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I actually think of you quite often.
How’s everything been?
No, it is not possible to stop everything. Anything, for that matter. Who ever said it was? Giving safety advice is definitely not a pretense to fool-proof your life. We do our normal hishtadlus, daven and leave the rest to Hashem.
You consider banning babystitters changing diapers equivelant to not putting locks on kids’ doors and checking in on them? I’m talking in terms of practicality, cost, and general interference with daily life.
What are the protective measures you would suggest parents take to prevent abuse from their spouse or themselves? Because I can assure you that if you would recommend any ideas that wouldn’t affect normal daily life, many cautious parents would be glad to apply them.
The point is, we take the measures we can – even if there are bigger dangers for which we have no way of protecting ourselves. Not putting locks on your childrens’ doors and checking in on them sounds pretty reasonable and sensible, and shouldn’t affect the quality of life for anyone, even if they were never in danger.
As an aside, I know a rosh kollel who over the years had had 2 different yungeleit share with him that they were struggling in married life because their wives were abused by brothers. I just wonder how many others did NOT share their painful stories.April 24, 2014 12:42 am at 12:42 am in reply to: The news everyone has been waiting for! Zuberman!'s return #1118232
Mazel tov! Thank you for sharing such wonderful news! Wishing you a happy, long and healthy life together. (Glad to see those grins again, btw :D)
Hey baal habooze, I don’t come on here anymore, but today just happened to be one of these days that I “drop by”. And I sure am glad I did! MAZEL TOV!!!! May you see lots of nachas of him and all of your other kids. Mazel tov again, and enjoy your precious little (big!) gift!
Wow, WIY, that’s wonderful! I’m so happy you shared this with us. May you shteig mailah mailah. Wishing you lots of hatzlacha and siyatta dismaya.
Mods, this is not right. You know full well his intent wasn’t bad. I too sign this petition.
Yossi! Thanks so much. I’m SO happy and relieved! Thanks a lot for sharing. I like to see you smile again! 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀
Yossi: Hello to you too, and I’m glad you’re smiling:) How is it going? Still davening for you…
I’d like to say “hello” to,
ICOT: your caring, wise and artistic (I could never do these complicated pics!) posts are a truly amazing.
DaasYochid: I appreciate your “Daas” and sechel hayosher.
MiddlePath: Your life story and constant posts of support, wisdom and refinement are a true inspiration.
Mod 80: your witty comments are sorely missed.
Everyone on the diabetes thread (rebbetzin, PrincessEagle, allsgr8, metooo, coffeefan etc.)Although I b”H don’t have Diabetes, your ahavas yisroel, readiness to help your fellow Jew and constant chizuk is unbelievable.
The Goq: for being the founder of the welcome wagon – brilliant idea. Your humor keeps me going:)
Real Brisker: for keeping this place “clean”, and for your levelheadedness.
Shticky Guy: Hello to you and your humor. You make my day!:)
Chicago clan: You sure sound like a big happy family, thanks for sharing your news with us!
ZeesKite: For sticking up for the Torah when needed, and for being “zees” at other times.
soliek, Aries and everyone who helped me locate a safe place for an OTD teen, hello to you too, and thanks a lot.
Popa: I usually laugh out loud at your mean comments. I usually don’t appreciate a mean character but you’re…mildly r—-.
Goq: It’s probably one zealous baker, with dozens of cookies.
I’ll give you a hand –
One, two, three…
How is this for a comment that makes sense?
Wow, always. So true! That was an eye opener for me! Thanks a lot.
I must add that modern religious Jews treat us with the same coldness and arrogance
Unfortunately, I can attest to that. I was once out in the grocery. A modern guy stood in the center of the isle (with a shopping cart, kids and all) schmoozing with a friend. When I tried to snake around and get through with my shopping cart, he gave me a dirty look and blurted, “Some people just don’t know how to talk! Couldn’t you ask me to move?!” (I wonder what he would’ve said had I asked him to move).
Either way, we must always try not to be annoying and behave in a polite manner to Yidden and goyim alike.December 25, 2011 5:18 am at 5:18 am in reply to: whats up with the "slow down you move too fast" warning in the CR comments ? #837792
whats up with the “slow down you move too fast” warning
I would’ve told you the same, had I seen you running so fast with those scissors.
Yossi: Ok. Still davening for you. Hope things get better soon!:)
10 points to this brilliant word – “Chick-a-peca” – love it.
Wishing you much hatzlacha:)
just for you
Aw, I’m touched.
What a creative way of saying “I’m bored”!
Yossi: Thanks for the update:) Glad to hear! I do daven for you, and hope things will get better. (A full name would be nice, but if you don’t feel comfortable, don’t worry about it. Hashem knows who I mean by “Yossi Zuber”:))Keep strong, there’s a brighter tomorrow!
Sure:)I hope soon it’ll be a *happy smile*. I will iy”h daven for you. Lots of luck!
Yossi: Wow, that sure is tough. I wish you lots of hatzlacha and siyatta dishmaya.
Thanks a lot, everyone. I’m looking into your suggestions.
Goq: I must admit, this is one of the goqiest threads you’ve ever started. Kudos to you!
Daas: A very warm (and belated) welcome to you! I’ve missed your sensible posts.
Yossi: I’m so sorry to hear that. I’m sure you will soon find your bashert. Please try to keep upbeat and positive (okay, I know it’s easier said than done!). Hashem has the right girl for you…somewhere. And a lucky one at that. Hatzlacha. (And please keep us updated!)
Thanks, Aries. Unfortunately, none of these wonderful people are available. EVER. I don’t blame them, of course, it just proves how busy they are.
BTW This may be a new one for you, but this particular child was terribly hurt by being SPOILED ROTTEN. Yes, this can be WORSE than abuse.
Thanks, BTGuy and Soliek. I’ll keep it in mind. Are there druggies or crooks there who can drag him further down?
Thanks a lot, Chaim. The problem is much deeper than I realized. One parent has no say on him (he’ll make sure to do the exact opposite of what he’s told) while the other one thinks there’s no place like home. He has zero interest in Yiddishkeit to the point of paranoia. Will any of these guides try to make contact with the boy himself? (Reaching them is so difficult. They never return calls.)
Also, how much do these places cost? All the money was already spent trying to keep this ?? ???? ????? happy and buying his love-turned-hate. (Parents beware!)
BTW he’s not my son b”H. But for the grace of G-d…
Thanks, justsimcha. Right now he is working and saving up for a car. He’s acting cruel and arrogant but he is honest and uninterested in drugs b”H. He just wants to be a normal frei person, which he unfortunately already is.
No. IMHO this is a logical outgrowth of BTs thinking they’re holier than thou and being unused to submit to Daas Torah, which applies to the leaders of both the Bet Shemesh cult and the Quebec cult. (Not ch”v to paint all upstanding BTs, for whom I have the utmost respect.)
Thanks e/o. Does anyone know the contact info for Our Place or Home Sweet Home? TIA.
Thanks a lot, esrapade. I will check it out bezras Hashem.
And YOU guys are all retarded for responding so quickly. That was this Retard’s idea, and you, like retards are playing along.
Now, I for one, will NOT be part of this retardation. Which is why I didn’t respond, retard.
Mods, I think it’s time to change Bar Shattya’s subtitle to “Official Retard Of The CR”. What do you think?
Thanks for the replies.
Aries, do you think a chassidish young teen will feel comfortable in there? Is it safe? Where is it located? can you give me any contact information?
RedNails, I don’t think it’s an ideal place for a chassidish boy who doesn’t speak English.
Raphael, we tried contacting Rabbi Gluck, but to no avail. Do you have an e-mail adress, etc.?
Thank you, once again.
I’ve no idea whether this is true or not. But while we, the fellow CRers are speculating, I’d like to commend Mod -42 on a job well done. Although this may be wrong, he’d done his duty as a mod as efficient and pain-free as possible. I greatly appreciate your concern and constant action to protect us, Mod. Thank you.
(And AYC, in case this is false, please forgive the mods. They don’t want to hurt you per se, and they truly do mean well. If you’re just an innocent poster, you too, would be relieved when you’d see the mods ensure our security.)
Welcome back (to the CR and Yiddishkeit).
Firstly, I give you credit for getting back on track and returning to your roots. I’m sure your journey had numerous bumps, twists and turns and forks in the road. The fact that you’re looking to build a Jewish home proves that you feel ready for commitment and responsibility. *Slap on your back*.
Now, I’ll tell you what I think. I may be wrong in my opinion, as I’m not a proffessional, but you did ask for it.:)Also, keep in mind that I in no way mean to offend you or make you feel bad, rather give you advice.
Before you even start dating give a hard look on yourself. Ask yourself the following:
A- Am I truly over and done with my “past”?
B- Will I ever feel restricted by the life I now choose, and thus return to my old ways?
C- Am I willing to do EVERYTHING in my power to make my marriage work?
D- Will I set a good example to my kids?
If you truly feel ready to move on, then do so. Call up a shadchan, tell your friends your looking for a good wife – in short; do hishtadlus.
Also, if you’ll date a girl who had a past similar to yours, make certain it will remain a “past”, and that it wasn’t too shady for you.
Again, I apologize if I’ve been too blunt.
B’hatzlacha. I’ll bezras Hashem daven for you.
Do you know of anyone who was cured from CMV using Dr Sarno’s method?
I thought that was only for aches and pains, not for lethargy.
It even cures emotional illness like anxiety, etc.
Please fill us in on Dr. Sarnos method.
Google, or buy one of his books. The bottom line is to be convinced that it’s only from stress and to ignore the condition.
To anyone who’s been reading this thread, I hope that you will not blindly accept that things are “apikorsus” or whatever
cynic: I’m one of the “anyone who’s been reading this thread”. In all honesty, I’ve never read (or had an interest in reading) this book. But I’d like to know, what WOULD happen if I accept that a particular book “smacks off apikorsus” when someone warns me that it does?
a mamin: Dr. Sarno’s method works wonders. Hatzlacha.
WIY: Welcome back. We truly missed you here. I agree with your post. Although it’s long, I read through the whole thing, and it makes perfect sense. Thank you.
So who won? Me. I got my blazing coffee.
I respectfully disagree. He wanted to point out to you that it was time you go. Which IMHO, he’d done in an extremely sophisticated and clever way. So who won? He did. He got you to blush. And you left soon thereafter. Don’t deny it, I was the guy at the counter.
Now, what the blazes were you doing there for six hours?
I’m not sure why R’ Yakov said that. Interestingly enough, those who didn’t get the chinuch they needed when they were young, turned into adult brats.
I’m sorry I didn’t notice you started it on Friday. Either way, I think you can do better.
Because, as you said yourself, kids who get used to dirty language will turn their “human waste” into four letter words. Which I don’t advise.
What I do advise though, is that you come up with a better motzei-shabbos-troll-thread.
Tatelle, why what?
Popa: I think it’s okay to do as you do, as long as your kids are unborn. Once you have kids in reality, I’d advise not to do so.
They have patience made of steel
Is your mother tongue Yiddish? Seems like you’re trying to say??????? ???????. Am I right or am I right?
Mind – as in mind your own business
Over – as in over the top
Chatter – as in “boy are you a chatterbox.”
OneOfMany and RB: Thank you, thank you! *Bow*
No way, Yossi. I was trying to say that you are the one to make law and order (which is a good thing). (BTW, now that I got hold of you, I’m still waiting for some good news).
Goq: Great idea!
To all the newbies out there:
– If you start many new threads, yossi z. or shticky guy will get annoyed and tell you that there are at least seven threads on that topic.
– If you misspell a word, or your punctuation isn’t right, haifagirl will be annoyed with you and start a thread on you.
– If you reveal personal info, like you bought milk yesterday, you will promptly receive a “shomrim alert”.
– If you talk about nail polish, mention bpt’s name.
– Do yourself a favor, and DON’T ask for a subtitle (yeah, that blurb thingy).
– If you get EDITED on the bottom of your post, it’s a nice way of saying that you are now an official CR member.
– If you see that you’re ignored, let us know that you’ve had enough, and you think every single one of us is wasting our time. Then, come back and we’ll make a festive Welcome Back party.
– And last but not least, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
Good luck (I’m afraid you’ll need it).