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Most yeshivos don’t have off on chanuka, maybe just erev shabbos or Sunday.
Talmidchochom, I still would like to respectfully disagree. I can’t ask my Rosh Yeshiva what to do because I never had one and I am not joining this discussion from personal experience because I do not go and never have gone to minyan daily, and have not even gone on shabbos for years, exception being parshas zachor and shofar on R”H.
But, I can say this about being judgemental on how other people daven:
We look at our gedolim, see that they davened in the best way for them to have kavana, and do the same- daven the best way to have kavana. For some, that is a slow-paced davening, maybe with lots of meaningful singing. For some, it is a quickly moving davening with no down-time for the mind to wander. I have one kid who is ADD who has a really hard time davening. I encourage him to just daven the minimum- brochos and shema, which he can handle, rather than attempt to daven the whole davening (for his age) and space out or not daven at all. Of course, he does not yet have a chiyuv, but there are probably adults out there with ADD as well who have a hard time sitting and focusing through a long davening. Perhaps for these people, a quick davening is the most they can handle and the best for their kavana?
Not all girls schools are off on Sun. In E”Y, Sunday is a regular school day – and work day- for everyone.
There are girls schools in the US that have some classes on Sun as well.
For those that don’t:
On Sundays, boys do not learn secular studies, AFAIK. As others have said here, girls chiyuv for learning Torah is not equivalent to boys, and they have a different curriculum and do not need the Sun hours. I don’t think they davka give off Sun so they can study and do homework, although I think they do have more homework. assignments, projects etc than the boys, and I remember using many a Sunday to do mine (Having off erev shabbos afternoon and shabbos was not for that purpose). But if the default in the US is to close school on Sunday, then there has to be a good reason to open it – which is there for the boys – limud Torah, but not necessarily for the girls. Also keep in mind, that the girls’ teachers are women, often mothers with young families, who really need that day off. In E”Y every teacher works only 5 days a week, and gets a day off some other day during the week instead.January 28, 2019 12:28 am at 12:28 am in reply to: Is it safe to invest in an up and coming Jewish community? #1669104
real estate agents always have an agenda- it is in their best interest to hype a community so that prices rise and they get a bigger percentage. Remember that they are looking to earn a deal for themselves, they are not doing it for the good of the buyer or the seller.
TalmidChochom, where did AviK compare himself to Rav Chaim Brisker in his post? How was he mevazeh chochamim? What he did was melamed zchus on those who daven quickly by saying that for some, it increases their kavana, and backed it up with a source from a noted talmid chochom. Aren’t we supposed to learn from the hanhagos of the gedolim and try to emulate them?
CS, when you take your maternity leave B’sha’a tova, will there be a substitute shlucha for the CR?
Neville, I also have always thought that having a hechsher for shatnez on clothing would be great, and the situation we have now is like it used to be years ago with food when people just read the package labels and ate it if they did not see any obvious non-kosher ingredient.
I think though that it’s because every piece of clothing can be different, if they run out of material, they can use any scrap so one jacket by manufacturer A would be ok, and another not. It’s less uniform than food. You would need a mashgiach in the clothing factory to check all the materials present and make sure the wrong combination is not used on the entire product line. You would also have a hard time convincing clothing designers to pay for supervision- the frum clientele is too small to make it worth it, while kashrus has a wide appeal even among the non-frum since people assume it means better quality.
Re hechsherim on clothes- problem is that unlike food, the way clothing fits depends on the person wearing it. What is tight on one person can be fine for another, what is short for a tall person, is fine for a short person. The same outfit can be tniuzdik on one person and not on another. Since it is not always the clothing but the wearer that needs to pass a tznius standard, it would neither be practical nor appropriate for Rabbanim to police clothing stores.
There is no need for supervision – it is a market economy. If women were disgusted by untznius styles and refused to patronize those stores, the stores would start selling other things. I have seen here in E”Y that branches of the same store carry different clothing depending on what neighborhood they are in- because they are trying to cater to their consumers.
Some people are not very good at figuring out who might go with whom, I take it whitecar, while meaning well, fits into that category.
question- how do you know if people are trying to help their single friends or not- you wouldn’t know about every suggestion or date that goes nowhere.
Practical suggestion- throw a shidduch party. Get together with other marrieds and everyone must present an eligible girl and boy, usually without mentioning names. Then people can brainstorm and try to come up with ideas of people they know who might fit with those that others present.
But that would mean that Joseph lives OOT!!!!!
If you unscrew it, you may not need to toivel it at all- although we’ve never done it (we do it the way Nechomah described) I heard that if a Jew takes apart an appliance and re-assembles it, it is as if he made it and no longer requires tevila. Heard this from a handy layman, not a Rav, so not sure if this is halachically acceptable, and it probably voids the warranty.
A water mini-bar with hot and cold water is a great solution too.
I grew up with the whistling type of stove-top kettle. Also great for shabbos, esp shabbos following yom tov, can be left on the blech without needing a special shabbos urn.January 23, 2019 8:34 pm at 8:34 pm in reply to: The differences between Litvish/Yeshivish marriages and Chasidish marriages #1667479
I’ll throw this out there, not sure if it is true or not. In the chashidish oilam, the parents do the dating for the kids with all the checking out, meeting with the other side, the couple only meets when the parents decide that the shidduch is marriage-worthy. It works because of the relationship between parent /child- the couple are usually young, rely on the their parents’ judgment, and since the shidduch is usually within the community, or one very similar, wherein people tend to be more homogenous, the parents are well positioned to be able to determine who will be a fitting life-partner for their child. They are also more used to accepting authority’s decision when it comes to personal decisions (ie Rebbe’s daas Torah)
I think that since the Litvish community is not as tight knit, and children are more independent vs their parents, and start dating a bit older, the reliance on the parents’ judgement is weaker, less dependence on a Rebbe-like figure, hence the couple is more independent when it comes to deciding whom to marry.
The chareidi world in E’Y may be more homogenous at least externally, so they lie somewhere in the middle, but although the dating process is shorter than in Chu”l, it is more similar to American Litvish in that the decision is in the couple’s hands, the parents are not doing the dating and decision making.
So according to my theory, it is not the marriage relationship that is different (Although it may be so), but the child/parent-authority relationship that is different.
He’s upset because his wife showed up at borchu but the toddler at korbonos.
Knaidlach, you are right in a general sense, but the OP has already gone out more than once and obviously has already concluded that the girl may be in the category of “bichlal what you are looking for” or else he would not be continuing and asking for advice on how to proceed with important topics “further along in the dating process”
Not necessarily, knaidlach, you only get what the friends, teachers, neighbors perceive to be that person’s or his/her family’s values and hashkafa, which may not reflect what the person actually feels and chooses not to share. It’s always a good idea to talk about these important things directly, and not just rely on what others think (e.g. does he really want to learn full time, long-term, or is that just what his rosh yeshiva wants for him? She looks tznius in public, but maybe she actually struggles with conforming to tznius standards, and will find it hard when society is not looking and judging her? He wants to grow/take on more halacha/learn more than he has until now, and more than is the norm in his current circles/enviornment, etc.)
If these are important topics to you, they will come up naturally in the course of the conversation (you may express how you feel about learning, then gauge her reaction, comments; you can talk about the way your Rebbe is mechanech his kids, and ask what she feels about it, discuss how you are bothered by, or passionate, about x or y or z, and see if she feels the same. Don’t turn it into a checklist or interrogation.January 21, 2019 11:44 am at 11:44 am in reply to: Freezer-Burnt: Most boys unprepared for dating or married life. #1665420
Naftsuh, the freezer only delays the “discharging of 100’s of boys…”, without the freezer there would be a deluge of new dating boys with the end of each z’man, as the boys return from their yeshivos in E”Y. It’s no more engineered than say, the girls starting when they return from seminary in June. And a boy does not have to go to Lakewood, you know. And if he does, no one is forcing him to start dating when the freezer opens.
“Sorry, that’s just not a good reason to ignore the disparity, or tell people that they they’re demonizing women, they’re in denial about other issues, or that there isn’t a shidduch crisis, etc.”
The explanation for the above is that there will always be some people who will respond with aggressiveness and cynicism and argue for the sake of arguing. It has more to do with personality than the topic at hand, so I would just ignore those type of people and focus on what is important.
Daas, no one is expected to solve all issues – and get rid of world hunger at the same time- just trying to explain why not everyone is jumping on the age gap wagon- because there need to be other people who are dealing with the other issues. Sometimes when one aspect is pushed with lots of PR it pushes other issues to the side so that people stop thinking about them. It would be harmful to conclude that solving the age gap will solve the issues of unmarried singles; it will even out the playing field, but one would not yet be able to pat oneself on the proverbial back with “job well done”. The other issues would still need addressing to help singles get married.
The age gap theory makes sense number wise, but it is not the only contributing factor, and sometimes it feels that those promoting it are ignoring other issues that also need addressing- and these are not side issues. So people who are not going for the age gap theory are not in denial that there is a shidduch cirsis, or however you want to define it, they are just being more open to other valid explanations. If every single boy was married and only girls were left, then the age gap would explain it all.
The fact is that there are plenty of older boys not married as well. The age gap does not address this fact.
The fact is that older singles do get married (not all, but a lot) but not until their 30s perhaps, meanwhile suffering for years, and losing out on a family they could have had. The age gap does not address this fact.
When I started dating nearly 3 decades ago, the boys also had lists of girls that outnumbered the boys 10:1, there were unmarried older singles, and this was before the population explosion.
Why does it take so long for some people to find each other? As ubiquitin stated, what part of the process is going wrong? Is the problem in the networking, getting the right names? The actual dating process? The attitude to dating/marriage? For different people, there will be different answers. We need to figure out what goes wrong and how to solve it- better preparation, dating coaching, helping youngsters figure out who they are and what they really need in a spouse before they start dating, improved networking- especially for OOTers and those who wouldn’t be getting redt shidduchim otherwise, maybe making use of databases.
The good thing about all this discussion, is that it shows that people care and that singles should not feel ostracized or alone.
Joseph, I strongly disagree, and I’ve been there done that. Please don’t judge others until you walk in their shoes and don’t generalize that having a career means not being interested in having a family.
Young women come home from sem, and pursue various career options – many so they can support their husbands in learning, others because it is hard to make it these days with 1 income. Those who get married young and have a family have a lot to juggle, and often do not advance in their education or careers as a result. Those who remain single have more time to continue on, but it does not mean that they are not making getting married a priority, or are totally focused on careers to the detriment of shidduchim. You make it sound like in order to get married, dating must be treated like a full time occupation, without time to do anything else on the side! One can work at a high paying job or a low paying job or go to a trade school or a graduate school and but still have time to date evenings or Sundays. For the older single, the goal is not to increase their earning potential as you suggest, but to be busy and fulfilled during a very difficult time in their lives when Hashem has decided that their fulfillment cannot come from having a family and building their own home. Some find fulfillment teaching or working with kids as a therapist, others as secretaries, and some find fulfillment as a lawyer or accountant or college professor.
On a personal note, I planned on getting married young and taking care of my kids. Hashem had other plans for me however. Without ever really planning it out, or having a specific goal in mind (afterall, for sure I would be married soon and not have the time..) I continued my education to a higher degree, and worked many years in my field until B”H I did find my BShert. Now that higher degree and work experience gives me the opportunity to work flexible hours, from home, so I can be there for my kids, and still earn enough so that my husband has been able to spend a good portion of his time learning all these years.
“And from personal observation (others here are welcome to share their own) I’ve noticed that among unmarried older girls, there’s a much larger representation among them of girls who pursued a higher education and/or are in high earning fields than among the women who got married (younger). ”
Cause and effect?
The older singles are single because they are in high earning fields/have advanced degrees or they are in high earning fields/have advanced degrees because they are single?
Perhaps the unmarried older girls, rather than just sitting at home waiting to get married, being depressed about not being able to fill their tafkid in life, bored with not much to do, instead tried to do something productive with the time that they did not expect or plan to have and pursued higher education and entered high earning fields, while the girls who B”H did get married young were busy with their families and by default could not do those things.
Go out with girls who come from MO homes/schools but also became frummer in seminary,
are you hosting them for shabbos or checking them out as potential shidduch candidates?
Be aware that depending on who else is at the table, seminary girls may feel awkward sitting at the table with the husband in between courses when the wife goes to serve, so they will all get up to help.
If there are a lot of them, they will talk among themselves and spare you having to engage them at the table. But if you are looking for topics of conversation, then you can ask them about the learning style in their school, subjects they learn, chesed projects, trips etc.
As is true for any guest you may be hosting, it is reasonable to check what kashrus standards they prefer, if there are any accommodations needed for allergies or food preferences, and to try to fill their requests.January 3, 2019 3:05 pm at 3:05 pm in reply to: Beth Isaac of Flatbush (R Yerucham Leshinsky) Closed? #1656920
Joseph- to give one possible answer to your question by example, my childhood shul got a donation of sifrei Torah and money from another shul that closed and sold off its assets. In return, there was some sort of memorial commemorating the old shul and its members, so it did not just die off.January 2, 2019 3:18 am at 3:18 am in reply to: How Will The New Minimum Wage Laws Affect “Cleaning Help” #1655983
I have always wondered about this- maybe someone in the CR knows: why is a (theoretical) cleaner who comes to my house once a week for 3-4h considered my employee while a plumber or handyman who comes to work in my home is an independent worker who offers a service and charges a fee? If it is the fact that one is regular and one only once in a while, then what about those who have someone like a personal trainer or massage therapist who make home visits and come on a regular basis? Why can companies have employees work on 1099s or as contract workers by the hour to avoid paying benefits, but a householder can’t do that for a cleaner?January 1, 2019 11:42 pm at 11:42 pm in reply to: How Will The New Minimum Wage Laws Affect “Cleaning Help” #1655955
Taka, no some people either do not have the time or the physical ability.
I wish I could afford real cleaning help. Right now all I have is someone coming for 1h a week to do the really heavy work. The rest I do myself, and usually can’t move much by the time I am finished.
It sounds like you need something real simple.
Just spread your favorite BBQ sauce on top, roast at 350F covered 1h, uncovered for 30 min or until browned and crispy.
Another easy one is to place chicken pieces in pan, place sliced onion rounds and diced garlic on top of chicken, and then sprinkle on generous amounts of paprika and curry powder. roast as above.
CS or anyone else- can you explain why there are dark forces specifically on the night between Dec 24 and Dec 25? It is not actually yeshu’a birthday- even without taking the Gregorian calendar into account- the early christians adopted this day because it was a pagan holiday celebrating the winter solstice, and turned it around to be a christian holiday by assigning it as yeshu’a birthday. And even if it was, what meaning does the secular date have- it would be the Hebrew date that would be significant. And why is a birthday even important- we recognize the spiritual importance of a yarzheit, not a birthday, afterall when Yeshu was born he was not yet a choteh. And if it’s because of its significance to christianity, even if originally made up, it’s not the only such day- why are there no forces of tuma/darkness on Easter, which really marks the beginning of their religion.
Eli, I can’t talk for Chabad and their policies, but I think you are missing the point. It’s not about knowing Hebrew- it’s about learning Torah. You can’t separate the Mitzvos from Torah, and Torah cannot be learned in translation- translations are good for a start, and as an aid, but are not a replacement for learning Torah as it was given in Loshon Hakodesh. Each morning we say in davening “eleh devarim” where we discuss various mitzvos and their rewards, and the conclusion is “talmud torah k’neged kulam”, learning Torah is equivalent to all of them. I’m wondering why you are so angry at the chidon for discouraging your son from learning, but not at his school for not giving him the proper tools to do so.
By the way, it’s ok for a 12 year old to not want to learn extra in his free time. But he should be developing the skill set so he can do so when he wants to as he matures.
Based on what everyone is saying here, the ironic best solution would be for the Democrats to go through with their threats to impeach Trump and remove him from office, and then have Pence take over. Pence might make a harder candidate to beat than Trump in 2020, especially if Trump supporters are really mad at the Democrats. At least he does’t have the personal flaws and twiiter trigger finger that Trump has. I have a feeling some Democrats may be smart enough to realize this, and now that they actually can carry out their threat in the House, the calls for impeachment will die down.December 23, 2018 7:41 am at 7:41 am in reply to: The Killing of Nahal Haredi Soldiers and the Anti Draft Protests #1649377
I would like to repeat the gist of a conversation I overheard at work- a place filled with university educated people who tend to lean to the left politically and have very little to do with religion. One mentioned a talk she went to where the speaker said that if you want to know whether a person was a leftist or a rightist, ask them if they define themselves as Israeli or as Jewish first. The rightist answer Jewish. It is telling that the right has dominated to government in the recent past. A Dati Leumi (RZ) women then gave her opinion that the leftist don’t think of themselves as Jewish at all. The others sitting around the table- all secular, Chilonim. strongly disagreed and resented that conclusion. They said that although they would identify as Israeli first, they are proud to be Jewish as well.
To me (who remained quiet during this conversation) that was very encouraging- even those who seem the furthest from their heritage still want to be Jewish and have that connection. I think this is the attitude that MrSL613 is referring to.
Considering that more than 5 years have passed sine the OP asked about seminaries, it is probably a bit late to give her advice on whether and where to send her daughter to sem.
Adisrael re-opened this thread with a specific question, she probably would have been better off starting a new thread so the responses wouldn’t be wasted on outdated questions.
” Certainly the understanding of Scripture is more profound if learned in Hebrew but it is far greater than nothing to understand what you can in English.”
True, but unless you are dealing with a learning disability, this should not be an acceptable standard for a student – and it seems many of his classmates- who are attending a yeshiva and should be taught how to learn inside in Loshon Hakodesh, whether their parents can help them at home or not. The chidon may be a fun way to encourage kids to learn, but it is not a goal in itself- being able to learn Torah is the goal.
I can understand why you- the parents- are not comfortable learning directly from the texts.
But I don’t understand why your son who has been attending frum schools his entire life cannot learn/read chumash?
This is not about learning the Hebrew Language, this is about learning Torah. A frum life is about learning Torah and doing MItzvos, one cannot be separated from the other.December 19, 2018 2:04 am at 2:04 am in reply to: The Killing of Nahal Haredi Soldiers and the Anti Draft Protests #1647574
I would like to point out that it was Mr. Sarah Levine commenting- a he not a she (there was a post on another thread that explained how he opened his own account so as not to hijack his wife’s account)
Also, there are several posters here who do live in E”Y and are posting from their various perspectives.
Carry on now…
Hashalem, I don’t see that idea working either.
Even if there were enough openings in Yeshivos, which there aren’t, they would be taking a major pay cut, lose their pensions and health insurance- the Yeshivos cannot match what they were getting in salary and benefits from the BoE. That’s a lot of sponsoring, or risk sending a lot of families into poverty. Besides, these are teachers- men and women- who are teaching 7h a day secular studies- not limudei kodesh, they could not just shift over to Yeshivos. Some already supplement their incomes by teaching secular studies in Yeshivos after PS hours.
Of course, if NYS gets their way, there will be a need for teachers for all those extra hours of secular studies- but the whole point is to to avoid that situation.December 13, 2018 10:26 am at 10:26 am in reply to: I had a topic I wanted to post here but I forgot what #1643977
This thread is way too controversial. The mods should close it before it gets to page 23- if they don’t forget.December 12, 2018 8:11 am at 8:11 am in reply to: How should we as Jews mourn the loss of former president George h.w. bush? #1642320
Joseph, I can’t speak for all or most frum Jews, I am speaking, or should I say posting based on what I remember the feeling towards Bush Sr was among the people I knew, who were neither Satmar nor MO.
I think that you are forgetting that there are more than 6 million Jews living in Israel (somewhat less than that during Bush’s days), so policies that affect Israel and its safety very much affect Jews, and I would think that a Jew in America should feel that is important whether or not he is Zionist or Anti-Zionist, supports the Medina or does not.
And the loan guarantees were not just a financial matter- (they weren’t even a request for money directly), they were used as blackmail to achieve a geopolitical purpose.
Sometimes people – or nations- agree to something because they are pressured to, and the alternative is worse, but that doesn’t mean the one putting on the pressure is exonerated.December 11, 2018 7:49 am at 7:49 am in reply to: How should we as Jews mourn the loss of former president George h.w. bush? #1641335
For many Frum Jews, how someone relates to Israel and treats its people is very important, and is a barometer of how he relates to Jews in general. We know your attitude about Israel, Joseph, but most frum Jews outside of Satmar put Israel policy high on the list when judging politicians.
But I do agree with you about regretting voting for Clinton. And I didn’t like his approach to Oslo either.December 11, 2018 1:40 am at 1:40 am in reply to: How should we as Jews mourn the loss of former president George h.w. bush? #1641260
Joseph, I recall things differently. Bush and Baker put tremendous pressure on Israel to make a peace deal in Madrid, expecting Israel to fall in line because they “saved” them from the Scuds. Holding back the loan guarantees as blackmail to stop settlement activity was a horrible way to treat an ally. Israel was not asking for a hand-out.
During the Gulf War, America put Israel in a very difficult place by requesting their restraint- it was clearly a request that could not be refused, not if they wanted to keep their relationship with their important ally.
Yes, he was a gentleman- more than could be said for other presidents, but one that was not a friend of Israel. That in itself doesn’t make him a bad president, but it does affect my (and probably other Jews’) opinion of him. I recall the Jewish frum vote going quite eagerly to Clinton in 1992, there was a lot of upset at this supposed friend of the Jews, as you call him.
Mishpacha magazine had a feature article on the community of Guatemalan Geirim who have helped former Lev Tahor members who have been expelled. According to the article, as I remember it, they were interested in Judaism and when the Lev Tahor people dropped into their backyard, they were excited by the opportunity. They learned from and were misgayer by Lev Tahor, but soon after they realized what was going on there and left or were expelled en masse. But as their interest in being Jewish was real, they went through a second proper giyur by a mainstream US beis din. So if you are referring to these geirim, the answer is yes. Your question as to the validity of a giyur done by a Lev Tahor beis din still holds though, especially since the group had to undergo a second geirus.December 10, 2018 9:47 am at 9:47 am in reply to: How should we as Jews mourn the loss of former president George h.w. bush? #1640305
“He was arguably americas best president ever!!!!!”
Funny how America rewards its best president by not electing him to a second term. For some strange reason, they cared about the economy.
Anyone remember James Baker? The Bush/Baker team did not exactly treat Israel very nicely.
The good thing about his policy of not letting Israel defend themselves from direct missile attack during Gulf War I was that it reminded the rest of us that it is Hashem who is shomer Yisrael and not Tzahal or faulty Patriots.
Haimy- while I am a big believer in conducting our lives and actions with tznius- not just as a dress code- and doubt that these public and sometimes over-the-top menorah displays fill the mitzva of pirsumei nissa, to what extent does your recommendation of performing the mitzvos out of site of our sonim go? Should we not wear our tzitzis out, yarmulkes in the work place, walk to shul in shtreimels, gather a minyan at the rest stop along the highway? There were times in America that few would do these things in public. Should we hide our mitzvos as the Marranos did? What is the balance between doing the mitzvos proudly and not flaunting our lifestyles?
There will be antisemitism no matter what- as history teaches us, those who don’t look particularly Jewish have not escaped being persecuted as Jews.
If we mention it in Al Hanisim, and commemorate 8 days according to one opinion to remember the nes of winning, why do you think we are ignoring it?
If you are asking why we may stress the nes of the oil more than the nes of the battle, maybe it’s because the former was a spiritual nes and the latter a physical one, and we are stressing that unlike the yevanim, the spiritual realm is far more important.
Another possibility- the non-frum tend to make a big deal about the Maccabim as a symbol of Jewish strength and independence. Focusing more on the nes that cannot be wrongly attributed to kochi v’utzom yadi indicates that we believe also that the nes of the battle was from Hashem.
APY, et al
The challenges we face face today are in essence an outcome of our successes.
When the frum community was small, it didn’t matter so much what your background was, it just mattered that you were frum. That was an improvement over the previous generation- my grandparents’- when there were so few frum people that it was no so uncommon for a frum person to marry a non-frum person.
Now that there are so many of us, just being frum isn’t enough- the pool of potential matches has to be narrowed to be effective, so people create the differences and nuances in types, schools etc.
Although there were good things about the olden days, we cannot reverse the clock, and we have to deal with the reality today, as nice as nostalgia is. (Also, don’t fool yourselves that there was no discrimination in shidduchim back then- I don’t think you would often see a Hungarian-Polish intermarriage, for example; there were factors back then that did matter that we would not consider important criteria today.)
Another thing, considering how many we are today, how mobile and inter-connected, a problem that affects even a small percent of our society translates into a large number of people, a critical mass that becomes very visible, hence a “crisis”. So even if the same percent of our community is not getting married as 40-50 years ago or 100 years ago (I don’t know if this is true- does anyone have data comparing today to back then?) it’s a lot more individuals.December 5, 2018 7:28 am at 7:28 am in reply to: Interesting article on Fox News about yeshaya hanavi #1637623
CS, do you really think that a bunch of nonsense spouted by some missionary group is “cool”?
Of course our mesora differs from this.December 5, 2018 7:27 am at 7:27 am in reply to: Applesauce on latkes is better than sour cream: Prove me wrong. #1637620
Are you serious Laskern, you never heard of a latke until recently joining the CR?
What did your wife A”H make?December 3, 2018 2:37 pm at 2:37 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Golus & don’t misunderstand me. #1636023
Coffee- things actually got a lot worse when Moshe showed up and after Esther became Queen.
The night is always darkest before dawn.December 3, 2018 2:26 pm at 2:26 pm in reply to: Applesauce on latkes is better than sour cream: Prove me wrong. #1636010
Laskern and ZionGate: Fried raw potatoes are latkes, fried cooked potatoes are kremzlach. Or at least according to my Hungarian-Czechoslovakian heritage.
RebYidd, you must have missed my vote above.
“When a girl becomes what boys consider a good shiduch she will have an easier time ”
I disagree- sometimes it is the girl or boy who is a bit different who is looking for someone a bit different who will be easier to set up since their needs are better defined. It is those who are very typical, who are not any different than hundreds of other girls like them, who do not stand out on a list of other girls like them, and have to compete with hundreds of others for the same shidduchim that have it hard.
Also, it is never a good idea to “become” something that you are not just to get a shidduch.