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The Shulchan Aruch permits shaving (non-razor of course). There are opinions that shaving (without a razor) is patur aval asur. There’s nothing wrong with having a beard (according the vast majority). Both shaving and not shaving are well within normal halachic practice. The bochur should do whatever he wants.
It is a machlokes Rishonim whether Ahavas Yisroel requires actual loving feelings towards fellow Jews or simply to do for them what you want done for yourself and not do to them what you would not want done for yourself.
Even when the Bais Hamikdosh stood, the avoda was not always done k’halacha. There were extended periods of time where the Cohen Gadol was a Tzeduki or someone who bribed their way into the position. Additionally, halacha can change. A later Sanhedrin can override an earlier Sanhedrin.
In short, most of these machlokesim are not what did happen in the Bais Hamikdosh but what SHOULD happen in the Bais Hamikdosh.
Grant, as far as I know, did nothing anti-semitic while President. His expulsion decree was as a general during the Civil War. And if we are going to count pre-President conduct, Grant has to be among the greatest President. He won the Civil War. Without him the USA as we know it would not exist, slavery might still exist in the Confederacy, and the USA probably doesn’t intervene in either of the World Wars (or the South also intervenes on the German side), and who knows where that leaves world history.
5 Worst Presidents (only taking into account their conduct as President):
1. Andrew Johnson: (let the worst parts of the South revive after the Civil War, ignored the terrible violence and discrimination against former slaves in the South)
2. James Buchanan (tried to appease the South and preserve slaverly, wishy-washy approach didn’t stop the Civil War but let the South get a jump on North in advance of the Civil War)
3. Andrew Jackson: (trail of tears and other horrible crimes against Native Americans–refused to listen to the Supreme Court)
4. Woodrow Wilson: (racist who reintroduced segregation into the government; authoritarian who got anti-free speech legislation passed and created a federal propaganda office; presided over a very slanted peace after WWI that ultimately led to WWII)
5. Lyndon Johnson: (committed the US to war in Vietnam under false pretenses; was a disgusting low-life who humiliated subordinates and the office)May 21, 2019 5:33 pm at 5:33 pm in reply to: Does Rav Chaim Kanievsky shlita prohibit men from shaving their beards? #1730449
I did not read through this entire thread. But shaving is mefurash halacha in Shulchan Aruch:
אינו חייב על השחתת פאת הזקן אלא בתער אבל במספרים מותר אפילו כעין תער
The Shulchan Aruch rules that it is mutar to shave one’s beard so long as you do not use a razor. The Rema agrees but holds that one should be careful not to use scissors in a razor-like manner:
ומ”מ נזהרים כשמסתפרין במספרים שיעשה היקף הגילוח בחלק העליון מן המספרות ולא בתחתון פן יעשה הכל עם חלק התחתון והוי כתער
Rav Chaim Kanievsky is free to disagree with the Shulchan Aruch but it is difficult to fault the large numbers of frum men that follow the Shulchan Aruch on this issue.
The Gemara (Sotah 2a) says that Hashem gives each person their bashert “l’fi maasav.” In other words, who your bashert ultimately is depends on your actions (mitzvos, aveiros, etc.). It seems to me that one of those actions is rejecting a match. So if a person rejects their bashert, then everything needs to be reworked and someone else might become their bashert.
Sit ins are less likely to lead to halachic violations.
You wrote: “Semantics. The tax burden just gets shifted to the middle/lower classes. Same thing as taking their money and giving it away; it just sounds better on the surface.”
“‘conservatives understand that money belongs to the one who earned it liberals feel all money belongs to the government’
No liberal in the history of this country has ever claimed to believe that or said anything even close to it. There are virtually infinitely many options to chose from if you want to criticize liberals, you don’t need to go making up your own.”
Those two statements are contradictory. The only way one can view the difference between the government giving me someone else’s money (that they took by force) and the government letting me keep more of my own money as semantic is if one believes that the government is entitled to all of everyone’s money.
If the government is not entitled to all income, then a tax break is: the government stealing from me less. A subsidy is: the government stealing from someone else to give me money.
If, on the other hand, government is entitled to take 100% of your income, there is no practical difference between a subsidy and a tax break.
I actually thought Shapiro’s answer was very good. It is a classic liberal idea (Jewish too) that people are not destined to be good or evil but are the products of the environment and their choices. So why kill the baby Hitler when having him be adopted by a loving family in Canada will also prevent the Holocaust?
And if your answer is “well that is not an option in the hypothetical,” then the response should be that your hypothetical has no application to the real world and is therefore a wast of my time.
“CHazal say you can make shidduchim even on Tisha B’ Av because if the shidduch is delayed someone else might “chap ” it before you.”
Tosafos on Sotah 2a asks this question.
What do people mean on this thread when they say “bashert”? The Gemara gives two possibilities, a shidduch that was your destiny from before you were born and a shidduch that is according to your maasim in this world. Are both of these considered “bashert”?
All taxation is theft. Like Mafia protection money.
That being said, taxation is a necessary theft, a necessary evil in order to have a functioning society. So we tax because we must to form the society we all benefit from. But we must never forget that ultimately we are robbing Peter to pay Paul. So every time we increase taxes we should be asking ourselves, is it necessary to steal someone’s property? Are our motives pure or driven by jealousy? Can we achieve the same goals without the tax increase through better budgeting and greater efficiency?
It isn’t surprising that most people support a very high marginal rate because it is other people’s money that they are stealing. That does not make it right, it just makes it more likely that the motivation behind the legislation is not pure.
I am (perhaps foolishly) wading back in here to point out a contradiction in doomsday’s propaganda.
Doomsday demands a study of “Vaccinateded per CDC Schedule vs 100% UnVaccinated.” Implying that it is the vaccine package as a whole (including the Polio and Smallpox vaccines) that is causing the problem and not just the newer vaccines.
On the other hand doomsday repeats, again and again, that “Since the CDC TRIPLED the Vaccine schedule around 1990, Autism went from 1:10,000 to 1:50 today!” Implying that it is the relatively recent increase in vaccines that have caused the problem. Make up your mind, doomsday.
As an aside, doomsday is confusing autism diagnosis with actual autism. Autism was increasingly diagnosed from 1987 onwards because it’s definition was expanded in the DSM and broadened again in 1994 and 2000. Doctors diagnose what they are taught to diagnose and give the labels that are recognized by their fields and the government (that provide services).
I don’t know where doomsday’s numbers for her parade of horribles from vaccines are coming from (some anti-vaxx site?) but SIDS deaths are down in the United States since 1990 (because parents were taught not to let babies sleep on their stomachs), not up. From the CDC website: “Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) rates declined considerably from 130.3 deaths per 100,000 live births in 1990 to 38.0 deaths per 100,000 live births in 2016.”
So take doomsday’s numbers with many grains of salt.December 3, 2018 12:48 pm at 12:48 pm in reply to: Why Are Torah Observant Jews Overwhelmingly Republican/Conservative? #1635920
On immigration, I am more referring to an attitude towards immigrants generally and especially illegal immigrants rather than policy proposals. The animosity, fear and vitriol towards illegal immigrants in the frum community (a community which gladly employs those same immigrants) does not come from Torah but from conservative media.
There were many things wrong with your post but the mistakes at the beginning were so blatant I can’t help but address them.
“Nowhere in the toira are vaccines said to be muttar”
The Torah does not specify different kosher and unkosher medicines. It says v’raph y’rapeh, you must use doctors to heal someone (who you damaged). Chazal said that we follow the decisions of the best doctors or the majority of doctors. Therefore vaccination is required by the Torah.
“and it is completely illogical to believe that taking in a disease (along with mercury!) will protect you from it.”
You personally not understanding how viruses and immunity work does not mean that nobody understands it. It isn’t a big secret.
“Their effectiveness is highly doubtful given that the first vaccine was invented in 1796 and measles wasn’t declared eradicated in the US until over 200 years later!”
The MMR vaccine was developed in the early 1970s.
I didn’t lie and you know I didn’t lie, so why do keep accusing me of lying?
First, you completely ignore my primary point that patient claims are the best metric to use for determining the number of serious adverse events. You simply can’t face this point because it negates your position.
Second, you acknowledge that the reference to serious adverse events (for some reason you latch on to the 1% and not the 13%) is about drugs and not vaccines. So your reading was incorrect. But instead of acknowledging your error you accuse of lying anyway! The 1% reporting on vaccines is for all adverse events lumped together as one group. It is derived by comparing the VAERS numbers with the numbers the study found when following up on patients who received vaccines for 30 days afterward. It is impossible to tell from that report whether the reporting for serious adverse events from vaccines was more robust. But that is what we would expect logically and it is what we see with drug reports (the overall reporting rate was 0.3%, serious events was 1-13%). Also the numbers in the study are based on “possible reactions” and “possible events,” not confirmed events.
I never wrote that “nearly all serious vaccine adverse events are reported.” I wrote that nearly all would have been the subject of a patient claim with the vaccine compensation board, such that such claims are the best available proxy for determining the rate of adverse reactions to vaccines.November 30, 2018 11:30 am at 11:30 am in reply to: Why Are Torah Observant Jews Overwhelmingly Republican/Conservative? #1633711
Joseph and ZionGate,
I am not saying that we always must follow chachmei umos haolam. If their conclusions or reasoning are keneged Torah, we don’t follow them. But in the case of Climate Change, their studies and theories are not keneged Torah, so I would have expected the bulk of frum Yidden to presume the validity of their conclusions. There are certainly some arguments against the mainstream positions by other scientists, and there is some evidence of some scientists trying to downplay or hide contradictory data. But such arguments aren’t Torah-based arguments, but rather the typical arguments one hears on conservative radio or websites.
I submit that the reason why the majority of frum Jews land on the skeptical side despite the large majority of scientists on the man-caused Climate Change side, is because they are primarily exposed to skeptical side on conservative radio or websites.
You seem intent on finding “lies” among those that disagree with you, so much so that you seem to simultaneously read some things very narrowly and other things very broadly. So I am going to be as clear as possible and will make my points in numbered list that you can respond to.
1. I said that the purpose of the report was to urge doctors to properly report adverse events on VAERS. Here is the language from the report: “The goal of this project is to improve the quality of vaccination programs by improving the quality of physician adverse vaccine event detection and reporting to the national Vaccine
Adverse Event Reporting System (VAERS).”
2. That this included all events, even minor ones, is demonstrated throughout the report in descriptions of their protocol and by the method that they used to detect adverse events. “We initially
prepared a draft document describing the elements, algorithms, interval of interest after
vaccination, and actions for broad classes of post-vaccination events, including those to be
reported immediately without delay (such as acute anaphylactic reaction following vaccination),
those never to be reported (such as routine check-ups following vaccination) and those to be
reported at the discretion and with additional information from the attending physician through a
feedback mechanism.” And “Every patient receiving a vaccine was automatically identified, and for the next 30 days, their health care diagnostic codes, laboratory tests, and medication prescriptions are evaluated for values suggestive of an adverse vaccine event. When a possible adverse event was detected, it was
recorded, and the appropriate clinician was to be notified electronically.” So this report was to include every post-vaccine medical event requiring a doctors visit (other than routine check-up), laboratory test, or prescription.
3. The sentence you highlight that says “1-13% of serious events are reported to the FDA” is referring to adverse events caused by drugs, not vaccines. It is the next sentence, which does not say “serious events” that is referring to vaccines.
4. Most importantly, this entire report and the percentages therein, are discussing the self-reporting of doctors of adverse events. The doctors have no personal incentive to report an adverse event. This report says NOTHING about claims brought by patients and their families! (or any other method of evaluating vaccine side effects) You are mixing apples and oranges.
5. The fact remains that a tiny percentage of vaccine patients or their families ever even bring claims for vaccine injuries despite the strong financial and emotional incentive to do so. Your attempt to conflate poor physician reporting with patient claims is without basis in the report you keep on citing.
6. Therefore, we are left with the fact that vaccine injuries serious enough for patients or their families to bring claims are very, very rare. Much rarer than injury caused by the disease that the vaccines prevent.
Doomsday, I don’t think you are deliberately lying or even being deliberately misleading. I think you have convinced yourself of the righteousness of your position. Unfortunately, in your mind that means that everyone that disagrees with you must be a lier or a bad person. We aren’t liers, we aren’t bad people. We are simply following the mainstream medical opinion and, at least in my case, looking at the claims data and coming to basic conclusions on the likelihood of serious or permanent injury from the vaccine vs. from the disease.November 29, 2018 7:14 pm at 7:14 pm in reply to: Why Are Torah Observant Jews Overwhelmingly Republican/Conservative? #1633433
I don’t know Boro Park and Williamsburg, true. But I know plenty of Monsey and it applies there. I am not saying that Torah requires one to follow the Democratic positions on Climate change or immigration, but only that the Democratic positions are more in line–in a general sense–with Torah Hashkafa.
With respect to Climate Change, there is no Torah basis for being skeptical and usually we follow chachmei umos ha’olam when it comes to scientific metzios. With respect to immigration, I am referring to the attitude toward immigrants generally, not the question of whether it should be done illegally. I think most Democrats agree (Obama certainly did) that immigration must be done legally. The issue is what do with those who are already here and how vicious should the US be in preventing more people from coming in illegally.November 29, 2018 4:49 pm at 4:49 pm in reply to: Why Are Torah Observant Jews Overwhelmingly Republican/Conservative? #1633330
Not selling weapons to people because they might use them to commit crimes is a halacha. And ownership of wepons is certainly not a “right” in halacha.
גבול שמת בל יעברון בל ישובון לכסות הארץ is not speaking about immigration but about Hashem not bringing another mabul. That Hashem gave certain lands to some people in no way indicates that immigration is forbidden. Avraham was an immigrant in Canaan and the Yidden were refugees when they went to Egypt during the famine. Amon and Moav were faulted for not greeting B’nel Yisrael with food and water when they were coming into Eretz Yisroel from the Midbar. Sodom is punished because of their mistreatment of visitors. Etc.
Climate change is more a question of fact but the idea that people are supposed to protect the planet, l’avda v’l’shamra, comes from the Torah and there is certainly no Torah based reason to be skeptical. And yet, I find that frum Jews typically are skeptical of climate change.
Doomsday, you wrote:
“1.When children are injured or killed after vaccination, the doctors lie and say that it was a “coincidence”
2. Most parents never heard of Vaccine Court.
3. There statute of limitations is much shorter then in real court so by that even if parents learn about
vaccine court it is too late and Vaccine Court refuses to hear their claim.
4. Parents have to pay thousands out of pocket and it can take up to 10 years for their case to finished.
This is too time consuming, stressful and expensive for many parents.”
First you have made these assertions without evidence. You don’t know these things you are just asserting them to explain away the contrary evidence to your position.
Second, when a child dies, lawyers are contacted and lawyers certainly know about the vaccine compensation program. Most lawyers take cases like these on contingency so the parents don’t have to pay anything more than the filing out of pocket. Typically vaccine compensation board cases, on average, are resolved in shorter time periods than conventional tort cases. The statute of limitations isn’t signficantly shorter than other torts but it is stricter in that the discovery rule does not apply.
It is certainly possible that some potential claims do not get brought but it is also the case that some claims brought (like in any litigation) are not legitimate. Claims against the vaccine compensation board are our best way to track severe vaccine injuries because it is interest of the claimants to find a link between the injury and the vaccine.
As for your argument about autism frequency, I already explained why that correlation is fallacious. Similar arguments hold for ADHD and learning disabilities.
You wrote: “This is more proof that you Lie. I answered you that per the Department Of Health and Human Resourcesfewer then 1% of all vaccine adverse advents are reported. Therefore there are over 3 Million Vaccine Injuries per year and 1,680 Vaccine Deaths. Yet you still repeat the Lie that serious injury from vaccines is rare. Shame!”
I see I got no apology for the false accusation of lying. Instead I got a doubling down where I was accused of lying on the basis of your faulty logic that I had already explained.
I looked up the 2010 report you cited. It was talking about doctors reporting adverse events, however minor, on the VAERS (vaccine adverse event reporting system) and was urging doctors to use to properly report adverse events. That report is not talking about injury or death claims against the vaccine compensation board. And it never claims that only 1% of serious injury or death cases are reported by doctors. Your extrapolation is completely unwarranted.
If there is dishonesty in this conversation it isn’t coming from me.
I did not lie. Please don’t accuse of me of lying. I wrote that I did not know where you were getting the “fewer than 1%” statistic from. I genuinely did not know because you did not cite to anything in the post you wrote replying to me. I have not read every post you posted on this thread. That you put it in some earlier post does not mean that I knew about it.
I have not gone back through each incidence of your claiming to have caught vaccine defenders in a lie, but if what I wrote is what you call a “LIE” then I am going to be skeptical of your other claimed “LIES.” I also note that you completely ignored the substance of what I wrote in favor of an incorrect gotcha.
My point stands, serious injury due to vaccines is vanishingly rare. Much, much rarer than serious injury due to diseases. Therefore, it is foolish to forgo vaccines because of a minute risk and in exchange for returning to widespread disease and a much higher risk. I don’t see how you are getting around this basic math.November 29, 2018 11:14 am at 11:14 am in reply to: Why Are Torah Observant Jews Overwhelmingly Republican/Conservative? #1632968
I included the second reason because when I discuss politics with my fellow frum Jews I hear them making the same arguments, using the same terms, that I hear from conservative pundits on the radio. More importantly, large percentages of my fellow frum Jews appear to subscribe to conservative/Republican political positions even where it doesn’t have a basis in Torah–and is sometimes contrary to Torah hashkafah. For example, I hear people vociferously supporting the conservative positions on gun control, immigration, and climate change despite the Democratic/liberal positions being more in line with the Torah on those issues.
With regard to your last point, I absolutely agree that the overwhelming liberalism of secular/atheist/irreligious/Reform/Conservative/OO Jews is due in large part to their obtaining their news from liberal media. I would only add, however, that they are also strongly influenced towards liberalism from their college environments where liberalism is even more dominant than it is in the general mainstream media.
We are all influenced by the media we consume and the opinions of our peers and our teachers. A person has to work hard to try to think through each issue independently and even then he can’t entirely eliminate the influence of others.
I don’t know where you are getting the “fewer than 1% of adverse events are reported” from (or how anyone can know that if they aren’t reported). There is a vaccine adverse event reporting system, VAERS, where doctors can report adverse events from vaccines. But that includes minor adverse effects like a fever, nausea, or a rash. It isn’t surprising that doctors don’t bother reporting most of those minor–and relatively common–adverse effects. We are talking about serious long-term adverse reactions.
When someone suffers serious long-term injury or death from a vaccine, they are almost certainly going to bring a claim to the vaccine compensation program to help pay their costs. Therefore, the statistics of claims (remember actual payouts are far fewer) made through the vaccine compensation program is a generous metric by which to calculate the risks of vaccines. The idea that if there are claims made for 168 deaths in a year (the total number of claims for deaths from MMR over the last 30 years is only 61!) there are really 16,800 deaths is silly. If someone loses a child, they aren’t going to just forget about it. They will bring a claim.
The rise in autism is, at least in part, due to a broader diagnosis of what constitutes autism. Autism is Colorado is 1:93 and autism in New Jersey is 1:41, not because of some serious health difference between living in the two states but because of state policies on diagnosis and providing services. Autism wasn’t even a diagnosis in the DSM until 1980–so of course its diagnosis shot up since then as psychologists and psychiatrists started recognizing it as a real condition. And the criteria for what constitutes autism has been expanded in the DSM over time (as well as government programs for autistic children greatly increasing the incentive to get an autism diagnosis). Furthermore, autism is more prevalent in children born premature. The more premature, the more likely the child will be autistic and since the 1980s doctors have gotten better and better at keeping premature children alive.
Most importantly, vaccines were common in the US long before the boom in autism and allergies. Is it your claim that the vaccines before 1980 were safe and it is only the vaccines from after 1980 that are dangerous?
A few points to consider:
1. You are ignoring the statistics I provided showing that even claims of injury from childhood vaccines are extraordinarily unlikely. It is far, far, far more likely that a child will be injured by the disease than by the vaccine.
2. You keep on mentioning encephalitis which is usually caused by viral infection. While some vaccines use a live virus and can cause encephalitis in extremely rare cases, you know what is far more likely to cause encephalitis? The MEASLES VIRUS. At least 1 in a 500 (1/1000 concurrently, and 1/1000 later) children that get measles will develop encephalitis. That is far, far, far more likely than the 1 in 500,000 (at most) that will get encephalitis from the disease. These numbers are worlds apart.
3. On the death rate from measles. The rate of death from measles today will be much greater than the rate from 50 years ago. Measles, like most viral infections, is much more dangerous for the babies and children who are otherwise ill than for healthy children. 50 years ago everyone got measles, the high risk and low risk alike. But today the high-risk group, babies and ill children, are also the groups least likely to be vaccinated and therefore more likely to get measles. Because a greater percentage of measles cases are in high risk kids, the rate of death has increased.
Because you mentioned the “vaccine court” you ought to know that they keep public statistics of the claims they receive of alleged injuries due to vaccines and those claims that pay out on. Even if we assume that every claim is legitimate (almost certainly not the case as any litigator would tell you), the risk from vaccines is exceedingly small. For example:
1) between 2006 and 2016 there were 94,815,650 doses of the MMR vaccine given out in the USA. There were only 233 claims (valid or invalid) for injuries based on that vaccine. Even assuming that every claim is real, the chances of having an injury from the MMR vaccine is 1 in 406,934. You are far more likely to be struck by lighting (1 in 12,000) or even have siamese twins (1 in 189,000) than to be injured by the MMR vaccine.
2) The DTaP vaccine is a little more risky, with claimed injuries coming in at 1 in 376,112 doses. But Tdap is safer with claims of only 1 in 603,252 doses.
3) The Meningitis vaccine is much safer, with claimed injuries coming in at 1 in 1,655,250 doses. You are far more likely to win the Powerball (if you play weekly) in your lifetime than your child to have claim from the Meningitis vaccine.
All of these statistics are available on the Health Resources and Services Administration website. The upshot is that even under a conservative estimate, these are tiny numbers. Vaccines are extremely safe and far safer that not vaccinating at all.November 28, 2018 6:46 pm at 6:46 pm in reply to: Why Are Torah Observant Jews Overwhelmingly Republican/Conservative? #1632549
I think there are two reasons:
1) Orthodox Jews are socially conservative because the Torah is socially conservative. Republican policies are more socially conservative than Democrat policies.
2) Many Orthodox Jews get their news primarily from radio–because they don’t have TVs. And the media on the radio is extremely conservative.
Get it clear,
I understand your position and your feeling of being hurt by the animosity towards yourself and other anti-vaxxer parents. The reason there is animosity–and the reason this issue isn’t simply a question of personal freedom–is because other people’s children can be hospitalized or die due to your failure to vaccinate. Babies under 6 months old and immunocompromised children cannot get vaccinated and are at the most risk for dying from diseases like measles, mumps, whooping cough, or chicken pox.
It is fine to have your own hashkofos and to do what you believe–however misguided–is best for your children. But what is the justification for grossly increasing the risk to my children?July 1, 2018 6:32 pm at 6:32 pm in reply to: Orthodox Rabbi Takes Job at LGBT Synagogue – Discuss #1549967
I disagree, Orthodox Rabbi is a title that implies that the bearer of that title acts in the capacity of an Orthodox Rabbi. If someone is a Rabbi of a Conservative synagogue, he is a Conservative Rabbi, even if he is a complete maiman and a shomer Torah u’mitzvos.
I also disagree with your definition of a chotei l’hachis. I don’t think it requires an acknowledgment that there is a Creator. If someone is an atheist and wants to show his rebellion against the Torah and Yiddishkeit, so he eats pork on Yom Kippur, that is a chotei l’hachis. The point is that he is doing the aveira as act of rebellion and not out of tayvah or ignorance.June 29, 2018 1:25 pm at 1:25 pm in reply to: Orthodox Rabbi Takes Job at LGBT Synagogue – Discuss #1549454
It depends on the situation. Those aren’t different denominations (i.e. Chasidus does not view Litvishness as apikorsus) and nowadays few congregations are specifically one over the other. However, if a chasidish Rav takes a shteller in KAJ or in Brisk, then he is not a Chasidish Rav anymore, he is a Yekkie or Litvish Rav who happens to personally be Chasidish.June 29, 2018 11:22 am at 11:22 am in reply to: Orthodox Rabbi Takes Job at LGBT Synagogue – Discuss #1549389
You can have a Rabbi in a non-Orthodox synagogue who is personally Orthodox. But, by definition, anyone who is a Rabbi in a non-Orthodox synagogue is not an Orthodox Rabbi.
The purpose of a car is to get you (and your family) from point A to point B. In purchasing a car the goal should be to find the lowest priced car (or if you are cash-strapped, the lowest monthly payment) that can reliably get you from point A to point B. There are also some typical modern add-ons that are extremely useful, such as a back-up camera and bluetooth compatability for hands-free calling. In short, your goal in purchasing a car should be utility. Anything beyond such basic utility is luxury, i.e. a waste of money.
Call them a Hartzig Minyan or a Singing Shabbos.
First, the basic issur of negia was done in front of everyone, there is no need to believe allegations. Second, I am not accepting the allegations as certainly true, I am uncertain. But given that uncertainty, I am bothered by affirmative statements of support or celebration of the man.
IMHO there is difference between using his songs (where Rav Moshe’s teshuvah says its okay) and advertising a “Carlebach minyan” or a “Carlebach Shabbos.” The latter, which smacks of a celebration of the man, bothers me a good deal.
That being said, a person can do terrible acts of rishus and also do incredible acts of kedusha. People are complex, they have great capicity for holiness and great capacity for evil. And most people do both great acts and bad acts. It isn’t all or nothing, one campe or the other.
I never said he endorsed Carlebach. It was critical of Carlebach. But Rav Moshe held that there is no isur in using his niggunim.April 24, 2018 11:46 am at 11:46 am in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1510602
You may have misunderstood what I wrote. I know the age is for Yichud for a man is 9 and a day. I used 13 because, as you noted, if the Jewish child is under bar or bas mitzvah and ther other person is a non-Jew, there is no one who has an obligation. However with a Jewish boy over 9 (and a non-Jewish adult female) we would/should still treat the situation as Yichud for chinuch purposes absent some grounds to be meikel.
I never said that 65 was elderly. I wasn’t basing what I writing on the idea that one of them was incapable of further aveira. I was merely creating an example of a reality where coming to a more serious isur is unlikely and therefore Morei Horaah are more likely to be meikel if they can find grounds to do so. The particular kulah would depend on the particular facts of the particular situation.April 24, 2018 9:35 am at 9:35 am in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1510433
I am not sure what you mean by drawing the line. Yichud d’oraisa is only one man and one woman where there is an isur erva d’oraisa between them. Everything else is d’rabbanan.
So, for example, Yichud with a non-Jewish woman is d’rabbanan. Many Rabbonim if asked a shaila about Yichud with a non-Jewish woman will look the reality of the situation and the danger of greater isurim before deciding whether to be rely on certain kulos. If the case is a 13-year old boy staying home with a 65-year old cleaning lady, they will be more meikel (and for sure if the boy is under 13). If the case is a 19-year old boy with a 25-year old cleaning lady, they will be more machmir.April 24, 2018 12:13 am at 12:13 am in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1510352
You are correct with respect to Yichud d’oraisa but not with respect to Yichud d’rabbanan and the willingness of morei horah and poskim to rely on kulos in given situations.
Rav Moshe, quite a while ago, already was matir using his niggunim. The use of his niggunim has become accepted in even the most yeshivish circles.
The only posek I have ever heard of who assurs listening to his music is Rabbi Yitzchok Abadi.April 23, 2018 12:51 pm at 12:51 pm in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1510111
Absolutely, and we have established that we are not choshesh for the situation inside the room/building changing. The question is whether we are choshesh for the situation outside the room changing. With a car, internally it can remain the same but whether or not there will be a problem will depend on where the car is located.
Once again, according to Rav Moshe and most other poskim, a car is not problem until it is on an isolated road. In other words, we aren’t choshesh that things will change until they actually change. I am just explaining the hava aminah.April 23, 2018 11:30 am at 11:30 am in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1510024
A car is unique for the following reason:
Normally, in hilchos Yichud, one does not need to be choshesh that the situation will change (except for where Chazal were gozer to be choshesh). For example, if a man, his teenage daughter and a housekeeper are in a house, there is no Yichud because the daughter is matzil. We don’t say that we should be choshesh that maybe the daughter will go out with some friends. If that happens, then there will be Yichud, but until then there is no reason to worry.
In a car, however, the situation inside the car can remain the same but the change of circumstances outside the car can render the situation Yichud. For example, a car with a dating couple driving in Woodridge would be fine because there are other cars and people about but that same car can then turn on to a small side road and it would be Yichud without anything changing inside the car. And since it is the norm for cars to move about from place to place, maybe we ought to be choshesh.
Another issue is that the issur Yichud is rare in that it a d’oraisa that operates as fence for bigger isurrim. But what isur is Yichud meant to prevent, lo sikrevu or just the isur kareis? Driving in car makes an isur kareis unlikely but the likelihood of lo sikrevu is not reduced.
I am not saying that you are wrong or that I disagree. I am just explaining why driving in a car is a harder shailoh than typical old-fashioned Yichud questions.April 20, 2018 9:24 am at 9:24 am in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1509194
Chareidi KBY Soldier,
I have always understood that Gemara in Kiddushin to be Rav Yehudah testing/teasing Rav Nachman. Rav Yehudah keeps on finding halachic problems with what Rav Nachman is doing and Rav Nachman struggles to answer. But Rav Yehudah doesn’t mean that there is an actual issur, he was just trying to see if Rav Nachman would respond that kol b’isha erva is only about zemer or only niskaven l’hanos or only b’shas kriash shema (according to those Rishonim that understand it that way).
All that being said, the Rashba explains that gemara by saying that responding to a sheilas shalom is worse than regular non-zemer kol. In other words it is just a sheilas sholom by another name.
As evidence that simple talking is not asur even in the times of the gemara, I would present the hundreds of stories in Shas where Tannaim, Amoraim, and regular people talk to the opposite gender without any indication or comment that there was any issur involved.April 19, 2018 4:12 pm at 4:12 pm in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1508990
Chareidi kby soldier,
That is why I wrote “good morning” and “good evening” as examples and not “how are you.” The former two are certainly mutar, the latter is as you wrote.
It also seems to me that even without the Rama, according to the Shulchan Aruch it might only refer to genuinely asking how she is doing, not the perfunctionary “Hi, how are you?” that one uses when engaging it routine commercial speech.April 19, 2018 3:27 pm at 3:27 pm in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1508953
Meno and Shopping613,
When I wrote that it was certainly fine, I meant from a halachic perspective. I was no discussing what is ideal for chinuch or ones need to set up fences. Those depend on the community and the individual in question.April 19, 2018 3:26 pm at 3:26 pm in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1508952
Slonimer and Gaon,
Eishes Ish is a greater if one commits a capital crime. But with respect to the Issur Yichud, they are the same. According to Rashi, yichud by a niddah is learned out of yichud by an eishes ish.
That Tosafos is ambiguous. I could be that Tosafos is saying is that ishto niddah is more lenient because she will become tahor shortly, but a penuyah nidda remains asur mid’oraisa just like eishes ish. You can also understand Tosafos as holding that the yichud by a nidda is only d’rabbanan. But the Tur and Shulchan Aruch pasken that it is d’oraisa.April 19, 2018 1:43 pm at 1:43 pm in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1508910
The statement you are referring to is in Pirkei Avos. But is אַל תַּרְבֶּה שִׂיחָה עִם הָאִשָּׁה. Don’t increase your speaking to a woman (or don’t speak to her a lot). Chazal were not saying that one should never talk to a woman but that one should not do it too much. Basic politeness (good morning, good evening, etc.) is certainly fine.April 19, 2018 1:38 pm at 1:38 pm in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1508901
By the terms of objective halacha you certainly can (except in situations where it would be Yichud for a date too. E.g. on a dark side road in the mountains). However, if the tznius standards of your particular community are against the practice, then you should not be poretz geder.
Eishes Ish and Nidda are both issurei erva with a chiyuv kares. Assuming the Yichud is d’oraisa, they are both Y’horag v’al Yavor. The only difference is that Eishes Ish, with eidim and hasra, gets misas beis din and Nidda does not. But that difference does not effect the issur Yichud.April 19, 2018 10:38 am at 10:38 am in reply to: Getting a ride with someone from the opposite gender #1508717
Penuyah in the time of the Gemara was a penuyah tehorah, i.e. not a Nidda. Nowadays our penuyos are all niddos and therefore the issur yichud is d’oraysa, just like an eshes ish. That being said, I don’t know why single girls would be worse, they should be the same.
On this topic generally, there is no halachic difference between going on a date and driving with someone of the opposite gender and giving them a ride outside of the dating context. If anything, the driving on the date has greater potential problems because of libo gas ba (after the first date or two) and because the context of dating lends itself to kalos rosh.
The Ibn Ezra says that Vashti was only banished.
I have a vague recollection of seeing a machlokes aggados about this but I’m not confident.
Vashti was the daughter of Belshazzar. What makes you say that she was in her teens (and why does it matter)?