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whats the point of not having a hechsher?
I don’t know, but doesn’t Kellogs, or some other cereal brand that I never buy, only put a “K” on the box despite the fact that they actually pay the OU (or possibly someone else) to certify their product?
…I also saw my friend’s father, in her house, who had committed suicide. That was really freaky.
What happened was that my friend’s father committed suicide & so I decided to rent out the room in their basement of their house so that I could also help out the family. To make a long story short, he was standing on my bed one night….and he wasn’t too happy either! I FREAKED OUT & was running all over the house! Keep in mind, that I was in the military at this time & I did NOT believe in ghosts at this time.
Either way, the next morning, I only explained what happened to the wife & she didn’t say anything. So, I went & got some mental help…I thought I was just going insane….HOWEVER, 3 days later, the wife “decided” to tell me that sometimes her husband (the man that was now deceased) comes onto her bed at night & she can actually feel the bed move & she could smell & hear him….by now, I was getting freaked out AGAIN.
THEN, she told me that he was known to come to the bedside of 1 of her 16 year-old daughters. Apparently, the 2 of them (him & this daughter) once had a very long conversation. I don’t remember all that the wife told me, but part of the conversation between him & the daughter was about him asking forgiveness from her for all of the wrong-doings that he did to her in his lifetime!!! Now, I was REEEAAAALLLY freaking out. Apparently, him & his daughter were now getting along better than when he was alive!
I could never again be alone in that house & I decided to move…and rather quickly.
Although, I walked away with many positive lessons from that point in my life.
I can’t give you any advice on cheap places in Amsterdam, but I have to warn you that if you wear a kippah, you may be asking for trouble. Just wear a baseball cap & you should be fine. It may be the same with Paris.
My policy is that if the email is legitimate and is well meant, I will reply in some fashion.
…and how do you know if it is legitimate & well meant?
I’m just saying, the best scam e-mails are the ones that sound legitimate & well meant and the worst thing you can do is to reply to those.
I’m a doctor. Thats my policy.
I fail to see why someone would listen to a doctor for halachic & online advice.
Yes.June 19, 2011 9:22 am at 9:22 am in reply to: Are you allowed to buy cut up fruits in a non jewish store? #778562
I think the answer would have been simpler if you just asked your LOR.
Whats your take on why people ( I mainly stress women here) are embarrassed to eat in public (and NOT FOR “TZNIUS” reasons)?
Like PacMan said, you ARE supposed to be embarrassed to eat in public.
I don’t see how it doesn’t go hand-in-hand with “tznius” reasons. I don’t see how if you are embarassed because something may get stuck in your teeth, or if you are embarassed about people thinking that it may be slobbish & unrefined, then how is it not being a form of modesty? To me, those are all aspects of modesty. Am I wrong?
A better question would be: “Why did Syria make such a big deal about Israeli’s killing 20 Syrian protestors, when Syria itself killed over 1,000 civilians?”
“…we ended up getting a Honda Oddyssey…”
shocking! you must be jewish! 🙂
…or if you’re Chabad, then get a Toyota Sienna or a Camry with the hubcaps missing…
why not invite them? thats a big chillul Hashem, if only the Jews are invited.
Oh no, not another “CH” post.
Rivky, I looked and found leather siddurim in Mount Moriah Bookstore, which is on the way down to the Kotel.
My friend says that he agrees that Mea Shearim is also a great place to find them.
Suburbans get around 13-17mpg…that’s actually quite pathetic in terms of mileage. Many smaller cars can get 3-4 times that & the smaller car would cost a lot less in repairs, tires & everything else.
Have you ever driven a Suburban before? I had one that I borrowed in Jersey & Maryland & it was a monster to park & drive. I really didn’t like that, but some people don’t mind it…but then again, they are also the people that double-park.
…many years prior there were not enough sidurim in the shul and so they placed a large sign with the words for aleinu on the back wall. So even after the signs were taken down people kept on turning around
Some how I can imagine that many minhagim come from similar types of stories.
Our new rabbi does it. She is an ashkenaz, but she is from Israel.
Does she also say it in English HaKodesh as well?
Is it true that it a ketuba also includes the misdeeds of a BT?
That might be good enough reason for most to not put it up on the wall!
Rivky, I’ll keep an eye out for them in Jerusalem & tell you if I find any stores with them.
I wanted to point out that MOST people here DO live in beds & under roofs (even the poorest of people). I wasn’t trying to scare anyone from moving here. Israel does have much in the way of Western Standards as well. It’s just some of us find it much cheaper/easier to get by without them.
@Ilovetheholyland. I actually have a few friends here that live/lived in caves in E”Y….and as a bonus, some of them actually look like cavemen too!
tikkun – i think that some of the things you listed such as a roof over your head, and a bed would be considered necessities rather than luxuries.
No, it’s not a neccessity…I have friends that lived in the old city for years without a roof & some don’t even have beds. If a roof & a bed were a necessity, I would be sleeping on the couch in the building’s basement.
Ummm Tikkun you don’t have a roof over your head in Israel? Even by E”Y standards, living in some sort of home or dwelling or abode is obviously a necessity and not a luxury. How do you get by? And how on earth do you survive without AC in that heat??
No, I don’t have a roof over my head.
On a normal night, I look at the Temple Mount lit up & listen to the people singing in the streets. Then I just lay back & stare at the stars for a few minutes while the breeze blows fresh, cool air onto my face. When I wake up, I thankfully think about how many people would have given anything to wake up staring out over Jerusalem. What part of this isn’t a luxury? On the next roof, tourists pay (& fight) to camp on it & it’s not even as nice as where I’m at.
As for AC, it’s not that big of a deal. I grew up in south Florida before most houses & cars had AC, so I’m used to a little heat.
alot of the so called luxuries that you have in america are non-entities in Eretz Yisrael. it may be hard to give up but once in israel you probably wont even realize that youre missing them. also everything there has a much higher elevation of ruchnius, and people there are not as focused on gashmius indulgance.
Back in the US, I had a car, bed, privacy, extra pairs of shoes, my own bathroom, a big kitchen, air-conditioning & a roof over my head. These were considered “neccesities” that everyone expected to have. However, now I don’t have any of these & I don’t even miss them.
….however, the things I now notice that I’m lacking are things such as certain middos.June 13, 2011 10:51 am at 10:51 am in reply to: Guys who reject most of hundred girls they date- are they "ON the Derech"? #776980
Of course:You don’t usually post troll threads.
PBA, I actually had guessed that you posted this question…I was amazed to find myself wrong in this instance.June 12, 2011 7:26 pm at 7:26 pm in reply to: Guys who reject most of hundred girls they date- are they "ON the Derech"? #776960
As a Shadchan I’m disgusted by the many guys who I see who reject most of the girls they date….Its hurtful for each of the girls they reject. Why should they inflict this pain endlessly?
So, why do you keep setting them up with dates if you know they are causing pain to other people?
There is Eliyahu’s cave where he hid for some time. (Frankly, it’s a bit disappointing.)
LOL…I’ve learned that here some of the “BIG” sites tend to be small, but some of the relatively unknown sites are incredibly huge. You have to stay on your toes here.
Head down to Mizpe Ramon in the Negev on a moonless night and see a night sky the way it *SHOULD* be. With nothing above you but a sky full of stars.
Maybe I’ll try this.
since people in Israel work on Sunday instead of having the day off like here when can a person travel to different places to remind them and allow them to feel why they live there?I feel that with People working 5 days a week full time and im not talking about the husbands that work and the mothers that dont, both husband and wife work when do they get to relax and connect with Hashem by going to the kotel?
….lil B, you’re making things up.
IN AMERICA, I rarely saw anyone spend there day off in purely spiritual pursuits. Many times, people went to parks, malls, restaurants, etc. Rarely, did they go somewhere to pray & connect to H-shem.
IN ISRAEL, people DO travel despite working 6 days. Even fairly large families travel for Shabbos & Yom Tovim. It’s very possible. There are still many people camping out in tents within the old city & some parks in other neighborhoods, because they wanted to spend Shavuos at the Kotel. If a person REALLY wants to make something happen, then H-shem helps them.
Either way, from what I see here, a “full-time” work schedule (as well as the work ethic) isn’t really the same as America’s concept of the term.
If you are in Jerusalem, you can do some shopping on Ben Yehuda & then walk to Indepence Park (Gan Ha’atzmaut) for a picnic lunch. It is a very beautiful & peaceful park with little streams flowing through it.
@Lil B…I can sum up my answers with the statement “Everything happens for a reason”.
A lot of my choices that I made when I was younger, actually prepared me very well for my move.
I was in the military when I was younger, so I’m used to living in the middle east out of a backpack/suitcase…But if you make Aliyah through something like NBN, then you won’t have to do what I did.
My relatives (parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts, etc.) is a lot different & more complex. It hurt. There is no way around it. It hurt. (Even though my relationships also are a little more complex halachically)
but i heard time and time again how its not easy to live there.
Yes, I’ve read that 10 out of 12 people said that…it must’ve been in the Shelach Times or something.
But seriously, if a person is wanting to live & raise their family according to Torah, then there is not enough GOOD things to say about Israel.
Is it “hard” to walk up & down the winding staircases in the old city? I don’t know, is it “easy” in America to find a bus that’ll take you pray at the Machpelah Cave & Kever Yishai V’Ruth for less than $7, and still be back in time for dinner?
Is it “hard” in Israel to put up with the Palestinians & they’re constant provoking behavior? I don’t know, is it “easy” in America to walk to the Kotel to daven & say Tehillim to H-shem?
When people say that living here is hard, ask why they don’t also mention about how it’s also INCREDIBLY EASY to do many ENORMOUSLY spiritual things here as well.
you people are lucky 😀
I said goodbye to family members that I may never see again & sold off most of my possesions until it was reduced to 1 suitcase. I don’t consider myself as “lucky”. I just consider myself as being slightly “blessed” for the sacrifice(s) I made to move here.
…and it’s really worth the sacrifice to move here (so start making plans)…everything in my whole life, up until the point I moved here, feels like it was just a dream & that now I am just waking up to reality. Not a day goes by that a hidden miracle doesn’t take place.
Pork is also enjoyable…
In fact, once when asked what he misses most since he became a BT, the response was pork.
I think pork itself is disgusting…but bacon is a different story.
Either way, I remember that Rabbi Akiva Tatz says there is a kosher way to fulfill all non-kosher cravings. Such as by preparing the udder of a cow correctly, one could make it taste like meat mixed with dairy.
Either way, I’ve compiled a small list from my own experience:
-Kosher Bacos are very similar in taste to (although not as juicy as) bacon.
-Basic ham tastes like licking your sweaty arm on a hot day (just not as salty or hairy)
-Lobster really doesn’t have any taste (that’s why people dip it into sauce).
-Crawfish tastes like mud…same with most (but not all) catfish.
-Imitation crab (made from fish) actually tastes better than the real flavor of crab, but people just like to break the shell of the crab & that’s what’s fun about eating it; same thing with lobster)
-Some pickled “whole” Okra tastes & has the same texture as shrimp.
-Turtle & rabbit taste just like chicken.
-Drywall & cardboard tastes just like matzah…sorry, but it’s true.
The order of the replies is…
2)m in Israel
4)Mother in Israel
…did I miss any?
It’s a riddle. Read it again & you’ll see that the most distinguishing features in the males are their careers & not their middos.
The OP is actually praising this woman, since he is mentioning how she held out despite how appealing these men are.
“Are all cups ok?”
Yes, as long as you don’t drink straight from the bottle (…whoops, wrong thread)
I live in Yerushalayim as well….(and currently looking for a place for Shavuot)…
Tikkun- We are talking about big bottles, of course nobody expects you to use cups with a can of coke!
In Jerusalem, it seems to be expected to drink a can of coke from a cup.
Tikkun – Why are cans ‘meant’ to be drank out of, Who decided that?
The ones that make the cans; Coca-Cola Co & PepsiCo, as seen in the television commericals during the Cola Wars of the 1980’s.
Why waste as much water washing a cup that you would be drinking from it? To me, it seems wasteful to do.
I can understand that it’s not refined drinking out of a HUGE 1-gallon container, but the smaller bottle of water & coke cans are meant to be drinking straight from the bottle/can.
Because after I visited Jerusalem on Purim a few years ago, I went to daven at the Kotel late at night. And I fell in love with this time of day (the time to say Tikkun Hatzot & after)
I found that there is an amazing amount of clarity in davening at this time & that there is a different type of energy. I wish I could explain it, but if you ever wake up after midnight & study or daven, you will see what I am talking about. I believe the Shulchan Aruch mentions this clarity & such.
I remember learning in halacha that a Ger disowns his pre-conversion family. That he may no longer maintain contact with them and they are no longer considered his parents/family.
That’s probably something you read, but it’s not what a rabbi will probably say.
I’m not a rabbi, so I’m not going to paskun, but I’ve been told by my rabbi & shown the source(which I forgot now), that while a ger isn’t considered a part of his old family, he still doesn’t have to mention that or break contact with them. This was a decision made with something to do with inheritance issues. Just ask a rabbi to explain it.
Yesterday, a friend here in Jerusalem told me that she paired up a elderly widow with a woman that was converting.
The woman that was converting & the family of the widow became so close that they “adopted” her into their family. And when the convert married a rabbi, the people in attendance didn’t understand/believe that the convert wasn’t a part of their actual family.
Maybe if you ask a rabbi that you trust if there is a potential candidate like this.
Tikun, Baruch Habah to Klal Yisrael. May your conversion go smoothly.
I forgot to say “thank you. Thank you.
Wow, thanks Tikkun. BTW, why did you choose this SN?
Isn’t a Kiddush Hashem worth 30 bucks?
Small price to pay for a BIG Mitzvah.
+1…or is it +2?
To those who did make the decision, was it an intellectual discovery, or an inner feeling, or a deeper pull based on both or more?
All of the above. While xtianity isn’t based on (any) logic, logic was something that drew me to Judaism. But it was also an inner feeling/connectedness that I had when I was around the Jewish people. And it was also a “vow” that I made to G-d to follow the path of truth, wherever that path may lead.
I am always awed at Baalei Teshuva and their stories, I can only hope to reach their level
I always hear frum people say something like that. But I always hear BT/Gers say the same thing about FFBs. There are benefits that FFBs have that others don’t. Some things are big, but there are many small things that you would never have thought of that benefit FFBs.
After I wrote what I wrote, I watched a very secular Israeli making sure that he remembered to kiss a mezuza as he walked through a doorway…and Bernie Madoff may have done 1 severe thing wrong, but I am sure that if someone knew him as a neighbor, friend or aquintance that they would have good things to say about him.
You should write books. Can you tell us more? How did your families react? Are you well accepted?
Yes, I keep notes so that, G-d willing I can write a book, since so many people find it fascinating.
My parents don’t mind, since I am improving my middos. However, the xtians that are elsewhere in my family are soooo opposed to it that I had to cut off contact from most of them years ago.
Being accepted hasn’t been an issue (but it doesn’t mean that I don’t have to work hard at it or haven’t had to put up with uncomfortable situations, though). While I am not finished with my conversion, it doesn’t seem to bother even the ultra-orthodox from treating me with much respect. In fact, a few years ago I ate a Purim meal at my friends house in Mea Shearim & the family made me feel like I was a long-lost family member.
I hate to say this, but if my introduction to torah jewery was the yeshiva world coffee room, I would run the opposite way. The invective routinely directed towards others is horrible.
I think I’ve seen much worse in my introduction & it didn’t really stop me & the truth is that it only stops people looking for an excuse to turn away. What I mean is that if a person is focused on getting closer to G-d, then they aren’t going to let people stand in their way.
I believe that he who forgets that he was megayer and not a BT, is the one who succeeded….Besides, we’re all BTs in a way
Can you clarify this? I have been told that a ger is a BT…or maybe they are “like” a BT…but I’m confused as to how this is so. But maybe I am confused.
I don’t see myself as having done anything special, I just corrected something that went wrong at some point in history. It’s no big deal for me and personally
I really don’t see anything special about my story either. However, I came to the conclusion that at certain times, it’s good to tell, since many Jews have told me that they have gained much inspiration from my story. How? I don’t know.
I’ve also always wondered if the coincidence of me finding & appreciating Judaism may have been a tikkun of sorts for my ancestors that didn’t appreciate it & decide to walk away from it.
Someone posted on a different thread that if people think frum Jews are “not normal” due to our actions it would be a Chillul Hashem.
Yes, this is exaclty why I made this post. It gets confusing on here when everyone keeps saying that EVERYTHING is a CH. I could have looked through previous post for the answer to clarify it in my mind, but after reading through many comments, I feel that it’s a definition that needs to be reiterated….since everyone keeps throwing such a HUGE accusation around over very minor issues. Thanks
Personally, my great grandparents, for whatever reason, decided to “convert” to the Church of England (but I didn’t find this out until I got interested in Judaism at age 24). BTW, this story is somewhat similar for most gerim that I’ve met.
My parents weren’t religious, they sent me to a Christian school my whole life. At 16, I became a very religious Christian.
Fast forward a few years, I was working for & living with a SECULAR Jewish family, and I was a RELIGIOUS Christian. The fact they were secular & I was religious is important, because when I lived them, I said to myself “Why would anyone want to convert them? They still have higer moral standards than anyone at church”….I actually saw that if they converted they would be moving backwards in their moral character….and when I told my Christian friends this, well, let’s just say that it started my descent out of the church.
Either way, the boss & his wife left a big impression on me & I started to ask questions about Judaism. It started off slow, but I eventually decided to leave Christianity & embrace Judaism.
However, for various reasons in my family history, I am not halachically considered Jewish. So I have to convert. I’ve actually been in the process for 4 years THIS WEEK. I would have been “done” with it 2 years ago, but in the past few years America has been caught up in many invalid conversions, which made it much harder & much less stable for me.
And since it became much less stable, as far as if my eventual conversion in America would even be accepted in Israel, I chose just to move to Israel & convert here under the supervision of the rabbi(s) that are setting the standards for conversions. That way there wouldn’t be any problems in the future.
…and since I’m converting haredi, I don’t know how much longer I’ll be a part of the CR…or be on the internet at all.
Either way, my rabbi in America is a baal teshuva & went through a different situation; he actually didn’t look up to religious Jews. So when secular Jews tell him that they don’t like the way the frum Jews act, he half-jokingly says that he became more Jewish (read: “religious”) despite the Jewish people & their behavior.
Thank you. I might try that when I go daven.
I can’t believe how much time, money & walking I have put into just making this phone call.
It’s really quite amazing as to the immense amount of difficulty just making a phone call has been. It’s almost as funny as it is aggravating. I mean, I never thought that I could stump rabbis such a simple question (“How do I use a public phone?”).May 30, 2011 10:26 am at 10:26 am in reply to: Were not Chassidish at all, but we go to Rebbes for Brachos #773173
Either way of what you decide to do, please keep us informed.
Same as yesterday; enjoying Israel….so who is going to be the next to make Aliyah?
Do they not realize that their public displays serve to legitimize the actions of anti-semites to harm ALL Jews?
I have yet to meet a Jew that realizes this….
Not ALL the rabbis — some gedolim were Zionists
I think I know what you’re getting at, but I don’t have time to look into it before Shabbos begins. But you mean like Rav Kook,etc, right?
Are we talking about the same thing here though? For instance, the rabbis were not against Jews making aliyah & small groups of Jews always have been making aliyah for the past 2,000 years. They were all for that. But the rabbis were against the massive “wall” of Jews making an “Aliyah”, since they knew that it would disrupt the inhabitants of the land…which as we see it did.
Just to clarify, do you understand that it’s illegal to work in a country without a work Visa? Unless of course, you are making aliyah. Also, most of the time you would have to get a job & the work visa BEFORE entering Israel.
That being said, there are still many people that find jobs without a work visa, but they have to make sure that they don’t get caught & they also have to make sure that they leave the country once every 90 days. Otherwise, if you overextend your tourist visa, the country will not allow you to come back.
Either way, I’ve seen people post fliers around town offering everything from cleaning services, guitar lessons, life-coaching, etc. So maybe you should come up with something unique & flexible like teaching computer classes one-on-one? I’m sure that you can sell the idea of something as simple as teaching typing, if you can show others that it can help them gain a better job.
Theirs is a valid Jewish position and some of what they say needs to be heard.Problem is, it does not need to be heard outside the Jewish community.
600kilobear, I’m like you. I don’t believe that the outside world should know all of Jewish affairs, but I really wish that they would at least see that some of these groups actually make more sense than people give them credit for.
I’m not for the Neturei Karta, but most people don’t give them the credit that they do have some very good points (but they are about 90 years too late in trying to enfore them), since the rabbis in the 1920’s & 30’s were very opposed to the State of Israel. In fact, when I studied the history of the 1st & 2nd Aliyah, I was amazed at how opposed the rabbis were to the whole situation.
Do you have a work visa? Or are you planning on getting one?
Are you making Aliyah? Or just moving here temporarily for school/yeshiva/seminary?
Yid.Period. I actually remember seeing the signs for those Yeshivas, so I’ll give them a try. Thank you.
Maybe you can also tell me where to get the cheapest & best falafel in the old city? The best I can find that has both is all the way past the end of Ben Yehuda….which takes about as much energy to walk there.