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  • in reply to: NEED UPDATE ON YWN CHOLIM #1951598
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    Thank you re rav Dovid.
    Meir G I want updates on those people posted.

    in reply to: Second Generation BT #1884899
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    Totally disagree maidodCH
    As a bt 27 yrs and kiruv work I see that if a couple mainstream themselves (doesnt wanna only live near other bts) their families are beautiful. An added edge is the passion for hashem rather than things being rote. and openness to have a real discussion when their teens have questions. Been there, done that, your questions wont scare me. Anyway this is my opinion. Like with anything else there are going to be the sad cases of otd. One extra point. It’s really helpful if we dont live super near our extended and super secular family. Eg made aliyah. If we do live near family we have to be super smart and subtle how we handle intermingling so the kids don’t feel “it’s not fair”, or asking parents super nicely no tv at grandma

    in reply to: Do our eyes tell us what happened to GEORGE FLOYD #1881952
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    Anyone thinking what I am thinking? if those police get off, innocent or guilty, Heaven help us! I mean the Rodney King riots that I was here for in LA was after the cops got off lightly. THESE RIOTS WERE PRE TRIAL. OMG imagine how far the liberalised USA will go with anger and rage if the officers are found innocent of murder! I am packing my bags out of here for our own safety…i witnessed enough rage last month off my own mapeset.

    in reply to: Saw you at sinai #1879241
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    1. I met my husband on Jwed, then called frumster. Internet with all its faults, does open up the world for long distance marriages
    2. Im a 4 yr matchmaker on sawyouatsinai its defiently worth a shot. I could send u a month link for free but I dunno how to get my email address to u or vice versa on this site. Theres all different on there but modern yeshivish is well represented. As is modern machmir. When I do matches I look at such things as would soemone watch movies in theater or at home etc. There slots of ways to see basic hashgafa. I want u to know theres more girls than guys in this category. That does NOT mean theres a shiduch crises. I dont believe there is! Hashem doesnt decide plonk for ploni only for men and not women. Join for a month spend the money and pick me as a mathmaker I’ll search for u for a few weeks I have an email address actually I can provide I dont check too often @gmail.com">shiduchideas@gmail.com

    in reply to: Anybody else suffering After Recovering From the Covid-19 #1879104
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    Bh my somewhat young and slim husband altho having been on vent a few weeks and secondary infections , he seems back to himself except for his voice. That’s taking time to return. Altho for some interesting reason, he no longer snores lol

    in reply to: Is Aish too Zionistic to be Effective? #1776283
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    Havent had time to more than glance at soem comments (too busy doing aish kiruv!)lol)
    But couple points. After being heavily involved with aish for almost 3 decades and husband formerly running a branch and having gone to eyaht and being a total baalas teshuva (from aish) as well as thousands of people I know who also became frum (not all aish)
    Zehavasdad you are so wrong. I just picked up an 18 yr Girl from the airport who went to the zone (oorah) with 26 other pre-sem baalei teshuvas all wanting to grow. Joseph trust me its not just chabad. Altho I joke u can be FFA FFB or FFC… And there arent many people close enough to old school Aish and Rav Noach like rabbi berkovits who is officially taking over the helm and is so smart he will know the way to go in all decisions. The generation has changed and kiriv may have adapted. But people are desperately needing that soul connection more than ever. Be them people that left the path or those that never experienced it. Hope to find time to read the comments as aish is so close to my heart I wanna put right any misconceptions

    in reply to: restaurant on first date??? #1762355
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    Maybe it’s the” like…hellooo!!!!”! I’m like THANK YOU THAT WAS DELICIOUS

    in reply to: Los Angeles, Yes or No? #1720498
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    1, we can have this convo. But there is nothing like byla. Nothing like toras emes. I loved in 6 major cities in USA Israel and Europe and l.a. is up there with the best . Apart from et of course

    in reply to: Los Angeles, Yes or No? #1720385
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    Hi glock maybe we are neighbours… 1 million is very outdated. Houses in la brea area over 1.5. We rent. Rent or property is the highest cost. School costs similar to other communities I have lived in us and they give decent break if u need it. Many baalei teshuva families also in la brea (us for example) that want a real makom torah. But bear in mind the huge billboards (we call and complain about some of them and they get removed) and proximity to trendy Melrose and Hollywood. Lots of homeless. But I love Los angeles. Miss Israel but this is am amazing community. I lived lots of places. If u keep chalav yisrael then yes all milkig products cost more than n.y. many more details
    Lots of kiruv opportunities to invovle yourself in. I find l.a. has enabled my kids to thrive without the box. One kid bh shtark married kollel guy. One modern and keep halacha and thriving too and still feeling belongong. Others still young…iyh… one can find their niche here. Omg the weather…how can a working mother feel down when she can do outdoor water aerobics class in the winter

    in reply to: Photos & Shidduchim – Appropriate Or Not?🖼️🤵👰 #1676454
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    1. With online websites like sawyouatsinai.com where i am a matchmaker i ignore those without pics… its a way to understand who this person is and if I can see them possibly together . 2. If it is a long distance shiduch involving money spent on plane fares etc and time off work/ yeshiva, i think if a guy wants a pic and vice versa, or SHORT skype meeting, i totally get it. as two minutes into the date he can be like no way and i could have saved us both money and energy. and vice versa. I thik if an FFB wants to do the old shiduch way, meet the shadchanit, no pic on profile like my daughter did and bh she married a great guy that also didnt have his pic- the shadchan knows how they both look and can describe it- go for it, its great if its good enough for the couple, i think sometimes if a pic is requested to be sent in the young bais yaakov circles it should ONLY go to the mother of the boy or girl. I guess it all depends on the situation, BUT one thing for sure, NOT ENOUGH people realise the value of a GOOD PROFESSIONAL PHOTO> too often i have a profile of a guy who doesnt smile, is looking over Niagara falls with a tiny pose of him which isnt clear, or the girl in a casual outfit out doing whatever, THE FIRST IMPRESSION IS IMPORTANT> like u wd get dressed up for a date that had real promise so when you first walked in they would see u at your best, a shiduch pohoto is not different. smile. look at camera. show ur best side. do your hair make up wear shabbos clothes etc…

    in reply to: Must you be wealthy to live in Los Angeles? #1655915
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    Check trulia.com punch in 90035 90036 and 91607 for different communities. Valley best price but hot in summer.

    in reply to: Must you be wealthy to live in Los Angeles? #1655913
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    Rent is crazy. Starting without rent control duplexes in la brea over 4500 a month (they are v large) houses probably 6k valley can still get house rental for 4k+ pico apartments start about 3500 smaller than the duplexes in la brea
    Schools seem less than n.y. and work with u. Taxes no clue the difference google.it. if u keep chalav yis everything is a dollar more (mile, cheese etc) than ny prices

    in reply to: Must you be wealthy to live in Los Angeles? #1655893
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    Oops the other one didnt post first let’s see if it does

    in reply to: Must you be wealthy to live in Los Angeles? #1655887
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    Hard to make it here but v special community (I’ve lived in a. Lot of places and had kids in 3 continents)
    I doubt any of my married kids will end up here. Too expensive. Even upper middle class here often cant buy a home and even if they can admit they camt keep their married kids here. But again it’s awesome great choice of schools awesome bais yakov, great yeshivas and several kollelim.

    in reply to: Must you be wealthy to live in Los Angeles? #1655888
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    And my friends pool was awesome this jan 1 2019

    in reply to: Studies on vaccines you might have missed.👨‍🔬💉🚫 #1637954
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    I dare anyone still pro vax and vax is only way to go, to just listen to Some rational arguments against them. Take an hour or two of your life. Look at the videos and back up proofs of anti vax experts. Open mindedly. Not saying in theory vax is wrong but the safety is highly questionable and often compromised. Big pharm believe it or not is still all about money. Partly the huge amount of documented commission that pharmaceutical companies pay to doctors per vial they inject PNLY IF they reach a certain high percentage of their patients otherwise they get zero. Partly the documented proof that for 20 cents more costs per vial the dlsaftey could be much higher (eg used to be dpt not dpat as much cheaper unless specifically requested and demanded by parent) .
    One slight example. A lady I know had a kid become vegetative after a vaccine. She then had 2 normal kids she didnt vaccine. Then in another kid she was convinced by doc to vaccine again. Once again became vegetative for life after..just sayin

    in reply to: help! Wedding questions #1596727
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    thank you (to all of u)
    I will cut corners where i can but EY is a dream of hers and ours and is worth the extra hard work i will do to make it happen. we will just do it till we cant do it anymore.

    have a gr8 singer but need keyboardist. anyone good for 1k?

    in reply to: help! Wedding questions #1596025
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    THANKS YA ALL. SO ITS GETTING BETTER…got a couple halls with the date held, will finalise and give depoist by end of chol hamoed, watch will be more chilled. still looking to see if there is a lovely hall with takanas there are so many names floating around gets confusing where do u know is lovely and may not be booked in 2 months from now also i wd want to have exception to the takanas of private musician (I know some allow this) also still need reasonable but excellent band plzzz send suggestions

    in reply to: Proposing on a first date #1561315
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    You must have seem the profile with a photo before you met tsk tsk

    in reply to: Henna tattoos #1561249
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    ask your rav not coffee room, ours said no

    in reply to: Non-Jewish Baalei Teshuvas #1540794
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    when i became BT

    in reply to: Non-Jewish Baalei Teshuvas #1540793
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    BH years later i got a get arranged from my dad and got my mother remarried al pi halacha in a tiny service w 2 witnesses

    in reply to: Non-Jewish Baalei Teshuvas #1540792
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    yehudayona beg to disagree. maybe in the US but in England many get married in”United”synagogue which goes according to halacha. the same shuls get a thousand on rosh hashanah yomkipur and 50 on a reg shabbos. they are not necessarily frum. i assume similar in south africa and some sefardi shuls in the US. the kids do it to please their parents and later move and are in a more reform or conservative shul by the time they get remarried. trust me thats what happened to my mother

    in reply to: Non-Jewish Baalei Teshuvas #1537747
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    To clarify, I don’t know many about to go on shiduchim that find out they are not Jewish, there is one right now we are dealing with, but we know many who were raised Jewish and are not, and vice versa. One guy is 1/4 Jewish (correct quarter) super frum now, his girlfriend 3/4 Jewish (wrong quarter) who found out she is not considered jewish. And it is not so easy to convert. They still must verify it’s legit and it takes a while to ostart the process get the appointments complete the syllabus etc.

    in reply to: Does a reform rabbi do anything other than attend funerals? #1537181
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    OK so i admit I had to stop reading the never ending comments. However, as a former reform jew and a bh bas yisroel for many years, I have no.problem with the people themselves (including the nice reform rabbi who ran my father’s funeral and was asking me the halachas) my problem is the evil they have caused klal yisroel. And I give 2 examples. 1. People that are mamzerim as the reform have given second marriages without a Get when their first marriage “happened ” to have been in an orthodox shul…this happened to my mother thank the Lord she was past child bearing years. 2nd in my kiruv work i meet SO many peopLe who think they are Jewish and frum baalei teshuva ready for shdiuchim when they realize theit mother or grandma has a reform (or conservative) conversion. Zehu. Back to bais din to start conversion. (And no, it’s not a quick easy Conversion if u go to a reputable bis din) so while they may be wonderful people their ideas damage klal yisroel to such a bad extent. We will only realise when meshiach comes how many mamzerim or non Jewish generations there are that no one knew about. So, ya, I’m angry

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    in reply to: shadchanim in America #1516646
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    Would u consider a baalas teshuva? I know many baalei teshiva in sem in EY mid 20’s

    in reply to: BT vs FFB #1510603
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    Why was this question asked? Who has it easier a man or a woman? A tall person or a short person? Being BT many years it’s awesome there’s challenges like everything in life but the biggest compliment is when someone thinks I’m FFB. That means I am “home”.

    in reply to: Sick and tired of spoiled cholov yisroel milk #1503562
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    Ralphs supermarket

    in reply to: Sick and tired of spoiled cholov yisroel milk #1503560
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    I’m in LA and sometimes go to Ralphs super arles even tho the chalav yisroel milk is $2 more it lasts better. I also hate that own brands make a date 3 weeks out and after one week it’s ddefinitely bad. For this reason I never buy a certain brand unless it was put on the shelf within 2 days. I like pride of farm ait lasts longer. There’s one I don’t like but wouldn’t slam it here

    in reply to: Pictures of women in frum magazines and advertisements #1502396
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    I agree 100%. I know the magazines need the money what I think is the problem is many are lax in this area or don’t know the halacha

    in reply to: How does the first date work? #1489270
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    U guys are a riot. Thanks for making me laugh so early in the morning in l.a.
    18 minute matza, enjoy ur date !

    in reply to: MAILBAG: Reader Upset With YWN Story About Hillary Clinton Falling #1488965
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    Why is this still on the site? Do they not read any of the cofree room articles? It is so clearly no toeles and tabloid trash irrespective of how badly I feel feel about clinton

    in reply to: The Chofetz Chaim mesorah is great #1465571
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    I’m happy reading all this cos I just transferred my 9th grade son from a. Reg yeshiva where for specific reasons he was miserable to a chofetz chaim where he is thriving. And the rebbeim, I can’t even tell you what tsadikim they are. Iyh my son will have excellent middos, love learning and besras has hem be a talmud chacham too

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