guards at the entrances checking masks, enforcing occupancy limits and social distancing. An invitee attempting entree without a mask is give one free of charge by the mall. This encourages business by not turning the potential customer away.
@Bocher Bully
My objection to your statement is the word WE, you don’t speak for the members/users of the Coffee Room.
I write about a frum man who tested positive Motzei Shabbos who didn’t use Hatzala. Today I received news that a friend in Kew Garden Hills was taken to the hospital Monday with COVID-19…Is Queens in the spehere of your self imposed ghetto?Speak for your self, you don’t have permission to speak for the rest of us. I object and if even only one CR member/user objects you can’t say we.
NO, I don’t work for the media, I own my own firm. I work to support my family
@Bocher
I don;t care what you believe. I am not a trained lawyer. I am an adult with a Juris Doctor Degree who has passed and belongs to the MA, CT, NY and FL bars.What I post here in the CR are not legal arguments, this is not a court of law and many here hold more with halacha than the laws of civil government.
That said, the people who are important to believe in my legal acumen are my clients who pay those large legal fees that enable me to support my family, provide employment to others, be a baal tzedaka and giove back to the greater community. The opinion of some bocher in a little southern NJ town is not very important. I don’t practice law in NJ and expect I never will.
Your comment is laughable, because you state the “only frum people we know” and I, a member of the CR gave an example of a known frum person who recently was hospitalized with Covid-19.
So, young man, still wet behind the ears, speak for yourself, not for the whole group which includes me.
Bocher………………………..
You are a child with limited experience and horizons.Not all of the world’s frum community lives where Hatzala operates.
There are frum people who have recently contracted Covid-19 and are hospitalized. My nephew’s Father in-law is one. BUT he lives in southern Florida and the county EMS transported him to the hospital. He was hospitalized Motzei Shabbos, but is stable and on oxygen, but not a ventilator.Here we have a bachur sitting home since Pesach……………………………………………………
Am I missing something???
In most of the Jewish world the bachurim were sitting home since Pesach because the Yeshivos have been closed down because of COVID-19.Even colleges that are on Trimester or quarterly system weren’t accepting new students this spring and Summer sessions are on line if being held at all.
My grandchildren have been here since the wee of March 12th and we have no idea when their assorted Yeshivos will restart. Each state will have different rules
@Chaim Schulem
I live in small town Connecticut, having been brought up in New Haven which was a large city for CT.
There are no kosher restaurants within a 30 minute drive, no local kosher prepared food or butcher (those days are gone), no local independent kosher bakery, as opposed to the bakeries in the regular supermarkets under KVH supervision,We buy our kosher provisions in bulk, cook from scratch (our choice). I have eaten in the Dtamford Kosher restaurants only when it is for a meeting. We are 60 minutes from Manhattan, 90 to Queens or Brooklyn. Close enough, but far enough away.
Growing up, New Haven had 12 kosher bakeries and more than 20 kosher butchers, 6 kosher delis and a couple of dairy restaurants. BUT we still cooked at home. We didn’t do takeout and it wasn’t a matter of cost. Just not our style. We have a vegetable patch and a smokehouse. I love to pickle what we grow as well as smoke meats.
This lifestyle is not for everyone, BUT like Amil Zola I have been involved in local government and school boards for a long time. Some of us like living in a mixed community. It didn’t harm my children’s marriage choices, nor my grandchildren….first grandson is getting married IYH soon as=after Shavous and due to COVID 19 it is happening in our gardens.I’m not in NY, so the state ruling doesn’t affect me/
B”H, with all the grandchildren, great nieces and nephews here in the CTL compound since about March 12th, we’ve has a Minyan every day.Once they are open will I return to my shul minyan? Probably not until after the summer when and if the children return to school/yeshivos. I won’t chance picking something up and bringing it home to my family. I also wouldn’t want to take up a space that someone saying kaddish might use.
Personally, I don;t think most shuls have the money or manpower to properly disinfect, change air handling and filters, etc to proper;y insure our safety. I’ll sit it out a home for quite a while longer
Vaccines mutate? really
I believe you meant viruses mutateCT’s Governor has announced that NO overnight Camps may operate in Connecticut this summer.
No day camp that was not already in operation by May 5 may start operating until June 22 under strict guidelines and inspections.Most day camps in southern CT have announced they will not run including a number operated by Chabad
@DovidBT
In 2019 the daily cost for a 7 week whole summer stay broke down to $225
For 2020 with the new rules and restrictions in place it will be $298.25
There will be far fewer activities, no out of camp trips, less staff, no contact sports, no team sports that require more than 4 players on a team (due to the 9 campers to a counselor maximum), that means no baseball (9 players on a team) or basketball (4 players on a team). No wrestling or boxing, a Dramatic or musical presentation in the Rec hall could only have a cast, support staff and audience numbering 30.With a limit of 30 in a group, they are planning to close the mess hall and deliver meals to each bunk to be eaten outside at a picnic table in nice weather or inside if it rains.
Sounds like a terrible summer for a huge cost. Other board members who opposed the opening think the season will be cancelled once final regulations are known and the health departments get involved.
I know that the cabins/bunkhouses have toilets and sinks with cold water only. Hot water is available in the shower houses. I can’t imagine the health department accepting cold water for sanitizing the cabins each day.
Connecticut is allowing camps to open camps to open June 29 with very strict set of rules and restrictions. You might find a day cam and home rental in the Waterbury area to suit your requirements.
Since the regulations limit groups to 30 including staff and a counselor to 9 campers I don;t think it will be economically viable for camps to operate,
I have been on the board of a Jewish community sleepaway camp for 40+ years. They have also operated a day camp on the grounds for a few years. Last year there were 300 sleeping in camp plus 200 in day camp.
This year, no day camp and in order to comply with the group of 30 rules (mess hall, religious services, swimming, etc. There will be only 60 campers and 20 staff. The costs will be astronomical, almost $300 a day per camper (and this is a non-profit camp). I voted to keep the camp closed this summer, but was on the losing side. Now we’ll see if the state approves the camp’s plan of operation and it actually opens. IO highly doubt it.
The good news is I tested Negative……………………….
The bad news is Trump also claims he has tested negative.
As a member of our town’s Economic Development Commission, we have been pushing buy local, support the local businesses that support your organizations, since March.
Although closed to in person shopping, non-essential businesses have been allowed to take telephone/internet orders for delivery and curbside pickup during limited hours, all orders prepaid co there is no contact at pickup.
The town coordinates the pickup times has marked the spaces along the curb reserved for pickup and special town issued traffic signs. The no parking rules for these zones are suspended for the pickup operations.
When one drives up to the pickup spot, you call the store on the phone number posted on the sign and give your name, car make, model, color and parking space number, pop your trunk or liftgate and wait a minute or two. The employee brings out your purchase comes to the back of the car and places the package inside. You get our and close the trunk or liftgate (if not remote) after the employee as gone back into the building and drive off.Stores that had been closed before this system was up and running have a chance to give employment to a few employees as well as turn inventory into cash.
@AviK
My statement about needing permission to sue a state was made after reading the OP. Later I was able to read the filing and the suit was not against a State, but seeking injunctive relief against a government official acting in his official capacity.
When one sues claiming a law is Unconstitutional it is not a suit against a State it is seeking relief from a legislative act that is believed to be unconstitutional. The State (through its Attorney General) may be named as a defendant, but in reality one is suing the legislation. If Plaintiff wins, the law or parts of it may be struck down, if Plaintiff wins the law stands.Again, my response was to the words of the OP, when it became clear the OP did NOT post accurately, I withdrew my comments, saying it had been a waste of time to have to explain you can’t sue a state without its permission.
I have maintained a home office for decades and only spent about 15 hours a week in our law offices (that is a benefit or perk of being the boss).
The business phone line in my home and those now routed to employees’ homes is answered by an auto-attendant after hours and it states our hours and that we are now closed. Please leave a message and it will be addressed when we are open. We don’t do criminal law, so there has never been a need for after hours emergency phone service and we don’t do personal injury work with commercials telling potential clients we are always there, call 24/7.
Our business email have an auto-reply for after hours that lets the sender know we are closed and the email will be read and addressed during regular hours.I do not intrude on my employees after hours unless it is truly an emergency and then would contact them via text or email to personal account and ask if possible to call me.
Employers do not pay employees for non-working time and have no right to expect them to be on call 24/7.
That said, at least 3-4 times a week either my eldest son or I are on the phone/computer with clients in China, necessary due to the time difference. BUT, we are owners/partners, not the ‘paid help’ and this is poart of our chosen business model.
Sorry, NOT every Civil Suit is for Monetary Damages and alleges a harm which needs redress through compensation.
In the 1970s, CT passed ERA to its own Constitution. Private clubs continued to discriminate in having things such as Mens Grill Rooms or restrictive tee times and tennis court access. Growing up, I remember women could not tee off before 3 PM on Sunday or get a tennis court before noon. No women could tee off pr play golf Wednesday afternoons (doctors’ traditional afternoon off).
Suits were brought against a number of the country clubs seeking injunctive relief to remove the discriminatory rules. No dollars were sought. Because, the women were members of the clubs, they could not file a suit seeking monetary damages, as rules were available before becoming a member and as members they could vote for new officers and changes in the rules.
The women had standing to sue the private clubs and the state courts had jurisdiction because the clubs held liquor licenses and sales tax permits. Their swimming pools and kitchens required inspection and licenses from local health departments.
Injunctive relief was granted and their could be no discrimination against women in the clubs, despite being private. Their licenses, permits and inspections qualified them as places of public accommodation.
@Joseph
We have had a T1 since about 2006. My ekdest brother was in the telecommunications business from the breakup of AT&T in 1977 until selling out in 2015. I was a part-owner of the corporation and benefited from discounted rates…but still not cheap@n0mesorah
Stop making absolute generalizations for things you are not the authority.
Many companies still issue paychecks with stubs, including my law firm.
I administer a trust that runs 14 McDonald’s (long tern non-Jewish client family) They issue more than 2,000 payroll payments every two weeks. Some employees chose direct deposit, some want checks. A checkstub is attached to the actual paychecks and those with direct deposit get a check marked non-negotiable without the micro-encoding but with a stub with full wages and tax deduction breakdown.@Joseph
Fiber is not available in our town
There are two cable companies available, both of which are in bankruptcy. The speeds are quite slow and now with so many home, even slower. They will not build out new infrastructure to increase speeds when they are broke.
That is why we still have a T1….many times faster than the other available optionsI have had all my grandchildren, grand nieces and nephews here in the CTL compound since about March 12th.
Since they attend different schools in assorted cities and range from 1st graders to Law school, they are using many different platforms for distance learning.Our obervations:
Teleconferencing works best when it is the instructor and no more than 3 students and the call lasts less than 30 minutes. Large groups have too many technology failures and the teacher can not mute the whole group and choose who to unmute. There is no raise a hand feature, so the teacher knows a student wished to ask a question.
I like Zoom and use it reguilarly for business and government meetings. It lets the teacher see the students. It is important to see facial expressions and determine if a concept is understood. The teacher can mute or unmute all. There is a raise a hand feature, so the teacher knows which students to call upon. There is also the capability for those without computers or devices with cameras to call into a Zoom meeting on their phones and a chat feature that lets participants type questions and/or comments for the group to see.Other teachers are using a combination of Google Classroom and Google Meet. The classroom is good because student can check assignments, submit them as wee. They can share documents with teacher or parent for editing. The teacher use this year round in several of the schools and on Friday afternoon parents get an update showing work missing from the week and assignments die the next week, dates for quizzes and tests. Google Meet works like Zoom and allows the teacher to teach live and have students on camera and microphone responding as if they were all sitting in the regular classroom.
Being OOT, all the Day schools have had computer labs for about 40 years and the kids are taught to be proficient from an early age. We are lucky in hosting so many of the family that the older ones can tutor and teach the younger ones.
This past week I was asked by one law school to proctor my grandson’s final exams. The other Law school has a program where they keep the webcam on and can see the student as he types his exam on the laptop.But as a word of warning for schools considering Zoom, there may not be enough bandwidth in a given home or neighborhood with so many working from home plus remote learning. Because I work from home quite often, as does Mrs. CTL we have a dedicated T1 connection and most of the older grands are plugged into the network, not usinf the wireless modems from the cable company which are slower/
@Gadolhadorah
Our local municipal golf course was closed in March and has been reopened this week, It was not about social distancing of the players.
It was done because:
#1 it is within a municipal park, and all parks were closed and the entry gates locked. This closed the tennis, basketball courts, playgrounds and ball fields within that park as well.
#2 It was to protect the employees from exposure to Covid-19 carried by the golfers coming to play. There were shortages of masks and no requirement for people to wear masks in public. Since ordered by the Governor.
#3 The employees were put top work in more essential uses, such as sanitizing and deep cleaning, town hall, other government buildings and the schools, as well as DPW vehicles and equipment
#4 There was a shortage of PPE and cleaning materials and these were diverted to hospitals and first responders. Far more important than using them to sanitize each gold cart between foursomes.
#5 Keeping the golf course and parks closed help enforce stay at home orders. This is not a big city with people in high rise apartments or densely packed houses side by side. It is a small town with 1/2 or 1 acre zoning per house with everyone having private yards and gardens to enjoy. Our grandchildren, here since March 12 have been using our basketball and tennis court, riding bikes in our yard and drives, etc.Mow that supplies and cleaning materials are more readily available, our golf course has reopened. Carts may be used, but only allow 2 in one cart if their Identification proves they live in same household. Golfers may only tee off if the previous golfers are already on the green. Tee times by prior reservation only, and no out of town players permitted.
Sorry, the OP got it WRONG.
The State of NJ is NOT being sued. Phil Murphy, in his official capacity as Governor is being sued. The suit seeks injunctive relief to an Executive Order.
YWN posted a news article about a Lakewood Rabbi joining the suit and posted the actual suit filed in US District Court.All my previous comments about needing the state’s permission to sue the state were a waste of my time, since the state was not being sued.
@Millhouse
BASIC RULE OF AMERICAN LAW
a ruling by the Federal Courts in one circuit is NOT binding on other circuits. Only SCOTUS decisions bind all circuits.
New Jersey is not in the 6th and is not bound by that decision. They may take it under advisement and decide to follow it but are not bound by it.@commonsaychel
I do not practice in Federal Court. My practice is limited to Family Law, wills estates, Trusts and some contract/real estate work for the trust. I was admitted before the First Circuit about 35 years ago, but have not appeared in decades.
We specifically have never expanded into a general practice firm, very happy in our niche.Our eldest grandson is engaged and was supposed to be married right after Shavous. All plans for the big wedding of the Kallah’s dreams have gone out the window. Mrs, CTL and I offered a wedding in our gardens for immediate family and a few very close friends with proper social distancing.
We have hosted a number of weddings here including our youngest daughter a couple of years ago.The couple has decided to take us up on our offer.
@Joseph
States waive immunity for many reasons, often so an insurance company can be forced to pay.
The OP didn’t say this was filed in Federal court but said that in response to my first comment.Disclaimer: I am not licensed in New Jersey (just CT, MA, NY, FL)
That said states enjoy Sovereign Immunity and generally one needs to get permission to sue a state from the state.
I haven’t read the filings, but question if the State of New Jersey has agreed to waive Sovereign Immunity and allow this lawsuitI am in the minority here in that I believe a couple should not marry until they have the ability to be self supporting. It is not the responsibility of invited guests to ensure the couple has enough money to establish a household.
I am not against parents giving a helping hand (should they choose), but feel no obligation to finance a newly married couple.
Delay marriage until after your education is advanced enough so you can provide the necessities of food, clothing and shelter.and contrary to commonsaychel’s opinion, Mrs. CTL enjoys choosing a gift for the couple getting married. We generally only give money to a couple who is marrying far from there new home and would find transporting gifts a burden.
As to whether you could write off the tuition paid to a now closed seminary as a charitable tax deduction.
If you are American and the seminary is in Israel.
#1 you paid the seminary directly…NOT deductible under any circumstances
#2 you paid “the American Friends of Seminary XXXX” would be deductible if the American group is a registered 501c3 charityDonations to foreign charities are deductible on US income tax returns, which is why all these American Friends of 5013cs were created.
Because there are some things best said/run by people you don’t know who don’t live in your immediate surroundings
Biden cannot pick AOC as his running mate even if he wanted to and the Dems wanted her.
The VP candidate MUST meet the constitutional requirements for the office of President. AOC is not old enough (35 on Jan 20, 2021) to be sworn in as VP, this she cannot be on the ballot/ticket.@Joseph
13 weeks is a quarter of the year
Many of these schools closed for what would be the final three months of the school yearMany of the Federal relief programs are likely to be extended
Some schools OOT may be able to reopen in late May or June depending on circumstances and the state governor’s directivesThese are hard and trying times and all Americans suffer in different ways
My bank manager called me immediately when the PPP money became available and said as a preferred customer they had moved my firm’s name to the top of the list. I told him that we would not be taking these government funds and that they should be used for companies not in great financial shape with low income employees who need their paychecks and jobs.
It is a shame that banks played favorites with Federal aid and many businesses who did not truly need the money took it and small and newly established businesses who needed the aid didn’t even have their applications processed.Here in CT law firms and accountants were on the list of ‘essential’ businesses allowed to operate. The CTL firm is operating remotely with our offices closed to the public. Only the one designated employee may enter the premises to access hard files.
Between keeping the firm operating, being in our town’s emergency management committee and trying to educate and raise all our grandchildren and grand nieces and nephews who have been in the compound since about the 10th of March I am busier than ever and look forward to a return to normalcy and a bit of a rest.
@acolyte
Our Day Schools are not different
Many have furloughed/laid off staff
Office staff, some janitorial help and kitchen/cafeteria help are not receiving paychecks and collecting unemployment. Many of these low paid workers are actually to receive more money for not working because f the $600 week Federal add on to state unemployment amounts.In most cases teachers are working, directing distance learning, phone calls with parents and students, creating lesson plans for home education, etc. while supervising their own kids who would normally be in another classroom during the school day.
Some janitorial staff must work. You can’t just lock the doors and walk away, The buildings must be maintained. The absence of students and most staff allows deferred maintenance to take place as well as the required deep cleaning and sanitizing required by health departments.
We want the buildings ready to go when the government allows opening, not having to wait weeks to bring them into operation.Spring has arrived, non-urban schools have lawns and playgrounds, plantings, etc. that have to be maintained. They can’t be allowed to become overgrown breeding grounds for mosquitoes and West Nile Virus.
I do not know why you think most day schools have bloated payroll. I’ve been on the Boards of a few over 40 years and salaries are quite low
@Coffee Addict
The insurance Broker system while common in NY State is not in many places.
Here in CT the insurance company is paid directly and they pay the commission to the sales agent/broker (if there is one due a commission).A insurance broker in NY may choose to front the money for the Yeshiva until paid, or may have a positive commission balance with the insurance company, so the premium is paid from the float.
This can’t happen with direct payment situations.
Well, I read these 14 posts and it is time for a reality check.
If Yeshivos are behind on payroll, which is very common, how can they be trusted to make life insurance premium payments?
We would soon see staff receiving notifications that their policies were canceled for non-payment.
In October I was at the pharmacy in the nearby city. A rebbi at the local yeshiva was attempting to pick up some medication for his family member. The pharmacy clerk said to him that the insurance declined the prescription. I motioned to the pharmacist to put it on my bill and give out the medicine.
When I got to my office I called the President of the Yeshiva Board (a friend of mine) and asked what’s going on? He said he;d investigate and get back to me.
It seems the bookkeeper was paying the health insurance bill just before the cancellation date of the end of the second month (Bill due Jan 1 can be paid by Feb 29 without policy being cancelled) but didn’t know that the Prescription component had coverage lapse when the bill was 30 days past due.Yeshivos regularly struggle to pay bills, a vendor might wait to be paid for paper, pencils, cleaning supplies, etc. But insurance companies are quick to cancel past due policies.