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May 23, 2019 11:34 pm at 11:34 pm in reply to: I noticed that Rebbitzen Golden P is blocked. Is that a good, bad or ugly thing? #1732580
And when you look at yourself, what do u see?May 14, 2019 8:49 am at 8:49 am in reply to: Did Rebbitzin Golden Pick Sponsor an Article Just to Troll? #1726827
“a new concept, “The Torah Troll”! ”
A person elaborating on Torah for their own personal gratification is hardly new. Does not Lo Lishmah pertain to it?
I am hardly perfect but I do introspect about my motives and how I can meaningfully contribute to dialogue.May 13, 2019 8:12 pm at 8:12 pm in reply to: Did Rebbitzin Golden Pick Sponsor an Article Just to Troll? #1726537
“Teaching Torah to Klal Yisroel = Trolling????”
These two concepts are not mutually exclusive. “David learned from everyone”. Get real.
“The entire source of sports and watching sports is from the Roman and Greek coliseums. (Hence the birth of the Olympics).’
Oy–you say this with such conviction but it is an erroneous statement. China had no archery competitions prior to the Greeks? Or simply no-one watched?
“I do not make a Beracha on the recitation of Hallel like my rabbeim” because you are an apikores
Thanks for the chuckle!March 24, 2019 3:08 pm at 3:08 pm in reply to: Chabad? Most non religious Jews are not halachikly Jewish. #1700351
I have davened in a Chabad shul for years and can unequivocally say that a person is not recognized by the Rabbi’s as a Jew without positive evidence that his or her mother is a Jew. Period, over and out. Any other statement is either a misunderstanding or an outright lie.
Oy–u are dangerously close to Lashon Hara. I would ask how do they know you are Sephardic? Are you making a point to differentiate yourself?
If you do indeed feel the need to publicize your Sephardi heritage, why not go to a Sephardi school?
I sent a note to AOC to rid NY of Chase bank. If that works, Citi is next.
I personally become frustrated when a visitor is leading the Davening and is slow like it is Yom Tov. If they’re fast I’m ok since I can linger on my own.
I think the sages would support the statement that the Davening should proceed at the normal rate for that specific shul.
A related issue is when a visitor uses different tunes than the shul usually does. I respect the visitor who checks with the Rabbi to learn the customs prior to leading.
Long Beach in the house–think we used to be considered the 6th town–maybe 7th.
In my experience most people like what their job description. What makes them miserable is a bad boss or difficult environment in which to work. This is what makes people hate their job.
The only way you will lose your son is if you are uncompromising and insist he behave according to your rules. Attempt to educate him but in the end, you must allow him to make his choices.
OP: “Why is it so difficult for otherwise intelligent people to accept that something is seriously wrong with our dating system if it’s leaving thousands of girls single?”
For one, you are not showing that this is any different than it has been historically–show us some statistics that demonstrate this has not always been the case. Then we can more easily discuss the causes.
I’ve learned that those Jews who support government antithetical to the redemption of Zion are composed of the souls of those who reversed their bris in the day of the Hasmoneans.
Haha–What can go wrong? Making the popcorn…,
I am glad you commented further as I respect your opinions.
The idea that one has to work hard for something is of course a good one. My son does not have the same drive to learn Yiddishkeit as he has for say playing football. At issue is that at this time in his life, he is not going to work so hard on learning. I am providing a foundation where he goes to Frum schools, lives in a Shomer Shabbas home, observes the Yom Tovs, wraps Tefillin as he’s learning with the Rabbi for his upcoming Bar Mitzvah and as part of it, I was able to get him to join the Chidon even though he would have rather have done something else with his Sundays. In this way he would learn beyond what he was already learning and hopefully the consequences of such would be positive. Perhaps if I was more stern in his upbringing his desire to learn would be greater–in any event, here he is.
Due to this Chabad decision, he is no longer pursuing any of the Chidon learning. Learning can of course be difficult but I do not believe the Rebbe’s intention for children to learn Mitzvot was only if they learn it in Hebrew. After all, is this not a program dedicated to the vision of the Rebbe?
This leads me to my conclusion that we have people making curriculum decisions without the benefit of the Rebbe’s guidance. Sociology gives us many examples of how the oppressed once in power, become like their prior oppressors. In my eyes the current curriculum specialists are what the Misnagdim must have seemed like to the early Rabbis. They are set in their ways and view those different from them with less than honorable intention. They have usurped the goals of the Chidon program and are using the Hebrew criteria to filter out those who don’t hold the same priorities.
Even if I am wrong in this, I am not wrong that their policies have caused my son to stop learning to some extent. For this, they should gain their reward. I’m sorry if this sounds strong but I have learned that to stop a child from learning is a pretty big deal. I could have done more, but I didn’t cause him to stop. They have the ability to assist and instead have done harm. If his not studying Chidon benefits him in some way and this is a mitzvah to them, so be it.
And yes, other comments have been very helpful and supportive and I appreciate all the comments I have received.
I have let some of my anger out on this note and please know it is not directed towards you. Your comments are a great gift to learn from and I appreciate you.
All the best.
Thanks all for your feedback–really appreciate it! Great perspectives and
Thanks for the responses so far. I don’t know exactly why he can’t learn from Hebrew directly. It does seem to be a matter of parental influence in terms of priority. Most of his BT family classmates cannot do so while boys from a family where the father has passed away early can as there mother ensured that the Rabbi’s teach the boys. Thus, I am probably most to blame.
My son has other things going on after school– and he did study after school and on Sundays the Chidon books but not in Hebrew. He could have studied Hebrew with the Rabbi’s sons but he didn’t and that’s that.
The point is that for whatever reason, he is not fluent in Hebrew and will not be because it is a lower priority.
Yet he knows the Mitzvot and the Parshas and a good amount of Tanach yet is fluent only in English. Certainly the understanding of Scripture is more profound if learned in Hebrew but it is far greater than nothing to understand what you can in English.
The end result is that he is no longer studying the Chidon books because he was being tested in Hebrew. This does not seem to me a satisfying conclusion even if it was someone else’s son. If they merely allowed testing in English for BT, he would be continuing his study in this area. What good is being done here?December 11, 2018 9:05 pm at 9:05 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1642167
Lask: I know you are a wise man but I’ve learned that the reason the Chabad does not sleep in the sukkah is for the same reason one does not sleep wrapped in tefillin–namely, one should be fully conscious when engaged in such mitzvot.
An explanation about wives cannot be correct since even those unmarried are not encouraged to sleep in the sukkah even under perfect weather conditions.December 11, 2018 6:00 pm at 6:00 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1642072
I’ve learned that we don’t sleep in the sukkah for the same reason we don’t sleep wrapped in tefillin,
@milhouse Rather than merely deny them a Jewish education, how about we excommunicate the parents and their children who don’t get vaccinated. That way they have to get vaccinated to be Jewish.
@shragi: They blow it out of proportion to seem like a massive epidemic and misinform the public.
I can’t believe I am even approving this post with these last lines…—-> moderator
This is a true statement that shragi makes–it occurred last winter with the so called Flu epidemic. This is from cnn:
“One hundred and eighty kids — this really hit me hard as the father of three kids — died last year from the flu. And the majority of them were unvaccinated,” said US Surgeon General Dr. Jerome M. Adams. speaking at a news conference hosted by the National Foundation for Infectious Diseases on Thursday. “Flu vaccinations save lives.”
Oh really? Would not a scientist have to compare this number with how many died from the vaccine? Either the US Surgeon General does not understand basic research methodology or he is misleading the public.
So its a bit like “tragedy of the commons” whereby I benefit the most if everyone else vaccinates and I don’t yet all of us have the same choice. Recycling is similar in that I benefit from everyone else’s recycling even if I don’t recycle myself which makes my life easier.
Hence we need Big Brother to force us to vaccinate to protect ourselves from ourselves.
CG: If you are looking for a “practical” consequence lehalacha from this difference, consider the 18 minutes it takes unworked dough to become chametz. This is defined by chazal in maseches pesachim to be 1/40 of 12 hours or 1/80 of a full day. However, due to the changing length of the day, dough would become chametz on our clocks at about half a millisecond before the 18 minutes are up. You can see why I put the word practical in quotes!
Thanks for this amazing over-my-head discussion! I did a little research as you suggested in one of your posts and found that although the earths rotation is on average slowing down and extending a “24-hour day”, there are days that are faster than 24 hours including July 1 2018.
Therefore, how could one know exactly how long on any given Pesach day what 1/40 of 12 hours or 1/80 of a full day would measure?
Lask; I’m surprised by your position. Iran has become far more aggressive since the deal.
Furthermore IMO, the deal in no way decreased the probability of Iran using or supplying nukes or their knowledge of them to our enemies. Nor does the probability rise now.May 8, 2018 10:49 am at 10:49 am in reply to: The guy who insulted the chasidish boy should go to jail for child abuse!!! #1517662
If a Yid was belittling a black kid this way cries for justice would fill the air. Instead there are 100,000’s of facebook likes.
Maybe this is the way Hashem ensures we will not reconcile with the nations.
Thanks Lask. I get it and I see what Joseph is driving at. Peace.
Lask. ” stated before that because we live in the palace of the King, the yetzer hora recognizes the greatness we can accomplish, stands strongly against it and makes it very hard to overcome that.”
I still seek to understand so please let me add a question of clarification–do you mean that a righteous person should not live in EY because the yetzer hora is so strong, that the righteous person needs King Moshiach to secure them? Hence, they are better off in Brooklyn where they may still succeed in gaining a share in the World to Come?
LASK: “The question is if the forming of the government in Israel was religiously justified or we can only create a government after of the coming of Moshiach. If we we form a government does it have to follow the teaching of the Torah.”
Thanks, Lask. And Joseph is therefore stating that since Israel was reconquered prior to Moshiach and since there is such a high prevalence of secularism (with only some government parties/peoples representing Torah), the “goodness” of living in EY is not so obvious now and it may be better to live outside the land.
Do I have that right?
Joseph: And be able to withstand the threats to Yiddishkeit by the Zionists
Hello Joseph–can you please elaborate on who precisely are the Zionists you are referring to? Is it all political parties, Likud only, Labor only, etc.
Thanks in advance.
Regarding Moshiach ben Yosef, I recall during the 2006 Lebanon war that Ariel Sharon started to move in a way that was absent during the previous six months of his coma. To this day I still think it possible that if Israel had declared all out war on hezbolah that Ariel would have woken up and led us as Moshiach ben Yosef.
The following was printed in the NYTimes Week in Review Aug 6, 2006:
“TOWARD the end of last month, well into Israel’s war with the Lebanese militia Hezbollah, Ariel Sharon suddenly seemed to shudder.”
Lask: Why are we relitigating the gemora, Berochos 34,2, who is greater?
I am under the impression that the argument put forth in the Gemara was between 2 Tzaddikim–1 who was FFB and 1 who was BT. In the case of the two Tzaddikim, the BT stands in a place the FFB cannot.
The current discussion is clearly not referring to Tzaddikim but merely to the overall quality of life of the individual. At least that’s my judgment.
If I am mistaken about the Gemara, please correct me–I view you as a teacher.
‘Are dogs actually 100% colorblind?’
The answer turns on the fact that their are some cone receptors in the so-called primitive fovea of a dogs retina, hence, they have limited color perception.
‘Did the increased diversity of the characters in mathematical word problems have any discernible effect on society?’
oh my–this is brilliant
Buy them for your gifts and buy one yourself. Try yours first. If it’s bad, bring the rest back unopened. Consider it Tzedakah to the extent you lose money.
The guy in front of you is never going fast enough and you are never going fast enough for the guy behind you.April 17, 2018 7:16 pm at 7:16 pm in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1507964
On one occasion where I was driving out-of-towner’s back to the airport after a wedding, I had the occasion to drive by herself a widowed female who happened to be the widow of a big-time Rabbi from Toronto. She sat in the back seat. There was no question she would sit there and looking back, if I had directed her to sit in the front that would have been the height of impropriety.
EditedApril 15, 2018 9:23 pm at 9:23 pm in reply to: Will learning Mussar help a psychopath or Narcissist? Among others. #1506659
As a Ph.D in Experimental Psychology (not a clinical psychologist or a psychiatrist), my belief is that certain psychological disorders such as depression and anxiety should be treated with medication so that the individual has the stability to learn improvement to character.
The OP description of the personality disorders of sociopathy (no empathy) and (narcissism) are notoriously difficult to treat from a psychiatric intervention. Perhaps that why Haimy refers to them as best treated by spiritual growth–in this I think I must agree.
The diary of Rutka Laskier was kept secret by her sister for 60 years after the war. Her sister was saved by catholic nuns. The sister is in her 90’s now and still catholic, so to speak.
IMO the climate change/global warming alarmists think of themselves as self-sufficient and deny their Creator. You will find that most of them are atheists. It’s basically an attack on the Almighty similar to Nimrod.
I’m Baal Teshuva and studied outside of congregational Judaism for many years. Only 8 years ago did we join a Chabad shul and move into the “shtetl”. The selfishness I’ve seen is staggering for people who are supposedly “frum”. Typically the entire family including children are affected. Luckily the worst of them are about 25%.
The middle 50% are probably like us–working on conquering our Yetzer Hara with varying degrees of success. We at least recognize and repent of our evil behaviors although we may do them over and over.
The top 25% have changed their character sufficiently to be called decent folks with the top of these role models. I thank G-d for them.
I will tell you that you can move wherever you care to and never get away from this unless you care to live like a hermit. Even going OTD will not bring you peace since these behaviors occur throughout humanity.March 25, 2018 10:36 pm at 10:36 pm in reply to: What Happened With Ezras Nashim In Boro Park On Monday Night? #1498034
Lask: I am pleased to hear your mother is alright–Praise Hashem and thank the Almighty for the brave folks of Hatzalah around the world. May their reward be great!
SY: “Its someone who distorts halacha trying to defend his position”
Let’s say someone really does this–and you have publicly condemned him–right? Have you not proved his hypothesis that it is ok to attempt to correct the person even by public insult?
“your constant twisting of halacha into a weapon to hurt and divide Jews has made you into a rasha.”
“You are manipulative and dangerous.”
“You are a sick man joseph.”
“Seriously, dude, what is wrong with you?”
Do you haters of Joseph not realize the irony of your behavior on this topic? You have chosen to deem Joseph as evil as you are arguing that he has no right to deem others this way (which maybe he doesn’t). How is it ok for you?
What word(s) when pluralized by adding an “s” to the end implies a lesser amount than the singular?
There’s a family in my shul–the father has no kevanah while davening–speaks during the shemonah esrei–leaves his seat to stand in front of the aron–he paces around disturbing me while I’m davening–when he arrives at shul he treats it like a coffee house—has his feet up on another chair during services–his oldest son is like Cain. All this and the Rabbi’s say nothing. I have trouble focusing if my tallis isn’t blocking my peripheral vision. He enrages me–I’m instructed by my primary Rabbi that since he will never change to ignore him. Maybe he is not qualified as a Rasha but calling him out would do no good.March 15, 2018 10:21 pm at 10:21 pm in reply to: How Careful Must We Be When Eating Out With A Hechsher #1491645
Shop: “I was at an ice cream shop with a pretty good hechsher, and saw the lady working there use the same utensil first in Milchig ice cream, than to Parve.”
I think one has to apply caution and assume that when eating out in a Milchig environment, even eating only parve, one must wait for fleishig and vice-versa. So if you want only a couple pickles from the deli, no milchig for you for a while.
Gaon: “Seder Hadorot Plato mind over matter”
Thank you Gaon–this is a great source!
Thanks you Lask for all your insights!
May you both be blessed with much revealed good this season!
Gao: “Aristotle’s philosophy had much more of an impact.., heresy.., Kefira..,”
In my understanding, according to the Rambam, the Aristotelian philosophy of the universe and Judaism’s understanding are equal in terms of philosophical proof. The core difference is that we believe in Creation Ex Nihilo while Aristotle argued that both Hashem and the universe have always existed.
I agree that a Yid should beware this difference, but your hatred of Aristotle and your embracing of Hawking is curious. Maybe there’s something else you would like to share? Maybe you have a family member with ALS?March 12, 2018 1:03 pm at 1:03 pm in reply to: Should Donald Trump be Crowned King of the United States? #1487044
Lask: Don’t know that the sages discussed “trolling”–if they did, you would understand OP purpose
Typically pluralizing an English word by adding an “s” to the end implies a greater amount than the singular. For example, dollar/dollars, computer/computers, etc.
What word(s) when pluralized by adding an “s” to the end implies a lesser amount than the singular?