shlishi: maybe a langeh shaitel is not a sure sign of being a litvak, but pillbox hats with a fake hair fringe, or a white band over the bob shaitel on Shabbos are serious parts of the female chassidishe levush. Granted, a woman can be chassidish and not wear those things, but very few litvishe women (aside from those who just don’t know the appropriate headgear for each group) would wear them. However, when a woman is wearing on her head only a longish shaitel, you can’t tell just by looking whether she is litvish or chassidish. So, it seems the lines are blurring.

Learning English is pretty hard work

That children and immigrants don’t shirk

But society deems

Adult natives, it seems,

Permitted to drive grammarians* berserk.

(Isn’t it pretty how three different vowels have the same sound? I’m so happy I learned English as a child.)

*or, grammaticists

or, grammaticians

BP is already full of “Chasidvishe” families, as you can see on Shabbos: the husband in a streimel, the wife with a langeh shaitel. Personally, I think it’s beautiful because the distinctions between the groups seem to be diminishing. “Achdus, together we will stand, until we reach the holy land…” (and we hope, in the holy land as well!) 🙂

Mazal tov, C! May you and Sh be zocheh to build a BNBY b’simcha, ahava, achva, sholom, v’rayus.

Does your guestimate include the CR members you expect to crash?

Is this a medical condition from birth, or recently developed? Are you asking because you think it will really help your friend if they know someone else knows, or because you just want them to know you figured it out?

A few years ago, I became friendly with a coworker and suspected she had a somewhat rare congenital condition–nothing I could have done anything about, but was curious to know how she handled it. But it wasn’t the kind of thing you could just say, hey, do you have such-and-such? Even though that was what I was itching to do. B”H i controlled myself. She was kind of in denial about it. Eventually, after a while, when we had become pretty close friends, she opened up about it herself, which seemed to help her deal with it.

Given time and space and friendship, if your friend wants to tell you, maybe s/he will.

There was an old mother named Dexter

Whose children’s demands over-vexed her

Til she made a rule,

Now her temper is cool:

If they want something, first they must text her.

ronrsr, They should call you MR. Member.

Just don’t plow with horse and ox.

Gee, I think a lot of the posters are just adorable.

Now you are selling her short. Because she has had nothing (that you know of) in the past to deal with, you imagine she will not be able to cope with possible future difficulties?

The very stability of her youth may have given her just the qualities for which you are looking. Because of her relatively smooth past, she may be grounded and stable enough to be able to deal with the problems that come up in any marriage. Sometimes people who have had a great deal to cope with in their youth handle it fine but when they are settled find that the daily ongoing difficulties of marriage and (G-d willing) children are the straw that breaks the back. There’s just too much baggage in their closet for anything new.

If you like her and she likes you, and she is aware of your family situation but still willing to go on, have faith that Hashem thinks you deserve each other. Don’t go second guessing G-d, unless you can come up with a better argument than this.

Hatzlacha rabbah and may we hear besuros tovos bekarov.

we have kohanim in the family, and one of them named a daughter Miriam, after her great(to the nth power) aunt, Miriam HaNivia.

Being offensive to get people to be considerate seems counterproductive. “Do as I say, not as I do”?

“…and there was nothing offensive in the delivery.”

“…there was absolutely nothing in my posts which was putting down the torah, or anyone except the people I was trying to criticize.”

It is so hard to be objective about oneself and one’s own work.

Worse than being offensive, your OP wasn’t even funny.

For cheaper CDs, you could try JewishUsedBooks. com. They have a music section, not a tremendous selection but it might be a good place to sample for a reasonable price.

Evidently they made the time. Thank you.

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It certainly looks as though you need a “Please Can I Have a Subtitle Under My ScreenName” forum. Alternatively, if one more thread on that subject opens up, a forum will be needed for “How to Deal With Subtitle-Seeking Threads.”

gefen: and here we thought you only had daughters.

Your story reminded me, I took my kids to the Jewish library here and one son, who must have been almost 5, asked (pretty loudly) when he was going to have another bris.

So maybe it’s not as traumatic a memory as some people think.

Fathers can give the baby a bottle, same as non-nursing mothers (or even nursing mothers who want their baby to be able to take a bottle) do.

Mazal tov, um! May you be zoche to build a bayis ne’eman b’Yisrael and may you and your future family always walk on the derech of Torah b’simcha, ahava, achva, shalom, u’vracha.

(Since we share initials, I especially wanted to share your simcha.)

gefen, are you sure you want to post this so soon after starting “pentheraphobia”?

If you are in a simcha hall or some other professional venue, it might be problematic to scream “mouse” or “roach” or the like, because that could be harmful to the hall’s reputation.

There are other ways to change the subject of a conversation. You never inadvertently cut someone off midsentence? Spill your water (not on anyone else).

ask her to pass the salt or the pickles or ask her about her kids, husband, parents, what about those mets. anything. so you’ll look strange for a minute, so what? she won’t be embarrassed but the course of conversation will have changed.

The desire is not illegitimate, nor will the child be.

I said her desire to have children biologically would create problems, but I did not attach any adjectives to my description.

One original poster entreated

Us to say who we’d like to have meeted

From CR or RL

But I’ll never tell

Because my list is too long to be tweeted.

Among recent Cr threads was discussed

Was how to raise one’s self esteem to A+’d

Through word and through deed

But what we really need

Is to have in Hashem complete trust.