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  • in reply to: Eat4Oorah Is A Chillul Hashem #1474036
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    can someone explain is this a real thing or a joke? are people really doing it?

    in reply to: The Chillul HaShem in Lakewood #1309800
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    Although it might be legal for people to get hundreds of thousands in gifts. If is not right that they get to spend it on wants like upper scale housing expensive cars sheitlach and clothing and then us poor tax payers get to pay for their needs such as healthcare food etc. it may be legal but it certainly does not look good.

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    I know someone who felt like that. Her husbands Rav was smart enough to tell him to not pressure her. B”H they now have a very nice mishpacha. For most people the natural instinct kicks in at some point especially if they get married and are surrounded by their peers who do have children.

    in reply to: Almond milk #1289304
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    Is the breyers de?

    in reply to: Shidduchim and overweight girls #1196170
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    The problem is not her resume. B”H she gets yesses. When I start to check into them or when she actually dates them we discover issues. She has wonderful kiddos and is brimming over with personality. She is very frum but is def out of the box. Oot is probably the path for her but I don’t know how to access that. We have not had Mazel having shadchanim paying us attention. When they hear or see she’s heavy the shutters close and we don’t hear from them again.

    in reply to: Shidduchim and overweight girls #1196125
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    I haven’t logged in for years but this topic is dear to my heart. I am the mother of an overweight daughter in shidduchim and it is awful. For some reason It is considered a major mum and many of the shidduchim redt are “interesting”. We are not picky and all we want is someone who complements her personality. It’s a given that the boy will be heavy. I don’t even bother asking. It does not bother us. But most of the boys she’s dated come across as less intelligent and very bland. I am at my wits end as to where to try to find more suitable Shidduchim. We have shlepped to numerous shadchanim, many of which take money and have rarely heard from them again. Only one date came from a shadchan. So to the op. I hoe your experience is better than ours. I see many heavier girls on Simchaspot so it does happen but our experience has been abysmal to date.

    in reply to: Alter Shimon Yecheskel Tehillim #1092339
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    Thank you for letting me know. If possible please post updates every so often to let us know whether to continue saying Tehillim. Thanks so much.

    in reply to: Alter Shimon Yecheskel Tehillim #1092337
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    Agreed. Please if anyone knows please post. Thank you

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    There are more kids who want to be counselors than there are positions. I know of parents who paid the camp to pay their children so their children could have a job. The ones who actually get paid are happy to have the jobs. Also most of the kids being counselors earn no money most of the year and are quite excited when they actually get paid something.

    in reply to: cheap wedding halls #1073722
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    I forgot the names but in Williamsburg there are new takanah halls that are beautiful and much cheaper than any mentioned here.

    in reply to: White Shirts- PF or CT? #1065530
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    ct much much better! Have had both and ct much nicer and last longer. Pf crease terribly even after good ironing. ct has a nice selection.

    in reply to: Would you rent your apartment to a financially stable divorcee? #1031867
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    I had a single male relative in the situation a short while ago. It was heartbreaking how many rejections he received just because he was a single male. He ended up renting in an apartment building which is much less picky than a private homeowner.

    in reply to: Cleaning For Pesach #1002692
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    It is assur to speak of this until after Purim. If you feel you must, please keep it to yourself. thank you.

    in reply to: Some notes about what it means to be truly poor… #1001134
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    Daniel, find a tzedaka that will allow you to have checks made out to them, then do a mailing to everyone you can think of. You can say you are collecting for a friend although some will probably figure out you are talking about yourself. If you have a tzedaka name, people are more likely to give. In today’s time gevirim are innundated and unless you have a direct connection you will likely get very minimal amounts from them. Hatzlocha. If you get a tzedakah name be sure and post it here for those that might want to give.

    in reply to: tznious clothing stores #999448
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    walk down 13th ave and you will find plenty.

    in reply to: Can you suggest a good laptop for under $500? #994475
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    Check staples this week. I believe they have a toshiba laptop, core i3 with 6gb ram and 750 gb harddrive for $350

    in reply to: Kids' Yeshiva provides bad influences #1001221
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    Charlie, I believe this thread is meant to taken with a whole container of salt, never mind a grain.

    in reply to: I am a weirdo #991289
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    Goq, your post makes me feel sad. A friend of mine has developed a program for children to help them boost their self esteem. I have heard her speak and the part that I took away that has helped me see myself and those around me in a more generous light is this: This is the way H-shem made me. H-shem does not make mistakes and he does not create anything for no reason therefore H-shem has created me like this for a reason which means I have value to H-shem as I am and no one can take that away. People being mean or demeaning does not diminish the fact that I still have value. Goq, take chizuk from the fact that H-shem made you the way you are so YOU have value to H-shem. I know it hurts when people don’t value you or are mean but try to remember that where it counts you are important!

    in reply to: Saying yes to offers of help #987547
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    justsayin, #1 a huge Mazel Tov! You should only have nachas from all your children. Many people offer to help and mean it when they say it but realistically it doesn’t pan out, so don’t feel bad you didn’t take it when they said it. Probably most of it wouldn’t have worked out anyway. If you live in the Brooklyn area there are a lot of sources of help. There is an organization called Oseh Chesed that provides trained help for 5 times for free and I believe for longer if you are willing to pay. There is a support group called Mothers of Multiples that you can find in classifieds section of the frum newspapers. I know quite a few women who belong and they find it helpful. N’shei Ahavas Chesed will find you women to come to your home for a few hours to babysit the babies so you can rest or do whatever you need to do. There are also organizations that will send you cooked lunches for a while. Most of these are listed in the Hamodia (I believe it is in Monday’s paper) when they list the gemachs. Hatzlocha.

    in reply to: Tzedakah for tuition crisis – NEED DONORS #986816
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    Another idea that might help is as follows. If I’m not mistaken I am allowed to pay your child’s tuition and consider it tax deductible as a scholarship. Why can’t I pay someone elses tuition as a scholarship and they can pay my tuition as a scholarship.

    in reply to: Eyeglasses Gemach #978449
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    thanx farrock, I have donated glasses in the past. there used to be a box in the bank to put them into. I googled and found 2 places to send them to. I knew such places exist but a friend told me there is a gemach that takes them and I figured the mavinim on YWN would know about it. Sorry to all those who think its gross but you’d be surprised at what is given away and happily accepted and used by someone else. Shreck and others, If you go see a 4D movie as is popular in the bronx zoo, the aquarium and and many other popular places people take their kids, you have to put on the glasses they give you. Does it eckle you then? That is way worse because many different people are wearing those each day. These glasses were my kids and used by one person only. Some are in excellent condition because we always get 2 pair for each new prescription so they have a back up.

    in reply to: Shidduchim for children from broken homes #978401
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    ikno, that is what we’re counting on but it still is not easy.

    in reply to: Eyeglasses Gemach #978443
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    I’m looking to donate. I was told there was one which is why I started this thread.

    in reply to: Shidduchim for children from broken homes #978394
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    Shidduchim are hard today even from intact homes. We are looking into entering the parsha with a daughter and despite trying to spread the word to everyone our phone has remained conspicuously quiet and although I am probably biased my daughter is a great girl.

    in reply to: Vacuum Cleaner Recommendations #976173
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    I’ve had kenmore cannisters for over 20 years and I’ve been very happy with them. I am on my third. The second was working fine but i had to get rid of it because of something that got in it. The one I have now is 11+ yrs old and still works fine ba”h.

    in reply to: Pictures for School #974411
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    Torah613, the pose, clothing, background, facial expression etc. If this picture is going to be hanging in the class or in the hall the whole year, you want it to make the best impression it can.

    TorahU, your absolutely right!

    in reply to: How have you grown in 5773? #972858
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    not to be facetious but by about 10 lbs unfortunately.

    in reply to: Getting the other to say no #972140
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    got it. thanx

    in reply to: Getting the other to say no #972137
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    DY please explain

    in reply to: What Is Your Favorite Radio Show? #1064186
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    John Gambling!!! a voice of sanity in the wilderness!

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    Depending where you are in the catskills, going somewhere else is not always feasible. Also I think the situation is similar in most of the stores up here. There is not a tremendous amount of competition here as each area only has one major supermarket which services a large amount of customers so they don’t really have to worry too much about keeping customers happy. I tend to do what damoshe says but sometimes it rebounds on me because I forget and end up with the items i only meant to check the prices on (especially if I am not shopping myself and someone else empties the cart.)

    in reply to: Using chessed vouchers for shabbos shoes�no. 2 #955954
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    bold is pretty simple. you type (<)strong(>). then you type whatever you want in bold letters. then you end with (<)/strong(>). leave out the (). I only put them in because then the program would think it should bold the info and would not put in the instructions. If you are ending in bold letters you do not need the closing part.

    in reply to: Using chessed vouchers for shabbos shoes�no. 2 #955946
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    95- I know for a fact there is at least one tzedaka that gives vouchers for shoe stores to get shoes both weekday and shabbos. I think you were mistaken that the original thread was a mistake. The op could have seen someone getting shoes for free with a voucher. someone else said possibly he was buying it with chesed dollars. I think you are mixing up the two, but both are possible.

    in reply to: Buying Shabbos shoes with chessed vouchers #954687
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    there is a shoe gemach in brooklyn, I do not want to post the contact information online. I can try to get the info and have the mods email it to you if you want.

    in reply to: Buying Shabbos shoes with chessed vouchers #954682
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    chesed vouchers and chesed dollars are not the same thing. chesed vouchers are tzedaka and chesed dollars are sold by organizations as fund raisers. a person using chesed dollars is doing a chesed by using them when they shop in stores that accept them. Personally I do not understand why the op was so upset that they were buying shabbos shoes. the tzedakah that gave them the vouchers is probably aware that they were purchasing shabbos shoes. I know of a gemach that gives out shoes and each family member is entitled to new weekday and shabbos shoes twice a year. If they do not have shoes for them they give them vouchers to a shoe store. The shoe store helps subsidize it by charging much less or cost for the shoes. If the op does not consider this a need he can give his tzedakah dollars to other places, but in many areas as was said before it is considered normal for children to have shabbos shoes and children who do not would feel bad.

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    No one will hire you to work in a preschool without an interview but maybe you can skype an interview and they can check your references. Do you have anyone in a city with a bigger frum community who can help set you up?

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    Vogue, i don’t know if this is realistic but maybe you could move to NY. there are many oot town girls who share apartments so the rent would be relatively cheap. You can get assistant jobs in preschools relatively easily and they pay although not very much. There are a few special ed/regular ed programs done by frum places through colleges and they make possible to graduate much sooner.

    in reply to: Family in dire health crisis in Lakewood area #954414
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    There are sites online where you can raise money. You should google it and post the letter there. There are many people who would contribute something for a situation like this. I think one such site is called ‘gofundme’ another is called ‘kickstarter’. I think these are really more business oriented but there are some sites like these that raise charity.

    in reply to: Ten things your teenage babysitter wishes you knew #1098592
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    Goq, relax, many people have free long distance today. to be honest, most babysitters don’t need to use the phone nowadays b/c they bring their own.

    in reply to: Nice Places for Sheva Brochos in Brooklyn #951596
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    Spoons, both locations, Glatt a la carte all not available that night. Anyone else?

    in reply to: Nice Places for Sheva Brochos in Brooklyn #951594
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    Thanx for all your input, We are looking into most of the suggestions. We are now also considering maybe milchigs so would appreciate suggestions for that too.

    in reply to: Nice Places for Sheva Brochos in Brooklyn #951590
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    147 sounds great, Halevai Moshiach will be here and we can do that, if c”v it’s not here yet we’d be happy to have it there if you’re willing to spring for tickets and accommodations for all of us. 🙂

    in reply to: Nice Places for Sheva Brochos in Brooklyn #951588
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    ICOT, thanx for the good suggestions. BP/Flatbush area (sorry,to be so small minded) probably 40-60 people. Definitely want a private room. not sure what the going rate is but $30-$35 a person sounds about right.

    Mark_1 great idea.

    in reply to: Nice Places for Sheva Brochos in Brooklyn #951585
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    bump

    in reply to: Yeshivas with High School Dorms #947869
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    If I’m not mistaken Passaic also has either a dorm or some kind of facilities for oot students.

    in reply to: Washing Disposable Cups #946858
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    They lay them out or hang them on something to dry.

    in reply to: Washing Disposable Cups #946854
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    I know of people who wash out paper towel to reuse them.

    in reply to: No more college? #947156
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    Says me, your credits are good forever. You don’t have to finish in a certain time. If it is really negatively impacting your ruchniyus you can take a break, or slow down the pace and take less courses or even change majors or colleges. If I told you how many years it took me to get my ba you’d roll on the floor laughing but I now have a masters and work in my field.

    in reply to: OT Programs #945596
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    anyone else know of any programs?

    in reply to: OT Programs #945594
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    where is york?

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