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then drop him.

Would a beis din apply the death penalty in the particular situation under discussion? Eidim? Hasrah? Right wing or left wing, the case that began the discussion, would there be a psak misa by a beis din given the circumstances?

Shadchanim? It is difficult to make a statement about todays shadchanim since I am married more than 18 years and have no children in the “parsha” right now. My experience from 18+ years ago though tells me that your statement is ridiculous. Perhaps things have changed.

Depends where you place the center.

Joseph, whatever floats your boat. Just stay away from my wife, and her ice cream.

I already told you, the threads are tznius. People are to caught up in the specifics of other peoples wives and daughters. What more would you like to know, my wifes vestos details? Would you like to know what mikvah she uses and offer your approval?

18 years. every day, it sits on top of the coffee table.

You may not like the idea and it may not sit will with at all, but the idea of public recognition for those who give tzedaka is firmly rooted in halacha. See the RMA in Yoreh Deah (Hilchos Tzedaka) Siman Reish Mem Tes Sif Kattan Yud Gimmel. See the Taz and what the other nosei keilim say about it. I dont own one, but I would very much like to see the Rashba that this RMA is based on.

I’m familiar with facebook, the “scenes” you describe in the catskills, e”y etc. (I’m a father of 3 teenagers). I also have my own ideas why teens from “mainstream” yeshivas and beis yackovs end up this way. I think it starts with telling teens they are on the express to gehennom for going bowling with their friends of the same gender, (at a time when members of the opposite gender are not their no less) or playing basketball for an hour instead of using bein hasdarim to learn even more. It comes from weighing every action, thought and word spoken against “what will be with your shidduch!” threats from parents and teachers alike. Put anyone under enough stress and they will look to relieve themselves from it, whether you like it (or the methods chosen) or not. I think every parent should do what they feel is best for their own kids (with input from their rabbonim/rabbeim/madrichim who truly know these children) and not rely on “well thats what they say works”. Your child is not their child, and your teenager is not their teenager. Chanoch LiNaar Al Pi Darko does not mean making every child fit the cookie cutter mold (although I admit, it makes parenting in the short term a whole lot easier). do what is best for your kid, and ignore everyone else. Dont worry about the yentas or your childrens shidduchim. You raise healthy, wholesome torah true yidden, you will find them a shidduch (with apologies to NASI and their numbers game).

Is there an issur yichud between trills and cardassians?

What did she lose? All those years of doing what you call acts against halacha, were years she lost out on zechusim etc…, yes she turned it around, good for her, in fact she gets schar for that.

What did you gain? All those zechusim, I wouldn’t minimize them in the least.

The bigger problem the way I see it, is that your attitude is off. You seem to imply that being straight during your formative years is a means to a goal of getting a wonderful spouse. It is a goal unto itself! I tell my own teenage children, don’t determine your actions based on whether this will get you a good shidduch, determine your course of action based on whether this is ratzon hashem and if it helps you grow in torah and yiras shamayim.

That passuk comes to mind almost every time I read something in the CR.

Chilled = hefker? People tell ME that I am chilled, I’m the last person they would also call hefker.

Again. What is the corrolation between chilled and violating halacha? Please define chilled.

The Kitzur shulchan Aruch siman kuf ayin vuv, paskens, since we are not experts in how chazal defined “rachin” and “kashin”, we should always be machmir (I’m assuming others have some familiarity with the sugya by using these terms). Do you plan on sitting on this rug? Walking barefoot on this rug? These factors might come into play when you ask your Rav this shayla (if it turns out the rug contains shatnez).

“why is shatnez a problem you aren’t wearing it?”

Midirabanan it is. the braisa of “esser metsiyos” is brought down in a number of places. See Beiya yud daled amud beis near the bottom, for example.

Unless you are texting your bakashos to the ribbono she’ll olam.

The post and news are called tabloids for a reason. Their standards are not that much greater than the enquirer and some of the other gossip rags that assault you near the checkout counters in major supermarkets.

I think we can safely rule out that Iyov is not Joseph.

Got it. The way I see it, (and I could be 100% wrong) I am not obligated to support a persons smoking (or drinking – or – insert your own vice here) habit.

The reason hoods are not allowed, is because they are looking to one up their competitor down the street. Give it a year and most will have adopted the no hood policy, so to stand out, someone will ban sweatshirts altogether.

To the great thread graveyard in the sky.

Now if he would call him a hemmoroid…..

Its a machlokes beis shammai and bais hillel.

I don’t have a psak from a Rav nor do I know if what I am doing is halachicly correct…..I have a policy not to give anyone who smells of cigarette smoke or alcohol (it goes without saying if they are drinking or smoking I surely won’t give them).

The bungalow colony I was at several summers ago, asked if the women were allowed at the pool area while the men were swimming (to watch their own children – not to hang out with the men), they were told that while technically it isnt assur, they should do whatever is possible to avoid having to have women at the pool area during mens swim. Regarding men walking around the colony in bathing suits, the rav just shrugged his shoulders and wondered out loud why anyone would want to do that…