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  • in reply to: Disturbing Story on Plane #727518

    frumladygit
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    Do you know whats even more disturbing?

    In this Coffee Room, a member has written Loshen Hara about Yidden, above. He has written above a description of the evil report on Yidden, which he got from a WORD REMOVED working for an airline.

    Yet the moderators deleted my message to the OP in which I gave him a heavy dose of mussar about his comment. It was bad that he came away from listening to WORD REMOVED speaking negatively about his own people and didn’t even have what to answer them, or defend us. Then, he rather comes to a ‘supposedly’ frum website to ask his fellow commentors what we think about our rude reputation amongst air line hosts.

    There was no apology or editing done to censor the OP’s report, on the Moderators part.

    The fact is that this is a public website on-line. This conversation/thread is not exclusively private for only the frum community or Jewish people to contend with. Non Jews can read these threads, and derive conclusions from our own speaking derogatorily on our own selves.

    The public can form judgments and form futher convictions they may have already held against Jews.

    As with any derogatory statments and anti semetic opinions, my fundamental question to the dedicated Moderators is why would they delete a thread titled “Jews and Racisim” which I created last week, and I asked a basic question. Why are we discriminatory against “ WORD REMOVED “? I brought up a fundamental point about the socio-economic barrier and class distinction in this question.

    However, I am surprised that you let the above thread pass which is a bad rap on Yidden. It is not even a question posed in order to quench an innocent ignorance. This thread posted by the OP is obviously loshen hara without a constructive purpose.

    If the Moderators saw it fit to remove a post regarding a question about why we jews are racist against blacks, why would they let alone a thread that deals with an evil report, from the mouth of a WORD REMOVED ? And a jew comes to post what they said on yidden in a yeshivish website? You support this?

    I think you should remove the word Yeshivish from your website.

    Secondly I think you might prefer living in a communist country, where censorship is your kind of thing. Very frequent and used heavily.

    Lastly, I am sick of your website by the nature of the selective editing and deleting of topics and comments that do not deserve to be swept under the carpet.

    I have no intention of returning.

    We will help you leave.

    BYE!

    P.s- Even if you only read this and delete it, at least ….

    “The fact is that this is a public website on-line. This conversation/thread is not exclusively private for only the frum community or Jewish people to contend with. Non Jews can read these threads, and derive conclusions from our own speaking derogatorily on our own selves.”

    Exactly. So how did you submit all the words above which were removed by the moderators. Did you think they would make a kiddush hashem?

    in reply to: The Best Is Yet To Come! #726999

    frumladygit
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    Yeah eclipse, I have a lot of hope for the future, and believe so, because Hashem does wonderful things, as apparent from my unbelievably wonderful life. I owe him so much.

    I just want to burn the painful past behind me. Emunah in life, and in what Hashem can do is very transforming and empowering.

    in reply to: What Do You Do During The Blizzard #726913

    frumladygit
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    Clean the house immaculately. Make sure the kitchen is well stocked. Cook the most gourmet healthy hardy winter soups. Start knitting, and reading books to the kids, and share old photos with the family, remembering the memories.


    frumladygit
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    As soon as you start wishing the floor would eat you up, you must realize that to anyone who can see you, you’re actually turning bright shades and hues of orange, blush, and fire engine red by that point!

    in reply to: STOP YELLING!!And don't(smack)hit(smack)your sister!!(smack) #727962

    frumladygit
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    who around here sleeps enough? I personally go to be around 1 a.m. Rarely earlier, and sometimes later. (maximum 2 am)

    Then babies wake me any where from 4:30 a.m to 5:30 and its hard to fall back. I want to be in bed 10:30 but I don’t know how.

    in reply to: Shaking Hands #726697

    frumladygit
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    Sender Av do you mean the late Lubavitcher Rebbetzin?

    in reply to: Shpitzel #727081

    frumladygit
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    crdle, no…no..no..what those ladies in Seagate were wearing is only for inside the house, and its called a turban. Its not for going on the street with.

    A shpitzel is not the scarf part of the wrapping on a chassidish lady..its the front part that looks like hair color.

    First you put a shpitzel, which is usually the color of what your hair color was, brownish, or dirty blondish or dark dark brown. Usually made very talented and specially by a shpitzelmacher out of real silk threads. From far it looks like a front tucked in neatly. Or if you’re even more frum and machmir you don’t wear from thread like material, but its just rather a brown cloth that from far gives the look of a front.

    Then on top of the shpitzel goes the pretty silk scarf delicately and neatly folded and pinned up. There are different ways of tying it.

    They cost about $140 and the silk scarf can cost around $260

    After a few years you have to replace the shpitzel as it gets old and used looking.

    in reply to: Best Proposal Stories #728226

    frumladygit
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    Acutally I don’t know how I ended up marrying my husband as he officially never did ask me to. LOL

    I guess being in shidduchim we both knew we weren’t interviewing one another for prospective housecleaning positions! But rather for husband and wife purposes.

    Maybe I should mention that to him tonight? He still has yet to propose? Is proposing like the non jews do it the norm in the frum world? : Guy gets down on one knee and says: “Jenny will you be my wife”?

    in reply to: Bigger Assur Facebook or Smoking? #726613

    frumladygit
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    oh eclipse I am sorry. May you only see truly good results of her nisyonas in the end. She will overcome them if you talk quietly heart to heart, say late at night, and through the love in your heart for her she will get the message.

    in reply to: CR Ignore List #725882

    frumladygit
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    Gabboim I am so shocked and ashamed of you! It sounds like you’re trying to initiate makloiches and bad feelings. Thats a mean thread to start! you’re looking for trouble!

    in reply to: Bigger Assur Facebook or Smoking? #726602

    frumladygit
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    ok whoever believes that facebook puts you in spiritual danger …I DISAGREE! It all depends on how you use it! Facebookk is not inheritantly evil. Neither is a butcher’s knife.

    On the other hand no matter how you smoke cigarettes, they pose a serious health threat.

    in reply to: Bigger Assur Facebook or Smoking? #726593

    frumladygit
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    sorry I dont get it. Although intuitvely my binah sense as a woman tells me Facebook is not a 100% “osgehalten” …I need to hear whats wrong with it precisely. Can anyone explain?

    also ItcheSrulik, you need to site what mishnah deals with the topic of Facebook, if you please. Thanks

    in reply to: Too many pinocchios (nosy people) #963045

    frumladygit
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    TheGoq I noticed this when i first became frum and joined the religoius, as you state about the trait of being interested in other’s affairs. (thats putting it nicely).

    In one conversation my husband had with someone, the person said something funny and true. IF/When you are ever new to a community and go to shul just hang a sign around your neck :

    This is my parnassa $ , how much I earn.

    THis is my yichus….

    And my name is….

    Thats’ all you gotta do to fill their wondering minds.

    in reply to: Watching movies made during WWII? #726144

    frumladygit
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    TheGoq has a very good sense of humor.

    in reply to: Older Guys in Shidduchim #775394

    frumladygit
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    My husband knows of an older man who when he was “on the market” after his divorce, the shadchan told him bluntly over the phone:

    “If I can verify you have money, today, I have a queque of girls lined up”. In fact, in one case, the shadcan had a girl under 20 who could not have children, but whose parents would have overlooked the divorced mans age (almost a difference of 20 years) if they knew she would be comfortable!

    I think with older men $$$ is the bottom line. You can buy a wife.

    in reply to: Ladies would you consider homebirth? #782452

    frumladygit
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    deiyezooger, another contributing factor to the high infant mortality rate in the USA is the lack of quality prenatal care amongst low socio economic classes like blacks and hispanics. According to some report I read once, Black people are actually amongst the highest infant mortality rate in the USA …don’t ask me to dig up that report now! LOL

    Health, I agree with your last statement completely. Obstetric care is there when we need it! Thank g-d.

    I competely dislike ignorant folks who take risks with the life of their unborn babies. I actually heard once of a group of xtrian idiot women in Tennessee (Not THe Farm Midwives btw) who have absolutely no medical training, no midwifery skills whatsoever, however, they will come to a birth to stand and pray.

    I admire England because they have what is called “Rights of the unborn child”. And charges will be laid against any unscrupulous parent who makes choices that can harm the unborn fetus.

    in reply to: Interviews: Funny answers to trick questions #972473

    frumladygit
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    Ha ha ha sister bear. Reminds me of a funny email I got once : Top funny things to do in an elevator.

    1. Drop a penny down the shute where the doors open, and get down and look and cry “MY PENNY!”

    2. Draw a chalk circle around yourself on the floor of the elevator.

    3. Hand out name tages for everyone, introducing each other.

    4. Face the wrong way, towards the people.

    FUnny huh?

    in reply to: Diabetes Support Group #980042

    frumladygit
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    wow allsgr8 that is some dramatic story !!! I never contemplated how dangerous diabetes can be. But its true, one can go into a coma with such high sugars.

    You know one night, I was sleeping and my blood sugar was dropping, although I only woke up once it reached 1.2!!!!! This was my scariest diabetic story moment as far as low sugars is concerned. My husband literally had to hold my cheek just to keep my mouth open so the straw would stay in so I could drink sugary soda.


    frumladygit
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    Why do you think so ronrsr?

    in reply to: Diabetes Support Group #980038

    frumladygit
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    Cofefan, stress affects blood sugar levels by playing around with the hormone cortisol released by the adrenals. It is meant to raise blood sugar levels so that if one is being attacked by a bear, you have the adrenaline “fight or flight” response. However living a stressful life style day in and out takes its toll on the pancreas and adrenal glands.

    Coffeefan, when it was first detected I had it, I was in denial for almost 10 years, and I didn’t test or eat properly all that time! B’H, I am Type II. To be honest, its even hard for me to address this group, or to find myself in a diabetes group in the coffee room, as I feel its not me. However, I am in control of my lifestyle and insulin today, and blood sugars are good. I guess its not so bad to admit to it today.

    I actually had it in my first pregnancy. 18 years ago. They warned me its likely to come back in 10 years. Well on my kids’ 3rd birthday, I ate left over cake for 3 days after the party, and one day my aunt who is a diabetic said “Lets just test your sugar.” So I was agreeable, for fun, I suppose. And I hadn’t eaten in a few hours, but it was 13.5 or something. SHe looked full of sadness at me, as if I just told her someone had died, and she said ” I am so sorry you are diabetic!”. I just laughed and said whatever. Stop acting like that. Now I realize why I was so thirsty all those years. I began taking humulin N and humalog as needed, all within the past 5 years, regularily. And with the diet To Learn Control (TLC) i almost need no insulin, Thank G-d!

    But I really don’t like to talk about diabetes.

    in reply to: Sensible Shoes And A Beautiful Mind… #782298

    frumladygit
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    Eclipse I hear what you’re saying…but its going too far, to look into it as insults, cause otherwise we practically would be so limited in what we could say to anyone anywhere!

    I got insulted once when someone said “wow you don’t even look pregnant” and i was standing there 8 or 9 months pregnant and she had just seen me in the pool in a bathing suit????!!!!

    SHe meant you’re so gezint and chubby to start with we don’t see the baby! AChhhh.

    in reply to: Interviews: Funny answers to trick questions #972469

    frumladygit
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    I love practical jokes. I always make myself laugh out of the blue, say while I am working in the kitchen, just dreaming up the crazy things I could do! Of course es past mich nisht! but…

    What if you just walked up to someone in the street or subway you didn’t know at all and hesitate, pull out a quarter, push it into their hand and say “Take care of yourself, huh?” And pat them on the back and walk away. LOL Crazy.

    What if you were sitting on a city bus and pull out a folding tv dinner table tray (remember those? from the ’70s) and put out a napkin, radio, and vase of flowers, and then proceed to put up a little window treatment you have ready made in your briefcase that easily tacks on to the city bus’s window? Hilarious.

    What if you were in an elevator which was packed with passengers. Then you exclaim out loud, as if to yourself “Oh no, this elevator’s capacity is only 2000 lbs?. ” Then you turn to the people, appearing anxious, meanwhile holding a calculator in your hand doing the math, asking one by one their weight. Crack me up!

    What if you were to purchase one little red apple in the grocery store, and have the chuzpa to demand delivery!

    .. I am actually causing myself to laugh out loud right now at this last one!

    Its never boring when I am with myself..i always make myself laugh!

    in reply to: Diets and Dieting-What works for you? #726767

    frumladygit
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    oh MY,,,you really asked the right person…

    TLC ! TO LEARN CONTROL. Its a real program started by a Rav & his Rebbetzin. Now being followed by thousands across the world, it was designed for the frum woman.

    I am a compulsive eater. I can put things in my mouth when I am not even aware of it, or when I am not even hungry.

    However, TLC is a program which is fast gaining a lot of popularity and if you want more info I can give you the hotline number to listen in on (718) area code. You can see if its for you. There are no costs, or fees.

    Ladies all around me are dropping the weight. I know personally 2 ladies who both dropped 60 lbs!

    I know of a family of sisters who lost tons. And they are keeping it off.

    The only drawback is that its really strict. And there is no cheating.

    in reply to: Ladies would you consider homebirth? #782447

    frumladygit
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    Health, with all due respect…would you stop reiterating the same stale point? You don’t even have a point.

    What you’re saying is that if we don’t like some of the things doctors do and dont do in birthing settings then we need to run to a different type of practitioner altogether?

    IF I don’t like the way librarians catalgogue things, and I have a particular opinion on the way it should/could be done better, that doesn’t mean I don’t use libraries, or dont need libraries!

    It means maybe there should be a review on what works and what doesn’t.

    For example in our local Jewish Hospital they have re-built the delivery ward, calling it “The Family Birthing Center”. Its got a water tub, you can request an exercise ball for comfort measures in birthing, you can bring a doula, etc. etc. In fact the hospital has a big sign in the hall bearing the statement “Expect more from the birthing center”.

    In rebuttle to what you said above about opting to use dr or midwife; having a midwife is not always an option. For example, Highrisk patients don’t have the option for midwifey care, which is reserved only for relatively low risk pregnancies. Besides for that, there are not enough midwives to go around, ask ppl who call upon conceiving how many months they sit on a waiting list in order to get a midwife. Even then there is no guarantee one will get one.

    High risk prenancies and all pregnancies & deliveries deserve the best in healthcare. That doesnt have to be a compromise. Perhaps you’d like to define for us what means medicine and obstetrics. There is no doubt there are great Obstetricians. I absolutely love mine. And despite the fact that I am on the waiting list for a midwife, I actually might not even go with one, even if they do get around to calling me in. Because this dr. is “enlightened” to how birth works. THe woman is not a medical field machine.

    However most of the people’s complaints with medical doctors is that they could be doing more, caring more, being more sensitive, which are all nice traits you expect to find in the crunchy granola scene, but then you’ve got to minus the medical expertise. So if someone wants medical expertise (and takes a dr) does that mean they have to compromise all the other facets of what a caregiver should be providing?

    I would only agree with your argument if you were referring to folks who complain about mainstrem medicine and the pharaceutical approach, but don’t go to naturopaths and chinese herbalists.

    in reply to: Ladies would you consider homebirth? #782445

    frumladygit
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    yes indeed ryphyque Shelia Kitzinger is amazing! I am very in awe by the way that traditional English system of Midwifery is commonplace.

    in reply to: Dating & Giving In #727304

    frumladygit
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    aries i like what you wrote.

    First time ever!

    in reply to: Carbon Monoxide Poisoning #724671

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    He advises you however, that if you have gas water heaters or any other gas burning appliances that the vents are always clear and checked at least every 4 years since blocked vents would basically prevent escape of CO into the atmosphere. And this could accumulate within living areas, can lead to a silent death.

    in reply to: Carbon Monoxide Poisoning #724670

    frumladygit
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    My husband seems to think that one can die of Carbon Dioxide (CO2)poisoning by having too many houseplants with little ventilation in the house. I tried to tell him “No, you’ve got it backwards, plants let off oxygen and take in Carbon Dioxide” … but..is there any truth to what he is saying?

    in reply to: Hamodia magazine new column "Single as a dollar bill" #724536

    frumladygit
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    sounds kind of negative and pessimistic. What does being single have to do with a dollar bill? A fifty could be single in your wallet just as well!

    in reply to: Dating & Giving In #727298

    frumladygit
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    Trying my best, I agree. I see that the older a woman gets, and remains unmarried, albeit unfortunately, and unwillingly, she does often get baggage, a tough skin, just to name a few. They have to continue fighting their way through “the real world” as if like a man, just to survive. And yet suffer without a man to run home to, without a companion and its really tough.

    A main complaint from men seeking single women who are older, is that the older single women get, the more the woman’s expectations of life tends to grow out of proportion. And ultimately older single women tend to lose touch with reality.

    in reply to: Reading "Fairy Tale" books to our children! #1088605

    frumladygit
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    mewho remember little black Sambo? They wouldn’t dare print that today either. But probablly they’d print some kids books about the dynamics of a family headed by same sex parents???

    We need Moshiach! ( i am not chabad) btw.

    in reply to: Ladies would you consider homebirth? #782438

    frumladygit
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    Gee whiz I am almost sorry I started this thread, as there is more bad feelings and tension in some of the comments, than I bargained for.

    Personal opinion: I have my doubts Health is educated. And definately not a med student. .

    Question: Why does almost every thread almost always initiate a duel like bickering between users at some point?

    Do people really enjoy this?

    Thats not what is called a debate by the way.

    in reply to: Ladies would you consider homebirth? #782420

    frumladygit
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    I have seen a disturbing birth video on Youtube, in which the birth was handled by a old grandmotherly like midwive in Brazil. This was a footling breech birth, and it has bothered me ever since. The birth was completely midhandled, and as a result the baby did not adapt well, needing serious intervention. After his body was out it took over 5 mins to get his head out, and he did not start breathing. TO be blunt he looked perfectly dead and limp. Many midwives commenting on the video agreed as well that proper care and manuveurs which were needed were not used by the ignorant midwives. What was more disturbing was the parents reaction like “oh we gave birth to a limp blue baby- CONGRATULATIONS” as if nothing else mattered. Their reaction was like “oh its a small price to pay in order to avoid a non-medicated birth or c-sec”. They didn’t react normally, with concern. And the midwives were just toothless smiling old ladies.

    So in light of what Ima2many has said, caregivers need to be responsible whether they are midwives or doctors.

    in reply to: Reading "Fairy Tale" books to our children! #1088593

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    WOLFISH, Just a personal observation/opinon. To me, you sound very educated. Yeah, serious. I don’t know what is is about your and your posts, they sound generally like they’re coming from a very educated person. Are you? This has nothing to do with the big bad wolf and all that discussion. Its just a personal observation.

    in reply to: Dating & Giving In #727290

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    Sacri- what a woman needs for a mate is a man with a good sense of intellect and wisdom, as he is ultimately going to be the Captain of the ship (of the home) – so if you are finding yourself uncomfortable with the amount of compromising and concessions you must make, then I’d say its a sign he is not for you, because if he were what you needed then his suggestions or say the concessions you make for it to “work” would be like so gratifying that its’ like a cool refreshing glass of water when one is thirsty. You’d be left with a feeling of “i am so glad that I am being taken down this road”. I gave up a lot of things when I got engaged, at my chassan’s gentle, hinting request. And I was so relieved in so many ways that he had such seichel.

    in reply to: Reading "Fairy Tale" books to our children! #1088583

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    Wolfishmusings, that reminds me of a funny version some author put out of a classic kids book. It was something like “the real true story of the Three little pigs”. Basically the wolf gets his chance to tell his side of the story, to set straight what really happened with the houses made of straw, brick and twig. LOL!

    in reply to: Reading "Fairy Tale" books to our children! #1088582

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    Ben Levi there is no mentioned Bruno Bettelheims name in the CR ever. Period.

    in reply to: Ladies would you consider homebirth? #782411

    frumladygit
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    You know something? THe one reason I am hesitant to ever truly consider a homebirth is in the case of a very rare but life threatening situation called placenta accreta. This is when the placenta has actually grown abnormally into the uterus and beyond the walls. It requires immediate hysterectomy. Also hemmorhage is not wanted in a homebirth. Homebirth sounds so nice, but truly these issues I just mentioned are things that cannot be screened out by a health care provider before hand. No one can know if a woman’s uterus will contract down normally and stop bleeding after delivery. It’d be a tragedy….

    in reply to: Ladies would you consider homebirth? #782398

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    Sorry LAer, I actually know a lady who was left paralyized from the waist down in the 1980’s from a simple epidural which happened to go into the wrong place in her spine. Today she can barely stand and shift her feet as she moves along the kitchen counter for stability. She has her car adapted for handicap.

    The famous story of the Meah Sharim mother who was wrongfully accused of starving her child actually gave birth recently (within the past 12 months) to another child in the midst of that crisis, and was left crippled from the epidural, as well. Who are we to ask Hashem why? But yes, this mother has suffered a lot.

    In the news a few months ago there was a very big story about a lady in labor with epidural in place, who just suddenly died. She came back within 3 mins, but there was mass hysteria and panic on the floor as they called code blue for a young mother in the prime of her health and life, who was dead as a result of the epidural. Here are some bits from the article on BBC website that had the story last year.

    “Her husband, 37, said his wife was tired after receiving an epidural during the labour but after closing her eyes, she “wasn’t waking up”.

    She stopped breathing and she is believed to have suffered a heart attack before her heart stopped beating entirely.

    A mother from Colorado who doctors said had died while giving birth to her son, has said it is a miracle that both she and the boy are alive.Tracey Hermanstorfer’s heart stopped beating and her son Coltyn appeared lifeless after the Caesarean section on Christmas Eve (24 December). However a few minutes after he was delivered, both began breathing again. Dr Stephanie Martin told Good Morning America she could not explain how the pair survived. “

    Coffeeaddict:

    Ina May Gaskin held a M.A in English until her calling as midwife. WHich leds me to suspect she was anyways an avid reader, educated and capable of interpreting information. As a intentional community she just got involved in the births of the families out of sheer necessity. They didn’t have money to go to the hospital, didn’t believe in taking welfare and didn’t believe in leaving debts behind. So they gave birth in their caravans and school buses which were converted into homes, in the early 1970’s. What came out of it, was that once they bought land and started to build their community they got involved with a Doctor in the area who guided and instructed them. THey basically read anything they could on birth, including William’s Obstetrics, the classic text book for doctors, but more overly they operated on the laws of energy, observing what worked and what didn’t. And seeing that relaxing attitudes and environments produced positive results… Todate the farm midwives have delivered somewhere near 2,000 births and have the best statitics for mother/baby outcomes in all of America.

    Very low c-sec rates.

    you can see their website at http://www.thefarm.org/charities/mid.html

    in reply to: Reading "Fairy Tale" books to our children! #1088573

    frumladygit
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    I was really into Goldilocks until one day as I was reading it to my little girls as usual but I realized WHAT AM I TEACHING MY KIDS??? that Goldilocks is an outright goniff! It was embarassing to be giving this over to my kids. I closed the book.

    in reply to: A real test for me:Your suggestions? #724257

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    Eclipse, one of the things I miss is singing since having become frum. One problem is the songs. I don’t know much yiddish and was not raised with any zemiros so I really don’t know what to sing! The only songs I know and enjoy to sing are “goyish” and I try to refrain them. Its quite painful because as I remember singing made me happy. But I gave it up. Not because of neighbors and not because others can hear me.

    in reply to: Should a Yid own a Dog? Woof Woof! #1168825

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    Ok so a dog is a clean companion in any case, good enough to have in a holy yiddisher home, even without what the midrash says?

    They lick themselves to clean. Then they lick your face.

    in reply to: Ladies would you consider homebirth? #782389

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    Think of birth in 1800’s Poland. Transylvania. These mamas had other kids around in the house. They could not hide the facts of life. They obviously weren’t inviting the kinderlach to cut the cord or be present at the birth of their new sibling. My point is for the folks who argue they don’t would not want to expose their other children to it, this use to be a natural part of family life, in the shtetl life. The circle of life and death was real and all around them and today we lack that. Its like we’re allergic to the idea of it and its not as gross after all.

    We have a industrialized mentality in that we are far removed from birth and trust in our bodies and witnessing and being around the circle of life and death. We are separated by the sterile walls of modern medicine. Its a topic best left for the medical experts. Some of us are uncomfortable with the idea of accidentally spilling bodily fluids in our wall to wall carpeted homes.

    Would it damage a kid to be sent out to a neighbor so mommy can geborgen a nia pitsy baby? It wouldn’t damage a teenage girl to run to the car, for the midwives oxygen tank, if asked, or to fetch more plastic bedcovers. This was the way it use to be. (minus the car and o2 tank)

    But what Health was saying is correct. In fact if listen to what Ina May Gaskin has to say about birth and fear (she is America’s Pioneer in Midwifery, having revitalized it) she compares the act of birth to other natural bodily functions which also operate by the Sphincter Law. Any sphincter like opening that operates involuntarily to let out, needs privacy. WHich is why we have private toilet stalls and don’t go in public. Have ever seen a 2 year old quietly disappear behind a corner to make, its just instint.

    Having said that, compare that to the hospital situation. Its a wonder anything can naturally open up without fear. Its possible a lady can have 2-3 interns/residents plus her doctor, and 2 nurses, and then an anesthesiologist all standing around looking at her. WOuld you like that even if it were only to have a BM? I wouldn’t be able to produce.

    This is the theory behind why we see some ladies who remained at home in labor for a while can proceed to 5 or 8 cm dialated say, but then get to the hospital and then close back down. Fear.

    THen the Doctors may say its time to add pitocin to get things going. But wait! SHe was laboring fine at home. What happened? WHy did things stop? Staying on the bed is one inhibitor as the body needs natural movement for comfort measures to help with pain, for example. And walking speeds up the process. Thats why ladies are recommened bed rest for premature labor.

    Pitocin induction usually means that epidural is the next step, as this is almost an indescribable an unbearable, unnatural pain. This is not natural labor from Hashem. Its from man and his medicine. Very violent contractions.

    I thought I would put this up for everyone. I found some world statistics for maternal mortality.

    I already put up the link above.

    Number of Maternal Deaths per 100,000 births

    Italy 3.9

    Canada 6.6

    U.K 8.2

    United States of America 16.7

    USA ranked the lowest in this particular article.

    in reply to: Should a Yid own a Dog? Woof Woof! #1168823

    frumladygit
    Member

    No. Cham was a person who also didn’t follow the commandment to separate, just as you say.

    I mean from the animals.

    in reply to: Keeping in touch with old friends, who are Non Jewish #723366

    frumladygit
    Member

    Thanks aries.

    Do you really think I mistook y’all for the Dayan who paskins?

    I asked in the CR for a reason. I was curious what y’all think of friendships with Non Jews in general.

    Thanks for re-directing me to “the right place”. I want you opinion.

    in reply to: Should a Yid own a Dog? Woof Woof! #1168821

    frumladygit
    Member

    The dog was the lowest animal on the Tevah. On Noach’s Ark the dog did not obey Hashem’s command to separate from its mate. The dog and the crow. (If I am correct). Therefore I believe from an ethical and spiritual point of view it would serve the Jew well to separate himself far from this animal.

    in reply to: Ladies would you consider homebirth? #782371

    frumladygit
    Member

    I just found this and thought I’d post it for statistic sakes. Its interesting.

    http://www.guardian.co.uk/news/datablog/2010/apr/12/maternal-mortality-rates-millennium-development-goals

    in reply to: books on respecting people #723225

    frumladygit
    Member
    in reply to: top 5 character traits #723210

    frumladygit
    Member

    1. Good heart (Gives generously to all)

    2. Knows when to remain silent and how to listen with heart.

    3. Has a strong work ethic. (Is not going to be some bum sitting around in mikveh until 12 noon-expecting my taty to pay the bills)

    4. Self control, does not lose temper.

    5. Learns when can or has regular chavrusim.

    in reply to: People with Yichus #724150

    frumladygit
    Member

    I have Yichus. Big Time.

    Being that I am self made. I was not raised in a Torah home, or with Emuna, and yet I found Hashem through hardship in life. I yearned and desired Him sincerely, and davened that I should find “the way” to serve Him.

    And He led me to Yiddishkeit. I was so astonished that this..”The World’s Best Kept Secret” actually existed. Yet, Can you imagine how it felt to walk into a orthdox synogogue for the first time out of true awe to pray to the Creator and have people put their noses up at me, or to interrogate me with endless humiliating questions? Or not to know which way to hold the Siddur up or down? Serious!

    And I came far with Hashem’s blessing and help. I didn’t have someone leading me like a child pulling my hand. Of course I had people here and there along the road I turned to for questions, guidance and role models and Hebrew Classes, but if you look at this insightfully, truthfully, my kids and their kids and their kids should be like whoa mama, bubbe ladyfrumgit was “the lady”. Real Yichus in Abishter’s eyes. She was like Avraham Avinu.

    I mamish looked around and realized there was a G-d in the world!

    Isn’t that status? Now do you think that should give me an ego? Do you think that should lead my family to have gaiva? It sure doesn’t. A person with emuna is humble because they realize they can’t do it without Hashem.

    I heard a nice thing once (dont know the author):

    WHat you are is G-d’s gift to you

    What you make of yourself is your gift to G-d.

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