Gadolhadorah

No one has provided a halachic basis for prohibiting it. If some families want to follow a minhag that the wives and daughters rely upon the husband/father for lighting, certainly nothing prohibits that but don’t suggest there is any reason to deny women the right to light candles if that is their preference.

Would be easier (albeit less tasteful) to simply rely upon protein-based “feaux” meats, chicken, fish etc. plant and vegetable-based products are certainly much more healthy although unlikely to ever achieve the taste and texture these new “in-vitro” products claim to have

As always, check with your local rav/posek but I’m sure we can get a few of the resident CR poskim to provide a completely contrarian set of opinions on shatnes 101.

Again, if some of you get off on denigrating anyone claiming to be a rabbi who is not a musmach of certain yeshivos its your choice. The rules of the CR clearly don’t address simple courtesy and ahavas yisroel in relation to other yidden but they may have been drafted at a time when such menschlichkeit was taken for granted

For someone who has not exercised on a regular basis ANY cardio activity for 20 minutes or longer several times a week is a good start. Work up from there to activities that will raise your heart level to 80 percent of max for your age but if that’s not feasible, just keep walking (go up and down the stairs at work). Add some weight and resistance training if you can…use isometrics if not.

Anything is better than nothing….

MTAB:

CT lawyer makes a valid point. You don’t need to be a millionaire’s son’ to take a prospective kalah to a “nice” restaurant fo a first date, assumining you’ve done soe prior dilligence on her. Fortunately, in NYC, Chicago, Lakewood, LA , Baltimore and several other cities, there are reasonably priced kosher restaurants where a nice meal would cost less than $100. (less than the cost of two Knicks tickets in the upper deck at MSG). On the othr hand, i this girl is somone with whom you’ve been fixed up by your mother’s friend’s shver, than probably better to meet in the hotel lobby for drinks or coffee at the cafe by the Rockefeller Center or Central Park skating rink., If she is athletic, consider renting a pair of skates…

To Winnie:
You frame a very important question. What does it mean to be “gadol hador” versus the “leader of our generation” (as per the title of this thread)? Do they mean the same thing or does one imply someone regarded as the biggest talmid chacham versus someone who has both the lamdus but also has experience and skills in administering mosdos, providing definitive guidance on controversial matters of halacha etc. We already have “Chief Rabbis” who are more in the nature of political appointees for the Sephardeshe and Ashkenaz tzibur but not all regard them as “the leaders of our generation” or consider them among the “gadolei hador”.

There are so many aspects of the “dating” game that are not subject to yes/no guidelines but are more likely to be a function of the hashkafhah of the young man and young woman involved as well as their families. In more heimish settings, the parents obviously take a more central role in both the shadchanus and logistical arrangements for dating etc. and much is done under their supervision. Among MO, there is very limited parental involvement and the principals set their own meeting arrangements, although still with deference to norms regarding tzinius, negiah etc. MO are much less likely to ask a Rav about when/how/who to date and the protocols related thereto. There is no right/wrong. If you regularly consult your LRP for such matters, this would not be any different. Obviously, a walk in central park is a lot different than a walk in a country road out in the boondocks…

I assume you are referring to a walk on a public street, in a park with people around etc. Why would this be any different than sitting in a bar or restaurant?? Some individuals would be more comfortable having the ability to walk and talk a first date rather than being forced to sit across the table or in on some bar stools in a noisy area trying to engage in small talk. Even for the chumrah fanatics, there is no issur on waking on a public street assuming there is no negiah or other inappropriate “body language”.

Its the essence of emunah on any issue….we only know that we will never know the “why” of what the Ebeshter does or chooses not to do. We can tie ourselves in knots and engage in all sorts of speculation as often happens here among the resident neviim here on YWN who claim an ability to explain to explain every tragedy and link it to tzinius, toevah marriage, taharas hamishpacha or whatever. Or else, we simply yield to the reality that hashem does what he does and we go on with our lives expecting the good the ultimately prevail for ourselves and klal yisroel.

As a practical matter, why would yidden care about whether two goyim choose to “marry” however that term is defined under the civil laws of any country. If their belief system contemplates a set of legal requirements similiar or different from kiddushin under halacha, what is it our business? Perahaps after z’man moishiach the sheva mitzvos bnai noach becomes more relevant but until then, what is the enforcement mechanism??
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There is considerable fraud among the growing number of so called “shalichim” purporting to represent all sorts of worthy mosdos (most of which we’ve never heard of or with generic names that sound similar to legitimate mosdos). Many arrive from EY with letters in laminated plastic in their hands claiming to have the endorsement from chashuve rabbonim , including some of the organizations established in willy, BP and Lakewood set up for the specific purpose of screening the frauds from the legitimate. Bottom line is that you roll the dice with these guys (I’ve never head a woman coming to schneur). We’ve generally adopted a policy of asking them for the website of the various mosdos and telling them we will donate directly online once we can verify the legitimacy of the site. We absolutely will not give a dime to someone claiming to be collecting on behalf of some individual or family that has encountered a tragedy unless we personally know the rav who has endorsed their funding effort. The many legitimate online sites (such as those advertising here on YWN) provide sufficient opportunity if you want to support those who have such needs. If you are fortunate enough to not have to worry about giving away money to fraudsters and scammers, than obviously feel free to do so.

To Joseph:

The alte Trumpkopf (aka Ferd the Trump) also “loved” Blacks. He ordered an employee to “get rid of blacks” in an apartment block in Queens and to avoid renting apartments to them, a released FBI dossier has claimed. The allegations of racial discrimination were over 40 years when the Ferd was chairman of Trump Management . My recollection is that the Ferd and the Donald settled the case to avoid going to trial. The right wing evangelicals who also “love” yidden do so out of their biblical view that we all need to die in some Armageddon, so their moishiach can return (and not riding down Eastern Parkway waving a yellow flag).

“Are you saying that women who live in places without an eiruv don’t live a normal life? ”

No…I’m saying that those who do have the benefit of an eruv (an obviously those who hold by eruvim) are able to enjoy menuchas Shabbos with their children and families, come to shul with the little ones, etc, go out for a walk Shabbos afternoon and visit friends/family). Those who hold by eruvim but live in areas that do not yet have an eruv (or where its not practical) cannot engage in what most consider “normal’ activities that are consistent with Shabbos. You make a good point regarding the threshold issue of whether those who move to Lakewood deliberately want to escape the “normal” of an MO neighborhood. However, I know many families in Lakewood and do not believe the anti-eruv shita is as pervasive and universal as some here would suggest.

Joseph Says: “The Shulchan Aruch and Rambam pasken l’halacha that women shouldn’t be out of the home much”

The usual nareshnkeit from our resident msycoginst troll .

“Kinder, Küche, Kirche” or the 3 Ks, is the 19th century German slogan translated as “children, kitchen, church”. It shares the derogatory connotation extracted out of context by Joseph describing what is obviously meant to be an antiquated female role model in contemporary Western society from the Mullahs of Iran and Riyadh. The phrase is vaguely equivalent to the medieval English “barefoot and pregnant” or the Victorian ode:

“Take hold of kettle, broom and pan,
Then you’ll surely get a man!
Shop and office leave alone,
Your true life work lies at home.”

Sadly, and most ominously, is the worldview of the Nazi philosopher, Y’S, who wrote:
“The mission of women is to bring children into the world. This is not at all as………unmodern as it sounds. The female bird pretties herself for her mate and hatches eggs for him. In exchange, the male takes care of gathering food, and stands guard and wards off the enemy.”
Joseph Goebbels, 1929

Gaon: There was a chassidish-western song titled something like “Looking for logic in all the wrong places” (or was it “love”)….either way don’t invest too much time search for a “logic” in certain trolling comments. Eruvin are here to stay and probably are an important factor keeping lots of younger families in the expanding number of shomer Shabbos couples we see in cities around the country pushing baby carriages and overall contributing to the explosion of yiddeshkeit. At some point, responding to trolling only seems to energize the troller to post even more outrageous stuff.

Just wear a kipah sigurah and not worry about where to put the hats…..

The BMG crowd may not “want” an eruv because Rabbi Kotler et. al. were against it but in general, if there are those who want to build one using public utility poles etc, it can be done. It would be a real chilul hashem for some yidden in Lakewood to intervene with public authorities against an eruv when yidden in other towns have been the target of anti-Semitic opposition to their efforts to place an eruv on utility poles and lampposts.

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The U.S. Public Health Service does not compille data by religious affiliation or by zip codes that can be correlated with heimeshe communities Howeve, the The Israel Health Ministry has done exactlly those types of studies and reported in 2015 that Chareidim in general, and men in particular, are seven times more likely to be obese than the rest of Israelis. The Ministry noted, “The chareidi lifestyle focuses on the dinner table… At the same time, they don’t engage in any physical exercise.” Other factors cited inluded inter alia, “the absence of nutritional and practical health education in chareidi schools and the much higher rates of poverty of many within this community, which leads to consumption of cheaper, simple carbohydrate-based foods (such as potatoes, pasta, rice, and sugar) combined with high sodium foods and high-fat meat, rather than more expensive complex carbohydrates and protein-rich foods….”
Obviously, Joe knows better than the health experts in the frumcommuniy, along with many promient rabbunim, who have recognized that poor nutrition is among the most critical problems facing the frum tzibur (and one of the mot easily solved).

If you are concerned about nutrition and cardiac health, consider substituting a tofu product or soy-based beef in lieu of some or all of the red meat and go very light on the salt. It is very easy to make a healthy chulent that tastes better than any recipe from the alte heim but equally important, allows you to fulfill the mitzvah of “u’shamartem es nafshosechem”.

To Reb Yidd321

“I can’t believe this thread wasn’t deleted because it involves us being “mevazeh panim to one of the gadolim of the uber-troll velt” . Trolls are the defenders of “true yiddeshkeit” in the blogosphere and deserve the same level of kavod as we provide to other chashuve yidden.

I suspect that whenever the minhag of serving meat evolved, the state of knowledge regarding nutrition and the adverse health effects of most meat were unknown. If the underlying notion is hudur mitzvah and serving meat at one time was considered a sign of respect, etc. the times have changed. The cost/lb of fresh fish (not the bottom feeders served in various forms as “gefilte” fish and larded with lots of sugar) is considerably higher than most meats and nutritionally an order of magnitude better. The majority of yidden today (especially the younger generation) would much prefer a sincha with lots of fresh fish and salads (and perhaps chicken) rather than the traditional red meats, salty and fatty fish, starchy kugels etc.

There are multiple ways in which ostensibly anti-tzionist, anti-medinah elements of the chareidi tzibur can rationalize acceptance of certain government payment streams or services. Its not hypocreicy, its pragmatism. One can follow a principled position to the extent practical in contemporary society but make concessions where necessary. As Joseph said, the basic infrastructue in EY has existed in one form or another since the time of Avraham avinu, albeit having been updated with government funds. Its always a balancing of interests.