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I davened at a beautiful netz minyan this RH
It solves the problem you addressed and other issues
It certainly made me feel that I was zrizam makdimum l’mitzvos
But I will grant the point that starting at 5:30 am isn’t easy. And I have no intention of joining the minyan on yom kippur, the day is long enough.August 29, 2021 11:21 am at 11:21 am in reply to: Ahavas Yisrael for those in YU/the MO community (Ask me anything) #2003899
My AhHah moment came on my YU interview
I grew up in a YI and the Rabbi thought YU would be good for me. So I went and while there I visited the dorms. Some of my friends had brothers already there. I walked into two rooms. Both had large posters of supermodels and no, they were not tznius. I was shocked. I couldn’t understand how a place with the word Yeshiva in it’s name would allow this. I told this to my Rabbi and though he assured me he would put me in the “yeshivish” dorm I realized I had made enough excuses for my community and I headed in a different direction (ultimately ending up in Ner Israel)
This was in the late 80’s
Lets be honest. A survey of the gap year yeshivos in Israel will reveal that the average MO grad is not what should be called shomer shabbos. How do I know? bc my former classmates are rabbeim in these places.
The MO community may have islands of serious students, but they are in a sea of those drowning.
When I first saw this topic heading I read it as “coke is better than fentanyl”
Caused me to do a real double take on what the mods are letting through these days
Also makes for a more interesting discussion
Israeli numbers are much more accurate
google breakthrough cases and vaccine efficacy against delta in Israel
You will see reputable sites quoting Pfizer as being as low as 39% effective against delta. which means that up to 61% of the cases being reported in Israel are in fully vaccinated patients.
The Cleveland clinic study from June supports your theory. Granted it doesn’t take Delta into account, but it’s reasonable to assume that you are no worse than a vaccinated person.
In addition, I believe Israeli policy recognizes this science and doesn’t require a vaccine for recovered patients.
In addition, I believe a poll of your friends will have similar results to mine. In almost all recovered patients, there was a reaction to the vaccine, with some reporting that it was worse than their initial symptoms to the virus. So a risk/benefit assessment must be made. If scientific studies do not show a need for the vaccine, why would the medical community push a procedure that carries with it side effects?
I read the 118 page sefer a few years ago
If I remember correctly, the main argument used against the heter is that when it was written the assumption was that the cask didn’t do much. Then there was a cask shortage and distillers used different casks for the first time.
It was then noted that the other casks gave an inferior product to the point that it affected sales. Distillers since then are willing to pay the price of the cask. This proved the sherry cask was important to the process which is a definite problem in terms of kashrus.November 10, 2020 2:37 pm at 2:37 pm in reply to: Could someone explain it to a non American please…? #1918569
The cash cow will probably continue long past his presidency. From what I can tell no recent president has grown poorer post presidency. There are all those libraries to be built.
Also, he has already stated through various channels that he would run again in 2024. Can’t he start collecting for that now and continue for the next 4 years. I would see a fired up base donating post presidency.
Since I Owe my knowledge to this from a link you provided on a different website, we can always abide by that 1998 study proving the efficacy of prayer.
And thanks for that link it was a fascinating study
The biggest issue is is that it’s very hard to quantify on a real life basis.
The studies that show that masks reduce aerosol spray and therefore reduce viral particles are all lab produced studies. Those studies show that you can reduce aerosols depending upon the type of mask by anywhere from two times to 26 times.
And that’s for the person wearing the mask. Obviously additional protection is given if the other people in the room are also wearing masks.
The biggest question is how does this affect the overall pandemic spread?
To quote a recent VuMedi post put out by a top virologist “ It’s hard to say exactly, but in south east Asia where the culture has always been to wear masks, they are doing much better than we are“
To a large extent you’re comparing apples and oranges. Though I won’t deny the possibility of re-infection. If you do some research on CDC website as to the reliability of the flu vaccine and why it needs to be tinkered with every single year versus infectious disease websites that talk about T cell immunity and sars viruses. You will see that you can’t make a straight out comparison
Bottom line : as of right now reinfection is highly unlikely. T cell immunity which replaces the early antibodies seems to be pretty effective for sars type viruses.
The current thinking is that a second wave will not affect New York City that badly and we are less likely to have re-infection from Covid versus the flu infection that requires an annual vaccine because of mutations/strains
I am in no way suggesting that we should not be wearing masks, I’m just suggesting that we don’t panic
If you think about it, its logical that the witnesses don’t actually carry out any punishment that requires skill. It would be inhumane
We know specifically that there was a court appointed malkus giver of specific physical characteristics.
It seems unlikely that beheading would be carried out by a stam witness. It takes skill, accuracy and power to take someones head off with one swift stroke. What would you do if the witness was 80 years old?
It was an intriguing question. Gave me something to do over shabbos.
But to answer your question, I have no clue. The whole thing is an educated guess. But it can’t be hard to get two big guys to grab the arm of the individual and force him to pick up a sword.
The Rambam phrases carrying out the missa as a mitzvas bais din, but we have the limiting factor that the witness has to go first. So my guess is, since it seems to be a necessary component, they force him somehow.
Assuming your claim of nevuah is correct. Of course.
I would like to suggest that this RH, instead of davening for one candidate to win , daven that Hashem should appoint the right shliach to lead the country since He knows best
On the other hand contrast this with the case of the son of Shimon Ben Shetach
The witnesses recanted Yet the penalty was still carried out. The obvious question is who carried it out. Is it logical to assume that the witnesses who had severe regrets actually agreed to do the process? Or did the courts appoint an executioner?
Based upon everything that I’ve seen in the sources and the specific language, I don’t believe that the witnesses actually have to carry out the full death penalty. I believe the Pasuk can be understood as they just need to start the process. So perhaps if they simply pick up the sword and then hand it to the court appointed executioner that would be enough.
And my guess is that the courts would force them to at least do this minimal amount so that they can carry out the sentence
It’s not clear that a flat out refusal would still result in the courts carrying out the sentence.
Sanhedrin 45b and Rambam Sanhedrin 14:8 State a specific case. The case involves witnesses who hands were chopped off after the verdict was finalized. And the result is the death penalty will not be carried out bc the pasuk says “The hands of the witnesses should be a first”(devarim 17:7)
The rambam States that a murderer is an exception to the rule. In regards to a murderer the rule is is that if he’s trying to escape anybody should kill him in anyway possible.
strictly based on these sources I would say that if the witnesses run away absolutely the Death penalty will not be carried out
I personally always took Rav Millers point of view on voting
two years ago I was at a symposium for a major out of town yeshiva and the hanhala was asked this question. It was formatted in a way similar to “isn’t it an aveirah to vote for democrats bc of their social views?”
three out of 4 roshei yeshiva said they voted democrat especially at the local level. Their reasoning was hakoras hatov. They pointed to several cases were local democrats took up causes that actually saved jewish lives and therefore they voted for these democrats bc of hakoras hatov. Their position was hakaros hatov overrides the social aspects and they had several reasons for this ( I will not mention them bc I don’t want to allow for armchair pundits to argue on roshei yeshiva)
bottom line as I have said bf, there is no wrong answer to this. And more importantly its not worth arguing over. Our vote/hishtadlus can not pick the next president, that outcome is decided by Hashem
Suqian city, jiangsu province china
I was almost certainly the only one in this city of 4M+ wearing a yarmulka. A Canadian man came over to tell me he “was a member of the tribe”
I also got to daven in a prayer room at Incheon airport south korea with a bunch of muslims
The main wall was very ornate and pointed east. They were bowing east. I wanted to point out to them that technically mecca (and jerusalem) was west, but alas they didnt speak english
Can’t we view english as an evolving language?
Its a fairly nonsensical conglomeration of languages and grammatical exceptions
Is it normal that the words ratio and patio are pronounced so differently?
frankly I think the language should be rewritten for brevity and grammatical simplicity (think new speak from 1984) and if texting accomplishes that , why not
As frum Jews is there any doubt that the election results have already been decided by the RBSO?
And if that is the case what is the point of arguing about this
I don’t get all the animosity created by arguing about politics. Have your opinion, vote anyway you wish ,!it doesn’t make a difference. The president of United States is decided by God.
You and the wife are welcome to come to us (Flatbush) for RH so you can both attend shul.
I do find this MO psak most peculiar
The gantz Brooklyn / Lakewood black hat velt have been davening together for two plus months (without masks!!) with no deaths. Yet the MO Shuls won’t allow their members to daven like mentschen on the yomim norayim with precautions.
I don’t get it
BMG is being forced to close by the state, do you have any proof otherwise? Let’s also keep in mind that it is essentially bein hazmonim.
I am proud to live in Flatbush where the Shuls are open and our learning is keeping the world going. I just walked by the kosher ice cream store that is doing a brisk business. It’s across the street from a shul. I couldn’t imagine the avla of an open ice cream store and a closed shul.
Check out bava kamma 60b . During a plague you stay home (don’t go for ice cream) but that same piece talks about the protection of a shul with a minyan or learning children
The flu kills between 20K and 80K a year in America (CDC website)
should we close the schools all flu season?
One big issue, as with all unregulated areas (incl vitamins) is knowing what you are getting
There are numerous reports testing products and finding the stated concentrations to be no where the actual contents. The FDA has actually put out several warning letters in this regard.
So if you try it, you need to know that you are dealing with a reputable manufactureFebruary 16, 2020 12:33 pm at 12:33 pm in reply to: The constant protests in eretz yisroel need to be addressed. #1832158
Aruch Hashulchan 53:22
A mitzvah that comes about through machlokes is not a mitzvah
It is not possible to sit down in , and stop traffic without creating tremendous machlokes, thus I don’t see how it can be a mitzvah
I was at plenty of protests in EY, the ones supported by the gedolim. They involved preplanning, the public being made aware and thus able to plan accordingly. Hundreds of thousands showed up
These protests involve handfuls of teenagers who take it upon themselves to cause tremendous tircha dtzibura. The ones being effected are usually fellow yerushalyimites. And for what goal? for what purpose?
Does anyone take such a protest seriously? or does the public just see them as the hooligans they are?(albeit dressed differently then the hooligans we have in our country)February 14, 2020 10:17 am at 10:17 am in reply to: The constant protests in eretz yisroel need to be addressed. #1831733
Don’t bow to the revisionist history being put out by peleg and apparently their mouthpiece here BMG
Rav Shteinman did not support these protests, neither did the vast majority of rosh hayeshivos in EY who viewed Rav Shteinmans derech as the proper one
Unfortunately he isn’t around anymore
You may not read the FJJ
but grandparent involvement in shidduchim has been a discussion as of late
and, you will notice that my examples are all things that started as “outliers” and have become trends
Mazel Tov CT!
Iv’e never heard of this “minhag” before, please allow my two cents
Many of those things we love to complain about started with one person
I have a daughter who is waiting to hear whether or not she got into seminary. So many tears will be shed next week when the girls match. Then tears will come from the parents when they get the bills. Many will complain. Whose fault is it that this has become the norm?
When it became the norm for boys to stop calling girls to arrange their own dates whose fault was that?
Simply do what you think is right and refuse to buy into this new mishagas.
I have rich friends that refuse to play the game of full support, and they have made beautiful shidduchim. They help more then their share but they refuse to believe that the other side has a right to say “he’s your problem now”. Don’t play the game, it will just irritate you and it creates precedence for these crazy notions to gain a foothold and eventually be considered the “norm”
I Live in an ancient brooklyn house
I am getting about a year per spotlight bulb whether I spend $3 or $8 per bulb
My chandelier bulbs are lasting 5 years though
How do your statements change the discussion?
Ultimately this boils down to whether or not the army is a place for frum kids. And it’s not.
If you want to argue it’s a mitzvah and accommodations need to be made, I will argue that’s nonsense.
If you want to argue there is an option called nachal chareidi, I will tell you to google a cross currents article called “nachal charedi – a reality check”
If the army was serious about wanting charedim and respecting their needs/culture they could create an entirely separate division. But what they are really interested in is assimilation.
I also read the article. Let me ask you this, If even a fraction is correct would you advise your son to enlist?
If my son came to me to ask if he should take a job (parnassah, also a mitzvah) and that job involved numerous tznius and ethical issues, I would tell him to run in the other direction.
There was a fascinating article in hamodia two weeks ago. The author had a meeting with an israeli sociologist a few decades ago. This secular israeli was working on a solution for integrating charedim into the work force. He was asked by the author (and I am paraphrasing here), “are you seeking to do it in a way that respects charedi philosiphy? or are you really just trying to get charedim to be more like those israeli’s you consider normal?”
Bottom line; the israeli government has from its inception used the army as a means of “mainstreaming” recruits to be their ideal. and their ideal is a leftist westerner, not a religious “fanatic”. Which frum father would risk that for their children?
If all they really cared about was having more soldiers, they would leave the training to real charedim and not interfere with a charedi wing of the army (as they do consistently)
There is nothing new here
Sorry for those that want to hate on Joseph but this statistic is one of many reasons the IDF has been considering going the way of a Volunteer army, similar to Britian and the US.
The argument for a volunteer army
1) Quality over quantity, the recruits want to be there and studies show that the british and us armies got better bc they were able to get more out of their volunteers
2) retention; a country spends a lot training a recruit and they dont want to lose that recruit after 2 years
3) specialization; modern armies are much more specialized and it takes longer to train a good soldier
4) stop all the fighting over exemptions
5) the Israel army doesn’t even have the capability of absorbing all potential recruits
the following comes from wiki (and the footnoted source)
The IDF has reportedly concluded that it will, at some point in the future, have to end conscription in favor of an all-volunteer force. Reasons include growing unpopularity of military service among Israeli youth, a growth in draft-dodging, and budgetary constraints that would prevent the IDF from conscripting all those eligible even if draft-dodging were not an issue. Israel is reportedly studying how the United States and European nations ended conscription and transitioned to all-volunteer forces, for a possible future transition.
Read the meforshim on Esther 8:11
we davened and did tshuva first then took up arms and slaughtered the sonei yisroel.
How is this different?
In europe we were not allowed to be armed so we did what we could. In america we have that right, so why should we behave differently then klal yisroel did during the times of tanach?
I do not see how your statements about how the army chose soldiers bears on the discussion. Unless you want to say that the people carrying the guns in the shul should be klei kodesh?
And I seriously question how many frum Jews have the sort of training to be able, in a crowded shul, to hit a moving target that is firing back at you, but that’s a different matter.
Read the statistics on how the percentage of bullets fired by police (during an armed confrontation) that hit their mark. Its sobering.
But that just shifts the argument toward saying that those that carry bear the responsibility to be well trained and cause no harm
How do you explain all those parts of tanach were the jewish nation went to war?
It has always been our way that tefillah and hishtadlus go hand in hand
You daven, but when necessary, make preparations for war
Up until a month ago I think this was a different conversation
But after jersey city , monsey and all the other attacks no one can possibly say they don’t understand the hishtadlus of arming themselves. You may not choose it for yourself, but our ancestors would be grabbing their swords right about now
I am divorced and BH happily remarried.
I have counseled many people in these matters.
But, and this might sound harsh, I wouldn’t offer you advice.
Divorce is always a tragedy. But to compound the problem by making it “contested” is evil.
Now I might be mistaken and the conflict may be from your wife and you have no control over that. If that is the case then I apologize. However if you are planning to fight I would remind you that though it is permitted to give your wife a get , machlokes is assur. And the damage it does to the kids is unconscionable.
I would strongly advise divorce mediation.
Fighting over money will result in money from which you will see no mazel.
I didn’t fight, and neither did my current wife with her ex, and we have both seen much bracha and Mazel together.
Good luck.November 14, 2019 7:55 am at 7:55 am in reply to: After millions spent on promotion why are 30% of seats unsold? #1800774
This entire thread is based upon a presumption of which nobody could actually seem to answer with any degree of knowledge. And that is that the sales of this siyum are lagging behind previous siyumim.
Can anyone actually support that statement?
Has anyone spoken to the Agudah and heard first hand that they are worried about sales?
Perhaps the reality is the exact opposite, perhaps sales are ahead of the previous siyum. I myself bought tickets despite the fact that I don’t do the daf, and despite the fact that it is the winter even though I didn’t go to the last one.
Frankly I found avigayil’s response to be the only good one. A huge percentage of our brethren do everything last minute . That’s why it’s called being on “Jewish time”
I am always disappointing when people quote Dina Demalchusa to avoid doing mitzvos
I always wonder what would happen if they outlawed shcita in this country
Would all these who are so makpid on dina dimalchusa suddenly become vegetarians ?
Or would they find a way to give themselves a “heter” to get around that law
If a person is killed bc he is Jewish he has died al pi kiddush hashem. This discussion came up recently after the Pittsburgh shooting. Those in the temple were supposedly celebrating a “bris” of an adopted boy to a toevah couple.
The question I had was, how can you simultaneously be creating a chillul hashem and kiddush hashem?
But research seems to show that regardless, if you are killed bc you are Jewish you have died al pi kiddush hashem.
Do you not see the tremendous difference between that and choosing to marry a shiksa?
The word holocaust implies dying for the RBSO
It should not be used for assimilation
“Holocaust” means a Korban Oleh (google it)
A sacrifice burnt entirely to the RBSO
The word is bestowed on Kedoshim
I refuse to use the word for people that choose to leave the fold
I have pointed this out in the past (on a thread involving picking up hitch hikers)
The idea of using a suspected danger to avoid doing a mitzvah is a snare of the yetzer hora
The misalis yesharim addresses it in chapter 9 (i think)
I believe that this thread with all its cheshbonos of reasons why not to do it (Who knows the driver, it might be dangerous, I might need to run to the hospital) fits that chapter to a T.
Acc to M’Y. A danger is defined by a lion on the road in front of you, an actual present danger. Otherwise if
You have a chance to do a mitzvah with a supposed fear competing with the mitzvah you go with the mitzvah
“ Why should someone use my driveway or block it because he feels like it?”
זה נהנה וזה לא חסר
I’m sure you read my original post where I called the practice of enforcing a child to wait for an older sister to get married imprisonment and evil.
My second post was an attempt to take feelings out of the equation and quote sources.
Here are two more I found
Igros Moshe EH 2:1
case involves two brothers. Rav Moshe says brothers dont wait bc there is a mitzva of p’ru u’revu. Says nothing about a need to ask mechila and says the younger brother has nothing to feel guilty about and should pursue the shidduch
Mahrsham 3:136 (Rav Scwadron, grandfather of the magid)
Also states doesn’t apply to boys. Brings down that it applies to girls as a din in derech eretz (in other words no one can force her to do this). his specific case involves a 21 and 27 year old girl and says she should pursue the shidduch offered bc who says the older will get married and why should she turn down her chance. My interpretation is that He certainly implies that every girl has a right to use her own judgement.
As for the OP who called it a “minhag”
Based on my research . For boys certainly not true. For girls there is a din in derech eretz for waiting a respectful period of time bf actively putting herself out there (to be determined by the girl) but if something good comes up she should pursue it.
I’ve spent a couple of days looking into this
I’m sorry to actually bring some facts to the CR but if you are interested here goes.
There is definitely an Inyan in waiting and maybe even for asking mechila/permission from an older sibling.
It seems to stem from a tosfos in kiddushin that says that since Yaakov had no response to Lavan we see Lavan had a point. There are several places in Shulchan Aruch that address the inyan in regards to a case of; a man saying he has married one of two sisters but doesn’t remember which, do both need a get or only the older (since the way of the world is to marry the older first)
There is even a couple of modern tshuvos on the matter.
No where do I see that this is a minhag (2 years) or that this can (or should) be forced on the younger sibling.
It seems that the younger sib owes this as a courtesy ie derech eretz (and shalom bayis within the family)
To quote one tshuva “use your sechal”
Can anyone actually prove that this is halachically acceptable?
Preventing someone from getting married and inflicting unnecessary pain sounds kind of evil.
Lets look at the situation
two girls aged 24 and 21 are on the market with the 21 year old getting engaged first. Age 24 feels pain over this. So the theory is prevent age 21 from going out to not “inflict” said pain on 24.
1) 24 is only feeling pain because she is jealous and lacks bitachon. A baal middos would be happy for the sister
2) 21 didn’t inflict anything, she simply got engaged. At most you could “blame” Hashem, not the sister
3) Preventing people from getting married sounds a lot like the sins of bnei eli. What gives a parent the right to inflict (and imprison) 21 ?!
The only possible way to do this correctly is with the full agreement of 21, otherwise you are causing harm that you have no right to cause.
A normal parent doesn’t do this to their kids. Unfortunately I know people who did it with disastrous results. I know girls who went behind their parents back and BH got married.
I would never do this to my children and have told them for years that Hashem is in charge of their shiduchim and each will get married when the RBSO wants it to happen.August 9, 2019 10:27 am at 10:27 am in reply to: Fighting antisemitism won’t stop another Holocaust R”L #1771986
I grew up in a MO neighborhood where some people wore “never again” kippos. They meant through guns and might, and on that basis the OP is correct.
On the rest I disagree on 2 points
1) Politics is Hishtadlus. Just read the new Artscroll Rav Kalmonovitz biography. Or ask the Iranians saved by Rav Neuberger when I was in Ner Yisroel. There are countless examples.
2) At least one of the organizations you mentioned is headed by frum people, and they have put out many fires and saved many jewish lives through the years. (I know first hand stories).
I don’t deny the depth of your knowledge but I have an issue with your presentation
Being clean shaven is “modern” but that doesn’t mean it was done b’averah
Just the opposite, numerous esteemed rabbis of the previous generations decided that because clean-shaven was becoming the look of secular scholarship it should be adopted by Yeshivah students (And even rabbunim. I believe the RAMCHAL and other Italian rabbunim were clean shaven)
I know someone who was told (as a bachur) to shave by Rav Wolbe
I know someone who was on the fence and asked Rav Moshe and his response was “when you have a tenth of the yiras shemayim of the (pre war) bochrum we will talk chumros”
This was a philosophy designed by gedolim
The Gemara and SA permit shaving . As long as it’s not done with a razor. To tell me that you hold it’s not permitted Is highly hashkafically questionable.
It seems to me that there is a lack of understanding in how psak is binding and Halacha becomes accepted
If someone wants to “cherry pick” a kula it would be understandable to hold him accountable for the chumros as well
If someone goes to his LOR and asks for a psak on a specific Halacha does that somehow bind him to everlasting servitude to all the psakim of his LOR?
Does anyone here believe that the children of gedolim pasken every Halacha according to their father?
Do they not have minds of their own? Are they not allowed to arrive at psak through independent research and understanding of the sugya?
In addition lists are meaningless
Litvaks have always prioritized psak (not everyone was regarded equal) Rav Moshe was the posek Hador
Many LOR asked this question to him. Many adopted his psak and passed it to their kehilos
Usually you are so makpid on kavod chachomim
Are you truly comparing wearing Shatnes to the use of electric shavers and the psak of the gadol hador?
Everyone here seems to be under the misguided assumption that Rav Moshe was giving a “kula “
He held that b’ikur this was the understanding of the sugia and many agreed with him
See Meged Givos Olam (vol. 1, p. 96) where Rav Shurkin writes that he heard that the reason why Rav Moshe zt’l did not want to write this teshuvah permitting shaving machines in Igros Moshe is because while (according to the Igros Moshe) it is technically permitted to shave, the tzurah of a Yid is with a beard. Rav Belsky zt’l stated the same.
You still haven’t answered why all pre war bochrim seemed to be clean shaven
As attested to by countless pictures
I also need to echo the concerns of others
It is nice for you to throw around the term “Posek Hador” yet I do not find you using that term by Rav Moshe.
It seems to me that you are trying to minimize Rav Moshe in general when he was Universally recognized as the Posek Hador