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The Moroccan minhag is to say it before Shacharit and Mincha. Also, the Ben Ish Chai says to say part of it on the nights of Rosh Hashanah before the meals.
Be yourself. Worry more about what you are going to eat there
If your friend understands Hebrew, I think the best option is the “Yalkut Yosef”
So, here is my question. Where can you go looking obviously jewish (yarmulke, etc) and be safe? Last year I had a short stopover in Madrid and I played it safe by wearing a baseball cap. My guess is not in Paris.
nitpicker, I don’t attribute this type of behavior to ashkenazim only. It’s just that the case being discussed in this topic is one where the sephardi minhag (100% correct al-pi-halacha) surprised some of my ashkenazi brothers/sisters who thought it to be assur. Hence, my calling it ashkenazi myopia. And as I said, I have experienced it in other cases as well.
If there is a case where the direction goes the other way, then it would be a case of sephardi myopia.
nitpicker, I never said that your (ashkenazi) minhag is myopia. If you read my post again you would see it. What I mean is that the idea that something that is perfectly fine according to the Shulchan Aruch (and in fact the minhag of many many Jews) would be considered by some people as being ASSUR is myopia. I have several examples and people have come to me in shul to explain how I am doing something “wrong” when in fact if they knew a little bit of halacha they would know that what I was doing was ok. Still, I apologize to you and to anyone who may have been offended by my comment.
There is absolutely no prohibition al pi halacha to name a baby after a living grandparent. And as a matter of fact, that is indeed the Sephardic custom. The idea of it being assur is one more example of ashkenazi myopia.
I don’t see anything wrong with davening from a phone, if you are really davening. If you are sephardi and go to an ashkenazi shul, most likely you are not going to find a sephardi siddur.
What does bother me, is when people assume that all jews in the US are ashkenazi.
I took the GMAT about 18 years ago, so I am sure many things have changed since then.
All I can remember is that coming from a different country with a different language, as a non-native English speaker, the English section was difficult for me. Obviously, much tougher than the TOEFL.
However, with my engineering background Math was easy and I scored in the 94 or 98 percentile.
I thought it was assur to listen to goyshe music…
I contacted OU through their website. Let’s see what they say.
There is a sefer in hebrew called “Haba Li Banim” which is all about segulos for having children.
Are they concerned about the trope or also about the pronunciation?November 15, 2011 4:39 pm at 4:39 pm in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835795
Wolf: From the tone in your intial comment opening this thread there is no indication of your feeling of “it pains me terribly that that’s the way I am”. And I assumed (my fault) that “you were ok with it”.
From the tone in your last response I feel anger.
I apologize to you. It wasn’t my intention to hurt you in any way. Please be mochel me.November 14, 2011 6:41 pm at 6:41 pm in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835788
So, you are concerned about “Lifnei Iver” but you are ok with being a Sabbath desecrator. Very very strange…
I don’t think a degree that was obtained 10 years ago would help much in getting a job when he hasn’t been in the job market for that long and has 0 experience.
Pesek Zeman Big Bite by Elite Megadim
I am in the process of refinancing and one of the things they asked me was for a letter explaining what I intend to do with the cash I am taking out. It sounded strange to me but it seems they are very careful these days about giving loans and want to make sure you are not strugling and need the money just to stay afloat.
By the way, in my case, I am just planning some home improvement projects and that answer was good for them.
The Ben Ish Chai brings this inyan. If I remember correctly, there is a maila of entering the shul with talis and tefilin on.
It is indeed a chiyuv. Lechaschila it should be finished before the first meal on Shabbos. If not, I think it can be completed until Tuesday. Worst-case scenario before Simchas Torah.
Does anybody know how many yidden were niftar? I don’t remember seeing any estimates.
“When someone responds to a call for help, they prefer it should go on record”
And can anybody explain to me why they prefer it should go on record
And I would like to ask mechila from anyone I may have offended during discussions in the CR.
Ketiva VeChatima TovaAugust 26, 2011 8:34 pm at 8:34 pm in reply to: Earthquake + Hurricane during One Week in New York #802727
There is no such a thing as coincidence!
Very very good. Thanks for posting!
I think it depends whether or not the person really qualifies for that assistance.
Call me old-fashioned, but derech hertez / good manners is taught at home and I think we are not doing a good job at that.August 11, 2011 6:45 pm at 6:45 pm in reply to: The Great Debate: Ultra-Orthodoxy vs. Modern Orthodoxy #798543
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No offense, but I think a frum guy should not listen to the beatles
I respect all jews who respect jews from other groups and realize that even though there are some differences we are one.
Let me get this straight. Your kid is playing at your neighbour’s house, she gets a cut and you want to sue your neighbour for that? Why? How is it their fault? Unbeliavable…
Do you think Sephardim were influenced by chassidim in Spain, Morroco, Syria, Tunisia, Irak, etc?
Yaakov Avinu did 3 things when he was about to face Eisav: Tefila, sent presents and prepared for confrontation.
And of course, that’s on top of all his zechuyos from mitzvos, learning, etc.
Whoever the republican candidate is
Sleep, then learning with the kids, then chabrusa, then shiur, then mincha …
I would like to clarify that the edict mentioned above by ef613 only applies to Syrian communities. Not all Sephardim are Syrians. It is my understanding that most Sephardim in EY are not Syrians.
Shlishi: I am sorry to tell you that you are wrong. Perhaps you belong to the group that is not being discriminated and therefore you don’t feel it. But I do feel it and it’s not just me. I have heard way too many stories already. A friend of mine was even told to change his lastname in order to have a better chance of his kids being accepted into a yeshiva. And this advice was given by an employee of the yeshivas.
You can look the other way and pretend there is no problem, but unfortunately that’s not the reality.
And by the way, am NOT talking loshon hora on Klal Yisroel as you said. I did NOT say everybody acts like this. I did NOT say that most people act like this. I did NOT even mention who the 2 groups are or which group discriminate against which group. And this is letoeles because by raising the issue I am trying to make people understand that there is a problem and that we need to find ways to fix it.
I am mochel you.
… and it’s not just about marriage. It’s also about not letting perfectly frum kids from one group entering schools/yeshivas run by the other gorup, etc.
In my opinion, this is a big issue in frum circles and it’s causing lots of tzoros.
If one group doesn’t one to marry members of the other group because they prefer to maintain their minhagim or because they want to know the family more closely or because they think that by staying within the same tradition will make it easier for the couple to be happy together, that’s all fine.
However, I think that in many cases the main issue is that one group looks at the other as second-class jews and therefore don’t want their children to marry members of the “lower” group.
Unfortunately, this division seems to be stronger in EY and NY.
AZ: I am not questioning the halacha that you should pay the going rate, I am questioning the going rate. This is something that is kind of established and accepted by people and I am saying it is not “in-synch” with the effort that is needed to become a provider of that service (education, certification, experience) or the effort made during the particular job.
One more point. Yes, the halacha is that you have to pay to the shadchan, but why $1500 per side? Doesn’t $3,000 for just mentioning a name or making a couple of phone calls seem like an outrageous amount? To me that’s way too much.
DaasYochid: Thank you for posting. Very informative. However, I am a little confused by the following sentence.
So, if my very good friend the handyman comes to my home for whatever reason (pick up his son, borrow a bike, etc) and when he sees something wrong with the faucet he fixes it without me asking or even realizing it, I have an obligation to pay him?
If the homeless in the street trhows water at my windshield while I am stop at the traffic light, Am I obligated to pay him?
Where is the line?
am yisrael chai: Very well said, thank you!
If frum jews think going to the movies is ok, we are in trouble!
Hocker has no idea whether the guy is Mexican, Ecuadorian or Colombian. Therefore, most likely he/she is NOT calling him what he is and the term Mexican was used in a derogatory manner.
Also, I don’t get what you mean by “especially since most Mexicans in America are not citizens”. What does that have to do with it?
I didn’t understand the point about her being sefardi. What about it?
why does the op feel it necessary to tell us the nationality of the worker there what is the point?
Plus, most likely the guy was NOT Mexican, but rather from some other latin american country like Honduras, Nicaragua, Ecuador, etc.
The US has no problem with people having 2 passports but they ask you to use your US passport when leaving/arriving the US. The other country might have a similar requirement, so if you go from the US to the other country and back, you have to travel with both passports and show each country it’s passport.