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there’s somethig cute i heard about the word “frum”
FRUM
F anatically Religious
U (you – in the middle there)
M odern
i’ve also wondered about this…
You always hear “everyone has something” but does everyone really?
I think level 1 definitely does exist, look for example at most kids – there are plenty out there whose lives i would say are very normal – regular family life, no major drama, and except for an occasional fight with the siblings about who took the last candy, it’s just school, hw, school, hw. And i think it’s around for adults too to SOME extent.
But really, rating pekelach is hard, because to someone who has an 8 lo aleinu, they might look at someone who considers themselves as level 3 to be level 1. Or for this 8 person, maybe they have Hashem so much with them that to them it really feels like their own problem is only a 4, while this person with the 1/3 may look at that person as a 10 compared to themselves.
My family has been using this homeopathic doctor ever since my ear infections, and she really has a cure for pretty much everything. Yes even cancer I believe.
Maybe it’s just my that homeopathic doctor is excellent, or maybe Hashem just wants us to have these cures, but either way I don’t believe that alternative medicine is at all weaker or less effective than “the real thing”. Then again, maybe that’s just my experience and my family and I were meant to be cured from whatever we had, and maybe others have not had as good of an experience with it. But that’s just what I’ve seen; that it really works.
Then again, this thread wasn’t meant to be a discussion on alt medicine vs anything else so I’ll stop here. Achosid, good luck with whatever you end up doing! I’m sure it’ll all work out and I wish a quick refua shleima to your kid.
I used to have ear infections as a baby. I stopped responding to all the high dosages of medicine so the doctors were starting to suggest surgery, at which time my parents decided to look for other options. They ended up taking me to a homeopathic doctor who basically just gave me a natural pill, and the earaches disappeared. I might have had to go back maybe two or three times, and that was it; they were gone. Look into it. Don’t jump to follow the doctors’ scary suggestions before trying homeopathy.
The only thing is, it’s not accepted as a regular medical field so medical insurance does not cover it. Then again I don’t know how expensive it is, I was just a baby. But I’m guessing it’s less expensive than getting the tubes and the constant doctor’s checkups.
Let me know if you want to know more, I can ask my parents for more info.
haifagirl – ditto!
I know someone who’s been to 49 states. They don’t want to go to the 50th because it’s so much cooler to say that you’ve been to all except one, than saying you’ve been to all. For some reason it seems more that way.
Tell em to forget North Dakota. Let em brag about the one state they’ve never been to.
pumper – lol VERY true point.
I agree in general this is a very good thing to do. You know that story with the guy who was told by a rav at bar mitzvah to take upon something and he took upon saying hello to everyone, and it saved his life?
I don’t really understand why He shouldn’t be interested in you, or anyone? Being small and one of many can’t be reasons because He made you small and one of many.
I think the real thing here is basically, for whatever reason, Hashem does care. If we find some reason why He shouldn’t care He’s not going to ch”v stop caring. So now, we just gotta pick up from there and live our lives with this in mind as much as possible.
btw thanks for the thread it’s really helping me solidify this stuff for myself
ruffruff – thanks for the pointer i’ll try to pay more attention to that in future posts 🙂
yechezkel89 – don’t you care what the maccabees might think?
1. we say in birchos krias shma – “tov yatzar kavod lishmo” – it is good that Hashem created honor for His Name. Our whole purpose in this world is to give honor and kavod to Hashem. Hashem doesn’t blush – the praising we’re doing isn’t for Him it’s for us to help realize His greatness, that’s the whole point. It is a kindness to us that Hashem created the concept of honoring His Name. It’s not flattery, it’s showing a sense of correct kavod. In davening, it’s having us say out loud a few times what we should be knowing and feeling every moment of the day, that’s all.
2. Of course bnei yisroel are here as a whole, part of a group, and Hashem looks down at the nation as a whole and loves us for all being the children of Avraham Yitzchak and Yaakov. But we are so much more than that. Hashem sends down many neshamas into one world together. He could have made a million worlds and given each neshama its own separate world, but He did it this way instead. That doesn’t take away from the purpose and mission of each individual neshama. You asked – “I’m one little person in a huge world, which Hashem created. Technically, why should He want to hear about my life?” I’ll go really Jewish on you and answer your question with a question – why wouldn’t Hashem care? Are you really that unimportant? And if you are, then why would Hashem bring you down here in the first place? We believe that Hashem didn’t only create the world but He also is actually being mashgiach over it every day. I believe that this applies to people as well. Hashem isn’t just going to create a neshama, bring it down to the world, and leave it to get on with all the other work He has to get done that day. He is mashgiach on us 24/7 whether we talk to Him or have anything to do with Him or not. Either way, He’s always with us, He’s always listening. It’s not like He only listens when we He hears us starting to speak up, and then once we’re done He leaves. In that case, I would agree, why waste His time to come and listen? But since He is always listening, we’re not wasting His time when we talk to Him, if anything we’re wasting His time when we don’t.
I’ve had experience, as I’m sure everyone has on some level, with being very into things that are not good for you. I felt like this was me, I’m just into this and that’s that. I can work on other things, but THIS – whatever I guess I’m just weird and I’m going to have to live with it because it’s so a part of who I am that I don’t even know how to start getting rid of it.
So, I worked on other things. And it’s really weird, because as I was growing in other areas, though they were completely unrelated, this thing that I was into started not to grab me so much anymore. Once in a while it still does, but it’s nothing like before. I’m not getting into details because I feel this applies to the smallest things as well as the biggest things. It’s crazy how much kedusha has the power to ward off tumma. From the smallest tumma to I’m sure the biggest as well. It’s all the same in the end. Again, I am not saying that my yetzer hara for what I was into doesn’t enegergetically come back to me sometimes – maybe at some point it’ll even go away completely, but maybe it won’t.
Either way, it doesn’t make sense to me how working on other things in turn helped me with that. It doesn’t. But what I’ve learned from this is that harmful things that seem so a part of you and your personality can really go away or at least greatly lessen in strength. Really, don’t be afraid and don’t look at it as hopeless. Every flaw you have MUST be manageable, there has to be a way around it, a way to get rid of it for the most part. My advice to you is really try filling yourself with good, slowly with tiny bits of spirituality, with small mitzvos that your yetzer hara won’t be fighting you to the death for. Do a million small things, and that’s a million small steps to helping yourself get to where you want to be. That sounds so corny it hurts, but there it is, it’s true. Good luck.
I do agree that this video can be really good for some kid in a public school out in the midwest and many others who need to hear that judaism is cool and then they might begin to discover it for themselves.
That being said, forget for a second whether or not Hashem is smiling at the song or not. This is chanuka, right? What are we celebrating on chanuka, besides the face level of the oil burning for 8 days? The real intense celebration of chanuka is of the victory of pure kedusha over anything that was touched by the goyim. The whole reason the maccabees even found that one jug of pure oil is because they searched and searched and searched; they could not entertain the thought that they would light the menorah for Hashem with something that was touched (just touched!) by the goyim. Now I understand that this video may end up helping some irreligious people, but coming to the bottom line – really what would the maccabees have thought of the song? How about the hellenists?
Remember what chanukah is actually about before you stamp your seal of approval.
yanky55 – stop attacking wiy
and i just have to put in – disney nowadays, and so much of the pg stuff (and yes ALLLLL the pg13 stuff) are NOT clean and harmless anymore, if they ever were. Some things i’ve seen being rated pg13, and even pg, i couldn’t believe were rated that “low”. the things the goyim think are appropriate for kids now amazes me. they’re sinking lower and lower and lower by the day.
do we want our kids to be learning the “ways of the world” from them?! their ideas about life and love and pretty much everything else is so twisted, and that’s what gets into the tv, into the shows, into the movies. even the cleanest stuff is starting to get dirtier, it doesn’t seem like they’re about to put a stop on it.
i know that you have to look at the world today in a realistic sense, and you could say that maybe it is impossible or just not smart to try to shelter your kids so much and forbid them from tv. okay, i hear that, i get it. but you have to remember that it’s something to fight! it’s not clean, and it’s not good, and it’s something to be scared of because it has such an easy way of making HUGE impressions on your kids that you don’t want them to get.
you choose how much you want to shelter your kids from the influence of the goyim, but while you’re deciding you must remember that it IS a fight, and there’s no way to bypass it. if you fight, then you have a chance; if you pretend there’s no problem, you lose. plain and simple.
chochmas lev fits the most to what you’re saying. sounds like you could fit in meohr too but chochmas lev is like half the size and you said you preffered smaller. but i think other than that they’re pretty interchangeable. both very good by schools, not too yeshivish, and open minded to where the girls are coming from.
pet peeve – i thought pninim is considered a non bais yaakov seminary?
i think pranking is immature and not a jewish concept. Since when is having fun at the expense of someone else allowed in our society??? I dont think that any of the rebbeim or rebbetzins we look up to wud play pranks. Imho.
nature photography (which this thread is loosely about) is usually in public place and doesn’t reveal anything. I don’t understand your point though because people publish personal atricles in their name, so that says a lot more about them than a picture. And like wolf said if they are in the phonebook… And also, i can’t talk for others but usually when i take a picture it’s at some random place that i’m not regularly being in at the same time of day etc. again. What does it help someone to know where you WERE? So once again, what is your point exactly – that because stalkers could figure out where you were when you took a certain picture you shouldn’t take pictures? Aren’t there many other even easier ways that stalkers could ch”v get to you if they wanted to (which we don’t stop either)?
ben torah – hol? itt?
poppa bar abba – there are many stories of Hashem “not answering tfilos” bmaase nisim? In oomis’s case, she was davening for Hashem to change tevah for her to an extent. Her children’s lives were going along a cetain line in tevah, and after she davened that teva was distorted for her. If the tevah you were hoping to change through your tfilos IS changed, it can only be because of the tfila. Meaning tfila works. The opposite logic would only make sence if Hashem actually made a nes to not to answer your tfilos.
I am not saying that this reasoning works with tfilos that stay within teva (though if Hashem can answer a big bakasha like that of course He can answer “easier” ones too). In conclusion, I think oomis had a point in saying her story proved something.
ahh that makes a lot more sence, i knew it wasnt hungarian.
shloimies shver i wasnt meaning to say that saygec didnt know what he’s talking about, i was more like stating a question.
Btw bacsi doesnt really mean uncle, literally. Thats just the word they put after the uncle’s name, like Gyuri bacsi, Yankel bacsi, etc. The exact word for uncle is nagybacsi. The word bacsi when used generally, refers to an older man (if youre a kid, men in their 30s pass as bacsis too.)
So generally, when you say “rossz basci” it means bad man. Which is why i told him can confess to the cr if he wants to.
saygecaroszbacsi – saygec? that can’t be original hungarian is it? the spelling is totally unhungarian…
lol about the obama thing. we should have them put that into all the new hungarian phrase dictionaries
ps i like the 2nd part of ur name – a rosz basci, I’m sure we’re all here for you if you ever want to confess your sins
actually, fekete is probably one of the easiest words to explain pronunciation of. all the “e”s are pronounced as the “e” in bed. now that wasn’t too hard!
bein hasdorim – huh? theres no ches sound in hungarian. what did i miss?
I don’t remember who it was, and someone correct me if i got the details wrong, but there were two rebbeim from either the late 1800’s or the early 1900’s walked into a room once and walked right passed two young men who did not only not stand up for them, they barely even acknowledged their presence. One of the rebbeim said to the other – this is really the worst level that respect could sink to – the young don’t even stand up for the elderly anymore. The other rav replied – No, this isn’t the furthest it could drop to – the furthest is when the young people are going to demand that the elderly stand for them!
Even though i’ve never actually seen this happen, but conceptually that is what our generation is about. The young rule, the old are nebach cases to be tolerated.
shimmel – that’s awesome! yo means okay or good, yes is igen, but otherwise it’s really good! i’m impressed! how long did you have to learn it?
pashuteh yid – sorry not hungarian! sounds like yiddish to me
bp totty – waddayacallit is hogy hivyak, u were close enough though! like i said before, Hungarian is VERY hard to say or quote if you don’t know what you’re saying… oh and mit chinals mean what are you doing.
believer – that’s funny. hey i was once a 2 yr old speaking hungarian!! and yes it was very cute!
btw everyone, chinosh isnt skinny it’s pretty. skinny is shovany. chinosh means like charmingly pretty. believer don’t get offended it can be said about an outfit not just a person 🙂
I heard this from R’ Benzion Kermaier –
Many people think that tefilla is a Cosmic Coke Machine. When you are thirsty, you go to it, press the nice little button, the coke rolls down, and you’re outa there. That is not at all what tefilla is supposed to be about. In the Bais Hamikdash, Bnei Yisrael’s avoda was through the korbanos. But seriously, why was that so special? Burning animals is so holy that it cleans us of all our sins??
No! The thing is, the whole experience of bringing the korban would actually change the person. Coming all the way to the Holy Bais Hamikdash, entering into this place that’s brimming over with kedusha, and the whole overwhelming experience of bringing himself to give Hashem a present, and hearing all the Leviim’s amazing and moving music [the Leviim’s shira raised the people to such a high level of closeness to Hashem. That music brought them to full teshuva through it’s insane perfectioin and ability to shoot straight to the heart]. Watching the huge pillar of fire shoot down from shamayim and actually accept his korban – if you just picture it, it must have been a beyond-this-world experience.
And this experience changed the person. When a person would leave the Bais Hamikdash after having given a korban, he’s leaving different. He’s experienced such a close connection to Hashem that this will give Him the strength and desire to be a better person from now on.
And THIS is what our davening is supposed to be like. Tefilla is not a cosmic coke machine. [Of course, it is through tefilla that we are able to ask Hashem all of our bakashos, but if you look at the actual text of davening, not too much of it is actually bakashos!] If we really pay attention to the words of davening, it should be able to bring us closer to Hashem. It should make us into bigger people! Because once you experienced your tefilla – once you experienced praising Hashem for all He does in so many beautiful and eloquent words, and thanked Him from the bottom of your heart because you do understand that it all comes from Him – you are a bigger person. And that’s the point. Of course some days you’ll have less kavana than others, and other days you won’t have kavana at all. But slowly slowly if once in a while you do daven with kavana – its power to change you is amazing.
as for me, my tefilla used to be HORRIBLE and this past year in seminary helped me get a little more connected to it, i’m still not awesome at all but i have kavana now more than i used to, and when i do have kavana it’s better kavana.
like i said, i could share some things that i learned about tefilla this past year that helped me a lot (then again, everyone gets inspired by different things, so…)
to say the cheesy answer, i’m sure if you really want your davening to improve Hashem will help you, cuz He’s always there for you even when it seems like He isn’t. (now just gotta drive that into MYSELF a little more and i’ll have perfect tefilla)
i have more stuff thats not as cheesy if u want to hear (at least in my head it doesnt sound cheesy….)
smartteen – i LIKE that answer…
davening rocks. ROCKS. if you want to hear some divrei torah on it i have, but that doesn’t seem like what you’re really looking for is it?
about your last question – daven one teeny part with kavana; one bracha, one word, anything, and then yes, it’s worth it. imho
sbh – oh yeah. it’s fajdalom (j is y), not fajas (s is sh). hey i said before i’m HALF fluent! maybe a quarter actually…
OKKK, i looked it up and once and for all fay means species (the a at the end of the word means its)
we have analyzed this way too far….
i analyzed it now 🙂
but yes i have heard it before now
shouldnt be here – which term?
dunno – i agree GREAT language when you don’t want people to understand, though yes you do have to be careful. i have a story about that:
once my aunt (who is completely fluent) went into this cute little vintage store to browse around for five minutes, and while she was browsing, she heard the two men who worked there start saying all these rude things about her in hungarian, like “why does she have to be taking so long?” and “what is she so interested in here already?”
so she stayed in there for almost a half and hour and asked them questions about every little thing.
shouldnt be here – lol
well that’s one of the only sounds that have no REMOTELY similar sound in english
well informed yid – asta kutya faya is sort of like darn. neki means to it. lol
yay! i like this thread! i’m like half fluent… k so first of all i just wanna make a few slight corrections if i may
nothing – shemmi, nichen mean there isn’t
eye – sem, eyes- semek
school – ishkola
wife – feleshaig
tomorrow – holnup
dog – kootyuh
chinosh – pretty, nice looking, softer word. doesn’t mean stunning or gorgeous, means like pleasantly pretty. about a girl only pretty much.
i wrote – irtam
i am here – it vagyok (gy sound is sort of like a soft d & y mixed)
school – ishkola
how are you – hogy vugy
I don’t know – nem tudom
Crazy – bolond
smartcookie – palachinta!! yummmm
btw Ishtenem is sort of the all around “oh my gosh” phrase. there’s more, having to do with another religion lol, but this is a very main one.
hmmm k now for my own
konyha – kitchen
anyu – mother
apu – father
pirosh – red
naranch sharga – orange
sharga – yellow
zold – green
kaik – blue
liluh – purple
paprika – pepper, pirosh paprika – paprika powder
roohuh – dress
ing – shirt
zeneh – music
nup – day, sun
anything else?
apushtayid – i don’t recognize it at all. could it possibly be yiddish?
all i can say is the bais yaakov is excellent, if i do say so myself
Rabbi Bursztyn came in years ago, and back then it was a lot more “chilled” shall we say. And he started raising the standards all of a sudden and people were all telling him to chill out and calm down but he didn’t and that is what has lead Los Angeles, Entertainment Capital of the World, to having a true bais yaakov school today. And on top of being strict in a good way, he’s just an amazingly caring menahel. What can I say, I love my high school 🙂
jewishgirl,
the first pic is cool
hashemlovesme,
it’s not too hard or laborous to upload onto picassa. if you already have a google account especially. (if u don’t it’s not hard to do that either…) all you have to do is go to picasa.google.com and download picasa, and then all the pictures from your comp automatically go onto it. you don’t have to monitor it or anything, you can just go off and do whatever, and then when it finishes you just choose the pictures you want to go into your album. and then you post the link here!
hope that answered ur question?
oomis – if you were extremely thirsty, and all you had available to you was
poison – $1
water – $50
would you buy the poison or the water? if ppl realized how terrible for them it was not to be tznius they would pay for the taxi.
i’m so happy that basmelech said that she gave up riding bikes long ago – cuz now i feel slightly more normal for not liking to ride. it’s almost impossible to stay tznius on a bike. if you wear a short skirt, no matter how long the short skirt is, it’s going to fly up in the wind, and you have to CONSTANTLY be pulling it back down, or standing up and wiggling your legs to get the skirt to go back down. it’s just not fun to ride a bike when every second you have to pay attention to your skirt, and also knowing that many times it does fly up and people see and then you feel horrible about yourself.
and if you wear a long skirt, it gets stuck all the time, and can possibly rip the skirt too, and you always have to be stopping to pull it out. plus what if it gets caught while you’re crossing a street or something?
bottom line = there is no realistically tznius way to ride a bike.
therefore = riding bikes is not tznius.
hey if ur at it anyway mod80 u think u cud check mine out too?
hashemlovesme – yup i think just about half of them were taken in sem 🙂
noitallmr – first of all, thanks!
my favorite of your pics is definitely 11, and i really like 18 & 19 too. but 11 – whoa seriously i love it it’s gorgeous. the colors are awesome, plus the place is just gorgeous. i’d love to see your other pics of that lake.
hey so i thought i’d join in on this photo sharing. i’ve been into photography for a few years now, but its all just a hobby, i’d really appreciate to get critiqued!
btw i have to say SJS i LOVE your pictures. especially the first one is gorgeous, and i also absolutely love the one on the ski lift with all the fog. so beautiful.
and wolf i love your macro flower pics and the flame picture is so cool. and the last pic is also awesome. so national geographic =)
anyway, here’s my link:
http://picasaweb.google.com/114623918918261941263/MyPhotography?authkey=Gv1sRgCIXqy6jCzqjXyAE#
the picture is beautiful! and i’ll join in on that thought that you can take 100 pictures and only get one or two great ones… i’m an amateur photographer, its just a hobby but sometimes i do get really beutiful pictures, and when my friends see the pictures theyre always complimenting me but it’s so funny because i don’t feel like what pictures i’ve taken are because of ME, like my “talent” or any of that. i feel like, at least for me, good pictures come by accident. i could take so many pictures and none of them turns out good, but when one does, i just smile and wonder at the beauties of the world and Hashem’s invention the camera, you know? it’s definitely not because of what anything i do – i just point and click!
but anyway, your picture is gorgeous – and the subject is cool too – i’d be way too scared of being bitten to try taking pictures of bees!
To all those who feel that what yb613 said was offensive, or that girls hanging out on the streets is not a problem –
There is the concept of sensitivities. Yes, girls can say that there is no halachic problem with just hanging out outside, BUT that is not the right way. I am a girl, and I understand that if I want to hang out with my friends, I don’t do it outside. You can go to your friend’s house, or walk wherever you need to walk to, there is no problem whatsoever with walking to get to a destination, but the concept of just being outside and talking and laughing and being loud – that really isn’t so right. It definitely does fit into the category of tznius. On the other hand, if two or three girls who are not in a hyper mood want to go out for a nice relaxing Shabbos walk, and they can trust themselves not to get too loud or attention catching, I think that’s fine. Otherwise, it really is an issue. And it has nothing to do with boys seeing or not seeing, looking or not looking – it’s just not tznius, on the girls’ part.