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  • in reply to: Lev Tahor Proclamation #2033217
    Ash
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    @ujm said:
    <i>How can you believe accusations from people that left their community, especially if they left in some disputed circumstances?</i>

    Yes, of course we <b>do</b> give heed to the words of Jews who have left this group. Ignoring those the few that went secular, most of the ex-members of LT reamined frum. The only reason we would discount a Torah yid who makes serious accusations against another, is under dinei loshon horah. Even under dinei loshon horah, the din of “michash miboi” and “kolo dlo posik” clearly applies here.

    We could be very suspicious, and I think there’s enough evidence that it can all be 100% beleived.

    Even without evidence from the inside (ex-members etc), anyone who does research on LT and look at the difference between a cult and a (lmoshol) chassidus, it’s very clear LT is a cult.

    Slavishly following the Rebbe like he’s G-d, or having extreme “kashrus”, and very restricted learning is only one aspect, and indeed one that’s harder to distinguish from true chassidus so it’s a red herring. (That said, there’s no chassidus that has all 3 of these extremes, and many more – except LT.)

    A chassidus does not ostracise those that leave it for another chareidi derech, and enforce entirely cutting off anyone that leaves even from their own family left behind.

    That’s without mentioning ask the other cultish aspects, such as the way medication and punishment is built into their system with the pretence that it’s yahadus and halacha.

    Lev lachim should rescue these poor neshomos.

    in reply to: Lev Tahor Proclamation #2033219
    Ash
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    In York, the accounts say they did kill them. But it’s very different comparing a vadai babtisim (as in 1100s it was absoutely certain they would be forced or killed immediately), and a horoas shoh from baalei tosofos who were present in that tower, from present day when, even if their children were removed it’s NOT a vadai that havroas hadaas will happen.

    And if the argument here is that it’s “mutar” in their preceived ciscumstances to murder children, then I think they should loudly proclaim that this proclamation is real and they are indeed prepared to murder children rather than allow removal from the cult. I think we all know how the yiddishe world will react.

    in reply to: Sleeping in the sukkah #2019187
    Ash
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    there are question marks because there were originally Hebrew words. Threads from a few years back containing Hebrew got garbled during their forum upgrade a few years ago (probably due to not taking into account encoding changes e.g. from utf16 to utf8). It’s a shame they haven’t managed to fix this.

    in reply to: ADHD can be an expression of the creative mind #2019115
    Ash
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    @ADHD if your condition has let to marriage problems, that’s serious. Too serious for internet forum advice. ADHD. Call Relief for recommended therapists and professional help, first yourself but with a goal too progress to couple therapy (with a therapist by Relief).

    in reply to: ADHD can be an expression of the creative mind #2018377
    Ash
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    @philosopher You’re out of date. ADHD does not neccessarily mean someone can’t sit still, or is incapable of concentrating. yes, the name is misleading but it’s here to stay.

    A major subtype, “Inattentive ADHD” is chracterised by a restlessness of thought, and the inability to concentrate on something that’s not interesting/stimulating but zero hyperactivity (even in childhood). It’s a major disorder, because few of us will go through life with learning or work that’s intersting/stimulating 100%, or even 65% of the time and so we may fail continually.

    In an ideal world, these teens could skip yeshiva and work in a craetive job but in practice most children would not want to skip yeshiva, which itself would get them labelled as very non-typical, but get help & meds and go through our (admittedly conformist) system.

    I speak as an adult with family who got through schooling and even yeshiva without major upset (although yeshiva was a deeply unhappy time, feeling like a failure for not being able to sit through a 90% of the sedorim), but the real cruch came to settling down with work.

    I had to quit my employment because I couldn’t do just get my job done, and failed again at running my own business because I was unable to focus on business goals that were profitable rather than interesting to me. I spent years changing the focus of my work and burning money without much profit.

    Finally I’ve been diagnosed as being ADHD and I’m on meds after decades of denial and it makes a massive difference. By now, I also need coaching from a lifetime of bad habits caused by ADHD. I deeply mourn the fact that I wasn’t diagnosed before adulthood.

    According to your criteria I would never have been “labeledl” ADHD, just creative, out-of-the-box thinker and all manner of good things but BH this label has made me be able to provide for my family and start repairing years of uttter fustration in trying to have a productive day.

    It’s vitally important that ADHD children are diagnosed (what you would term “labelled”) because otherwise the risk of failure at yeshiva or work is massive.

    in reply to: ADHD help #1982763
    Ash
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    Dear ADHD,

    I feel your pain as an adult with untreated ADHD.

    i can only echo @bigissy that if with current meds, it’s still affecting your marriage and mental health then it’s vital to <u>stay<u> with a good psychiatrist who can adjust and review the meds until you’ve got a level that works for you.

    If your marriage setup is that your wife needs you to babysit 7-8pm, but that the meds have worn off by then and it’s torture to just sit with the kids, then either (most likely) you probably need longer-lasting meds, perhaps with melatonin (crefully timed) to make sure you can still get to sleep.

    Or instead offer to get the kids ready for school in the morning when the meds are working fine, and explain that ideal babysitting for you in the evening is torture? Or perhaps it’s necessary to get a nightly babysitter no matter the expense.

    Playing video games with kids everytime you’re babysitting would drive any wife crazy, so perhaps music, an exciting book or something else can work that makes it possiblef or you to bear the understimulating activity of babysitting without resorting to activities that make it bearable for you, but aren’t an ideal way to take care of child. I find having a shiur/podcast/music on with wireless earphones and ability to pause with 1 button press makes it possible to watch the kids but also be there when needed.

    Take your wife with to psychiatrist! It’s vital she’s with you on the journey and understands your condition and realises what is and isn’t possible.

    And yes ADHD has many advantages, it’s part of your character and she married you

    Finally maybe try ADHD coaching e.g. Abraham (Avrohom) Beurer 845-459-3164. It’s costs money but can be cheaper than having real marriage issues and requiring couple therapy.

    in reply to: Internet filter #1857882
    Ash
    Participant

    Call TAG. They are the experts.

    But if you’re desperate for anonymous internet advice then I’d use NetSpark, most of those mentioned above aren’t good.

    in reply to: Yiddish at Siyum hashas #1751943
    Ash
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    The bickering here is fun by entirely besides the point.

    Clearly the siyum attendees, much like the posters here will have strong opinions whether the droshos should be in English or Yiddish.

    Unlike the posters here, they provide a simple solution in order to keep sholom: simultaneous translation.

    Some complained that they couldn’t hear on their phones but the solution is just as simple: bring along big headphones and plug in to your phone.

    In the UK siyum they don’t rely on phones but have a radio broadcast system with special headphones which seems to work just fine

    So mods, can we close the thread? 🙂

    in reply to: Lev Tahor and other frum cults- and don’t misunderstand me #1628332
    Ash
    Participant

    Slavishly following the Rebbe is only one aspect, and indeed one that’s harder to distinguish from true chassidus so it’s a red herring (or a trollish attempt to bash Lubavitch).

    Chassidus, even Lubavitch, does not ostracise those that leave it for another chareidi derech, and enforce entirely cutting off anyone that leaves even from their own family left behind.

    That’s without mentioning ask the other cultish aspects, such as the way medication and punishment is built into their system with the pretence that it’s yahadus and halacha.

    in reply to: STOP MULTIPLYING!!! #1422740
    Ash
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    My preferred response would be to stand opposite him with a sign reading “STOP DIVIDING”

    Ash
    Participant

    @Godolhadorah I did not mean for this thread to become an extension of what seems to be an ongoing exchange of insults and venom

    Excuse me while I take a few minutes to draw breath again …

    You seem entirely oblivious to the utter hypocrisy you’ve just espoused.

    You have spend months using the most disgusting language about Peleg and its rabbonim and wished awful things would happen to them. You have been one of the primarily culprits of hysterical reaction, and now you dare to take the moral high ground here and ask for reduction in venom.

    Take a very long hard honest look in the mirror before commenting again.

    in reply to: Mesichists Explained by ChabadShlucha #1412447
    Ash
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    @MochiachChat I happen to do it on occasion as I’ve never seen someone freak out about it before.

    I assure you every Torah yid doesn’t and wouldn’t accept it. Do yourself a favour and stop. Since at least the times of Mishna no-one has referred to gedolim vtzadikim without their title.

    And as the Rambam says (פ”ו מהי’ ת”ת הי”ג) this was the final cause of churban yerushalaim – the polar opposite of what ostensibly is your lief goal.

    in reply to: Mesichists Explained by ChabadShlucha #1412032
    Ash
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    @moshiachchat I am disgusted at your referring to Harav Again R Moshe Feinstein zt”l without the title Rav let alone a proper honorific. Ditto Harav Mordechai Eliyohu. I’d like to believe it was an error, except you repeated this gross error twice in the same post.

    If this was intentional it says very little of the maalos of following a rebbe even after his petira.

    See what the rambam writes about bizui talmidei chachomim bring the main cause delaying moshiach. Oh, the irony!

    in reply to: divorce prevention tips! #1392192
    Ash
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    Joseph, you have a habit of presenting your boich svoros or incomplete knowledge as fact.

    The Halacha clearly states that any money or assets a wife comes into possession of during the course of her marriage is the full property of the husband.

    As always, a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.

    Actually, halachah also says she can claim איני ניזונת ואיני עושה which means of she’s earning she can keep it all – during marriage and beyond.

    in reply to: The EXPLODING Opioid Crisis In The Frum Community #1391062
    Ash
    Participant

    [C&P of comment on related news article]

    The real reason why opioids are the big problem in our kehillos is because it’s possible for a non-drinking, non-smoking, Torah-learning father of 8 (or bubbe with 20 einiklech, or the shtarkest bochur in yeshiva) to get hooked unintentionally on heroin.

    Here’s how: painkillers. The father of 8 is involved in a car accident, the bubbe gets persistent arthritis, the bochur gets a slipped disc dancing at a chasuna. Let’s say they have poor insurance, or great insurance but a overworked doctor. So instead of getting real treatment like expensive physio therapy, the doctor proscribes Oxycodone, oxytocin, or even regular coedine.

    The pills provide relief, but they’ve only been given a certain dose and once that’s over the pain returns. The father can’t work, the bubbe can’t enjoy her day, the bochur can’t learn. It’s too much. So they pester the doc for more, or go to a medicine gemach.

    In some of the cases, unwittingly they get hooked. Once hooked, they are an addict. They cannot rationalize, cannot control, cannot resist. It’s no longer bechirah, it’s just a uncontrollable need.

    The father finds he needs the pills to function, the bubbe thinks there’s nothing wrong with these pills when she takes about 10 pills for other ailments daily anyway and the bochur knows that without pills he’ll feel terribly sick, start shaking and needs to pop another … just to get through another day.

    Once the source of pills stop, they discover a guy who’s can give them fen***** and once they discover pills don’t satisfy, they start inhaling, then snorting, then …

    It’s a short road from severe pain and accidental dependence on opiod painkillers to heroin.

    And it can and does effect “der shentzer in der bester mishpuchos”.

    Wake up yidden!

    in reply to: divorce prevention tips! #1390179
    Ash
    Participant

    JJ, it’s expressly prohibited for a Beis Din to use secular/non-Jewish laws instead of using Halacha/Shulchan Aruch. They can’t say even though halachicly this is your asset, since non-Jewish law says to award it to the other party, that’s what we’ll do.

    Nonsense. You know neither choshen mishpat, nor have experience of typical dinei torah (momonus or gittin). Unless it’s masne al mah shekosuv batorah you can absolutely agree that a transaction is per law of the land, and if it comes to beis din then secular law is what the beis din we’ll have to evaluate (frequently with Council’s opinion).

    Yerushah also, if it was a matono mchayim.

    in reply to: Are all these protests in Jerusalem really a kiddush hashem? #1387639
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    ;The legal method is to simply register and get your deferment, as has been done for decades

    This shows a profound ignorance of the crucial changes in the last 5 years and the changes in the 10-15 years before that.

    If you don’t have knowledge of the way the law has been changed, then you cannot hope to understand the cause that these that Peleg are fighting for.

    I don’t excuse the heter for these type of protests, but there is certainly a huge threat to Torah in EY caused by the Lapid/Kadima-Bennet/Bayit Yehudi coalition changes to the status quo.

    From the abolition of the Tal law, reversal of vaad hayeshivos control of the situation, imposition of mandatory quotas of chareidi recruits, forcing bochurim to come to army offices for deferment, etc etc this is certainly not the way things have been for decades. In fact, not even the way things have been for one decade.

    Never before has there been such a threat to conscripting those in full time learning into an army that is becoming an ever more unacceptible place for a frum yid.

    in reply to: A Sukkah’la lyrics #1376677
    Ash
    Participant

    When I did the search there were fewer than 20 results between them 180 vs 160 or something. Anyway, you can try other words and examples.

    I don’t get your distinction and what are words that “contain yiddish vowels”? Every word can be written with “yiddish” vowels.

    The suffix thing shown that sometimes the vowels are left out when it doesn’t add. There are better examples no doubt.

    I am making up rules based on experience not formal knowledge of grammar, but I suspect that your “yiddish vowels” rule is similarly made up. True?

    in reply to: A Sukkah’la lyrics #1372612
    Ash
    Participant

    without question.

    Very much with question. Do a google search for “זיי נישט קיין נער” (with quotes, ideally) and then for “זיי נישט קיין נאר” and you’ll find they have a very similar number of results, and many from heimish websites/publications for both.

    I don’t know about WIVO or academic yiddish but for an actual first-language Yiddish speaker it would be quite odd to spell it in a way that it too similar to “nohr/nur” (“only”) IMO and in colloquial Yiddish it is very common to write hebrew words as-is (like שבת) not because of the lack of ambiguity because many words are simply written in Hebrew. This trend is compounded by the transliteration and appropriation of many English words into Ivrit.

    In Yiddish it is quite lengthy גאלדבערגער with the א…ע..ע serving as vowels,

    Almost. Hungarian Yiddish (e.g. perhaps Satmar) usually leave ער at the end of words, but for the “er” suffix (and other similar suffix), Litvish or Polish Yiddish would leave out that final ער so it would be written גאלדבערגר.

    Name’s aren’t a good example though as they tend to be spelled the same way as they first were written long ago but any other word e.g. “הייליגר” / “הייליגער” might be a better example.

    in reply to: A Sukkah’la lyrics #1371895
    Ash
    Participant

    @DY that’s not quite right. In yiddish an aleph is used for kamatz or pasach sound (almost like vowels in English), and an ayin for a segol sound when using a native Yiddish (or German or English) word. Hebrew words are usually written in their proper spelling especially if they’re clearly not Yiddish in origin.

    (Exceptions include שאבעס for שבת but even that spelling is not usually used and even then only to show that it’s the “heimish” pronunciation.)

    So נאר is “nohr” which means only, whereas נער in the first version is clearly the Arameic word (for fool, the line means “on’t be fool”) and so would be written with an ayin.

    All the IIRC.

    in reply to: Video of Throwing Towels #1205968
    Ash
    Participant

    That video is an extreme example, presumably taken at a yeshiva without supervision, rather than a shul. As someone commented on the article: many would fulfil this minhag by half heartedly throwing a towel or two, not the litzonus and disregard for safety shown on that particular video.

    in reply to: abuse #1200731
    Ash
    Participant

    Don’t abuse the word abuse by describing grabbing an out of control kid as abuse.

    Bad chinuch, probably. But using punitive legal action like CTLawyer’s is equally disturbing without finding out the teachers, and school leadership version of events.

    in reply to: Thank you yeshiva world #1198212
    Ash
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    Agreed but please change it to some colour other than blue which makes it look a link (like the comment anchor is).

    in reply to: Small Claims Beis Din #1194695
    Ash
    Participant

    Try a borerus which is like an ad-hoc beis din.

    A borerus should be cheaper, and most of the time much faster. Each side chooses a dayan (which, in a “treifa borerus”, can actively defends their side – or alternatively they both should be somewhat impartial) and these two dayonim each choose the third rav/dayan.

    As someone above suggested, an even simpler solution is agreeing on a single rav/dayan (the now-classic “Let’s ask Rabbi Dayan” solution) and agree in advance in writing that you’ll both accept his psak. With this method, it’s often practical to put both sides positions in writing first and then have a 40 minute meeting with the rov where each side gets equal amount of time to speak and submit evidence. This ensures that it won;t drag on into multiple meetings or phone calls.

    in reply to: Anual kapporos argument #1185709
    Ash
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    Isn’t it possible to preserve the minhag of kaparos with chickens but not be oiver on tzaar baal chaim?

    Yes of course it is. Like my local (London) minhag kaporos centre, where they are transported in the same manner as all fowl (x number of chickens per crate) in the early evening, each one taken out, shlugged, and put into another crate where they are loaded onto a truck and taken to the shachthois.

    I don’t see anything in that 1-2 hour excursion that is tzaar bar lchaim and indeed the local animal rights people couldn’t find fault!

    I strongly suspect that most of those protesting are just embarrassed about this minhag yisroel torah. Otherwise, they’d speak about bringing takonos and easing regulation to ensure those sites that mistreat or waste chickens change their ways.

    Instead they invent new arguments each year, much like the anti-shechita groups, not to reform or better things, but to abolish and mock.

    in reply to: Anual kapporos argument #1185694
    Ash
    Participant

    I’m confused. Do you think when they’re transported for shechitah each chicken gets to go in a Learjet, premium corn and water from glass Ein Gedi bottles served by a stewardess? And when they arrive, they wait in a private lounge until the shochet comes and sings them to sleep before shechting them?

    in reply to: Why do we let go of the Tzitzis at ?????????? ???????????? ?????? #1185631
    Ash
    Participant

    The sefer Ishei Yisroel on tefillah says that it comes from the siddur Yaavetz and it’s because this is the second ??? in two sentences, and twice ??? is gematria ???? and this is segulah (I think) for protection (I think) of one’s ???? (head). Look it up.

    in reply to: Lev Tahor – what now? #1184435
    Ash
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    @dovrosenbaum Because it’s not a derech, and there is little decision involved once you’re sucked in to the cult.

    Please answer your own question: why do rabbonim and erliche yidden see this as very different than any other sects?

    Why did the Mishpacha – who lovingly cover all strands of Torah jewry from MO to extreme chassidus – and does not publish coverage of individual scandals, but chose the very risky position of “outing” LT as a cult?

    Why does even the Eida Chareidis declare burka wearing as not halacha, mesorah or minhag?

    You’ll ask me: what exactly is the line between extreme frumkeit and non-Torahdik extreme living? I don’t know exactly where it lies but I do know LT is far over that line.

    And why is it a cult, rather than just a kehillah not conforming to any mesorah? Because it fits the definition: it’s based on the charisma of one person and his deputies who controls every aspect of their life from novel rules on eating, socialising, bringing up kids, shidduchim (decided by leadership not only parents!), not to mention restrictions on leaving the group that make it close to impossible unless you’re willing never to speak to your parents, siblings or children ever again.

    There have been many examples given (including by me), but here’s a simple one: Is there any chassidus that would ban all familial contact with someone who left their kehillah to become “merely” a litvak or MO (but still Torah Observing)?

    in reply to: Zionists, Chareidim, and Handouts #1181114
    Ash
    Participant

    Satmar and Brisk also pay taxes such as arnuna, VAT ma’am, etc. etc. etc. They don’t pretend to live in a bubble 100 feet above EY.

    in reply to: Zionists, Chareidim, and Handouts #1181113
    Ash
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    @Yserbius123 “And these people have a ton of acceptance and support among certain Chassidim and Yerushalmis.”

    I don’t believe so, and I don’t believe you know that to be true. As you’re a redditor, may I say: [citation needed]

    and “You should hang around Meah Shearim and ask people what they think of them.”

    Have you?

    Speaking as someone who did spend a lot of time around Meah Shearim and speak the vernacular like a native – I doubt that normative residents of Meah Shearim do agree accept Weiss and his ilk.

    Like I said, all ultra anti-Zionists may look the same to you, but there are many shades of anti-State-ism and real hashkofos behind each one.

    And to turn your statement around, one could argue that if you are in favour of the state, what you are doing is supporting total secularism of Jews in Israel. Which is equally not true – the two sides are more nuanced than that.

    in reply to: Lev Tahor – what now? #1184432
    Ash
    Participant

    dovrosenbaum, I’m not throwing that label around. If you do all your research on LT and look at the difference between a cult and a (lmoshol) chassidus, it’s very clear LT is a cult. And I do not “throw that term about”.

    To pick but one additional example, they do not deny that if you leave LT for the normal chareidi world, you’ll be cut off from your family. No chassidus would do this. A cult does.

    I hope Lev Lachim are on their case, as they are as bad as any missionary group and are taking yidden away from yiddishkeit into the religion of Helbrans and his deputies. At least Lev Lachim can distinguish brainwashing from frumkeit and perishus.

    @apushatayid, you’re misunderstanding cults as much as Frankfurter did. No, it’s possible those children were truly happy and carefree. The fact remains they are trapped inside a cult and observing practices made up by a meglomaniac, not from our holy mesorah.

    Like many cults, LT have learned to modify many of their obviously extreme traits that would get them into trouble (like beatings, refusing to give kids toys, trying to be self sufficient economically and failing dismally) but they are still a cult and their members are trapped.

    in reply to: Lev Tahor – what now? #1184431
    Ash
    Participant

    dovrosenbaum, I’m not throwing that label around. If you do all your research on LT and look at the difference between a cult and a (lmoshol) chassidus, it’s very clear LT is a cult. And I do not throw that term about.

    To pick bury one additional example, they do not deny that if you leave LT for the normal chareidi world, you’ll be cut off from your family. No chassidus would do this. A cult does.

    I hope Lev Lachim are on their case, as they are as bad as any missionary group and are taking yidden away from yiddishkeit into the religion of Helbrans and his deputies. At least Lev Lachim can distinguish brainwashing from frumkeit and perishus.

    @apushatayid, you’re misunderstanding cults as much as Frankfurter did. No, it’s possible those children were truly happy and carefree. The fact remains they are trapped inside a cult and observing practices made up by a meglomaniac, not from our holy mesorah.

    Like many cults, LT have learned to modify many of their obviously extreme traits that would get them into trouble (like beatings, refusing to give kids toys, trying to be self sufficient economically and failing dismally) but they are still a cult and their members are trapped.

    in reply to: Lev Tahor – what now? #1184426
    Ash
    Participant

    *Yad Lachim, that is.

    in reply to: Lev Tahor – what now? #1184425
    Ash
    Participant

    dovrosenbaum, if they had a choice. From all the reports and the nature of the cult, the children, and even the adults after indoctrination have no choice.

    Frankfurter of the Ami was fooled because he went there with false notions of what a cult looks like. He went expecting to see malnorished children with haunted eyes, but found happy children. That is a fundemental misunderstanding of how cults work and operate and the effect they have the one the lives of the cult members. Three year olds may be made to daven shacharis for 3 hours (to quote one allegation that even the Ami admits), and still laugh and play that afternoon when the reporter visits. That same child, with the unperscribed pills, fake chassidus, and total control over his avodas hashem will not grow up to be a healthy minded adult or fulfil Torah kitikunoi.

    And there are no r”l second-generation Lev Tohar families (not to hard when you marry off girls in their early teens) who will never know the true beauty of yiddishkeit unless we rescue them.

    Do Lev Lachim operate outside of EY?

    in reply to: Zionism, Apikorsos? #1185453
    Ash
    Participant

    Avi K, trying to say the chofetz chaim, the moetzes, or any of the non-aguda gedolim we not anti-Zionist is rewriting history. Their position pre-war is a matter of plain historical record.

    Aguda’s position, and that of the gedolim of the prewar and post moetzes, as well as the gedolim of Degel (which includes gedolei bnei brak), and basically the entire Torah world except Satmar and Toldos AY/A and the Daati Leumi) was that the State should never have been established, but once it was established we have to work with them by voting, establishing political parties. Poloei Agudas Yisroel (???”? – originally the workers branch of aguda) was slightly more conciliatory, and eventually even had (has!) two kibbutzim — but the basic position remained the same.

    That every Torah yid has always wanted to settle in EY (whether controlled by Ottomans, British, or secular Jews) cannot be bought as proof to the state.

    Rav Kook is always trotted out as an example of a godol more or less supporting (Religious) Zionism, but actually he was about the only rov of that stature who did. the Satmar Rov Rav Yoelish was also indisputably a godol batorah but very few ascribe to his position on the State (much less what some in Satmar have turned it into).

    I have the greatest of respect for the daati leumi and their rabbonim, but it saddens me that many DL with excuse the grossest excesses of the state and throw chareidim under a bus because of the debate over the mitzvah of yeshivas eretz yisroel, when there is much more that unites us than divides us including 99% of Torah and mitzvos.

    Look around most Israeli cities and tell me – in your own layman’s opinion, whether you can truly claim the open peritzus, toevah, and entire secular nature (exemplified by much of the Army culture, for instance) is what rotzon hashem is r”l.

    in reply to: Lev Tahor – what now? #1184416
    Ash
    Participant

    That is unfortunately true. We’re at the whims of this cult because throwing them financially and politically off a cliff might mean that their children get fostered by goyim. So some askonim think supporting them prevents a worse evil. Which makes it doubly important that we show a united front against this group, taking Jewish families away from yiddishkeit, and destroying children’s chinuch al derech haltorah.

    Unfortunately, my own kehilla in North London (Stamford Hill) is one of the few kehillos where many support them without question and giving to their occasional fundraisers. They paint themselves as a Satmar-like anti-Zionist chareidi kehillah and chassidus when in fact they share as much with chareidim as Jews for J.

    This ignorance about the true nature of this cult means that this situation could continue indefinitely r”l.

    in reply to: Lev Tahor – what now? #1184405
    Ash
    Participant

    So if these children are being taken from parents, is anyone trying to organise frum foster carers and getting in touch with the Guatemalan authorities?

    I suspect the only people helping them, are those fighting for lev tahor and trying to get the kids to stay in the cult so if that fails these children may be further lost.

    It is one of the biggest travesties of our times that a yiddishe families are held hostage by this cult, leading government after government prosecute them for child abuse and putting the children at risk of being bought up by goyim r”l.

    This is pidyon shvuim of the highest degree.

    in reply to: Why Rabbaonim in Israel and America SILENT when Frum Soldiers Screamed At #1184280
    Ash
    Participant

    I’m not surprised we haven’t heard rabbonim speaking publicly about this as if they actually hear about this, they likely get a distorted version in which the details of whatever argument went on inside the shteiblach that muddies the issue. If rabbonim have in fact spoken out it’s unlikely to make headline news.

    What shocked me in particular is the passersby who seemed to view it as none of their business or two of the people who seemed to view it as street entertainment r”l. I would hope if I was there I’d have the courage to stick up for the soldier and confront the sikrikim.

    P.S. BenK, your writing style and capitalisation makes it hard to read your posts.

    in reply to: Where To Go in Eretz Yisroel #1159600
    Ash
    Participant

    Personally, I found the description of Genesis Land a little suspect. People dressing up as Avrohom ovinu etc welcoming you into their tent … it seemed dodgy hashkafically.

    But near there is the gorgeous Wadi Kelt / Nachal Parat which is not far from Yr’lm. It’s a great shaded walk in a stream. Behind green line though so check security status. We did it with a 22 month old child.

    in reply to: Poor brits #1158192
    Ash
    Participant

    Hang on, as someone who wanted to leave I wouldn’t claim immigrants drive up the violent crime up. Drive up the terrorism rate, yes, probably, but that’s a tiny proportion of crime.

    But violent crime? I think you’d have to be idiot immigrant to resort to crime, when you’ve come to live, seek work and milk the benefits system.

    I’m pleased we’re leaving but not looking forward to overpriced, lazy native British workers repairing my home, and the public infrastructure. The Europeans are far more hard working and typically just as skilled.

    in reply to: Poor brits #1158183
    Ash
    Participant

    “Less Chumras: In the UK the government pays for yeshiva education which is why I heard some non-Jews sued to get into a yeshiva a few years back.”

    Not really. Yeshivas (= chareidi schools) are typically private or voluntary-aided in which case they have 100% control on their admissions except that it must be published and fair, but can include that you only eat glatt, or have no TV or whatever. Voluntary-aided schools do get state funding which doesn’t cover kodesh staff.

    Even state-aided schools can set their admissions criteria to exclude goyim as long as it’s religion-based, not race based.

    It’s “free schools” – a third category of which there are only 1 or 2 MO-type schools that have to accept 50% goyim if they don’t have enough yidden applying.

    in reply to: Chassidus #1105798
    Ash
    Participant

    @gavra_at_work Did I say that was all?

    in reply to: Modern Orthodoxy #1146129
    Ash
    Participant

    @DaMoshe Can you please specify, what did he invent?

    I’m not HaKatan but presumably he meant Torah Umaddah. (Not a collection of halochos but a lifestyle and philosophy.)

    in reply to: Chassidus #1105701
    Ash
    Participant

    @gavra_at_work Probably the biggest difference (and most critical) is that they believe in a hereditary system of leaders, and those leaders are the conduit through which they serve the RBSO. A corollary to that point is that what the Rebbe says is law from the RBSO, similar to as if a Navi said it.

    That was a very inaccurate statement and nothing like the reality.

    Chassidim hold in asay lchah rav as it should be held. That you don’t just go to a rov for kashrus shallos or when it’s convenient, or when he’ll give you an answer that you want. If a (true) chossid was wondering if he’s allowed a smartphone for work, he’d (1) ask the rebbe (2) listen to what the rebbe said, no ifs no buts. How many non-chassidim can say they’d even do (1), let alone (2)? It’s not an exclusively chassidish shitta (e.g. Rav Dessler says the same thing), merely one aspect of Yiddishkeit that they are very strong in.

    They also understand the true stength of a kehillah and its mesorah (which can evolve as a whole, but from which one should not separate) from which we in the rest of modern (small M) Orthodoxy can all learn.

    To say they hold the rov’s rulings comparable to nevius is utterly wrong. (I assume you know what nevius is.) Similarly, your statement that “those leaders are the conduit through which they serve the RBSO”.

    in reply to: Har HaBayis Revisited #1112515
    Ash
    Participant

    @ubiquitin Charlie Hebdo people are to blame for their own deaths

    An excellent own goal. Indeed the Charlie Hebdo people should take blame for inciting Muslims and probably causing extra deaths including in the Hyper Cacher shooting where r”l 4 yidden were killed.

    This doesn’t detract from the absolutely blame of the terrorists, their backers, handlers and enablers but the Charlie Hebdo staff were culpable too for incredible stupid goading of dangerous hateful terrorists.

    If the Palestinians/Muslims would make as big a fuss of say Kever Rochel and turn it in a cause for incitements and death threats r”l, I would stop going there too.

    @chareidimolim the area where … religious people go up today is 100% OK …. And most Rabbanim who are willing to address the matter at all agree to this.

    Nonsense. And your implied argument that the majority of chareidi rabbonim who disagree are “not willing to address the matter” is disingenuous, to say the least.

    @Sam2, @chareidimolim etc. regarding your assertions that you know roughly where the heical “must have been” and therefore where’s definitely mutar to go. Surely you’re not basing anything on the location of the dome of the rock? Where in our mesorah does it state that the dome of the rock or its platform definitely intersects with the heichal or azorah? We don’t know for sure even what part of the HH”B the kosel was except for our mesorah that standing in front of it is definitely OK. (Some, including myself don’t even touch it).

    Notwithstanding this, I continue not to understand the point of going up there? Leshitoschah, the kosel (or perhaps kosel hakatan) must surely be as close to the kodesh hakdoshim as some (Northern?) parts of the Har Habayis where you say is definitely muttar to go. And you’re not even allowed to daven there. So why go? In what way are you acheiving more than davening at the kosel? If it’s just for Zionist goals of establishing Jewish rights there then indeed this is a fatal (literally) error that stirs up a hornet’s nest.

    in reply to: Har HaBayis Revisited #1112433
    Ash
    Participant

    Rob: very ridiculous and very dangerous. And danger is something defined by halachah.

    in reply to: Har HaBayis Revisited #1112414
    Ash
    Participant

    ubiquitin, Sam2, rob, ZD, etc:

    1. This attitude begs the question, do you think the actions of those (so-called) Niturei Karta-niks who go to Iran, protest in support of PLO, Hamas etc have no effect? The Arabs/Muslims hate and wish just as much violence with them or without them. So they’re not causing any actual harm, right?

    2. Do you excuse the many Jews videod going onto HHB just to “establish sovereignty” (as witnessed by many of these groups just marching around with video-phones held in the air, rather than any goal to daven). Also, you cannot in fact daven there as the police will drag you out.

    3. This entire recent uprising has no excuse other than the one repeated on all major news outlets – that it’s about HHB. Of course they’re looking for an excuse but how can you say the actions of these provocateurs haven’t resulted in extra fatal and serious attacks against yidden in the past few weeks?

    in reply to: My issue with the Israeli Chareidi parties #1066375
    Ash
    Participant

    Indeed the draft makes it impossible for chareidim to live in anything but poverty.

    The army is definitely a risk to a person’s yiddishkeit in general. (True there are many that aren’t effected, but that’s not relevant to the many/more who would be. Nachal Chareidi also hasn’t proven itself.) The army and it’s deeply integrated and zionist culture is not a possibility.

    Given that, the fact that people can’t work illegally without serving in said army, or getting a true exemption means the Law forced the current learning-only non-working situation.

    Yesh Adit and others made the draft the orimary issue of their governmental term, so the Chareidim have to equally make it their own issue. And that is what their voters want.

    in reply to: Shabbos Project results #1191706
    Ash
    Participant

    I thought much of the emphasis was in guiding people to experience their own halachic shabbos not be hosted. There were synagogue rabbis handing out shabbos kits and guides so people could do it themselves.

    FWIW I met my irreligious neighbours walking together Friday night on my way back from Shul when they normally drive on shabbos. They were obviously on their way to a shabbos meal.

    in reply to: PLEASE JOIN NOW: Online Tehillim for the Captive Youths #1021571
    Ash
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