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A big thank you to “Dunno” for resurrecting this motivational healthy thread!
Leg aches are not always easy to diagnose the underline problem, which may be originating from a completely different muscle than one would think. Many lower leg pains (and in my experience) usually come from underdeveloped hip muscles and a weak core.
I have found that on the days that don’t include running, are best for cross training exercises (i.e. biking, rowing, elliptical, etc). Also, adding exercises like pilates and/or yoga to your routine is essential for building a strong core and stability for running successfully.
Don’t forget to add in some strength training to your routine as well (i.e. push ups, chin ups, free weights, etc).
There are times when running through the pain is not a bad idea, but some injuries require a rest/recovery time or one can potentially further injure themselves, and have an even longer recovery time.
Where exactly are the pains on your legs? Is it in one centralized area, or is it more of a radiating pain throughout an entire area? Is it a burning sensation, stinging, throbbing, or dull type of pain? When do you usually start feeling pain, and when does it feel better? Is it both your legs or just one?
Any additional information will help.
“When I was in shidduchim many years ago, a shadchanis once finished a rundown by telling me the girl’s dress size. I said, Thanks, but since I stopped wearing my sister’s dresses a few years ago, I’ve forgotten what that means.
Needless to say, I was never redt to the girl.”
telegrok – LOL Bravo!
Do people not realize that height, build and muscle has much to do with someone’s weight?
The average height for a girl is around 5’4, but there are a lot of girls who are either above this and below this “norm.”
There are plenty of women/girls who can be a size zero without being too skinny or have an eating disorder.
I know some tall girls with bigger sizes who look slim while I also know some short girls with smaller sizer look husky.
There’s a very fit individual who is 5’1/5’2 and usually a size 0 or a loose size 2. She looks fit, not “unhealthy.” So please don’t judge someone on their weight or size. By doing so, you may inadvertently cause eating disorder rumors about the person when in fact they are very healthy.
I’m not sure if anyone has mentioned this, but everyone should have a back up of their hard drive. If something should happen to your computer (virus, fire, stolen), it’s best to have a back up of anything you wouldn’t want gone forever. For instance, APPLE has this program called, “Time Machine,” which automatically backs up all your files. It might be a bit pricy to buy an external hard drive, but think of the cost of losing all your files, some of which you worked very hard on and depend on.
I want to thank everyone who took the time to daven for my niece. She is doing much better, but not exactly out of the woods just yet. I’ll keep you posted as her condition improves.
Your davening gives my sister great strength and bitachon. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.
batseven – I’m confused as well.
I learned that you are supposed to be dan lkaf zechus to your fellow Jew, and not immediately accuse them of doing wrong.
We don’t ask questions as to why you’re on the internet.
To each their own discretion.
I find it very acceptable and normal to go out with someone you’ve previously dated, even though at that time it didn’t particularly work out.
Everything happens for a reason. Maybe they weren’t “meant” to be wed just yet. Or perhaps some time has passed, and one or both parties matured since then. There are several explanations for situations such as this.
I have seen this happen many times in the shidduch/dating realm.
Here are a few Frum head covering websites I found;
Hope this helps!
aries2756, Thank you for that very heartfelt and informative post. It could not have come at a better time and I very much appreciated what you wrote. I also have a question, (you don’t have to answer if it is too personal); How long had time passed until you weren’t angry anymore, or resentful, and disbelieved in Him?
NY Mom – Thank you so much! She is doing much better, and staying strong. She is in stable condition, but still needs Tehillim.
I want to thank you all so much for your dedication, concern and tefillos. My niece, ALIZA CHAYA BAS MALKA CHANA’s surgery went very well. Her condition is improving, but still very serious. Please continue to daven for her. I will keep you posted for any change.
Thanks so very much for all your prayers, it means so much to me and my family!
My niece had a medical procedure done, which B’H went very well. She is still in critical condition and needs our prayers.
You are all amazing for giving your time to pray for my niece’s well-being. You show true Ahavas Yisroel !
NY Mom, Thank you so much for your compassion and prayers! She is still in very critical condition.
Thank You so much for your Prayers and Support! She is still in very critical condition.
Never lived long enough to ever know or meet them, but for those of you who have had the privilege of spending time with them, and knowing them, or those who are B’H still with us, please know, you are very blessed, and you shouldn’t take one second with them for granted.
How do you answer a curious youngster continuously asking “why” like a broken record?
Maybe he got a promotion at the YWN 😉
aj_briskdude, I don’t understand how “Not” smoking will force boys into acting in secular ways?
Addiction to smoking is obviously a negative habit, and yes an outlet for some as well, but it is a completely different act than going to pool halls or hanging out. I’m sorry, but one thing has nothing to do with the other. If anything, a pool hall, and “hanging out” will instigate smoking more so, than not doing those things period.
I’m an AK, but not sure how long the Coffee Room has been around, so I guess I’m a middle ager 🙂
Question is, anyone know who the First posters were?
happiest, I’m sorry you’re going through such a tough time right now. Everyone experiences “bad” days, but if they persist for an extended period of time, then you might want to talk to your Dr. about different medication options.
In my experience, writing everything down on paper, takes a huge load off my shoulders. That way, your problems are now safely written down, they aren’t going anywhere or getting lost. It will also help tremendously at your next therapy session to have all that information at hand.
Another thing is the “diagnosis” can be tricky for many doctors. It can sometimes be a combination of several “imbalances.” that are making you feel a certain way. They will try medication after medication before they find the proper “cocktail” which suites your specific needs.
I applaud you for the incredible bravery you possess to start a thread on this very sensitive topic. I have never met you, but just from this thread alone, I can tell how strong you are. Just imagine people you know, see all the amazing things you possess as an individual. Don’t sell your self short, you are much better than that.
If you need any further assistance, I will help in any way I can.Take care, and have a wonderful Chanukah!
Facebook I like for it’s ability to help keep us in contact with friends and family. Yes a phone call, a letter, or a knock on the door is best, but many people don’t have that luxury. So until we do, Facebook is a great way to connect.
As for Twitter, I… can’t… stand… it! LOL – Plus, Facebook has a similar feature of which I utilized during the marathon 🙂 Everyone knew where and when I passed each and every mile!
yankdownunder, Thanks! Anything to help!
bombmaniac, Love that story about you and your chavruse! You should share this with everyone, and please keep us informed on how everything is working out. Stay strong, while your spiritual health is healing, you are helping someone save their life.
Sometimes when someone is smoking for a long period, it starts becoming a crutch for them. When they are stressed, smoke. When depressed, smoke. When nervous, smoke. When bored, smoke. The list can go on and on. Just like some individuals who are obese, turn to “food” as an outlet.
The point is, when deciding to quick smoking, something has to take the place of the habit, otherwise, like any other “crutch” that falls, so will the person using it. Most importantly, the person must Want to quick before taking any other steps. People don’t realize that “wanting” to quit is the First step to rid themselves of the smoking habit. That “Want” to quit stage is not as easy as it may sound. It’s very hard for some people to get to that stage with positive intentions. Even those who have the “wanting” to quit step behind them, have a very long way to go.
Support, support, support, is very important for someone who’s trying to quit smoking. The more family and friends there are to give their love and support, understanding and uplifting, the better it will be for someone trying to break the habit.
Perhaps we can dedicate this thread to act as a “Support Group.” For those who smoke, want to quit, in the process of quitting, and those who are smoke free. Together, we can share our hardships, and triumphs as smokers and ex-smokers. As well as others to share what ever helpful knowledge they may want to contribute to the cause. Stories, and experiences. What made you start smoking? How did you quit smoking? What advice can we give our children to prevent them from smoking? and etc…
Chamanit, The marathon was 26.2 miles. That’s awesome to hear that you run in races as well! My first race ever was a 5k.
Ashreinu, Thank you so much for your kind words!
The race was absolutely incredible and magical, but there were times when things got so tough, I didn’t know if I was going to pass out or not. I may have shed a few emotional and physical painful tears from time to time. How I was able to crawl through that finish line still amazes me today when I think about the whole experience.
I would suggest for someone to train for a good full year for a marathon. Maybe even enter in some 5ks, 10ks, 1/2 marathons, etc races, while training, just to give yourself a feel for what the real race day could be like. I wish I could say that I trained for the proper amount of time, or that I read up on everything regarding racing, but I didn’t, and boy was that seriously irresponsible and dangerous of me. I trained very little prior to the race. I kept pushing off training, or only running here and there once in a while.
Come race day, I was incredibly nervous, my recent long runs were no more than 8 miles. As I began to run, I felt as if I was gliding along the paths. This feeling stayed strong within me for the first 15 miles which was done in 3 hours exactly. Then suddenly I felt sick to my stomach, my knees were giving out, I had the shivers. I slowed down significantly, but I didn’t allow myself to stop because I knew that the moment I stopped moving, I would not be able to go on with the race. After some tears, nausea, chills, and some purging, not to mention how much pain I was experiencing, I made it through the finish line. And to top it off, the volunteers, and cheerers were absolutely incredible! (Not to mention the nice solid medal they gave me the moment I passed the finish).
As I may have mentioned before, not too long ago I started having this love for running. To elaborate on that “love” and “experience” would take me literally hours to write.
Thank You All for the amazing support, and good luck to those who are in the midst of training for a race. To all those avid runners out there, keep up the amazing work, and if you are thinking about, or in the process of becoming a runner, don’t give up, anything you accomplish, even if it’s less than a mile, it’s more than you would do if you had not picked up your feet to begin with.
Craigslist. It’s free and easy, even a caveman can do it.
Chops, how snug are the restraints when your child is in the car seat? If the buckles aren’t undone when she escapes, she may not be in tight enough. Also, make sure she is in the proper car seat for her weight, and age.
NY Mom, Thanks for that helpful reminder and for keeping this thread alive.
Here’s one for the kiddies out there:
A man walks into a bar…….
But seriously, running a marathon doesn’t come close to the brave individuals who have to endure such dreadful illnesses. They are the real heros!
Awe Thanks so much everyone!
It (somewhat) reminded me of having a baby.
While going through the pain and agony you think, “I will never do this again, what was I thinking, Waaaa.”
Then a few days pass, and you think, “okay, I’m ready for another!” (maybe more time needs to pass after having a baby though lol).
Ebay used to be a great selling ground for small time folks to make a little money. Ebay today, has become very large. So big in fact that they don’t care about their “small timers” anymore. Only the customer and “big” time sellers are what matters to them. I have been forced to stop dealing with Ebay because of how terrible I (and many others) have been treated by them.
A seller cannot give negative feedback to a buyer, even if the buyer defaults on the payments.
When a buyer doesn’t pay for the item they bid on and “won,” Ebay does not fully compensate the seller on their loses (listing fees etc).
So now, how can the sellers differentiate between the “bad” buyers from the “good?”
This is just One of the many issues small time sellers have with Ebay.
mybat, Thanks! 🙂
MaKesher, It has nothing to do with how the individual looks, it comes down to their deteriorating health. Medical Science has proven smoking to hinder your lung capacity, and your lungs play a major role in giving the person the ability to run over 26 miles. (Among all the other damage smoking does to our health)
NY Mom, Thanks! It was incredible! Even though I thought my legs would fall off, I actually finished the 26.2 miles! I never thought my body was capable of doing such things. There were times I wanted to cry, but I somehow crawled myself through that finish line, alive!
Bais Yaakov maydel, Thanks so much!
It was an amazing event! I want to thank everyone who cheered us on!
How did it go for the rest of you?
One thing is for sure, you wont see smokers running the NYC Marathon!
NY Mom, Yep! Thanks so much for the encouragement, and information. I need all the help I can get. This is going to be my first marathon, so I’m extremely nervous.
It was nice seeing Jewish people at the Expo yesterday. There was also a Jewish family who had a booth there. Hope everyone got their bibs already, I only found out only a week before the expo, that you have to pick it up there Thursday, Friday and Saturday, because they don’t mail it or give it out on race day.
The NYC Marathon is This Sunday! Anyone running it?October 28, 2009 8:00 pm at 8:00 pm in reply to: Tznius Support Group PLEASE WOMEN ONLY, even reading #665235
NY Mom, That is seriously awesome, You are an inspiration.
An individual can quit only when they really “Want” to quit. Even with the Nicotine Patch, Nicotine Gum, Zyban, etc. doesn’t help. If they don’t have the desire to quit smoking, then trying to quit will most likely fail them. Sometimes life does force them to quit (shidduch, baby, family, friend, job, health). But if they aren’t careful, they can C’V fall right back into this dangerous habit. I’m not talking from hearsay, or from what I’ve read, this all comes from experience.
When someone starts spewing hate towards another person, and if his “freedom of speech,” has the potential to instigate a riot, or other dangers towards others, he has “overstepped” the boundaries of that right.
– That is what I was trying to get across, when I was referring to the act of abusing the Bill of Rights. A “hate speech” has it’s limitations.
Because shopping carts are used so frequently with children, I wanted to share this very helpful information from the American Academy of Pediatrics:
As shopping cart-related injuries are common and can result in severe injury or even death, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that parents consider alternatives to placing children in shopping carts, until carts are redesigned to prevent injury.
In 2005, more than 24,000 children were treated in U.S. hospital emergency rooms for shopping cart-related injuries. Most of these injuries occurred when a child fell from a shopping cart, the cart tipped over, the child became entrapped in the cart, or the child fell while riding on the outside of the cart.
If you decide to put your child in a shopping cart anyway, then follow these rules:
-Ensure that the child is properly secured in an effective and age- and size-appropriate belt or harness.
-Place your child in a safety belt or harness at all times when in a shopping cart.
-Never leave your child alone in a shopping cart.
-Do not let your child stand up in a shopping cart.
-Do not place an infant carrier on top of the shopping cart.
-Do not put your child in the basket.
-Never allow your child to ride on the outside of a cart.
-Do not allow an older child to climb on the cart or push the cart with another child in it, because it is very easy for a child to tip the cart over.
Sorry about all the misunderstandings regarding my previous post. I’d like to clarify my objective if I may. “Hate Speech,” as in the manner of a direct violent verbal/visual assault against someone(s), not in a general way of speaking.
It’s possible to be defined as both a right and privilege. It is a right if we respect and uphold the letter of the law, and not look for loopholes. It becomes a privilege when people abuse those rights, and therefore are in danger of having it taken away from them. It is referred to as the Bill of “Rights.” As Americans, we posses the “right,” to perform specific acts, which cannot be fringed upon by our government because we are protected by the Bill of Rights. But, there are various occasions, where the government can take away those rights if they are abused in specific situations.
Smoking is one of those “rights” which can be accosting others. Which is why different parts of the country are banning such acts in specific areas.
aaryd621, Yes, as Americans, we have many “rights.” But the moment those “rights” impede other peoples wellbeing, we give up that “right.” Freedom of speech is a “right” according to the First Amendment, but that privilege is soon taken away, the moment you use that right to give a hate speech aimed at a group of people.
Public smoking, causes second hand smoking diseases, which in some ways is like committing murder. Think about those you are hurting. C’V a pregnant woman’s unborn baby. A parent, a child, a friend, or perhaps, one of your loved ones.
Speaking of short car rides. Some people think since they are only going one block, or back into a parking spot, they don’t have to secure their child. Wrong.
A few years ago, a parent was parking their car in the driveway, and thought nothing of it to fasten their 2 year old in a car seat. Another car crashed into them, and the child went through the windshield. Thank God, the child survived, but he sustained major facial traumas, and other serious injuries. It is imperative that a child be properly secured, even when making the “smallest” of trips.
In Israel, boys and girls as young as ten, “openly” smoke more than the children in America. That is because there are no consequences for the children smoking in Israel, as there are in America. Whenever I’m in Israel, and I see a kid smoking a cigarette, I snatch it out of his/her mouth. At that age, giving them a pep talk isn’t enough to get their attention. Blatantly taking control of the situation is the only way to at least make some kind of dent.
plonisalmonis, It’s ok to disagree with me. After all, I’m not a practicing physician, it’s only my opinion from various experiences and study 🙂
When you went to the doctors, what was their diagnosis for your condition? Did they specify it to be an allergy or eczema? If you were told what it is, did they give any possibilities of what it might stem from?
You mentioned that you’ve had it for several years, this could mean it is a chronic condition, which you will just have to upkeep. I know this is a long shot, but have you tried “Gold Bond – Ultimate – Healing Lotion?” I had very chapped hands (to the point where they bled), one winter. I tried tons of lotions and creams, but nothing helped, until I tried that specific Gold Bond. It worked like a charm. When I lathered it on, my hands immediately felt soothed and calm.
It is very upsetting to hear that the doctors have not given you a proper diagnosis or treatment for your situation. Have they ever tried you on a prescription strength topical steroidal cream?October 19, 2009 9:40 pm at 9:40 pm in reply to: Tznius Support Group PLEASE WOMEN ONLY, even reading #665186
SJSinNYC, I personally know of Rabbaim, Who would give a heter to a woman for specific, personal reasons. Although, they would also tell the women to cover their hair for special occasions, such as, going to Shul, Davening and or saying a brocha, and when listening to someone else make a brocha (i.e. kiddish). Even if a lot of women ask the same question, doesn’t mean they are going to get the same answers. Everyone is unique, ergo, their circumstances may vary as well.October 18, 2009 8:01 pm at 8:01 pm in reply to: Tznius Support Group PLEASE WOMEN ONLY, even reading #665159
I am not claiming to be the most Tzniot individual out there, but I’d like to express my opinion on the matter. Women are intelligent beings, but they are human as well, so you can understand how dressing Tzniot can be a challenge.
The intellectual part of us asks;
Why dress in this specific manner, What are the reasonings to do so, How should one know what is permitted and what isn’t?
Our materialistic instinct suggest;
But this outfit is so cute, If She can dress like that so can I, But this outfit compliments my figure so well.
People need to be educated in something before they can commit to it. There should be Tzniot classes that offer a wider spectrum of “levels.” You can’t have a former Bais Yaakov student learning at the same “speed” as someone who never learned their Aleph Bet. When they hold these Tzniot meetings, most of the women who should be going don’t because they are afraid of the reactions they might get when stepping into a room full of very Tzniot clad women. Most of the women who know the rules and reasons are getting REeducated, while those who don’t attend, don’t even have the step to guide them into Modesty.
(p.s. There are several women from Bais Yaakov backgrounds, who are starting from scratch as well).
I believe the big “purse” theory was created for the “modern” average woman, to make “it’s” surroundings appear smaller by comparison. Clothing sizes have changed (in the recent 50 years) to accommodate this ever “growing” trend, so why not other items such as purses, sunglasses, jewelry…