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Never been to Tel Aviv, but the beach in San Juan Puerto Rico, wow. That is one beautiful part of the world.
Can someone post a link to this list of kosher websites? If not, does anyone know who is behind this list and who gives the hechsher on every site listed on that list? (the link to the list would be so much easier).
Wolf. There is an old saying, he who makes the rules, gets to break the rules. Around here, we don’t make the rules. Now, if the city of NY would advertise on this site, links to the NYC website would work just fine. Kessef yaaneh es hakol.
Is it true, alcohol lowers ones inhibitions?
Forget the person. Is the hat a yiray shamayim?
If someone would tell me that wearing a black hat (or a purple cardigan) improves their yiras shamayim, I would tell them to make sure to own one for each day of the week and a super nice one for shabbos. Just wearing it because it is an identifier, is not necessarily a bad thing, but other choose other identifiers to also connote “ben torah”. Lastly, what does it mean to a person when they make the statement that they belong to a certain group? Belonging to a certain group, does it improve your yiras shamayim, or your shidduch prospects?
The Rambam lists “rosho miguleh” (uncovered head) as one of the things that is miakev tefilla. The Rambam makes no stipulation regarding the color, material, number of pinches, style of brim, size of brim, tilt, color of feather or even if a feather is required, for this head covering.
I dont think it is Kiruv Krovim as much as it is, ensuring that the Krovim are being taught the proper things. I’m willing to bet that many people who are considered “krovim”, couldnt name the 13 ani maamins (may not even know there are 13), and if they could recite them, how many could actually explain them.
“How dare anyone call them innocent???”
Speak to your Rav.
“Rabbi JB Solavatchik told him (in usual way..) to that kovod Shabbos would be for him to wear his hat in the heat.”
With the emphasis on kovod shabbos. In no way does this imply that this same man should or must wear one during the week. Nor does it imply that the hat must be made of black felt. It could have been yellow straw.
If you see a man in tights he may be superman, he may not. Even the big S on his chest might indicate nothing more than this man is a supervisor. I sat next to an African American man on the subway this morning who was wearing a black felt hat. Does that make him a yeshiva man?
“It is part of the uniform of a Yeshiva man. It indicates one is a member of the Yeshiva community much the same way fatigues uniform indicates one is a member of the military”
Not all branches of the military wear fatigues. Naval personnel for example do not, yet are members of the miliiary. Similarly, one may wear a black hat, yellow hat, purple hat or no hat at all and still be a member of the group known as “yeshiva men”.
Which dont?
In theory, anyone can help anyone else by listening to and speaking with them. The reverse is also true. Of course, one must truly want to be helped otherwise they are wasting everyones time.
I’m saying the analogy is not all that clear. I’m not saying what you should or should not do, that’s your Ravs job.
Pardon the sarcasm. One must have utmost respect for the “best guy in the yeshiva”. So he has a few faults such as, doesn’t learn anything, skips davening and ignores his wife when she tries speaking with him, she must still respect him.
“It’s a wifes job to respect her husband, period!”
Interesting.
I dont know what the halacha is. I try to follow the guidelines as set down by the shul I am davening in. In my neighborhood there is a shul that has a posted policy that asks all collectors to refrain from collecting from yishtabach until after shmone esrei. Another that has a posted notice asking all to refrain from collecting in the shul the entire davening and others with no request at all. I assume, rightly or wrongly that the Rav of the shul has done his homework before posting the request.
I remember an incident that occurred in the shul that instituted the “no collecting during davening”, shortly after the policy went into effect. Someone related the following story to the Rav of the shul. 250 years ago, the leaders of the city of Vilna (parnassei hair?) wanted to enact a takanah that nobody be allowed to collect tzedaka in the streets, and instead should go to the gabbai. They felt that it would improve the decorum in the streets. They wanted the Haskamah of the Gra before enacting this takanah. He replied, why come to me, this was already approved by the Vaad Arbah Aratzos. They came back later and said to the Gra, we checked through the seforim of the Vaad and we can not find such a takanah. He replied, you misunderstoood, the Arbah Aratzos I was talking about are Sedom etc.. (yes, some were taken aback at the brashness of this fellow and the implicaiton of the story). The Rav told him, i am aware of the story, and your analogy of the shul policy to that story is flawed. I am wiling to discuss it with you in my office after davening. What happened during the discussion, I dont know, but the policy is still in effect.
The analogy to Avraham Avinu is flawed in several ways.
As has been pointed out, Avraham ran to the orchim, they did not approach Avraham. Moreover, Avraham did not come to hashem to ask for his daily needs. Hashem came to visit Avraham. Do you feel it is appropriate to approach a king or even a local politician and petition him for your needs and then run off to give tzedaka to someone? would Avraham have run over to the Orchim had he approached hashem? You may certainly speculate that he would have, but you just dont know. The analogy is faulty.
Level of service should certainly be a factor. Ever shop in a 7-11 or other store open to all hours of the night? ever buy something at a rest area on the highway? The prices are higher because they are extending a level of service that others do not and incur a cost in passing along that service as well.
I think the responders should have asked her to determine exactly what this “night owl” is engaged in during these waking hours. it is quite possible that whatever activity(ies) he is engaged in, keeps him thoroughly exhausted. One respondent touched on this a little by suggesting that perhaps our night owl should schedule his learning for the night instead of the morning.
As a husband: The nicest present my wife ever gave me was a nice supper together with the whole family, children, parents, in-laws and siblings. Was most appreciated. The other presents received were an added bonus.
Unless he works the night shift, what “late night activities” are available to the avg frum male that leaves him so exhausted that he can’t get up at 10am? Is he a musician with a gig every night and stays to play till after the mizva tantz? Is he in the beis medrash learning? Is he out eating sushi with other night owls till 2am? I think his late night activities, and her lack of knowledge of them, is what is really bothering her.
Didnt read the question, and obviously none of the answers. the way it is presented here leads me to believe that this couple is headed to divorce in 18 months or less.
1: It was said that the husband is a night owl? What is he doing so late at night? Working? playing dungeons and dragons online (or worse)?
2: Has anyone spoken to the husband about the importance of tefilla bitzibur and tefilla bizman (I suppose it is possible to “chap” a shachris at 11am if one lives in the right neighborhood)?
3: When he finally does get up and about, does he go learn? What DOES he do from 11am till he reaches the 2nd half of the day when he starts working. What are his work hours? Perhaps he works the 3pm to 11pm shift and really IS exhausted?
The possibilities are endless.
From her side. Has SHE ever spoken to her husband about the importance of davening and how it is important to her that her husband davens bizman and with a minyan? Is she afraid to? Has she ever spoken to her husband about his nigh time activities? Unless he is working the night shift and she knows why he is up so late, perhaps she should discuss this with her husband as well?
In defense of the answers provided, the responders unfortunately are handed a question and must answer and “dont be stupid and speak to your husband before you come crying to us” is not something the editors allow from the panel. They are stuck with trite drivel. They cant answer anything else because they really dont know whats going on.
“show me a source you cannot use the bathroom in public”
Surely you mean “Can”, not “canno”. Didnt you already mention siman gimmel in orach chaim?
For some reason a nursing woman properly covered up doesn’t bother me or make me uncomfortable, in any way. On the other hand, when a woman pulls out her makeup bag and starts to make herself up….
Think aloud all you wish. Females tend to be more respectful of other peoples space, therefore, if I do sit next to a female or one sits down next to me I don’t have to be concerned with sharing my seat with anyone. Their male counterparts on the other hand sit down and spread out as if half the subway car is reserved for them and it doesn’t matter if someone else already occupies that space.
Let me ask you. Would you prefer I stand next to a female instead of sitting? Does it matter if I was sitting first? Would you prefer I wait for the next train, or perhaps walk to my destination? Please elucidate.
You are also assuming that I choose to sit next to a female, which is not the case. I did say that I WILL sit next to one and I have found that they are more civilised than males resulting in a more relaed trip.
“Murder in Itamar ~~~~ whose fault?”
The murderer(s).
“apushatayid: Why do you find it more comfortable to sit next to gentile females than next to gentile males?”
They tend to be more civilised when compared to their male counterparts.
Of course, another frum man to discuss the parsha with is the ultimate seat mate, but doesn’t happen often.
In 20 years of commuting to and from Brooklyn, Manhattan and NJ on the NYC subway, NJ Transit and Path, I have found it much easier (relaxing and enjoyable if such words could be used to describe a commute) to sit next to non jewish females than males of any religion. Frum females, especially married ones seem to be highly uncomfortable of males, of any color, race or religion and particularly frum males next to them. It appears that the proliferation of ipods, tablets etc have made people less aware of their surroundings and people are becoming less aware (concerned?) of who is sitting or standing next to them.
Nebach was directed towards BPT and his blue stitching story.
Would you like Avreichim to pay too?
My 4G smartphone has not done anything unkosher, and it doesn’t plan on it either.
Nebach.
White shirt, black pants is a de facto uniform. So much so, that my son who wears light blue shirts and blue pants is considered the class goy
LSH. I can tell you what I think, but am in no way telling you this is the halacha. For that, ask your Rav.
My opinion. No.
I asked my own Rav a similar question and he told me “I wouldnt pay $18 for a CD” is not a valid reason that you “would not have bought it anyway”. What you are really saying is “why buy it, if I can get it free!” which goes back to the point of taking away a sale from someone.
I disagree, Kobe is better than LeBron.
The link I provided is in the name of Rav Belsky Shlita. Did you read the psak at the link provided? It explains the rational for the rule of thumb.
Livisumei is the aramaic word to drink? get drunk? please explain.
“on till”. I certainly cant compete with THIS lomdus.
http://www.torah.org/learning/honesty/class64.html
This sentence seems to be the main point of the article. Please read entire article though for elaboration.
“The guideline here involves whether or not what you’re doing is taking away a sale from the owner.”
Livisumay. Do you use a shpritz of scotch or bourbon for this mitzvah? If you smell like barf, are you yotze?
“I belive you are not supposed to say YUCH , Disgusting , but rather I really want to eat that Crab or Lobster but that the TORAH forbids it.
Why would anyone want to eat those imitation crab things anyway, they taste like Rubber”
Hmmm….
Your doctor, a good nutritionist or dietician will work up a meal plan suitable for you and your lifestyle. Eating right along with excercise is the only healthy way to lose weight. I’ve tried to lose 25 pounds for almost 3 years. Never got down more than 5 pounds, before putting it right back on. About 7 weeks ago I started with a nutritionist and follow a meal plan and excercise regimen and am losing on avg 1.3 pounds per week every week. Admittedly, it is very hard to stick to a plan, especially when there is a bar mitzvah in shul and 4 types of kugels, all the herring you could want, cake and chulent staring you in the face. I have not mastered self control when it comes to food, so I say mazel tov and go home. Hopefully in 6 months time, self control will be real easy.
“In any event, with FB, I never see other people’s posts in my
feed.”
OK. Then friend away. Just friend away with seichel.
Bezras hashem all couples will grow old and wrinkled together till 120 years. how important will your spouses looks be when they are helping you to the bathroom, or helping you eat 60 years from now? sure, its a factor, but to make it the only factor or most important factor might be a sign of immaturity. a bachur or bachura who has a rebbe or madricha that they are close to is always 1 step ahead of the game. everyone should have one.
wolf: I dont know how facebook works completely. It is my understanding that information is made available to friends, friends friends and so on, so that I may end up with information I dont ever want. I can control who I see and who I speak with in the real world. In cyberspace, I cant control who posts what, when, where and how if I was opened to it as a friend.
Shlishi. May I suggest you take a class in reading comprehension?
I am the author of the skunk comment. Please reread what I wrote. Then, please reread what you wrote in response. If you STILL think I alledge that there are some as ugly as skunks, please take the suggested class.
Facebook proves the statement of Chazal, chavrecha dichavra, chavra is leh (your friends friend has a friend). I dont have a facebook account (is this correct term?), so cant say this with certainty, but you can choose who you friend, but you cant choose who your friends friends and you certainly cant control who your friends friend, friends.
Everyone is makpid on looks to some degree. Is there anyone who isn’t makpid that their spouse not look like a skunk (aside from other skunks)? Some are just more makpid than others.
When we were first married, we lived in an apartment building on a middle floor. We had neighbors, above, below and on 2 sides of us. We had many of the same problems mentioned by various people here. This is not the place for specifics, but when we spoke to a Rav he told us that everyone has a right to love in an apartment “normally”. Walking around your apartment, in a pair of shoes (this was one of the specific issues that came up) on a wooden floor is considered normal. If it bothers the tenant below, let them buy earplugs or move (or learn to live with it). The only obnoxious behavior that anyone really had from any neighbor was from those who smoked and caused a stench in others apartments. The Rav called it “giri dilay” among other things and told him to take his smokes outside where it wouldnt bother anyone.