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☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
Which part are you talking about?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantSo you think if you give to an organization with the purpose of giving to individuals it doesn’t count?
Boich sevara.
☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant251: 9 ????
February 10, 2015 4:23 am at 4:23 am in reply to: Why do people say "tuna fish?" (and other such questions) #1058821☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantOff the top of my head:
Mayim Acharonim vasser.
Good Yom Tov
Bad headache
Criminal lawyer
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantWhat did I do this time?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantAma’aretz?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantRU, I never claimed to have finished law school.
Gilda, nothing new to report.
☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantI know a lot of rabbis who work second (or even third) jobs.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantIs cloning allowed according to halachah?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantUpdate: I’m still an ama’aretz.
February 8, 2015 4:10 pm at 4:10 pm in reply to: You know you're not a yeshiva guy anymore when… #1197594☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantPurimMashgiach, you forgot to mention the iron.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantYes, but not so so big that it’s a full service Starbucks.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantGoq, sure, but per capita?
The place I davened this year on Yom Kippur doesn’t charge for seats, and doesn’t have annual dues.
But I’m not saying where it is, because I’m afraid popa’s gonna show up.
February 8, 2015 5:50 am at 5:50 am in reply to: How to Deal with a Request for a Shidduch Picture #1136546☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantOy.
L’maaseh, at this point, you can’t expect him to “accept” your opinion simply because it’s your opinion. The best you can do is have an honest conversation, express your opinion and the reasons for it, and try convincing him.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantPupa Tzelem Matzah Bakery. Matzah. I don’t want to say lashon hora (really, they’re all fine, but each has a different taste, and it’s a matter of preference).
February 8, 2015 12:14 am at 12:14 am in reply to: "Distance Your Path from It" � The Dangers of Academic Study #1141214☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantSam, way to take all context out of the situation.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantAnd then, according to you, quadrupling the price for that. So who’s doing the ripping off, the one who sells a diamond for $2,500, or the one who sells the same quality and size diamond for $10,000? And if you’re worried that your neighbor’s cousin is selling you a CZ, just bring it to a different store to get it appraised.
February 6, 2015 4:33 pm at 4:33 pm in reply to: "Distance Your Path from It" � The Dangers of Academic Study #1141206☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantZahavasdad, that post should have been a troll thread.
February 6, 2015 2:56 pm at 2:56 pm in reply to: "Distance Your Path from It" � The Dangers of Academic Study #1141202☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantDaMoshe, if you trust your rav, that won’t happen. I’m not saying he’s right or wrong, but lots of things in Yiddishkeit can be difficult. If you trust your rav, and he tells you something is wrong, you listen to him.
February 6, 2015 2:21 pm at 2:21 pm in reply to: How to Deal with a Request for a Shidduch Picture #1136540☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantOh, my, this is embarrassing. I was doing a CR search (searching for the word Brisker, of course), and I found this thread, and it turns out that my great granddaughter does have internet access.
If you’re reading this, mein tier’eh einikle, please don’t tell Mommy, Tatty, Bubby and Zaidy who I am.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantOf course, it is possible that Tiffany’s is the one doing the ripping off…
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantVenture capital firms that debated whether to capitalize popa.
Anyhow, I assume you’re referring to a small gift during the engagement (since you’re considering flowers), so what’s wrong with a gift of jewelry with a disclaimer that it’s not gold?
February 5, 2015 11:08 pm at 11:08 pm in reply to: How to Deal with a Request for a Shidduch Picture #1136538☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantA mamin, have you tried discussing your objections?
February 5, 2015 11:07 pm at 11:07 pm in reply to: How to Deal with a Request for a Shidduch Picture #1136537☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantWhy, how old do I look?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantSo did Venrock and New Enterprise Associates.
February 5, 2015 9:41 pm at 9:41 pm in reply to: How to Deal with a Request for a Shidduch Picture #1136534☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantWhat would happen if you told him that you won’t be party to such a thing? Would he never get married, would he pursue shidduchim on his own, or would he acquiesce?
February 5, 2015 9:36 pm at 9:36 pm in reply to: "Distance Your Path from It" � The Dangers of Academic Study #1141181☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantGavra, He may punish someone for atzlus, but that is not what we are talking about.
February 5, 2015 9:31 pm at 9:31 pm in reply to: "Distance Your Path from It" � The Dangers of Academic Study #1141180☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantI don’t know if this letter exists or not, nor can I comment on the status of the various educational institutions being referred to. However, I think most who have commented here have missed the point.
The letter isn’t saying that because Hashem provides, we therefore do not need to do hishtadlus. It is saying that a certain type of hishtadlus is unacceptable, and as a result, we must avoid it, and use other means of hishtadlus, and even if it seems difficult, we must trust in Hashem to provide.
Imagine what it was like in America when there was a six day work week, and people were told, “If you don’t show up on Saturday, don’t bother coning in on Monday”. Would you tell someone faced with that dilemma that poverty is horrible, and we need to do hishtadlus, so he would work on Shabbos? Or would tell them to have faith in Hashem that He will provide, a d pursue other forms of hishtadlus?
I am not comparing going to academic institutions in Eretz Yisroel, which I know little about, to working on Shabbos. What I’m saying is that given that the letter writer assumed it to be unacceptable, he is not dismissing the requirement for hishtadlus, nor downplaying the suffering of people in poverty.
February 5, 2015 8:41 pm at 8:41 pm in reply to: "Distance Your Path from It" � The Dangers of Academic Study #1141177☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantOURtorah, a ma’amin believes that Hashem gives what He wants us to have, regardless of hishtadlus. Nevertheless, hishtadlus is a chiyuv.
February 5, 2015 7:51 pm at 7:51 pm in reply to: "Distance Your Path from It" � The Dangers of Academic Study #1141172☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantHow much have you donated until now?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantAre you in the habit of giving gifts to people who don’t know you?
Anyhow, you could tell her as you’re giving it.
February 5, 2015 7:02 pm at 7:02 pm in reply to: "Distance Your Path from It" � The Dangers of Academic Study #1141167☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantFiF, why is that the choice? I’m sure he’s also against l”h, TV and movies as well.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantYou can have a society which lives in poverty, but not to the extent that children literally don’t have what to eat. The individuals who do r”l reach that point do not have to define or reflect on the society as a whole.
February 5, 2015 4:45 pm at 4:45 pm in reply to: How to Deal with a Request for a Shidduch Picture #1136531☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantYD and YY, I left out part of the story. Let’s just say that Photoshop does a lot more than just cropping…
February 5, 2015 4:43 pm at 4:43 pm in reply to: How to Deal with a Request for a Shidduch Picture #1136530☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantGoq, tyvm.
February 5, 2015 4:43 pm at 4:43 pm in reply to: How to Deal with a Request for a Shidduch Picture #1136529☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantNfgo3, how else if not from Hashem??
February 5, 2015 4:42 pm at 4:42 pm in reply to: How to Deal with a Request for a Shidduch Picture #1136528☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantInterjection, I’m with you, but FYI, some shadchanim will get a photo, and will not forward it, but show it in person (granted, this is trickier for a long distance shidduch).
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantI’m not really disagreeing with you, but there are two perspectives on this – the individual and the society.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantWhy does she have to think it’s “real”?
☕ DaasYochid ☕Participantbut is that worth it?
I suppose that depends on one’s priorities, doesn’t it?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantI’m talking about someone who is familiar with the yeshiva olam in America, and was still impressed with the difference.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantGavra, my thoughts are that Eretz Yisroel and chu”l are two entirely different worlds. You know my thoughts regarding the military service; I wish it were optional. If it became optional, you would see the situation there more closely resemble the one here. It wouldn’t happen right away, because there’s a certain culture ingrained, but it would happen (quicker than it’s already happening).
The appeal is heartrending, I hope exaggerated, but I don’t know. If someone were in that matzav here, I would say, “get a job, fulfill your kesuvah!”, and in fact, I haven’t seen any who don’t try. I really can’t cast blame on yungerleit there, though, because I really don’t know what the options are.
What you’re also neglecting to mention is the upside. A friend of mine was recently in E.Y. for a family event, and he was astounded by the way you can find people (not necessarily kollel people) in the batei midrash learning b’hasmadah at all times of day and night. Even the “sichas chulin” is on a different plane – people who we might consider ordinary baalei battim are quoting Gemaras, Midrashim, Rishonim, Acharonim, etc. back and forth in ordinary conversation.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantDY: It’s not about numbers.
You missed my point, unless you think it’s not better to learn more. Sure, ????? ???? ???, but what is the ?? striving and yearning for?
You don’t by any chance have a different ????? which takes out the words
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☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantIn fact I am in university now to get a good degree and I hope that maybe I will be able to support my own husband in Kollel.
Why? If it’s all the same anyhow…
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantYou have to admit, learning 12 hours a day is more than learning 2 hours a day.
(FTR, I wasn’t calling you an am ha’eretz, ch”v.)
February 4, 2015 11:12 pm at 11:12 pm in reply to: How to Deal with a Request for a Shidduch Picture #1136518☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantShe’s not old enough to decide that. She’s only 17!
February 4, 2015 10:47 pm at 10:47 pm in reply to: How to Deal with a Request for a Shidduch Picture #1136516☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantIf she’s old enough to drive, she’s old enough to get married.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantMy wife once asked her, “Doesn’t it get hard? Don’t you sometimes want your husband to help out financially?”
Something similar once happened to me. The wife of a long time kollel guy asked my wife, “Doesn’t it feel horrible to be married to an ama’aretz? Don’t you sometimes wish your husband learned?”. She answered that she’s very proud of her husband who helps out financially. Her husband then commented that it sounded like my wife was in a cult.
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