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    @Ofcourse-

    So instead, the boys are in a no-win situation. Either they say no to the girls in advance, thus eliminating the pain of rejection but opening themselves up to being called “unreasonably picky” by shadchanim who just “know”, despite having never met either party, that “it’s bashert, and you’re throwing your life away by not picking up on it!”; or, they finally give in, say yes to the girl, have an absolutely miserable time on the date that they never wanted to be on in the first place, and are then labeled “well I won’t call you off the derech, wink wink”.

    in reply to: Kosher Phones #775137
    gregaaron
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    @DaasYochid-

    Seriously, get with the times. They have wireless cups nowadays.

    in reply to: It's My Birthday! #778225
    gregaaron
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    Poppa –

    Is it really your birthday, or is it just another story you’re making up? :-p

    in reply to: Older Picky Girls #813926
    gregaaron
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    Dunno if this is the situation here or not, but I often get red names of girls that for some reason or another I have no interest in dating, and I don’t always want to tell the shadchan why. That being said, though, her response to you was disgusting.

    in reply to: Older Picky Girls #813925
    gregaaron
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    Dunno if this is the situation here or not, but I often get red names of girls that for some reason or another I have no interest in dating, and I don’t always want to tell the shadchan why. That being said, though, her response to you was disgusting.

    in reply to: Young Readers & Posters in the YWN Coffee Room #774720
    gregaaron
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    @(9yr old)Mother in Israel:

    Apparently (no pun intended), being on the internet is not your biggest problem…:-p

    in reply to: dating – drinking with women #773963
    gregaaron
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    @BSD:

    Considering that I am tired of going out with girls who think that Martini is an upscale clothing store on 13 Ave, yes, if I got a girl who ordered a martini I would give her a second date.

    in reply to: Cars That Go Off The Derech #772908
    gregaaron
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    Hey, cars at risk is a serious issue that we are facing nowadays. Back in Europe, you almost never heard about our grandparents’ cars going off, but now…

    But I feel that they just need to be steered in the right direction, and everything will turn out okay. Don’t ignore the warning signs! Rabbi Mechanic has a great program that will answer all of your car’s questions.

    in reply to: Online College For Girl #774135
    gregaaron
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    Empire State College

    Walden University

    University California Southern

    University of Phoenix

    I’m sure there are more…

    in reply to: Kosher vendors at Yankee Stadium? #770654
    gregaaron
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    Ah yes, the similarities between Carvel and Citi Field….the only two establishments in Queens under a Hashgacha other than the Queens va’ad, and both contain an ice-cold product. Ironic that it’s not Carvel whose mascot is a giant ice cream cone, though…

    in reply to: Yeshiva guy ordering a date in his beer? #769736
    gregaaron
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    Seems to me that adding a date can ruin an otherwise good beer, whereas adding a beer can enhance an otherwise bad date.

    in reply to: Last Day – funny answers only! #768889
    gregaaron
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    SHAVE!!!

    in reply to: Whats with the Yankees?? #967600
    gregaaron
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    @fan of pd-

    Yup – neither one can quite tell whether or not something is in the ballpark.

    in reply to: yichus in shidduchim #769622
    gregaaron
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    Like anything else, it can be either a ma’aleh or a chisaron. If a person takes the lessons of his/her family to heart, and strives to live up to the family reputation, then it’s a ma’aleh. If (s)he uses it as an excuse to do and get whatever (s)he wants, it’s probably not such a good thing.

    How important is it? As important as you make it. If you are specifically looking for yichus, then yeah, it’s important and should take precedence over something you don’t care about as much. It all depends on what you’re looking for.

    in reply to: Whats with the Yankees?? #967595
    gregaaron
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    Maybe Sterling should switch to doing shidduchim…

    “I tell you, you can’t predict Shidduchim! You know why? Cuz every day, the bochur changes!”

    “Help keep your family safe and secure w/ Dor Yeshorim…”

    What’s a good idea for the first date? “It always begins with a walk…”

    How should I set up the next one? “…send a TEX MESSAGE!”

    What if I show up in a minivan? “She’s….GONE!”

    in reply to: Whats with the Yankees?? #967588
    gregaaron
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    All those hitters may be off their game, but none of them is as off target as Sterling. Can’t stand listening to the games these days and it has nothing to do with the team’s play!

    in reply to: shidduchim- a phase or a life? #766528
    gregaaron
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    @AZ-

    That was my point. We can crunch the age gap numbers from today until tomorrow and cry all we want, but the fact is that there ARE enough boys out there for all of the boys. Why it’s taking so long for them to find each other, only HKBH knows, but I believe 100% that He has a plan to match us all up.

    in reply to: Getting told 'no' #766559
    gregaaron
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    Whoops, my post was meant for the “saying no” thread. Sorry…

    in reply to: shidduchim- a phase or a life? #766525
    gregaaron
    Member

    Yes, AZ, you must be right – Hashem obviously did not create enough boys for the girls.

    Maybe I’m unfamiliar with the age gap, or maybe I just have the bitachon that Hashem has a shidduch for me and everyone else who’s still looking.

    in reply to: Getting told 'no' #766557
    gregaaron
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    @bpt-

    If she’s bored now, why should she commit herself to being bored for life? Continuing the relationship when she knows it’s not going to go anywhere (if for know other reason than the fact that she doesn’t want it to) is not doing anyone any favors; it’s just wasting the guy’s time and money and giving him false hope.

    @happiest-

    Just do it – you’ll feel much better afterwards!! (Unfortunately I speak from way too much experience :-p …)

    in reply to: shidduchim- a phase or a life? #766511
    gregaaron
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    @AZ

    “Mod 80: Navi Sheker

    about the boys perhaps true about the girls false”

    First of all, he is no more of a navi sheker than you are, and at least he’s optimistic and believes that there is Someone up there who has the right one for each person, no matter what gender. I’m not good at math, and I’m certainly not good at biology, but I’m pretty sure HKBH knows them both pretty well.

    And besides, the girls are just as likely to get married as the boys are.

    in reply to: support #766279
    gregaaron
    Member

    I think the name Poppa bar Abba intrisically lends itself to comments about support.

    in reply to: Secular Studies In Mesivta #765327
    gregaaron
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    @Wolf

    Dunno what the Wikipedia writer was on, er, referring to, but I have a Masters in psychology and am in the midst of the doctorate program and have yet to have had a use for any trig (which is good, because I didn’t know it in high school, and don’t know it now). Statistics yes, but not trig.

    @Charlie

    I forgot the Rav you mentioned who earned a PhD in chemistry (I’m not going to go looking for it again), but I doubt he would say chemistry is an important topic for every single person to know.

    @Midwest2

    CHILL! If HIE wants to use texting language on this forum, what’s it to you? And you people say New Yorkers are uptight…This isn’t a medical journal, there’s no problem with using “cuz”.

    in reply to: HELP! Kosher Ice Cream date #757293
    gregaaron
    Member

    Cold Stone Creamery, right near the Belt. It’s off of Knapp St near Avenue Z (I’m not sure what the street it’s on is called). I’m pretty sure it’s in Sheepshead Bay.

    in reply to: Any Reason Not To Save A Potential Suicide? #758377
    gregaaron
    Member

    Wolf –

    I think killing oneself and killing someone else are two completely different deviant thought processes (b”h I’ve never really thought about doing either one); I don’t think a suicidal person is necessarily a danger to others. (Obviously, there are some cases where you’d be right, but I don’t think that that’s the case across the board.)

    in reply to: Any Reason Not To Save A Potential Suicide? #758352
    gregaaron
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    Wolf –

    No matter what a person does, we always have an obligation to save a neshama. Look in the gemara in Makkos (end of first perek) for examples of what lengths we would go to to try to save people who are accused of even the most horrible aveiros.

    And especially considering that, as you said, we Halachically assume nowadays that anyone who r”l would do such a thing was not mentally competent, there is definitely an obligation to do everything possible to keep them alive.

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752939
    gregaaron
    Member

    Raya –

    I would say it depends. Some people just have aggressive personalities, as do many members of their families, and in those cases, there may be several relatives who are predisposed to becoming abusers (although there is no guarantee that they will).

    However, many people become abusers do to their own experiences (NOT EXCUSING IT IN ANY WAY!!!!!), and that would be irregardless of family. There’s a caveat though – let’s say one’s father was abusive, so he grew up with that and it becomes ingrained in him, he may indirectly be abusing because of his father. Not genetic, but due to family experience.

    Basically, it can go either way.

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752928
    gregaaron
    Member

    Hey everyone, new poster here.

    s2021 – I’m following your story (at least on this thread) and am really impressed with how you can wake up in the morning (okay, most mornings) and go on with your life. Do you feel that you gained/grew from the experience in any way, no matter how slight?

    If yes, I wonder if you can apply that to your davening question. I can’t put myself in your shoes, but from my own abuse experience (different type though – I’m a guy), that’s one of the things that keeps me going – the knowledge that no matter how much it affected me then, and still affects me today, it’s all part of some Plan that I was supposed to go through the whole ordeal. There’s a couple of good things I’ve been able to take out of it (obviously not enough to make it worth it), and I have tried really hard to get to a level where I realize that Someone meant for this to happen, and in the long run it was really best for me. I can’t say that I’m there yet, but I’m trying…

    And btw, I don’t think people realize how right you are about needing to have guidance. If someone tries going thru this him/herself, there’s no way it’s going to end up even remotely good.

    in reply to: Leave the Guys Alone! #726217
    gregaaron
    Member

    Don’t even bother, Cedarhurst. Apparently it’s the “in” thing now to blame the bad, bad boys for all of the problems.

    in reply to: Older Guys in Shidduchim #775418
    gregaaron
    Member

    Just to point something out –

    On all of the “girls in shidduchim” threads, everyone is on the girls’ side (which is no problem). But notice that over here, the vast majority of the posters are blaming the boys themselves, as if it’s their fault that they’re not married. Try writing something like that in one of the girl threads, and see what happens.

    There may be more older girls than boys, but for each one it’s a crisis. If anything, it’s tougher for a boy, because an older girl doesn’t get labeled the way an older boy does.

    in reply to: Dating During the 9 Days #1024692
    gregaaron
    Member

    Aries –

    I’m pretty sure the R’ Moshe p’sak is talking about year round, not Sefirah or the 3 weeks. I’m not saying no one says it’s okay, but we don’t go heter-shopping.

    in reply to: Dating During the 9 Days #1024689
    gregaaron
    Member

    Other than for Chofetz Chaim boys and possibly MO, I have never heard of any heter to shave for a date during the 3 weeks. Trust me, I wish there was one…

    in reply to: Yeshiva Guys’ Dress #818337
    gregaaron
    Member

    Um, probably, yeah. But what type of Yeshiva are we talking about? He came home for the day, or for Shabbos, or what? Do you know who his friends generally are? As they say in the Chinuch Roundtable, we really need more facts…

    in reply to: Kollel – Talmud Torah Kneged Kulam #1177606
    gregaaron
    Member

    I am not so sure that after 120, they’re going to tell me it was better that I sit and learn than be able to do my part to pay for my childrens’ chinuch. Who says that doesn’t come first? Our Yeshivos are struggling enough as it is, and believe me, the next generation is probably going to have it even tougher.

    in reply to: Anyone Else Worried About Today’s Frum Music? #793089
    gregaaron
    Member

    I’m sorry, but for all of the complaining that everyone does – especially about this topic – let’s think for a second. Yes, back in the last generation, there was not nearly the amount or variety of Jewish music that we have today. But that doesn’t mean that all of that generation’s kids were listening to the stuff that you are looking at nostagically – in reality, most kids were listening to goyishe music (officially, as opposed to now) and it was considered acceptable. Between the two choices, I’d much rather my kids be listening to what’s available now. Anyway, what makes a song Jewish or not? Is it the words? The music? Who originally sang it? What if it’s an old goyishe song, but someone adds in the words “oy oy oy” – is that “megayer” the song? The whole issue is subjective anyway, and the matziv now is a whole lot better than it was then.

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