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  • in reply to: Walking In Socks #729165

    Gabboim
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    You can always wear slippers.

    in reply to: Should I continue in Yeshiva or get a job? #729677

    Gabboim
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    charlie: If it is between 2 frum Jewish parties, Beis Din will rule based exclusively on Halacha, not goyish law. Dinei Momunos are binding, and not secular law, if in conflict (i.e. Halacha demands one ruling while goyish law demands the opposite ruling.)

    in reply to: Good Movie Idea Inspired by the coffeeroom #729908

    Gabboim
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    I’m casting him posthumously.

    in reply to: What should we tell our children? #729325

    Gabboim
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    Bravo estherhamalka! Well said! I wish I had the courage to say it like it is, and put it down so beautifully. But me always being Mr. Nice Guy I just couldn’t get myself to say it so forcefully — and correctly — and beautifully.

    in reply to: Places to live outside NY #1035972

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    cutie pie: There is more Torah in New York. In Lakewood it’s more concentrated though.

    in reply to: Welcome Someone- I- Recommended! #729560

    Gabboim
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    No way eclipse. I have way over 500 registrations myself and almost as many postings.

    in reply to: Places to live outside NY #1035968

    Gabboim
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    There is no place outside of NY (in chutz laaretz) that has the intensity of Torah and Yiddishkeit as New York. That’s why most frum Jews in America call New York their home.

    in reply to: Good Movie Idea Inspired by the coffeeroom #729902

    Gabboim
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    I’ve been casted as squeak.

    in reply to: Chalav Stam? no such a thing #809527

    Gabboim
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    It’s only an issue bshas hadchak. And even then a baal nefesh is machmir.

    in reply to: Home Shul Advantage #728773

    Gabboim
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    If he’s late, he lost the seat.

    in reply to: JETS SHMETS!! Who cares?? #728590

    Gabboim
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    My Rebbeim always made choizek of professional sports players, saying they are no more worth paying attention to then the garbage men.

    in reply to: Chalav Stam? no such a thing #809510

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    Yersl:

    I agree with you 100%.

    in reply to: Wolfishmusings=Kapusta #773741

    Gabboim
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    Agreed.

    in reply to: Should I continue in Yeshiva or get a job? #729665

    Gabboim
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    I do agree with DY that attempting to apply secular law in a Torah setting is corrupting.

    in reply to: Screen Name Subtitle #978193

    Gabboim
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    squeak, I like “boogeyman” better.

    in reply to: Dating etiquette #729057

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    yentingyenta: So how’d she get in?

    in reply to: Welcome Someone- I- Recommended! #729545

    Gabboim
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    Why would you shlep someone into this mayhem?

    in reply to: Dating etiquette #729051

    Gabboim
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    tbt, no one is saying she is “responsible” to unlock it for him. But it definitely would be a nice gesture and the right thing for her to do.

    in reply to: Screen Name Subtitle #978191

    Gabboim
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    mw, I think “posting under the influence”, or PUI, sounds better.

    in reply to: Should I continue in Yeshiva or get a job? #729658

    Gabboim
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    Daas Yochid: Well said. Many Gedolim have said the very same thing you have.

    in reply to: Dating etiquette #729048

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    ckbshl: She probably didn’t unlock the door because she wasn’t trained well.

    in reply to: Divorce Rate in the frum community #728547

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    agittayid: I completely agree. The masculinization of women being pressed into society by the feminists, and unfortunately affecting even some frum folks, is a leading cause of this.

    in reply to: Should I continue in Yeshiva or get a job? #729615

    Gabboim
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    The title is wrong. The yeshiva is the real world. Outside the yeshiva is the oilem hasheker.

    in reply to: Shatnez #728280

    Gabboim
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    “So, for example the mishna says you can wear shaatnez if you are doing so while crossing a border and trying to avoid paying taxes on your merchandise by pretending it is your clothes.”

    So the Mishna says you can avoid paying taxes by hiding what the government taxes?

    in reply to: Shatnez #728277

    Gabboim
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    Interesting shaila. I never thought of this, but you have a very good point.

    in reply to: Divorce Rate in the frum community #728528

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    oomis1105: So why then, if your “b” reasoning regarding kollel/seminary has any accuracy, is the divorce rate of kollel yungerleit lower than other frum demographics? Your argument would only lend itself if you could demonstrate they have a higher rate.

    in reply to: Best Proposal Stories #728265

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    ItcheSrulik: In any event, the “engagement ring” (which itself is just a mishgas like Mod-80 pointed out and not a custom) is given by the “Vort” which is a few days or week after the proposal was made. So it is therefore a non-issue, as he is not proposing at the time he gives her the ring — the were already previously engaged as Choson/Kallah.

    in reply to: Birthday Gift for my Boss #728304

    Gabboim
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    A card reading: Mazal Tov on a half a century of service to humanity!

    in reply to: School Uniforms or No? #728998

    Gabboim
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    Achdus is a lot better.

    in reply to: Divorce Rate in the frum community #728515

    Gabboim
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    Because they are spoiled by modern society and influenced by it.

    in reply to: Best Proposal Stories #728262

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    “Since everyone knows that it is customary nowadays to give a ring to a girl upon reaching an agreement to get married at a later date and that no one ever has in mind to accomplish Kiddushin by that giving of the ring”

    Sam2: It isn’t customary by Jews to give a ring by the proposal. (Maybe it is by non-Jews.) The custom is to give a bracelet then.

    in reply to: Best Proposal Stories #728249

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    Let’s say the proposal was a kiddushin. Then they have a chuppa 3 months later. What is the problem with the proposal/kiddushin?

    in reply to: Another store question #727466

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    So halacha doesn’t matter if it says you can’t do this?

    in reply to: Is there an inyin that your zivug should look like you? #728596

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    Huh? Where do such bubbe maaisas come from?

    in reply to: Disturbing Story on Plane #727524

    Gabboim
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    Well said Derech HaMelech.

    in reply to: Another store question #727460

    Gabboim
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    We just learnt that it is against halacha (see the Chofetz Chaim posted by HadaLXTP). There is nothing more to really discuss.

    in reply to: Broken Home #727601

    Gabboim
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    The same way you say to stay away from divorced men who may have gotten divorced for no fault of theirs, others say stay away from the children of divorced parents who may have not been negatively affected by their parents divorce.

    Open your mind for one and you can open your mind for both.

    in reply to: Correcting a misconception about parnassah #750570

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    fabie: Derech HaMelech has definitely been helpful to my understanding of these issues.

    in reply to: Who redts you the most shidduchim? #728015

    Gabboim
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    All Shidduchim came through G-d.

    in reply to: Broken Home #727599

    Gabboim
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    And a 30 year old should jump in?

    in reply to: Shadchan's opinion on lack of flexibility in Shidduchim. #727351

    Gabboim
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    I think that particular shadchan works with girls than want NO movies/TV PERIOD. You need a different type of girl and thus a different shadchan.

    in reply to: Correcting a misconception about parnassah #750568

    Gabboim
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    “Do you really believe that?”

    100%.

    I would say thank you. But what I told you before is the answer to what Rav Schach’s basis was. Another answer is that the giver should be thanking the collector for being given the opportunity to give.

    in reply to: Another store question #727444

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    Moderator-80: Maybe I am misremembering, but I think I learnt in halacha you can’t steer someone away from a merchant if the potential customer decided to purchase there.

    in reply to: Another store question #727441

    Gabboim
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    And that woman was very wrong for what she did. I think it is even against the Torah.

    in reply to: Yeshivish and Manners #727339

    Gabboim
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    “Manners stem from societal norms”

    If that’s how you are choosing to define manners, there are many times we Jews either must or are better off to differ from “societal norms”. If that means someone will declare they lack “manners” so be it, rather than the alternative.

    in reply to: Another store question #727440

    Gabboim
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    He probably thought you mentioned that to him because you wanted the price matched.

    in reply to: Correcting a misconception about parnassah #750566

    Gabboim
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    “I find it hard to believe that Rav Shach would say that you don’t have to say “thank you” to someone when they give you money.”

    They are not giving money to the collector. The collector is merely an agent for the Torah, and not the beneficiary.

    in reply to: Broken Home #727597

    Gabboim
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    Afterall, the divorced boy may have gotten divorced for no fault of his own. Why automatically treat a divorced boy as second class and not consider him (assuming he has no children.)

    in reply to: Broken Home #727596

    Gabboim
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    “how about to go out with bochurim who they themselves have been married and divorced, is that fair? i dont think there is a/t wrong with the bochur per say, but i dont think it is fair to say that since my parents marriage did not work out i have to marry a bochur who has been married previously”

    BJJ:

    Why are you considering marrying a divorced guy anymore second class than a girl from a divorced home? Also give the divorced guy a fair chance.

    in reply to: Should a Yid own a Ipod touch? #728036

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    willi, how well’s your optimum service working for you?

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