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I am not into these kind of diets, I don’t believe they are healthy but.. Medifast. I know a lot of frum people on it, they have kosher snacks and food that can be delivered.
Are we talking about Israel or in America? I was speaking about America. I have heard in Israel the doctor is not in the room until the last minutes of pushing, and that in israel doulas ( along with their midwives) are more common. When I ( in ny) was in labor I wasn’t left alone for even a few minutes.
Daniela I’m with you. What is this attitude towards doctors? They go through what, 12 years of school and training before delivering children on their own, and you’re telling us our trust better lay with a doula who has minimal training and not equipped to deal with emergencies in the same way? Now I’m not trying to know a doula, if you can afford one, why not. But in America they aren’t so necessary. I went through natural childbirth, I had my husband in the delivery room, there were 2 nurses and all times and my doctor came in and out over the 14 hours I was in labor then again for the final 2 when it was realy happening. I don’t think having someone there undermining the doctor at every turn Is the answer.
My fathers friend is on the secret service. He does have to break shabbos here and there.
I used a VERY renowned and well know moihel for my sons bris over the summer. He did not perform mbp. He does not. I know many,many people who use a d have used him, some of wh are former talmidim of Rav Moshe. So can someone explain to me who does hold that you must do mbp and those who don’t. This argument always get me, I definitely would not be able to defend it if a secular person asked me to.
On a quick side. To basically say that it’s fine because not enough babies are dying to cause concern PBA, I do not believe you actually agree with what you said.
Funny. On my way home from the gym I was listening to him as always, and I thought ” I wonder of anyone is going to post about this on ywn”. Guess so!
Health you are right on the money IMO.
Ill never understand the attitude that I am reading here, and that unfortunately so many people I know have regarding this day. No one is saying to fast or say special teffilos, no one is counting it as a yuntif, it is just a day- a regular day in which we take special notice of how lucky we are to be alive and of all the pain and torture and suffering our people went through in the very recent past. Growing up my modern orthodox school always had a yom hashoah event, we read different passages from diaries and journals written by boys and girls in the camps, we put on a play depicting probable scenes from that time, it is very important for kids these days to be immersed in this history. In a few years we won’t have any survivors left, but we can’t forget it. Saying a special kinos on tisha baav is obviously a good thing to do but what 5th grader even knows what they are saying/listening to/answering amen to. They need to hear the stories and learn about what their people went through just like they do every other battle we’ve overcome.
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Neea, I like what you wrote. I have never before read anything here about trusting teens. They are usually treated as babies and given no freedom to make decisions or act on their own even though most people here expect them to get married in the blink of an eye.
Yekke, is that true? I’m very gullible.
There is a difference between being obese, and a little chunky. There is also a difference between being chunky and a few pounds over weight. Some people can exercise 5 times a week and eat healthy and still have pounds too lose. Everyone is built differently, it’s how Hashem made us. When you have someone who makes no effort to lose weight, and they live an unhealthy lifestyle hats a different story.
I thought that its Zoo animals in general. So that her child shouldn’t come out looking like one?
Yes yes yes. It can make your stomach very upset. I know last year that I had early contractions ( was 8 months pregnant) because it “stuffed up” my stomach so much I almost had to go to the hospital on yuntif. I drank a lot of grape juice, this helps you rid your body of the waste but to me it seems like you are having trouble keeping it in! Drink a LOT of water this definitely will help, and drink it in between servings of matzah.
Has someone actually said that to you? To call back after you have lost weight? Uhg!! My friend is a shadchan for YU and she says that boys/guys/men say things like ” I want a blonde girl no bigger than a size 4-6, blue eyes preferably”.. And so on. I understand that attraction is a huge factor in a relationship, but to be so specific and superficial. I hate it. Give someone a chance, you never know!! I know Hashem has your basheret out there who will love you exactly the way Hashem made you.
I know many day schools that used to delve somewhat into evolution, but not Darwinism. Jewish day schools including the one I went to.
I loveeee shabbos and yuntif. It’s such an amazing beyond amazing break from phones and inernet. During the week I do have “addiction” issues to my phone. Mostly checking my Fox News app and other news/ywn/texts etc. this was great!
And bar sharttya, please don’t preach to us whilst you sit on your computer against the gedolai hadors words.
Popa, I usually respect most of your posts but you’ve totally lost me here. When did I say don’t have kids???? Please show me! It’s with huge Mazel that we are able to procreate and make more and more beautiful children. I said dont rely on the American government to support you and pay for every aspect of your life as you continue to have children. The only reason I even said anything is because someone’s roomed WIC and food stamps. There are tzedaka and Jewosh organizations that have money specifically to help Jews feed and care for there family. Of course if you have children and are eligible you should take the benefits that are coming to you. I never said otherwise. You jumped on me for no reason. But to have in mind that you should have kids have kids have kids and it doesn’t matter that you don’t have money for food or clothing because the gov will take money from those who pay taxes to support you isn’t a correct mindset.
Ok you live your life that way, an expect everyone to take care of your life and feed your children and pay for your food. I’m sure that’s what Hashem wants.
WIC and food stamps do not exist so that you can have as many children as you possibly can, and let others support and feed them. That is disgusting. However, Hashem does want us to be fruitful and it’s a huge mitzvah & bracha to have children. Better take from tzedakas and other Jewish charitable organizations, go to school to get a better job etc. but to say ” yeah have as many as you can and let the American worker pay for it”, to me is condemnable. ( coming from a family of tax payers)
Right no I understand that. I guess you should be happy you don’t have to use your off days for Yuntif and should count yourself lucky? I have friends who use up most of their sick and vacation days because of Succos and Pesach.
My sister in law works in what I assume is a similar or the same place, sounds like it at least, and she is paid for Sundays. Why are you not?
White plains doesn’t have much to do but there is a nice boing alley I can give you the address if you would like. Tuttle back zoo in Jersey near or in Livingston is great.
I can’t imagine spending a freezing cold day in Flushing meadow park, there are no great sights to see, just open land and a probably frozen lake!
Byg, as I continue to read this, I realize more and more how serious this situation is. BH I ended up OK. I’m married, happy and healthy. I did however, and I never talk about this, go through a bit of a rebellious stage after high school, though it was short lived, and I can all but swear it was because I just needed to get away from home and lose it a little after all I had dealt with. Yes now my mother and I are close and she is very special to me, but I still have to pray every day that I am a different mother. No one should have that fear. One time when I was younger, no more than 9 or so, I did something ( probably nothing really) and my father literally had to hold my mom back she was trying to claw her way at me, screaming I hate you I’m going to kill you. It was one of the more terrifying instances. The next day was like nothing happened and I was too scared to show a SMIDGE of fear or remembrance of the day before that I also pretended nothing happened. Who knows why your mother is the way she is but she needs help ASAP. You should not be in an environment like this. I know you say you are more concerned with you than your future kids, but this sort of abuse, I promise you, leaves life long scars. What, if I may, if your parents marriage like?
Something that I felt helped me when I was in 7th, 8th, 9th grade, was just to spend a lot of time alone or in my room. That probably sounds like bad advice but if it keeps you out of the line of fire so to speak, it could help.
Cheesecake kosher l pesach
Sw33t, I’m 24. I know it sounds crazy how drastically different my situation got but things can change. That being said I spent so much of my childhood wondering why I always upset my mother and why my friends moms never threw things at them and told them they hated them. It is eery how many stories are similar here. It’s kind of a nice support system but I wish things would change and people would get the help they need.
Aproudbygirl. Oy Oy we are so similar! My parents too contemplated divorce ( about once a day) and I used to pray that they would. Somewhere down the line things got better and they seem happier now then they ver did when I was growing up.. I will bet that it has to do with my mother getting help and medicine. I have younger siblings, much younger, and when I went to college/got engaged I was so scared to leave home because I was kind of their savior, but my sister says my mom is a lot better to her. I used to “hate” my mom and I once, Hashem forgive me, was so mad at her for
Hitting me and throwing a sneaker at me that outloud I wished something very horrible on her, and no matter what she ever did I regret it still now. I hope Hashem forgives me for saying what I said. She is so close to my heart now, but what I learned from the situation is how TO be a better mother to my kids. My baby who is almost 10 months old bli ayan harah is such a love to me and I am scared all the time that I will act to him like my mom acted to me, so I am conscious of it always.
You will also learn how you do and don’t want to act when you are a mother. Your parents love you, unfortunately you were dealt a tough hand but hopefully Hashem has beautiful things in store for you!! How much longer do you have until you will go to seminary or school if you choose college?
Aproudby, ah this post is making me cry! I wish for a minute we were not anonymous and I could invite you to spend shabbosim with my family. Unfortunately I can relate,more than I want to admit. I never talk about it to anyone, but my friends that I still have from elementary school sometimes see how close I am with my mother now and ask ” how did that happen?” My mother used to be very similar to yours, hitting me, throwing things at me, being my best friends one day and the next telling me she wishes I wasn’t born. The thing is.. She was depressed for a long time and suffered from anxiety. I’m not excusing it but she dealt with a lot of issues growing up and didn’t learn how to handle pressure etc and never got help for her depression until I was a bit older. My mother happens to be an amazing person and we are So close now. She is on meds and honestly since iV been married we haven’t really had fights or problems. My husband sometimes says that he can’t imagine the things I tell him about how it used to be because she is so different.
Ill tell you that I used to cry in my room and beg Hashem to make her stop and I would hate her inside. You are so brave and I know I don’t know
You but I am so proud of you for being so strong. I think your mother needs help and I really don’t think things will chance until admits that.. Where is your father in all this?
Veltz .. Love it!
I have a number of friends who just finished SP school and they are very excited to begin working. I will tell you however that they have consistently been full time students and just graduated at age 24-25. Same goes for PT. Teaching is great, there is also a significant amount of schooling involved. Special Ed is a great career path for a Jewish woman, but you will need atleast 1 masters degree.
Many Jews could stand to do things that cause perspiration. How many overweight people do you know?
Oomis +1.
DY, I don’t have the statistics but out of the people that I know there are pretty much the same amount of married and unmarried girls/boys who follow shidduchim as the poster discussed, and those who date more like oomis is saying. I will say that my friends who followed the shidduch rules much stricter, dealt with much more frustration, dated way more guys , got turned down a lot more, and many were in shidduchim much longer.
Both my parents and my husbands parents, granted they are more modern them the folks on this site, both met each other at frum singles events run by either their shuls or JCC type community centers. That’s how many of my parents friends met their spouses.
My husband has a friend who got married bH last year, but he dated for 7 years! He had resumes piling up, went out all the time but was awkward felt that the girls weren’t for him, were immature, had no social skills, and they were both uncomfortable in the environment expected of him. He ended up going to college, relaxed a bit, he is still a frum great guy, learns and works, but he ended being set up by a friend ( shock) and they dated a bit and it was great. I know that texted after sometime and didn’t use their shadchan past I believe 3 or 4 dates. They were able to be adults without their parents and shadchan overseeing every detail of their lives. They are happily married parents now. My husband and I had a similar situation. Not everything works for everyone and I feel like shidduchim have to room for error or adjustment and no one seems to realize that it’s not one size fits all.
No babies can read. At all.
Tro11 that is like saying to Hashem ” ok ill only give X amount of tzedaka if I know for sure you will be giving it back to me 3 fold next week”.
You keep saying that most people throw it out anyway.. No one I know! My favorite hamentashen were the muffins, hamantashen and various other baked goods. If they are labeled and you trust your friends what is the issue? I got texts and calls about how tasty my fudge filled hamantashen tasted. I also send store bought nosh and soda but.. Yikes I hope no one felt about my shalach Manos as you did!