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When is the earliest and latest you can daven Shachris? Mincha? Maariv?
Shacharis: sunrise, 4th hour
Mincha: half hour past noon, sunset
Maariv: not certain about earliest, sunrise
Are there different shittas as to when shkia is?
No. Anyone can look at the horizon and see when the sun sets.
The Wolf
Obviously there is no work Friday night or Shabbos and there is Yeshiva on Sunday, they dont have time to get a part time job
I used to earn money as a ba’al kriah while still in yeshiva.
The Wolf
Is it possible that pre-sorting the laundry is enough trouble that if she has to do it for you, then she wouldn’t need you to fold it?
For example, if she has bad arthritis (I don’t know that that’s the case — it’s just an example), she may be unable to pre-sort the laundry for you without a great deal of difficulty.
For whatever it’s worth, I can guarantee you, there is no tznius violation if you fold her husband’s underwear for her as a chessed.
The Wolf
How long do I wait, if I am NOT about to chalk this up after all my efforts, and what do I do next?
Send her a note thanking her for her response, wishing the couple lots of nachas and mazal, and that you look forward to receiving a check before date X (pick a date at some point — but not too long — after Sheva Brachos)
The Wolf
teens
Teens are a pretty wide range. A thirteen year old and a nineteen year old are quite different in terms of money management and how they should be (and even *if* they should be) managed by their parents.
Or did you have a narrower definition of “teens” in mind?
The Wolf
Well do you think it means zero?
I *don’t* think it means zero, but you know what? What *I* think doesn’t really matter. What matters (and only what matters) is what you think and what your client thinks — and it seems obvious that the two of you have very different thoughts on at least some points.
The Wolf
That’s different, since you are willing to accept whatever they pay, large or small.
Yes, that’s my point. The OP, on the other hand, has specific expectations as to her fee. Therefore, she should be clear up front as to what those expectations are.
The Wolf
Generally, engagement.
Maybe, maybe not. Perhaps the OP’s client took it to mean marriage and since the marriage has not yet taken place, the fee is not yet incurred. Just because you think that the term “generally” means engagement, that does not mean that the OP’s client believed it to be so. The same goes for “going rate.”
In short, if the OP has specific expectations for doing the job, then she should make those expectations clear up front. Failure to do so only invites situations such as the OP is facing now.
The Wolf
Just to make the point a bit clearer…
I teach laining to Bar Mitzvah boys. When people ask me my rate, I am *purposely* vague. The reason for it is that I really do it for the love of it, rather than the money. So, if they pay me, then great — I have some extra spending money; and if they don’t, that’s okay with me too.
But if I was truly counting on the money (which, it seems, the OP is), I’d be *very clear* up front what my fees are and when they are due. I wouldn’t just say “the going rate” and I wouldn’t be vague about at what point payment is due.
The Wolf
Absolutely not! I mentioned while the Shidduch was ongoing, that when Shidduchim are made, I expect the going rate.
Excuse my ignorance, but what does “when the Shidduch is made” mean? Introduction? First date? Engagement? Marriage? And, more importantly, do you *know* that the phrase means the same thing to your client as it does to you?
The same applies to “going rate.”
The Wolf
DY,
You’d be surprised… I *do* ask professionals how much they charge before they start work — including plumbers.
It’s also not a good idea to, because it makes her come across as greedy (I no it’s not logical, but that’s human nature).
On the contrary, it makes her look professional.
The Wolf
wolf – sounds like these people should know. from my understanding, it’s a pretty serious thing to not pay the shadchan anything.
I agree that they should know. Nonetheless, the OP should spell everything out in the future. Many misunderstandings are avoided later on if both parties are explicit at the start as to what is expected.
The Wolf
It sounds like you didn’t make it clear up front that you expected to get paid, but rather relied upon the parties “knowing” that it is halachially required and/or socially acceptable to pay.
In the future, you must make it clear up front to the parties involved, even if you feel that they should already know. Make it clear what you expect as for what your expected fee is, under what conditions you expect it to apply (first date, third date, engagement, marriage, whatever) and when the payment is due. If you can get it writing, all the better. If not, at least give your future clients a written (even email works for this) description of your fee.
The Wolf
The problem is that many people (incorrectly) believe that not keeping a chumra is, in and of itself, a kula.
The Wolf
money that is supporting learning takes precidence over all other political matters.
Do you even realize how this sounds?
The Wolf
I know almost nothing about schnapps. I don’t drink hard liquor and have never been drunk in my life (and never intend to be).
The Wolf
And where do you think The Wolf got his?
The Wolf knows of Appomattox not through Google but from an extensive reading about the American Civil War when he was just a young pup.
The Wolf
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The Wolf
And what should we make lechaim on? Laundry bleach?
Wine? It’s what I make kiddush on on Shabbos mornings.
The Wolf
Wolf and GAW: How many children in your neighborhood are sitting home this summer , not going to either a day camp or sleepaway camp, with both parents working???
I have no idea, but that doesn’t affect the question I answered. I didn’t answer the question about whether or not to send a kid to camp. I answered the question of what do you say to the kid who sees his/her friends going to camp and asks why s/he can’t go too. I stand by my answer — at some point kids need to learn that some families are wealthier than others and can simply afford nicer/better things — including camps.
Whether or not kids should be sitting at home because their parents can’t afford camp is a different question which I did not address.
The Wolf
Torching your braces before Pesach.
The first Pesach after our son got braces we teased him about that. 🙂
The Wolf
Of course, the gemara in Sanhedrin makes it clear that animals are subject to the same judicial process as humans when it comes to being put to death by Bais Din. That would seem to indicate that an animal, just like a person, requires a Bais Din of ordained judges, which does not exist today.
The Wolf (who, according to the Mishna, can be killed by anyone at any time).
You WANT to see the ads???
The Wolf (who uses FF and sees the ads all the time).
So what do you say to a child when they come to you and ask to go to camp because all their friends are going and they want to go also but you just cant afford it?
The same thing that you tell them when they ask why their friends have a nicer house, better clothes and fancier toys.
The Wolf
I will be spending part of the day with my father, and yes, it is because it is Father’s Day. If you believe that that’s wrong, too bad — I’m going to see him anyway.
The Wolf
so it was fair for someone to identify which Rabbi Weiss was being referred to.
In the original thread, it was made clear that it was Rabbi Avi Weiss.
The Wolf
Are you a member of the shul of the famous Rabbi Avi Weiss from Yeshivat Chovevei Torah?
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Isn’t the Hebrew Institute of Riverdale the place where Sara Hurwitz is a “rabba”?
Considering that Dr. Hall has stated that, regarding the subject at hand, he has not spoken with Rabbi Weiss and does not know his opinions on the matter, then what is the difference regarding the above questions? They have no bearing on the question at hand (specifically, the standards that are applicable regarding serving on a jury).
The Wolf
Mike,
I feel like that sometimes too… but then again, sometimes the mods surprisingly put up things of mine that I think will never go through.
Nonetheless, you’ll be missed and I wish you nothing but hatzlacha.
The Wolf
Safek Mamzer cannot marry
A Safek Mamzer can marry a giyores, just as can a certain mamzer.
Where do you know that from? (This is a request for information, not a challenge.)
Good question. I can’t point to a specific source off the top of my head (and I don’t have the time to do research now). However, there is a logical reason to say so:
If a kohen marries a gerusha (who is certainly less of an issur than a mamzeres, as the former is permitted to all other Jews) the offspring has no kohanic status. Certainly then, if he married a woman who is forbidden to all natural-born Jews, certainly the offspring loses kohanic status.
I’ll see if I can find an explicit source over Shabbos.
The Wolf
Wolf: I have a question for you that is completely off topic. I have often wondered why the good woman in your life, whom you often speak of, spells her name with 4 “E”s. Wouldn’t 3 suffice? In fact, some others may agree with me – I sometimes think it may even be a little bit greedy. After all, somewhere there may be someone who desperately needs an “E” and she has 4. She could give one away.
I don’t remember how it was that I came to spell it with four E’s. However, for those who need, I will, below my signature, supply plenty of Es for anyone who needs. Let any who want come and take.
The Wolf
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One should constantly be cognizant of H-shem-on a steady basis-this is a fundamental principal in the Torah- not some middas chassidus.
Fail.
I do not think about HKBH when I sleep.
Furthermore, I’d be lying if I said that I thought about Him during every waking moment or even the majority of waking moments.
An example* of when I do think about Him is when I come to morally ambiguous situations. At those times I do think about Him and His Torah and what (I believe) is expected of me by Him. But for routine things (such as while I’m writing database code at work), I simply don’t. Heck, I’d even be lying if I said that I thought about HKBH 100% of the time I’m involved in limmud Torah.
Consider it another failing on my part.
The Wolf
* No, it’s not the only example.
Whether or not I will be able to weather the weather depends on whether or not the weather is weatherable.
The Wolf
Why is any age too old? I’m in my 40s, but I wouldn’t mind being a camp counselor but for the fact that the opportunity cost is too high.
The Wolf
Well your better off then Wolf who is entering kindergarten
Well, it’s not *quite* the same. Even if I am slated to enter kindergarten, I am still an adult and I still have the experience of having gone through high school, bais midrash, college and grad school (even if I no longer have any credit for it). GumBall doesn’t have that experience.
The Wolf
Some people may have family that they are unable to or unwilling to move away from.
For a while, Eeees and I considered moving out of town (we considered the Baltimore area) but a large part of the reason that we did not is because we knew that moving away would greatly (and unfavorably) impact other family members. As a result, we are bound to NYC.
The Wolf
Dice.com is one of the premier technology job sites. A job seeker will also want to have a complete profile on LinkedIn.com.
The Wolf
Then I obviously did not read it through carefully enough. Nice to see that my skepticism was well-placed. Thank you for pointing it out.
The Wolf
I was told that a major posek once quoted that reason to someone who lost her husband in a car accident while driving to the hotel from their wedding. She was told she didn’t have to cover her hair.
I find it very hard to believe that any posek would be so callous as to, in effect, tell a newly grieving widow that it’s her fault her brand-new husband died. Especially since she apparently asked a shaila and was following the p’sak she received.
The Wolf
One it was a matter of ????? ??????? (and B”H a successful one at that) which the Gemorah (Bava Basra 8b) calls a “Mitzvah Rabba” and Shulchan Aruch (YD 252:3) says delaying their freeing by even a moment is tantamount to murder and Rambam (Mishneh Torah, Hilchos Matanos Aniyim 8:10-11) says that there is no greater mitzvah than ????? ???????
At least one of them (Marc Rich) wasn’t even in prison. Secondly, if that’s such a big issue, then why didn’t everyone get involved in that. Why only New Square? And why only those four people?
Additionally the elected position in question wasn’t an executive one but rather a legislative one
The OP did not make any differentiation (and neither did you in your comment that led to this thread).
The Wolf
The 1957 version of 12 Angry Men has an all-male cast.
The Wolf
Wolf can you explain please?
CYLOR = Contact Your Local Orthodox Rabbi.
In other words, when you get married, ask your rav when to begin covering your hair and follow his advice. If he says after the chuppah, then do so. If he says the next morning, then do so.
The Wolf
Wolf: Like charliehall (on the other thread), you are confusing two issues – 1) whether women should *vote* and 2) women holding public office.
No — *you’re* the one whose confusing things. The issue of whether or not women should vote is not the subject of this thread — the issue is voting *for* women who are running for office.
My response was that the rabbanim in New Square apparently had no problem with voting *for* a woman in 2001 when they overwhelmingly voted for Hillary Clinton for U.S. Senate.
The Wolf
Apparently they don’t have a problem with it in New Square where they overwhelmingly voted for Hillary Clinton for the Senate in 2001.
The Wolf
In other words, CYLOR.
The Wolf
You do need to cut off the cash and make them get a Job.
You can find a Job in most seforim stores, although he’s usually sold as part of the larger set. 🙂
The Wolf
Can a mamzer be a kohen?
Essentially no. The status of Mamzer overrides any kohanic status he may have had. So, for example a mamzer who is the son of a kohen can visit a cemetary, can marry a (mamzeres) divorcee or convert.
The Wolf