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  • in reply to: Can you erase my messages I mean your messages, I mean my… #1938304
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Ugh, why did this conversation turn nasty?

    in reply to: Essential my foot! #1938302
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Why are grocery store workers “essential” when it comes to lockdowns but not when it comes to vaccinations?

    Who says they aren’t?

    in reply to: Is it ok to buy lottery tickets? #1938300
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    @yt that wasn’t my idea

    in reply to: Is it ok to buy lottery tickets? #1938131
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Maybe the following is an idea. Draw up a contract in whihc you commit to give away 90 percent of the post taxes winnings to Tzedakos all over the world. Designate percentages for Yeshivos, Chesed organizations, yechidim etc. WRITE IT OUT> Sign it in fornt of 2 witnesses, give then copies, tell your kids you wrote such a contract so you are diminishing g the chances of the Yetzer orah creeping in. Then buy it and say Tehillim that the mosdos need you to win.

    I’m not sure I get this. Hashem doesn’t need your help. Of course, if you become wealthy, you should give a lot of tzeddah (if I may disagree with Uncle Moishy) but I don’t get the making a deal with Hashem part.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937929
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Syag, that was indeed the biggest reason I posted

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937846
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I guess you can consider the title misleading, although I mostly chose it because it sounds good.

    When I was a kid, and there was a food fight (stopped by rebbeim yelling “Bal Tashchis! and “Bizui Ochlin”, or teachers yelling, “There are children starving in third world countries!), it was friendly.

    Anyhow, regardless of whether the mechutanim were angry, and regardless of how much money is at stake, I still think it’s a legitimate question what the breakdown should be.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937733
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    DY-What was the order of events in which this machlokes came about? Was the Kallah side originally planning on spending extra on the sushi alone? Did they have a conversation in which the kallah side agreed to spend extra only if the chosson side agreed to split?

    The kallah’s father suggested to the chosson’s father that they should take the pre-kabbolas ponim food option so that the younger family members can eat at a normal time. The chosson’s father said he agreed that it’s a good idea, and that they should split it. The kallah’s father responded that he will pay the two thirds line the rest of the chasunah.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937731
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    What’s a charcuterie board?

    Overpriced salami

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937443
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    So they’re arguing on which side shouldn’t donate more to “simchas chassan v’kallah”?

    These extras don’t really add much to the simchas chosson v’kallah, so no, but that’s really the point anyhow. I was addressing your point that Covid taught us we can have chasunas in the backyard.

    Sure, you can, and we did, but it’s still not l’chatchilah to have a chasunah with a bare minimum minyan and no friends.

    in reply to: Telegram vs whatsapp #1937346
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I’m told that Telegram is dangerous from a ruchniyus point of view.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937320
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Bottom line extras is paid by whoever suggests it

    The other side wants it just as much, and they both agreed to pay their share. The debate is about what is the fair share.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937311
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Tell whichever side you can that for a couple of hundred extra bucks (a drop in the bucket of wedding expenses),

    Easy enough to tell someone else how to spend their $.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937309
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Also what Covid has taught me is that you can still get married even without those things in a backyard with only ten people and they’re arguing about a (שטויות (ששית

    Cute pun. Yes, the kiddushin is chal, but There’s a reason people make big weddings (besides the cynical showing off reason) – a big chasunah gives simchas chosson v’kallah.

    So if the chasunah can be made safely, it’s proper to make a normal chasunah (admittedly the $2000 is over the top, but see my comment to Ubiquitin.)

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937313
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Was any conversation held previously?

    Previous to what?

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937308
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Since the kallah also wants the extras and the catering is paid by her side, the extras should also be paid by her.

    The chosson(‘s parents) also want it.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937307
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    It isnt part of the wedding. followign the wedding split makes no sense.

    The counterargument would be that on an ordinary night they wouldn’t be ordering this food, it’s obviously only because of the wedding.

    Only reason to differentiate would be if one side is much bigger than the other say Chossons side is twice the size of the kallah’s side.

    Probably true, and that’s probably true even for the ikar catering as well – if they go over the minimum because the chosson’s side is bigger, they should pay the extra.

    In this case, the families eating before the smorgasbord are probably relatively similar in size.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937304
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Since the kallah also wants the extras and the catering is paid by her side, the extras should also be paid by her.

    But see Ubiquitin’s point that it’s not really part of the wedding

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937302
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I changed some of the details to protect my friend’s privacy, so don’t get caught up on the details. (That’s the “moshol”, Ubiq)

    in reply to: What incitement?? #1937210
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Thanks I’m trying to understand how Trump can be viewed as innocent

    There’s a huge gap between being “innocent” and incitement.

    in reply to: What incitement?? #1937156
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    No, and for that reason the justice department said they weren’t pursuing it

    Thanks for the honest answer.

    in reply to: Telegram vs whatsapp #1937070
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    So apparently now the question is which is better, Telegram or Signal.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937049
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Thanks all for your responses.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937048
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Drive to the nearest Target and pick up some bags of chips and some candy bars. Everyone will be happy, and I guarantee you it will be cost much less than $2K.

    The catering hall doesn’t allow outside food. That’s also not very healthy, and to hey need some real food.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937047
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    rule 2 – which side has more money ,

    I don’t know, and I doubt they shared their bank account with each other. I don’t think that’s the point though. Even if the chosson’s parents were wealthier, the minhag is for the kallah’s parents to spend more on the chasunah (although I’ve heard of exceptions)

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937046
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    3. context & flexibility; there are 2 general rules , different people spend money on diff. things because to”THEM” its important and worth it so for one mechutan sushi is more important than a lady photographer.. and to the other a nuttery station in NECESSARY – so whoever really wants it pays the extra & do it besimcha

    They both want it.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937045
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    2. and for what sushi & salami?? its true that people coming for kabolas panim need to eat something its supper time people drove in… but these are not the filing items like sesame chicken & rice…

    I thought charcuterie boards had regular deli too. But I’m not a maven.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937044
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    1. so the chossons parents are arguing over $ 350 – after the kallas side is paying an extra approx 5000 ?

    It’s not the money, it’s the principle of the matter 😉
    Whether the minhag should be to split in half is a good question to debate, but it isn’t, and they’re not arguing on that point. Also, they have other kids so have been or will be on the other side of that unequal sharing minhag in other cases.

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937043
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    it is split the same way the other chasunah expenses are.

    I assume you mean 2/3 to 1/3.

    Would you say the same if they picked up chips and candy bars from Target? Or is this only because it’s coming from the same caterer?

    in reply to: Food Fight #1937042
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    No one’s right since there isn’t any norm for this issue.

    Ok, but what should they do?

    in reply to: Biden’s Vaccine Plan #1936946
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I think Biden’s plan makes sense. One of the reason the states are so sluggish in giving out the vaccine is because of their silly prioritization rules. If they had more vaccines, they would just give it out to whoever wants (as, in my opinion, they should already be doing).

    By the time the second dose is needed, there will have been more doses produced, so hopefully everyone can get their second dose regardless.

    in reply to: Amen, Awomen #1936935
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Calm down. Cleaver said awomen was just a pun.

    To save face

    in reply to: Would you vote for Donald Trump again? #1936927
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    How can anyone answer this without being told who he’d be running against?

    in reply to: What incitement?? #1936915
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    Ubiquitin, is that legally incitement?

    in reply to: Nannies #1935453
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I wasn’t trying to blame either of you, just that the thread comes out as insensitive IMHO.

    in reply to: Nannies #1935336
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I don’t like this thread.

    I think that right after a family suffers from a nanny causing a brain injury, it’s not the right time to discuss the wisdom of having a nanny.

    I similarly didn’t like the fire safety discussion in the immediate aftermath of a family suffering from a tragic fire.

    There have been other similar threads on the heels of a tragedy, and it somehow feels to me that the victim is being blamed.

    in reply to: to stay in Kollel ? #1934374
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    As far as the OP’s question, even if we were to assume (which we shouldn’t) that there are any cr responders whose opinion should be followed, there is clearly not enough information here to answer.

    in reply to: to stay in Kollel ? #1934369
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    You are obligated to fulfill your Kesuba from the moment you get married.

    Just like any other monetary obligation, the other party (the wife in this case) can be moichel.

    in reply to: to stay in Kollel ? #1934368
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Guys who are serious about staying in Kollel are focused and do not wonder if they should be leaving. IMHO.

    This part of the comment backs up Dr. Nat’s assertion that he’s not an anti-kollel troll.

    in reply to: Anti-Face Mask YWNCR #1933120
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    @daas-yochid You said that you saw a person choking nearly to death because of a mask. So yes, you did say that wearing a mask is physically impossible and dangerous for many people.

    I don’t know why you insist on double, triple, and quadrupling down on my your distortion of what I said.

    That’s literally all I’ve been saying this entire thread.

    Until you added a bunch of other things.

    in reply to: Anti-Face Mask YWNCR #1933123
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Please explain to me how wearing a mask while going to shul, the supermarket, school, or when talking with a friend is such a major hindrance on your life.

    The irony here is that upthread you claimed to be flexible, but when people keep telling you how uncomfortable they feel in mask, you can’t accept it and ask for an “explanation”. Just accept how people feel if they fell you they’re uncomfortable. (That’s literally all I’ve been saying the entire thread despite your distortion.)

    in reply to: Corona Chillul Hashem (again) #1933027
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I would not rely on his essay as a basis for breaking the law and possibly causing a major chillul hashem.

    I am questioning if something is a chillul Hashem when it is very reasonable to say that their actions saved lives.

    Calling the existing policies murderous is probably hyperbole and is not necessary to make this point.

    in reply to: Anti-Face Mask YWNCR #1932927
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Masks are only one part of the puzzle. We need masks, social distancing, limiting public gatherings, limiting close contact, exposure awareness, quarantine procedures, etc.

    So stop saying how easy this is when the reality is that you are demanding huge, destructive life changes, not just mask wearing (which itself you underestimate how difficult it is for many).

    in reply to: Anti-Face Mask YWNCR #1932926
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    @daas-yochid You claimed that wearing a mask is physically impossible for some people and even dangerous for many.

    No, I didn’t. That’s how you distorted my words, and you were called out on it.

    in reply to: Corona Chillul Hashem (again) #1932699
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    1) the brazenness. it was advertised

    This makes me believe their claim that they did receive authorization, it at least that they believed they did.

    2) They gave people without any criteria at all.

    This certainly isn’t what their stated policy was. That having been said, in some cases it could be justified. From what I understand, once opened, all 10 doses need to be used right away, so if two people didn’t show up to their appointments, it’s better to give it to two young healthy people rather than discard them. They also found many vials contained an extra dose, so better to use it on someone available rather than throw it out.

    in reply to: Corona Chillul Hashem (again) #1932672
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    The Vaccine Scandal, the CDC, and Murder

    If the author is right that the current policy is murder, is it a chillul Hashem to violate this policy?

    I am not granting that they violated any laws, certainly not knowingly (they deny it). I am asking even if theoretically they did.

    in reply to: Anti-Face Mask YWNCR #1932190
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    No, I didn’t ignore it, I just didn’t comment on it.

    You insist that wearing masks is no big deal, not just that you should do it anyhow.

    in reply to: Anti-Face Mask YWNCR #1931072
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    May I suggest before continuing we all read Rabbi Avi Shafran’s latest article entitled “Mask Ask”?

    Including the part where he says he felt like he was suffocating when wearing a mask?

    in reply to: Anti-Face Mask YWNCR #1930620
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    No point in responding when you refuse to hear what others are saying and need to distort in order to make your point.

    in reply to: Anti-Face Mask YWNCR #1930569
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    I was taking @daas-yochid s story to the logical place.

    There’s nothing logicical about your conclusions. The story is 100% true, and your fantastic distortion is one of a series of falsehoods you have posted here.

    You even had the chutzpah to post that someone is just as able to be heard through a mask as without, which is blatantly false as anyone who has compared can attest to.

    Your assertion that masks are actually not uncomfortable is another big lie as many can attest to. Maybe for you, but your unwillingness to accept that others have a different reality is a distortion of the truth and indeed reflects the lack of empathy to which you admit.

    in reply to: A Thread That is Not Really About a New Cd by Boruch Levine #1930290
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Agreed

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