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gavra: I haven’t seen the Gemorah and Rashi recently, but in no version was their actual znus. Just a test to see if she would be receptive which she failed.
Nashim Da’atan Kalos is a given in the Gemorah even outside of this issue.
The shadchanim are beholden to the boys through no choice of their own. They need the boys; the boys don’t need the shadchanim.July 21, 2011 3:37 pm at 3:37 pm in reply to: With what was known about L Aron, could anyone have predicted that he'd murder? #787841
Everything Levi told the cops bore out as true. He panicked when he saw the massive search. That being said, the search was absolutely the correct approach to finding Leiby zt”l, as there was no way to predict Aron’s lunatic reaction.
Boys always had the upper hand. Throughout Jewish history the boys would get a dowry from the girls side.
mommamia22: Is this your second marriage?
So what did the poor bubbe’s do to earn being known as telling “bubbe meisa’s”?July 21, 2011 1:35 pm at 1:35 pm in reply to: With what was known about L Aron, could anyone have predicted that he'd murder? #787839
No, there was absolutely no way to know or predict. He had a totally clean record (except for a minor misdemeanor that was essentially equivalent to getting a driving ticket).
He was a little weird, but if you tried to throw out of society (not that you could even if you tried) all people who are slow, you’d have so many people to start with you’d never get anywhere.
Also, the DA yesterday confirmed that the Medical Examiner determined their was no sexual abuse in this case. Nor did Aron have any history of such abuse in the past.
Currently 676 people have donated $34,400 (not counting any mail-in contributions), in less than 12 hours of the site being up, making the average donation over $50. The goal is $1 Million.
Where is the Mitzvah of Machzir Grushuso brought down or mentioned?
I have. I even saw the Rosh Yeshiva’s children collecting door to door.
Umm, why most he noticeably “look” at his Kallah in front of everyone? Yidden don’t show public displays of love or affection.July 20, 2011 8:10 pm at 8:10 pm in reply to: A third of Litvish families I know, have one or more single daughters 25 and up #909455
As a respected journalist, he is privy to studies which we are not.
A journalist is expected to source information he uses coming from a study.
I never saw anyone encourage the girls to wait.
If you look-up AZ’s comments in the CR from 2 years ago, he was encouraging girls parents to hold their daughters from dating in their earlier years. See for example (there were other more explicit but these are the first I found now):
AZ: “Truth be told we need to move on both ends. The boys a bit younger and the girls a bit older.”
AZ: “Suggestion Number 1. Many many girls will be coming home from seminary this month. How about NOT rushing to redd them shidduchim to all the 22-23 year old guys?”
He at some point stopped advocating this.
Derech HaMelech: They do have a label for it: Heimish.
HaLeiVi: In Europe until relatively fairly recently, Chasanim and Kallah’s did marry before age 18.
I think the Mishna’s directive of Shemoneh Esrei L’Chupah is intended as a ceiling not a floor.
That’s why there is “herr nor”, as mentioned above.
In New York children collect door to door, sent by their Yeshivos and approved by their parents (the kids are coming from their homes after Yeshiva) to collect tzedakah all the time.
If you’re grandparents are Ger and Vizhnitz, how were you left out of Yiddish knowledge?
apushutayid – actually the traditional “from” party on an invitation was also “Mr. and Mrs. Charles Cohen”.
I also heard the “hernor” by my Rov ztvk”l calling his Rebbitzen anytime anyone else was within hearing distance. It is a tznius geder.
There are 3 commercial avenues along Leiby’s path (13th Avenue, 16th Avenue, and 18th Avenue).
That being said, any potential criminal, including Aron, could have participated in the “Safe Haven Program” to lure kids. I don’t think it is anything more than a publicity stunt by the politicians.
I am so devastated to hear he was alive in the apartment till late Tuesday afternoon/early evening, and wasn’t helped or found.
mommamia22: Where did you hear that he was alive so long into the search and was only r’l smothered so close before the cops found Aron?
Children are sent out collecting by many (if not most) of their Yeshivos to train the children in the great mitzvah of collecting tzedakah. It is a wonderful way to teach the children to collect tzedakah while at the same time raising tzedakah.July 20, 2011 6:21 pm at 6:21 pm in reply to: How do you tell a good friend you no longer want to eat at their home? #1051861
One should not compromise on kashrus or halacha. Not even minhugim or gedarim and certainly not halacha. One shouldn’t even put themselves in a b’dieved situation.
In our grandfathers generation in Europe, marrying at 18 was quite common. So it was only pretty recently that people started marrying later.
75 in dollars or shekels?
Even though it is called a toeiva, it isn’t a capital offense like the toeiva the liberals promote.
It was at $10 this morning. An hour later I saw it at $320.
Thats because the mailing labels we used were not big enough to accommodate the entire name.
Mailing labels are sufficiently long if they wanted it. The fact is the traditional address is to “Mr. & Mrs. Charles Cohen”. Like yitayningwut mentioned, any deviation from that (even amongst the secular) comes from feminism of relatively recent vintage.
Is a US$75,000 salary realistic for that kind of job in Eretz Yisroel? (Or did you mean NIS75,000?)
BTW, how much experience do you have?July 20, 2011 4:03 pm at 4:03 pm in reply to: A third of Litvish families I know, have one or more single daughters 25 and up #909441
Yes to all, as long as:
gavra: Realistically it can’t work. A Reform husband and a Litvish wife??? Even if in theory it were doable (the two conditions you mentioned), it would never be practicable. 1) You could never trust him to keep the conditions 2) How “frum” do you really think a Reform father’s children will be?July 20, 2011 3:33 pm at 3:33 pm in reply to: A third of Litvish families I know, have one or more single daughters 25 and up #909439
Almost four times as many Yeshivish/Modern Yeshivish girls as guys 20-30.
Ofcourse: Where do those numbers come from? SawYouAtSinai (as you implied) — in which case how did you obtain SYAS’s data? — or your own personal anecdotal data from who you deal with but nothing else?
It ISN’T hachnosos orchim to invite neighborhood friends and couples, as was earlier discussed on this thread.
Google Translate gives a mostly readable translation.July 20, 2011 3:20 pm at 3:20 pm in reply to: How do you tell a good friend you no longer want to eat at their home? #1051854
ItcheSrulik: The goy has neemanus to trust his “kosher keilim”.July 20, 2011 2:16 pm at 2:16 pm in reply to: How do you tell a good friend you no longer want to eat at their home? #1051847
Just because you don’t agree with these does not make it assur for you to eat the food.
If his Rov (like most) hold it’s assur and makes it treif, then even if there is some rabbi who holds it’s okay for the other person, it’s still assur and treif for him to eat there — as that’s his rov’s psak.July 20, 2011 2:13 pm at 2:13 pm in reply to: Drinking Less than Kzayis is not Breaking the Fast? #787544
So if you drink less than miloy lugmo you haven’t broken your fast? How many ounces is miloy lugmo? How many times can you repeat the drink within what timeframe? Is it similar with food?
That’s a difficult concept to assert that a “mishnah is no longer applicable to most people bizman haze”. Otherwise people can pick and choose what they feel is or isn’t applicable to the modern era.
As long as it’s a bubbe meise!
IUseBrains: You got an honorable mention in the OP.
WIY: The implication of your comment seems to be that the Mishna isn’t relevant in the modern era. Since I’m sure that wasn’t your intention, I just wanted to ask you to please clarify. Thanks
She said she is a counselor there, and for some reason I assumed it was a sleep-away camp. Come to think of it, it’s more likely a day camp.
I asked about kiruv or teens at risk since it is practically unheard of a 13 year old girl in a very frum camp having to do with boys.
What about if the husband is a Kohen? Then they SHOULD NOT remarry.
A Kohen may not marry a divorcee; even his own former wife. That’s precisely the reason why the rabbonim try to discourage a divorce by a Kohen even moreso than regular — since once he gives her the get he will never be able to change his mind and remarry her.
How do you have internet at camp?
Is this a kiruv or camp for kids at risk?
I gotta say that for someone who ostensibly doesn’t know Yiddish, your Yiddish is pretty darn good.
What if the husband marries in between, but not the wife. Can they still remarry?
Yes.July 19, 2011 10:33 pm at 10:33 pm in reply to: Drinking Less than Kzayis is not Breaking the Fast? #787538
And within how much time can you repeat drinking another drink (under the maximum) again?
Leider: Then why the “placards” on the window and the “emboldened” jackets?
Sorry, when people call me a sinner, I feel the need to defend myself.
In the past you repeatedly refer to yourself as a sinner. What gives?
English also has multiple dialects. Almost any language does.July 19, 2011 7:54 pm at 7:54 pm in reply to: Two points from this weeks Yated – Kollel & Agudah #787382
You’re a Ron Paul fan too?
Why is it a mitzvah. It ISN’T hachnosos orchim as earlier discussed on the thread.