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That’s always intrigued me as well; I’ve been told that the answer is simply ?? ???? – once there are two days for some Yomim Tovim, we do it for all of them (except Yom Kippur).
Because in Eretz Yisroel they never had to keep two days (because they knew, through a system of fire signals, which day was the correct one for Yom Tov). The exception was Rosh Hashana, and even in Eretz Yisrael Rosh Hashana is two days.
The original takana of two days Yom Tov was because of a Safeik – in the times of the Beis Hamikdash, it actually was a question which day was really Yom Tov – and we keep that takana, even though it’s not really a safeik nowadays.
The response to Shticky’s points is that we don’t do anything that would be an actual ????? to Shemini Atzeres (such as making a bracha on the Sukkah, or taking a Lulav). But eating in a Sukkah is something that could conceivably be done on a regular day (even if it’s not Sukkos), therefore we eat in there due to sfeika d’yoma.
“Just make sure you’re not too full for the meal. Though as Popa bar Abba, you probably won’t be.”
And, in the immortal words of the royal Persian decree, ????? ?? ??? ???? ?????, feminists be, er, silenced!!
Have a great yom tov (yuntiff) everyone…
Just so you know, in New York (as well as many other states) teachers are mandated reporters, meaning they have a legal obligation to report child abuse.
HOWEVER (bold, italic, underlined): If Halacha conflicts with that, there is no question that someone in such a situation needs to follow the Halacha (Da’as Torah) over the law. I just wanted to make you aware of the fact.
Personally, my own Da’as BaalBatim (worth diddly squat) is that if the father is not involved with your student or any other kids, there is probably no Halachic basis for saying something.
Hatzlacha, and even if your student doesn’t realize all that you have done/are doing for her, there is certainly Someone upstairs who does!
Okay, to play devil’s advocate…what chiyuv is there to say korbonos in the first place, that there needs to be a heter not to say them?
The fact that most Jewish players played for OOT teams means diddly-squat – in a league with 30 teams, 28 of which would be considered out of town (although Blue Jays fans try to be more in-town than Yankees or Mets) odds are that most players will end up with OOT teams. Signing players to appeal to the local demographic generally doesn’t work – the Atlanta Thrashers had by far the most African-American players of any NHL team last year in an attempt to draw more minority fans, and, well, MinyanGal can tell you how that turned out.
I was just about to say what MiddlePath did. ESPN is more interesting and has much less pritzus.
Rejection hurts, but it sure beats being married to the wrong person.
The other posters explained how Netzavim-Vayeilech works.
Vayakhel-Pekudei, Tazria-Metzora, Acharei Mos-Kedoshim and Behar-Bechukosai are generally used to fill the four extra weeks in a leap year (in non-leap years they’re together, but in a leap year, where we need for more Parshiyos, we separate them).
Chukas-Balak is a makeup double Parsha if the 8th day of Pesach or the 2nd day of Shavuos are Shabbos – since Eretz Yisroel is one week ahead of America (because they didn’t have that extra day of Yom Tov, so they lained the regular Parsha), we double up Chukas and Balak to catch up with them.
Finally, Mattos-Maasei is almost always a double Parsha, except for when we need to separate them to make sure that Tisha B’av falls between Devarim and Va’eschanan (like this year).
I hope I got them all right. Corrections are welcome and appreciated.
That was the only line I could’ve said. Trust me, I’m not into it either…
Most of us (guys) are expected to have resumes as well. I’m almost always asked for one. (And btw, for some reason I actually find it sort of off-putting when the girl’s picture is on hers…)
And yungerman?? 🙂
I gotta feeling that if you eat them on Rosh Hashana, that the night’s gonna be a good night…
She quit because it made her uncomfortable, not because someone else didn’t keep a Chumra. I agree with you that the other person did not do anything wrong in the slightest, and I personally also feel that it was a bit of an overreaction, but if she did not feel comfortable there, I can sort of understand why she didn’t want to be there.
If I recall the Gemara correctly, Poppa Bar Abba has several friends (and it’s not just the jokes that fall flat :-p).
I don’t think you are right about the Kohen having to divorce due to just a ch’shash, although I still may be wrong about that. I would imagine that if the Kohen is truly worried about infidelity he should investigate it fully, but I don’t think we would actually make him divorce her. I definitely do think you are mistaken about there being a Mitzvah for a Yisroel to remarry an unfaithful wife, however.
Gezeiras haKasuv. (Interestingly, they are believed in very specific cases – generally to say that a man has died and his wife can remarry. Certain relatives, though, who have a chazakah of hating each other, are not allowed to testify even then.)
If you want, you can check out the Gemara at the end of the first perek of Makos, which discusses your question.
I think that you may be mixing up the obligation to divorce with there being a death penalty (which requires witnesses and a warning) or her forfeiting her kesubah (which needs witnesses, but not a warning). If the husband knows that his wife is being unfaithful, even without any witnesses, he has to divorce her (although I have been involved with cases where the psak was that if the husband does not know, there is no chiyuv to tell him). And out of curiosity, where did you hear that a Kohen has to divorce her even based on a rumor?
Actually, I think we hold that purely al pi halacha, there is no reason that he CAN’T divorce her (last mishna in Gittin). It’s strongly discouraged, of course, but there’s a 3-way machlokes and I think we go the third way.
I believe the only time he has a chiyuv to divorce her (assuming, of course, that it’s a legal marriage) would be if she has been unfaithful to him. If he’s a Kohen there could be other situations as well.
I hope that this is a purely hypothetical question; if it is being asked for any specific reason I hope that everything works out as well as possible for all involved.
Hatzlocha.September 9, 2011 12:39 am at 12:39 am in reply to: #816356
I can’t say that I honestly know. Depending on how you would define abuse, I would say maybe one in 30 or 40. Either way, even one is far too many.
I fully admit that I am possibly way off with my number; I suspect that there will be those who overdramatize and say it’s even more, or, I may be overestimating (I certainly hope so). I do know that the numbers that the so-called child “advocates” give for other types of abuse in our community are grossly inflated, but I have much less experience in the domestic abuse sphere to be able to give an answer.
Again, even one is too many. And I have no doubt that the numbers are much, much lower in our community. I would love to hear your opinion of the numbers (I’m assuming you probably have a better idea than I do…)September 8, 2011 5:52 pm at 5:52 pm in reply to: #816343
And do you think that, based on the state of mind he was most likely in at the time, that that would’ve stopped him? All we end up with is two people beaten up rather than one.September 8, 2011 5:07 pm at 5:07 pm in reply to: #816337
“it is relatively rare in our community”
Unfortunately, it’s not as rare as you might think or hope. It is more rare for victims to publicly admit it.”
His (her?) point remains, however – it IS relatively rare in our community, compared to society in general. Same for other, horrible types of abuse. Each individual situation is a tragedy, and the whole concept needs to be gone from our community, but those who exaggerate the extent of these occurrences to advance their own agendas (and I am NOT talking about you, chas v’shalom) cause needles amounts of Chillul Hashem.
And as usual, we have someone bashing all boys for any and every problem that comes up in Shidduchim. If he’s not sure if a girl is right for him so he keeps dating her to see if she’s his bashert, he’s “using her” and leading her on; and if he chooses to stop dating her, he’s contributing to the so-called Shidduch crisis by being too picky.
By the way, Poppa bar Abba – I’m really, really enjoying your posts on this thread. Great work, as usual.
…And every guy has baggage too.
I, for one, assume that every girl I am going out with has some sort of baggage (hopefully not too big); assuming it’s something that she has been able to take the most out of and learn from, in my mind it’s an added bonus. ‘Cuz if I’m looking for someone who never experienced anything, I’m going to be in the Parsha for a really long time (okay, even longer :-p)…
And I know what I’ve gone through, even though no one else would ever dream of it.
Go – the overwhelming odds are that you’ll either be able to go Motzei Shabbos, or, if it starts that early, you should be fine Sunday night. (Just check traffic reports before heading back.)
The ones in Cedarhurst (Rockaway Tpke) and Valley Stream (Sunrise Highway) are both under the very reliable Va’ad of the 5 Towns, as other readers pointed out.
There is also a supposedly Kosher one in Monsey, on Route 59, but there are people who either will not eat there at all, or will eat the donuts (which are brought in from a kosher plant) but not the other baked goods.
Even with the knowledge of the laws of mandated reporting, if halacha and the law say two different things, I know which one I’m going with.
“Studies I have seen (mostly in Europe but I don’t see why it would be much different elsewhere) indicate children of divorced parents generally are more troubled than their counterparts.”
Without getting into whether or not the OP is right, do those studies control for children of non-divorced parents, who stayed together amidst constant fighting and tension?
Yankees announcer Suzyn Waldman (who btw got overly emotional again, no?) is also Jewish.
Is it a reason to say no originally? Probably not. But if you go out with her a couple of times, and the name still bothers you, then it’s probably a good idea to say no.June 26, 2011 1:45 pm at 1:45 pm in reply to: A third of Litvish families I know, have one or more single daughters 25 and up #908956
@Gavra & Haifagirl-
Whether or not it would be assur to do such a thing, it would be condeming any child brought into that “family” to a life of misery – both at home, and socially (somehow I don’t think that the kid’s classmates would see that family as a usual situation, and (s)he would be easy fodder for taunting).
Looks like you got your wish!
The main answer is like Wolf and Gavra said; also, assuming you learned the Mishnah in Sanhedrin, it could be that it’s because it’s a continuation from the first part of the Mishna which says that a king does neither Yibum nor Chalitzah, so we stay with the same format.June 24, 2011 5:31 pm at 5:31 pm in reply to: A third of Litvish families I know, have one or more single daughters 25 and up #908921
I was referring to your, um, “unique” method of dealing with the shidduch situation.June 24, 2011 4:57 pm at 4:57 pm in reply to: A third of Litvish families I know, have one or more single daughters 25 and up #908909
“Please let this be a normal posting…”
“With the Friz?”
Great post, MissFrizzle, couldn’t have said it better myself!!
Enjoy your last two weeks of summer :-).June 24, 2011 4:43 pm at 4:43 pm in reply to: A third of Litvish families I know, have one or more single daughters 25 and up #908907
So you feel that HKBH just forgot about our generation, and 40 days before we were born He just took the day off. And you can tell your friend AZ – numbers don’t mean anything if HKBH doesn’t want them to. If it was based purely on numbers, no frum family would be able to survive financially.
I really, really hope you’re joking.
I didn’t even know there were any frum people up there!! Mazel Tov on getting your hockey team back 🙂
Now there’s a good idea. I recommend the Metrodome in Minnesota – after last winter, there’s a hole in the roof for an outdoor chuppah, plus, even with the Vikings having been to four Super Bowls, the kallah would still be the first person there to ever get a ring.
But she wasn’t necessarily a zonah before.
I’ve always learned the same as Ender, that a Chalal is only from Kohein-specific issurim. Could be I’m wrong, though.
A half eved/half ben chorin cannot marry a shifcha, because he is still half free man. I believe there is a machlokes between Beis Hillel and Beis Shamai in such a situation, as to whether he is stuck, or we force the owner to free the slave “half” of the person so that he can get married.
Where do you know that from? (This is a request for information, not a challenge.)
While there is no one who is not allowed to get married (at least at first), there are some people r”l who have an extremely limited choice of whom to marry. For example, a mamzer cannot marry anyone other than a mamzeres or giyores. Similarly, there are also certain physical problems which prevent them from having children(of which I have never heard about in the current day, but they theoretically do exist) who would be bound by the same limitations. The Gemara in Yevamos (eighth perek I believe) goes through who this would apply to.
That being said, I can’t think of anyone who is never allowed to get married (with the possible exception of a kohein mamzer).June 13, 2011 9:38 pm at 9:38 pm in reply to: Guys who reject most of hundred girls they date- are they "ON the Derech"? #776994
Thanks! (That’s perfectly logical; why didn’t I figure it out on my own? Duh! Em!!) 🙂June 13, 2011 6:52 pm at 6:52 pm in reply to: Guys who reject most of hundred girls they date- are they "ON the Derech"? #776990
In conversation with world renowned, professional roshei yeshiva and rabbonim (and shadchanim, come to think of it) (by the way, how do you italicize? Thanks!), I’ve heard them say that most guys who seriously date for more than 2 years and don’t find, are being faced with a nisayon, and should keep doing their hishtadlus and davening until the right one (ONE) comes along. And you’re right – if the right one was not red, and the boy keeps on saying yes and going out with girls, they both end up getting hurt. But until we come up with a system to identify who (whom?) the right ONE is ahead of time, it’s not fair to expect the boys to get married to a girl just because he’s going out with her. (Incidentally, have you head about the “divorce crisis”?)
So I do respect your opinion, and you’re certainly entitled to it, but yes, I do disagree. I won’t deny that there are some boys who have issues, but to paint all boys who haven’t had the bracha of finding their bashert yet as being not quite on the derech is a bit unfair.June 13, 2011 4:38 pm at 4:38 pm in reply to: please pass along; cars being TOWED from toys r us parking lot!! #1017307
How is the fact that the zoo has frum visitors on Yom Tov good for business?