Gadolhadorah

Providing day-care for Joseph (assuming he lives in Yerushalayim) would not be especially compensatory and comes with a host of other issues for any normal baas yisroel.
Reminder that an A/2 and certain student Visas doesn’t always allow Americans to work while in EY and a separate work permit may be required. Don’t automatically assume your Visa automatically allows you to work while your husband is studying in EY.

There are several websites which provide very useful calculators to assist you in the arbitrage decisions between points versus cash back (just use google search since I cannot post URLs here).. Having been an Amex member for many years, I’ve watched as the points have been “devalued” such that its more cost-effective to book on hotel and airline sites directly. The best option on air travel (if you have a higher level FF status which I assume you do if you travel frequently) is to buy the cheapest economy seat available and use points to upgrade to business class. Otherwise, cash back is the better option in most cases.

A well know mekubal told me last night that:

1. The Ebeshter has assured him that the cost of all the tariffs imposed on imported products from China used by yidden are being paid for by the Chinese and not his yiddim.
2. Any new recession will only hurt the goyim and yidden will continue to have much hatzlacha and be exempted from any adverse economic effects of a global downturn.
Unfortunately, that Mekubal charged me more for sharing his nevuah with me than I had gained from the Trumpkopf’s tax bill and stock market upturn so overall, its been a net loss for me.

“””Also, which part of a woman wanting to feel “like Cinderella” is inherently not “Yiddish or right.”

Well, Cinderella was a machashefet (or at least the beneficiary thereof …..in Shamos,22:17 it says rather clearly that yidden ” shall not tolerate a sorceress among you” and in Vayikra 20:27 it says that “a man/woman who engages in witchcraft shall be pelted with stones and put to death”. Other than the two items above (and others that are a bit less explicit) I cannot imagine why aspiring to be Cinderella may offend Reb Yosef’s sensibilities.

“>….Only in America, the land of chitzonius..

Make American Great Again….ban gowns, not guns. Bridal registries NOT Gun registries.

Gowns and formal wear are on the decline in the secular world. Thinks of all the “Tux Rental” places that have gone bankrupt or disappeared. The global trend is towards less formality in L’vush and events that used to say black tie/white tie not longer do so or make it “discretionary’. A chassanah is a special event and warrant a gown for the kalah but WHY does the rest of the bridal party need to dress up and dilute the special status of the kalah.

“….most people don’t want to do differently that what others do, it makes them feel uncomfortable..”
If you are talking about affluent yidden who take their kids on to luxury hotels for the yom tovim, have no problem paying their yeshiva tuition and do their routine shopping at Pomegrante, than of course, we don’t c’v want such a baas melech to feel “uncomfortable” by wearing the same dress to both Suralah’s chassanah and then a few months later to Feige’s chassanah. However, for the larger percentage of the frum tzibur struggling to pay the bills from month to month, they would be much better off dealing with their daughter’s “discomfort” than digging themselves further into a financial hole or paying tuition late or whatever, in order to purchase a dress for a simcha that is unlikely to have future utillity.

In most cases, what you “see” is what you will be getting…Yes, you will find cases, especially for couples who marry very young, where they “learn” to love one another over time or simply “grew up together”. However, for older couples in their 30s and 40s (although on this site that may mean anyone over 18) its unlikely that initial appearances and behavioral traits will improve over time.

Coffee Addict…..is that like going into an Ungarishe restaurant and asking for an order of their special house gefilte fish but requesting the waiter to “hold the sugar”. A liberal interpretation of your posting would suggest you haven’t read Karl Marx since your sophomore year in cheder

Canned mackerel sounds a lot more appetizing than frozen fish (or any other frozen edible) from china. I guess if price is the concern, than canned tuna casserole is better than frozen tilapia with ground drywall dressing from Cheng Chou.

DovidBT: I can understand your avoidance of meat (for economic or ethical reasons) but WHY would you turn to CANNED meat as an alternative?? First, in many cases, canned fish is higher in sodium and in some cases in packed in oil. But more importantly, FRESH fish is so readily available and is so much more tasteful and healthier than the canned stuff.

AJew: Actually, from the perspective of quality and selection, GG is quite reasonable plus the service in the two stores I have visited is excellent (compared to some other markets which don’t need to be named). Sure, if you have the time, you can shop Costco, regular supermarkets and local heimeshe markets and get a lower price for your combined shopping list. Most of us don’t have the time or interest so we will pay a small premium for the quality and convenience.
Yankelle: You are right (in re the politics) but I couldn’t get over the irrationality of so many here being big supporters of the Trumpkopf and say nothing about his slandering the residents of a major city but yet debating the merits of a high quality Yiddeshe firm relocating there. Couldn’t help myself.

To all the CR Trumpkopf fans: Why would any reputable, high-quality food market such as GG want to move to a “disgusting, rat-infested mess of a city” [with a losing football team]??

I’m not sure there is any single “oversaturated” professional discipline that would warrant not pursuing a degree. Rather, there are many fields where you can always find a job but only the top graduates from the top schools command a really good salary. In law and business, grads from the top schools can easily earn $150,000 to $200,000/ annually (with additional “signing bonuses”) with the major NYC law firms and investment banks but “average students” from mid and lower tier schools are having a hard time finding positions and when they do, starting salaries may be in the range of $65-75K. At the other end of the spectrum, really top notch programmers can earn well over $100K with the larger social media companies and startups but run of the mill programmers are a fraction of that. Some careers are quickly being overtaken by offshore outsourcing, automation and artificial intelligence (e.g. accounting and auditing, back-office administration) while others reflect changes in how we do business (e.g. 30 percent of bank tellers have lost their job in the past decade). Their is a huge demand for public school teachers paying good starting salaries $50-$60K) but a frum young man/woman will find salaries at most yeshivas (where they might want to work) are 30 percent lower. Nursing seems to be a steady area of growth with good salaries across the board and less focus on academic pedigrees.

“Why are some folks uncomfortable acknowledging this Chazal or its truthfulness?”
I suspect there are many reasons that could be offered in response to your question. One that immediately comes to mind is that there are many who purport to quote chazal or bring down inyanim from chazal who manage to distort its meaning and application to the facts of contemporary life. Its not the “truthfulness” of chazal itself but the veracity and “spin” of those who invoke it out of context or apply their own bias or misogyny in its interpretation.

I’m sure there will be some of our regular baalei musar who will cry gevalt and remind you of your “obligation” to eat REAL meat for shabbosim and yom tovim or you will risk your chelek of olam haboh. However, given your economic distress, you should consider finding a schlachthois with a top of the line Chaddishe hashgacha that will schecht a Tofu for you for that really special Shabbos meal.

B’tayavon!!!

Set aside the pros/cons of swordfish, it should be noted that Rav Shacheter is not some “liberal” REITS rav who is machmir on everything, He is a well respected talmid chochom and posek whose views are widely respected across the spectrum of orthodox yidden.

Neville:
We have gone to a 24×7 world, where Millennials want instant gratification and seem annoyed if it will take more than 30 minutes for their local take-out Chulent joint to complete a delivery. UPS just announced that they will go to Sunday delivery at no extra charge but they are hiring special workers who will make 40 percent less than their regular drivers and have fewer benefits. Even those lower skilled jobs may not last long. Within a few years, your cholent may be delivered via drone with no need for the deliveryman . (As some of you many have read last week, a local TV station reported that 1 in 3 deliverymen admitted having “tasted” food meant for customers on the way to delivery because they were not paid for time taken off for meals).

Also, SF and several other cities have adopted a “robot tax” for large employers who reduce employees and substitute robots. The tax money is supposed to go into a job-retraining fund. Big brother at work.

One of the marginal Dem primary candidates, Jerry Yang, has focused on an issue the other candidates have effectively ignored which is how automation/AI will gradually destroy millions of low skilled/low paying jobs over the next few decades threatening the social fabric of our country and others. Jobs such as cashiers, truckdrivers, low-tech assembly, call center operators, etc. will disappear. This will put greater pressure on employers and government to reduce the workweek hours to spread around the remaining jobs across more workers. Three day-weekends may be a start but look for more draconian government efforts to “spread the wealth”.

I think there is general agreement that the term, as used by headline writers, has become a journalistic shorthand for expressing pride and respect for everything from little acts of kindness from a yid to a goy to significant professional and secular accomplishments by yidden. We tend NOT to use the term “Kiddush Hashem” when a yid achieves a significant milestone in limudei torah or new heights of hidur mitzvah (aka “Kiddush Hashem: 6 year old yeshiva bochur in Willy memorizes entire tanach with meforshim” or “Kiddush Hashem: Yid pays $13,000 for Calabrian Esrog”)

OU does get involved in policy advocacy on selected issues but by far, Agudah is the primary lobbying/political advocacy group for the frum tzibur in the US. Perhaps less well known aside from its great work in D.C. on legislation is the incredible work Agudah does in State Capitals across the country.

The Chabad centers on the Dartmouth campus (Hanover) and in Manchester have minyanim on the weekends but I don’t think on weekdays. There is also a place in Bethlehem that has daily minyanim in the summer which you can probably learn about from the Chabad office in Manchester. BTW, the director of the Chabad in New Hampshire, R’ Levi Krinsky, is the son of R’ Yehuda Krinsky, a senior administrator of Chabad Worldwide and I think who also served as the gabbai to the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Z”TL. I don’t believe there are any other frum shuls in NH, but I could be wrong.