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But then all the boys going into chinuch will have to get jobs and never get a shidduch!
To all defenders of heavyset girls: I have a close friend who is a redhead. Many girls have said no straight off the bat because they don’t like redheads. How is that any different than a guy saying no cuz he wants a skinny wife? Yes, there’s no guarantee she will stay skinny after childbirth, but odds are a size 2 20 year old will be skinnier at 30 than a size 12.
The Holocaust was a CRISIS. Girls being unwilling to settle for a guy who’s not rich, charming, and handsome but getting offended when guys say they want a skinny girl is an ISSUE. Of course every girl deserves the perfect life. But, and this may come as a major shock to you, NOT EVERYONE GETS A PERFECT LIFE. Stop raising children who expect the world to be handed to them and raise children who are willing to work to get what they need (not what they want) and who understand what is important. Then we can talk about it being a “crisis”.
Princess/NOMTW – I agree with you 100%. A select few belong in Kollel, the rest of the boys should be working to support their families.
Curiosity – I’m was working before I was dating, had a chavrusa every night, and never had a problem getting dates. I was engaged within a year after I started dating, which isn’t bad considering my wife and I dated for 3 months. You just need to look in the right places. Maybe you could go out with NOMTW or one of her friends – ask the mods to set you up.
Your teenage sister should not be so sheltered, or should not be in the coffee room.
The fact that many frum men look at/watch pornography is something that should be worked on, not something that should be hidden to the extent that when a woman catches her husband she thinks he is a freak. He just happens to be the one who got caught. Is it a problem and an issur? Unquestionably. But people are making him out to be a freak. All that does is tell someone who is struggling with this issue that they must do a better job hiding it.
Don’t forget that the therapists themselves are often under massive amounts of debt due to student loans etc, and need to charge these rates to pay their own bills…
I would also suggest that the men in our community consider the drastic step of working for a living (gasp) so that the programs can go to those who really need it.
If drinking was assur, Rava wouldn’t have been drinking in the first place. Also, it was Rava who killed Rav Zeira, not the other way around. The story continues that Rava invited Rav Zeira again the next year (after he brought him back to life) and Rav Zeira declined, because we do not rely on miracles. That proves that Rava was going to drink again, although I am sure he would be more careful, Rav Zeira didn’t want to take the risk.
Writing in hebrew letters doesn’t add any credence to your argument when you are wrong, btw.
I guess Rava didn’t know the halacha about not drinking on Purim…
Back in the day, people drank on a daily basis. Bochurim having some beer with their thursday/friday night chulent is not the end of the world.
I did hear a story from somebody that they were walking and heard a bochur crying cuz his mother was throwing hot beer on him, but it was really just a message from shamayim warning us that the best way to be mechanech our youth is to try to drive them away with scary stories.
@yentingyenta – I’m pretty sure that song is “Rock you like a hurricane” by the scorpions.
Also, try Crazy Train by Ozzy
Anything by the band Skillet, What I’ve Done by Linkin Park, Master of Puppets S&M by Metallica, Going Up to Boston by Dropkick Murphys, Forever by Chris Brown, Disturbia by Rihanna…the list goes on. Many of these songs have already been stolen by jewish bands or singers so even those of you who only listen to “Jewish” music have heard them too, you just have no idea.
Because making a sandwich doesn’t require that much intelligence.
No reason not to add a name, whether one in your family or one that you just like.
Yes, it closed. Not that it matters anymore, but there was a system in place, implemented by the Rav Hamachshir, to make sure that no tarfus went on on shabbos or Yom Tov.
In the future, learn the facts before you slander a business run by a frum yid.
I think there should be a law across NYC that every woman, regardless of race or religion, should be required to wear long skirts, long sleeves, and stockings so as not to offend our sensitive CR brethren.
Does nobody else have a problem that her husband says “He’s tasted better”?
I can’t speak for the Torah, but the Gemara’s way involved the girls dancing in the street and all the boys watching and choosing…
What about the fact that there is no Tumah (besides the inherent tumah associated with them) by non jews, which means that a non-jewish woman can not become a Niddah, taking away any possibility of her being an Ervah?
OP, next time you have a question, you are much better off asking a Rabbi for the simple reason that the posters here tend to exaggerate and often type before they think. Speak to someone who knows you and your situation, and don’t worry – next time you meet the CEO of Yahoo!, if she sticks her hand out for you to shake it and you take it, you will not be struck by a bolt of lighnng. Just make sure you give Maaser 🙂
I love how the fact that a guy was divorced means that they probably have issues “after all they got divorced for a reason”, but when a girl gets divorced her ex was the one with the issues. Stop blaming everything on the guys. Maybe there’s a reason these girls (single or divorced) are not married.
I’m wearing jeans as I type this. Then again, I have a job (to which I am wearing jeans) so that makes me lower class, allowing me to wear jeans.
I have heard it brought down, peh mipeh from Moshe Rabbeinu himself, that wearing jeans is worse than doing petty crimes like stealing from the government.January 4, 2012 5:18 pm at 5:18 pm in reply to: "Where Are the Men"-Article in last week's Mishpacha #844449
Pardon my ignorance, but what makes a long sheitel untznius? Stylish and Tznius are not mutually exclusive. There is no halacha that says that frum women have to look nasty in the street.
It tastes gross
It should be encouraged!
@Feif Un – AMEN!!!
There are no Chuck Norris jokes – they are all true.
Chuck Norris is Joseph, and all the Mods.
Do we know that for sure? Besides, Eishes Ish, from a halachic standpoint, is transgressed only in an extreme circumstance – for all we know, this teacher “touched” a student inappropriately, but did not cross the line to qualify as Eishes Ish.
Obviously, I think what she did was very wrong, but the emotional scarring is much worse when the perp is of the same gender as the victim.
I do think the police should be brought in, provided that they have sufficient proof.
Let’s be clear here though – I guarantee you that the kid sees himself (assuming it was a he and not a special needs child, and the teacher was not repulsive looking) as more a hero than a victim. It is not nearly as bad as when a Rebbi does it.
LuvMe – I always had the same question, and finally came to the same conclusion the 2Scents posted above. The only way to understand it is to accept that you can not understand it.
Shrek, it sounds like you are just looking for an excuse not to exercise – the Gemara (and many other reliable sources, unlike Oz Vehadar “Lebusha”) make it very clear that a woman has to make herself attractive to her husband. Granted, each man has a different idea of what’s attractive, and if you/your husband has a thing for 300lb behemoths, good for you. Sarah Imeinu was blatantly beautiful completely naturally, so she didn’t need to play tennis c’v. The rest of us would like our wife to be in decent shape – I’m not saying a size 2 is necessary, although it certainly is nice ;)- but at the very least she should be in shape.
The same goes for the so called “untznius” dancing. If the girl is not doing it in front of any men, not including her husband, there is nothing wrong with it. Where is there a halacha against a girl having a nice body, if she uses it only to please her husband? Please find it for me, I would love to see it.