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OK, time for me to come clean. Yes, I’m canine. And Ruffruff. And aries27-whatever-the-rest-of-the-number-is. And Moderator-80. And Mod-42. And charliehall. And poppa.
In fact, everyone on this board is me with the exception of three users. If you’re reading this, then you are obviously one of the only four “real” posters on this board (including myself).
The Wolf
I used to have a chic.
Is it chic to have a chic? 🙂
The Wolf
The best bet is to use a plain glass tank (no water).
That’s exactly what we use.
The Wolf
did anybody ever bake cupcakes? did you have the same accoplished feeling that i have?
Not cupcakes per se, but I love to cook and bake.
I actually had the ability to be mafrish challah for the first time in my life a few months back when I was made challah for Shabbos.
I personally get a great feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment whenever I cook something and people like it. I wish I had the chance to cook more often than I currently do.
The Wolf
Hamster.
The Wolf (who does NOT eat hamsters).
Because threads that can be posted to will pop up again on the first page. Closed threads will soon fall off the first page, never to be seen again — and I know that if I won’t remember to look at it later, so if I’m going to see it, it had better be now.
The Wolf
When is it permissible to take medicine on Shabbos, and when not?
Ask your LOR.
The Wolf
I am NOT the user known as canine.
The Wolf
Wolf – both my above replies were intended to the OP.
My apologies then. I misunderstood.
The Wolf
Perceptions are deceiving.
You’re right. It’s possible that the person I was describing was not *really* happy. But unless you have evidence to the contrary, why would you suppose that the person I was speaking of was NOT truly happy?
The Wolf
I think the issue here is acceptance for some reason you are insecure about the entire engagement
He explicitly said so earlier on. And he somehow seems to think that if he brings his inlaws to a Din Torah and somehow manages to secure a verdict for a watch that that will magically make things better.
As stupid and moronic as I am, even I can see that that’s a silly idea.
The Wolf
I just read the notice on a torah mp3;
“???? ????? ??? ??????? ???’ ?????
??? ???? ??? ??? ?? ?”? ?? ??????? ??????, ??? ??? ?? ??????? ??? $100 ? ???, ?????? ?? ???? ?? ??????
“
I was fine with the Hebrew, but when it switched to Yiddish on line 2, I got lost. Can someone please translate the Yiddish for me?
Thanks,
The Wolf
The happiest person that I knew was a guy who truly internalized the maxim of “Who is rich, one who is satisfied with his lot.”
He wasn’t rich, but he wasn’t exactly in crushing poverty either. He was happy with what he had, grateful to both his human and Heavenly benefactors for what he had and never had a bad word to say about anyone.
The Wolf
How about we just say that the shidduch crisis is all my fault and call it a day?
The Wolf
Just wondering, is it that annoying to the Jews “outside” the Yeshivishe Velt?
I don’t consider myself yeshivish and do not find it annoying, provided its used in the proper context.
The Wolf
Why not? As the mishnah says ?? ?? ??? ???? ??? I find myself saying that a lot lately.
Ah, but does that get muddied up by the machlokes of efsher l’tzamtzem? If you can’t accurately define the unit of length (or time), how can you say you transgress exactly because of that amount? 🙂
The Wolf
then you can theoretically count every planck unit as a separate lav
Heh. I think that’s the first time I’ve ever heard anyone refer to a Planck unit of time in a halachic discussion. 🙂 What’s next? Do you transgress a separate lav for every Planck unit of distance you travel beyond the techum Shabbos? 🙂
The Wolf
Personally, I always favored phrenology. 🙂 Come here, let me feel the bumps on your head.
The Wolf
the very quote you responded to specified that the problem was one of claiming exclusivity of a particular person
Fair enough. But “my” doesn’t always *have to* be exclusive.
I can talk about my family, my country and my religion at great length, but none of them are mine exclusively. When people say “Oh my God” I don’t think they mean “Mine and mine alone.” They mean it in the same collective sense as the other items I mentioned.
The Wolf
thats “our” not “my”
I’m well aware of that. But it still addresses the person’s point.
The Wolf
A quick Google search turned up some people in Brooklyn who treat/counsel eating disorders, but no support groups. However, my search was less than thorough.
Perhaps his/her physician can recommend a group?
The Wolf
That is one can say “Oh G-d”, without the word “my”. Only a prophet can claim some type of exclusivity due to a very close relationship.
On the contrary, you do it twice every day when you say the first verse of Sh’ma. And with every bracha.
The Wolf
What do you think?
That you’ve just made people aware.
The Wolf
Where do you live?
The Wolf
As per Wikipedia:
Recipients of an honorary doctorate may if they wish adopt the title of “doctor”. In many countries, including the United Kingdom, Australia, New Zealand, and the United States, it is now a matter of personal preference should an honorary doctor use the formal title of “doctor”, regardless of the background circumstances for the award. Written communications where an honorary doctorate has been awarded may include the letters h.c. after the award to indicate the status.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honorary_degree#Practical_use
The Wolf
Laziness or ignorance isn’t a loss of suffrage.
My case wasn’t one of ignorance or laziness. My case was one of where a state has a deadline for filing for an absentee ballot (say Oct 1, for example) and then you decide (or get the opportunity) on Oct 15 to go on vacation through mid-November.
In such cases, if the person decides to go, he (in effect) loses his ability to vote.
But again, unless the government is *forcing* you to move right then, I fail to see how you have a case. You could, if you chose, simply move a bit earlier or a bit later (or not move at all) and not have a problem. The government isn’t taking away your right to vote — you are by moving at that particular date.
The Wolf
Have I lost my suffrage?
Possibly. The laws actually vary from state to state. But keep in mind that if you did lose it, you lost it through your choice. No government agency forced you to move on that date. It’s no different than asking if you lost your suffrage because you chose to go on vacation over Election Day after the deadline for asking for an absentee ballot passed.
If I have a seasonal residence, can I choose to register to vote there, rather than from my permanent residence? (If it will be the only place I so register.)
Consult the laws in the relevant states.
The Wolf
Actions speak LOUDER than words (and love notes, even if they are across your whole kitchen).
That’s true… but taking the trouble to compose, create and creatively hide the love notes *are* ACTIONS, not just words.
The Wolf
and it’s nice seeing how they save most of it for just the two of them.
And if that works for them, then all the more power to them. I’m not condemning anyone else’s choice of how they relate to their spouses — I’m just railing against those who say that it has to be “my way or the highway.”
The Wolf
Incidentally, my oldest was born on the second day of Succos, which, that year, turned out to be a Friday. Being the young, naive, unprepared wolf cub I was at the time, I had *nothing* for a Shalom Zachor that I needed to have *that night* in a succah (and I couldn’t buy anything because it was Yom Tov). On top of that, I had to spend most of the day walking around Brooklyn to tell people about the baby being born.
Fortunately, with the help of very kind friends, neighbors and families, a nice Shalom Zachor was managed.
The Wolf
Or else….
Or else what?
The Wolf
OK, let’s start at the beginning. Who is this “someone who knows his stuff?”
The Wolf
(Not that I’m saying you’re wrong… on the contrary, you may well be right. But if you’re going to make the case, there’s no reason you shouldn’t make it more forcefully by attaching a name to the statement — and since he said it in a shiur, it should not be a problem to reveal the name.)
Nevertheless, even though it is less restricting in front of immediate family, there still are restrictions even then.
Of course there are restrictions even then. There are things I won’t do even in front of my kids. But that’s not the same thing as saying that there can’t be *any* affection in front of the kids.
If I had to live my life where I had to be on-guard against showing any emotion except when we were alone in the bedroom, where I could not be myself in front of my kids and close family (and yes, loving my wife is a *very* big part of who I am) and where I had to treat my wife as simply my roommate in front of everyone else, I’d probably become miserable *very* quickly.
The Wolf
Completely? There are only 2 choices. You were just wrong.
Okay, okay. Poor choice of words. I said “completely wrong” because I was *convinced* (don’t ask me why, I have no idea) that that child was going to be the other gender.
The Wolf
The reason to “not know” is that you might start preparing for the baby before it is born. This is frowned upon because of “ayin Harah”. We wait until the baby is born healthy before we prepare for it, because we don’t want to give the baby an ayin harah. If you know you are having a boy, you might start painting the room blue, by the crib accessories, by the baby clothes, etc.
Do you think that the same people who can be trusted not to buy a crib and other baby furniture before birth can be trusted not to paint a room blue or buy crib accessories?
I think that if we can trust people not to buy major items before birth (which they’ll need regardless of the gender), then they can likely be trusted not to buy gender-specific stuff.
The Wolf
Wolf. I don’t know why you’re waisting so much time defending your position
I’m a glutton for punishment.
writting a loving note to your spouce is perefectly OK. So is holding hands and even a loving peck on the cheek. If you don’t like it don’t do it
You know, there is a stereotype out there that yeshivish and chassidic marriages are not very loving because they didn’t get to know each other before the wedding and they only dated X number of times or the marriage was arranged or whatever. But then they turn around and say “no, our marriage is very loving.” Without any evidence to the contrary, I’m inclined to believe them when they say this and disregard the stereotype.
But then, some of the same crowd say that it’s assur to express love to your wife or to show affection or the like, even in private*. So I’m sometimes left to wonder how these marriages can *possibly* be loving if the couple wasn’t allowed to get to know each other well beforehand AND they’re not allowed to show affection even in private *after* they’re married.
I’m forced to conclude that either the stereotype is correct (which I don’t really believe) or else some people say one thing but secretly do another.
The Wolf
*(Or, as MR so eloquently put it: …things of affectin between manand wife should be kept as little as possible and even then what theyre is should be kept private. Writing love notes is goyish and chukas akum. )
I was relating what was accepted as the norm in a large NY MO school.
And even assuming that that’s true, MO covers a *wide* range of observance. Yes, there are some who might do that, but I don’t think that you’ll find that that’s the mainstream MO definition of “eating out.” Not by a long shot.
I have quite a few MO friends and when we go to “eat out” it’s always in a kosher restaurant.
The Wolf
someone i know recently asked their Rav and he said not to because you may slip and tell ppl.
And the halachic problem with telling people the gender (assuming that it doesn’t matter to you whether they know or not) is…?
The Wolf
You are maskim that you walking around the house in pajamas in inappropriate?
I don’t know. I don’t do it, but that doesn’t make it inappropriate. Nonetheless, as I mentioned earlier, I don’t want to sidetrack the main discussion with this point about pajamas.
The Wolf
On second thought, don’t bother answering, because it’s really beside the point.
Can’t we simply agree that one’s immediate family is closer than one’s neighbors and that they will can (and should) have greater access to your private home life than your neighbors?
The Wolf
I can’t say running around your house in pajamas is an aveira, but I know of an adom gadol whose children never saw him in pajamas.
I didn’t say pajamas, I said pajamas and a robe.
Do *you* get *fully dressed* before going to the bathroom in the middle of the night?
The Wolf
(I guess it depends on how one defines “showing affection”).
Agreed. You can’t really address that until you make that definition.
The Wolf
Moses Mendelssohn also “knew something.” Even halacha.
And so? What does that have to do with the topic at hand?
The Wolf
it actually is a problem according to most. It has something to do with finding out the future, fortune telling, ect.
Two objections to this line of reasoning:
1. Do you listen to the weather forecast? If they tell you there is a 90% chance of precipitation or that it’s going to be cold tomorrow, do you believe them?
2. Even if you grant (although I can’t imagine way) that listening to a weather forecast is a problem, this is certainly better than that. With the weather, you are “predicting” the future. Here, however, you are determining the current state of something *right now.* You aren’t guessing if a baby *will be* a boy or girl but rather, what it is at this moment.
How is it any worse than looking at an X-ray to determine if a bone is broken?
The Wolf
Now that’s the problem. If you’re gonna fight (and I don’t recommend it), at least save it for when the kids aren’t around.
In theory, I agree with you 100%. But that doesn’t mean that it works that way in practice.
For the same general idea why you wouldn’t show affection in front of neighbors.
I won’t appear in front of my neighbors in anything other than full dress. Does that mean that if I get up in the middle of the night, I should fully dress before heading out to the bathroom? Is wearing pajamas and a robe not acceptable?
Or is it possible that the members of one’s household are a bit closer to you than the neighbors and can/should see some things that neighbors don’t?
The Wolf
Would you agree that in that case it wouldn’t be “hiding in shame”?
Granted, the “in shame” part may not apply, but it is still hiding because it’s “improper” in his particular circumstance.
The Wolf
but it is improper.
Please articulate way (specifically addressing one’s own children).
The Wolf
is one allowed to show affection to their spouse in front of their kids?
As one famous Rav explained it to me:
“Our kids get to see us fight and disagree. Why shouldn’t they see that we can love each other too?”
The Wolf
I think there’s a third option as well; see my earlier post, reason #3.
You’re right, but in reality, that’s just a particular case of my first option. In that case, he may feel that it’s wrong *for him*.
The Wolf
There are halochos about a Rebbe eating in front of his students
And yet, I’ve eaten at my rebbe’s house numerous times*. My sons have been at their rabbeim’s houses and eaten there too.
In fact, are there not halachos regarding leaning on the night of Pesach if one is sitting in front of one’s rebbe? Or was the intention that they would recite the hagaddah with their rebbe and then he’d go off and eat alone?
The Wolf
* And no MO he. He’s about as yeshivish as they come.