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  • in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167365
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    AYC: Thank you. You always find something niceto say. I respect you for that.

    in reply to: Chol Hamoed Ideas….;) #816187
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    Going to Niagra Falls with some friends. Can’t wait! Gumball, you want to come along?

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167363
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    laugh with me: Wow. How sad and beautifully written. May your son have a refuah shleima b’karov.

    I needed a break from erev yom tov cooking, so I wrote this poem.

    I mean…

    When I say,

    “I don’t care!”

    I really want to say,

    “It’s too much to bear.”

    When I say,

    “Sure, anytime!”

    I really want to say,

    “Please decline!”

    When I say,

    “I feel like a nuissance!”

    I really want to say,

    “I need some reassurance.”

    When I say,

    “I’m so MAD!”

    I really want to say,

    “My day’s been bad.”

    When I say,

    “Just go away!”

    I really want to say,

    “Please stay!”

    Sometimes, the truth’s too bold,

    Sometimes, the truth can’t be told.

    Sometimes, I can’t speak my mind…

    But can you please be so kind?

    Read the lines I really want to say

    And hear my words, the opposite way!

    in reply to: The name and number of… #815908
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    blabla: Glad you got hold of a rav you feel comfortable with. How are you doing in general? Missing you at the poetry thread!

    in reply to: How was your fast?? #1007829
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    My fast was ok, besides for my headache and dizzy spells;)

    AYC: I absolutely LOVE to cook and bake. The preparation and all. And yes, I’ve been busy in the kitchen to answer you before! I enjoy working hard, and see others enjoying what I produced. The feeling in itself is rewarding!

    in reply to: Unsent Letters #824767
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    i am here: I couldn’t agree more. Care to share some? I’d love to see them (if you don’t mind).

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167356
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    MP: how inspiring. Thanks for sharing!

    in reply to: Unsent Letters #824764
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    adorable: that’s so thoughtful of you. It’s amazing how you really put yourself in her shoes.

    cinderella: I had tears in my eyes when I read your letter. That’s just so…traumatic. I hope she has indeed “recovered”. I don’t know her or you, but IMHO, I’d suggest you don’t send her this letter. Simply because it states what she’s done. I’m sure she’s beating herself up for everything that she’s done in the past. I don’t think there’s a need to remind her about that. I do think though, that you should write a supportive empowering letter where you tell her that you cared and worried for her all along, but were at a loss what to do about it. You can apologize, tell her that you love her and always did.

    I wish you much hatzlacha in whatever you do.

    in reply to: Diabetes Support Group #981083
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    I definitely will! I really will try my best, but in case I don’t manage please forgive me. Thank you!

    in reply to: Diabetes Support Group #981081
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    Baruch Hashem, I don’t suffer from diabetes. But this thread has made me realize how grateful I should be to Hashem and helped me count my blessings. Wishing you all an easy fast.

    Princess: Sorry, I’m not sure I’ll be able to do it (since I forgot the contents and will have to go back to check), although I’ll really try my best:(.

    Gut yom tov and gmar chasima tova!

    in reply to: Help Me Forgive #971394
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    aries: Wow. Brilliantly put. But sometimes, it’s so hard to actually do it in practice. I am currently struggling with trying to push someone out of my mind. At times I’m successful, and sometimes… I just keep on thinking about her, what she thinks about me, how she’s doing, is she badmouthing me? It’s so hard to get out of that whirlwind of thoughts. I know it’s my choice. And in this case I chose to forget…But it’s not always easy. How do I just go on?

    in reply to: I HATE SHIDDUCHIM!!!! #858831
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    QB and MP: I agree. I would never be as strong and solid with my beliefs had I not “been around”.

    BUT, I would suggest that one should do extensive research before going out with someone like that.

    KTC: IMHO, if girls were hurt “physically” that’s a BIG red flag. Hatzlacha. May you find your bashert soon.

    Miritchka: You’re right. What matters most is what you are inside. But one’s dresscode, hairstyle, etc. can often show what they are in the inside.

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167350
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    Princess: Couldn’t have said it better.

    Blabla:Keep strong!! We’re all backing you!

    in reply to: I put up a new song! #877602
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    Can’t wait to listen to it, MiddlePath (I don’t have sound on my computer, so it’ll have to wait till tomorrow when I go to work). I’m sure it’s great. I’ll let you know what I think 😉

    in reply to: Unsent Letters #824751
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    Princess: Thanks! I’m not THAT close with her, but I can see she’s doing a bit better (she’s ok with yiddishkeit, but still has somewhat of an eating disorder). Okay, waiting for yours!

    adorable: Thank you for your kind words.

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167342
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    blabla: That’s so sad. I truly hope things get better for you. btw, I now have a gmail acct on my username (hope the mods let it through).

    Your poem on a heart of gold is beautiful. Who did you write it to?

    in reply to: Unsent Letters #824748
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    Miritchka: That’s so painful. Your letter is so…scary and moving. It’s truly frightening to witness something like that. I hope she returns to her roots soon.

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167338
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    blabla: How moving. Your poems are beautiful…and so sad. Hope things get better for you.

    in reply to: Unsent Letters #824746
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    PrincessEagle: Okay, here goes. Care to share some of yours?

    I wrote this to a friend who has an eating disorder, plus other issues with Yiddishkeit (she’s on her way to recovery now, b”h). I wrote it to her after I realized that she was having a rough time. But for various reasons, never actually sent it.

    Dearest Rivky:

    It’s right now 1:40 a.m., and I’m really tired, but I know I won’t fall asleep. Your face is still fresh in my mind. Tonight, at the party, you looked…well, sad.

    First of all, I want you to know that you’re NOT alone, okay? Lots of girls our age are going through what we are. I would love to guide and help you, but I’m going through a rough time myself. It’s so, so hard. I know. Believe me, I do.

    Rivky, ask Hashem for help. I know it may sound weird to you, but no matter where you are, or what you’ve done, Hashem loves you! He’ll answer your Tefilos. Just beg from the bottom of your heart that He should guide and help you.

    Secondly, you have to talk to someone. There are lots of people out there who can help. If you feel uncomfortable talking to a stranger, try talking to Mrs. ______(a mechaneches). I went to her – she’s really smart and open-minded. If you’d rather talk to someone else, I can give you Rabbi ________’s (someone who’s doing ‘kiruv krovim’)phone number. You wouldn’t have to introduce yourself. He’s heard every question you can possibly ask, and has amazing answers.

    Everyone has questions at some point in there life. We’re lucky to have them now, at this age – without a husband or children to care for. We can deal with it in peace.

    Also, remember: daven, daven and daven. I will, too. And don’t EVER feel alone. I know you feel like it’s not your type to be depressed and anxious. You know what? It’s not mine, either. But Hashem put us in this situation for a reason. He wants us to grow stronger, be more compassionate to others, work on our middos and that we should become better people.

    You’ll see – we’ll come out of this real soon. Everything will work out just fine. Mark my word.

    Love,

    in reply to: Can someone Do me a Favor? #814921
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    TY, gumball and amen to your wonderful brachos. Glad to make you happy:)

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167335
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    Climbing Mountains: Your poem is truly a masterpiece. Glad I read it before the mods delete it:)

    Princess: Yeah, I liked that thread too. Maybe I’ll post some letters later tonight. And it definitely IS weird davening for people you’ve never met! I had you and all of klal yisroel in mind. Hope you did too!

    in reply to: Can someone Do me a Favor? #814919
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    OKAY. I’ll daven for you! And PLEASE let us know SOON! OMG, who’s the lucky girl?? (Okay, I know I’m not allowed to ask, but couldn’t resist)

    Hatzlacha rabba, and may Hashem answer your tefillos!

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167319
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    AYC: I did read that thread. Which is why I had you in mind. Sorry, I didn’t respond, it’s just that I feel weird giving you chizuk in an area I’ve no ‘experience’ with.

    blabla: Whoa. That’s awesome! Did you write it to someone you miss, or to AYC? Either way, it’s beautiful. I love the rhyming!

    in reply to: Can someone Do me a Favor? #814917
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    Yup. I really am. Besides, I’m not one to lie, especially right after Rosh Hashana.

    in reply to: Can someone Do me a Favor? #814915
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    Gumball: Of course I’ll do you a favor! I’m engaged.

    Yossi: May I start dancing yet?:) I’m beginning to get VEERRY excited!

    in reply to: Mazel Tov! #1223798
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    GumBall: Why, thank you. I’ve been pretty busy @ work. I visit the CR sometimes, but not nearly as much as I used to.

    BTW, glad to have you back!

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167316
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    AYC: What a moving letter. Sorry, I have no experience with this (baruch Hashem), and I can’t really offer my advice to you. I just want to say that I had you in mind on Rosh Hashana, and hope and pray that moshiach should come and we should be zoche to see techias hameisim.

    Maybe you can write her a letter. Just write it all out. It helps me a lot when I have a lot on my mind and I can’t say anything to that person. (When you’re done, post it on the ‘Unsent Letters’ thread;))

    May Hashem grant you the kochos to overcome this challenge and continue being a source of chizuk to others in here.

    Hatzlacha rabba.

    in reply to: Mazel Tov! #1223796
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    Mazel Tov, dealz and postsemgirl! Welcome to the club!;)

    in reply to: Engagement Ring!!! #813438
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    I’ll get a CZ, but I was told before. I personally don’t care much for a diamond (I love nice jewlery but diamonds aren’t worth the price IMHO). I’d rather they save the money for something worthwhile, such as a couch etc. My sister lost her diamond earrings and diamond bracelet. She couldn’t sleep for nights! Finally, she exchanged her diamond ring for a cz and put the money in her savings account.

    adorable: I don’t think you should get upset. As I said, I don’t care for diamonds, but I wouldn’t be UPSET if I’d get one. You may as well enjoy it!

    in reply to: Help Me Forgive #971369
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    I once had a real hard time forgiving someone who literally made my life miserable. I was a young teen, and somehow, she turned ALL of my friends against me, spread rumors like I had a breakdown r”l etc. When I thought I really forgave her, somehow, the pain always came back.

    Fortunately, two years later, one of my friends realized that I still bore a grudge on her, and let her know about it. She asked for mechilla and I was mochel her. (that in itself made me be her mochel to see that she realized she’d done something wrong). We are currently best friends!

    AYC, I really admire you for forgiving them. I do think however, that until the guilty party ASKS for mechilla, it’s very hard to forgive. Maybe you can ask someone to let them know that you feel hurt. Would that work?

    Hatzlacha rabba and a gut yahr.

    in reply to: Overcoming jealousy #815380
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    Thank you am yisroel chai!

    in reply to: Mochel Loch… time to forgive and be forgiven! #1184896
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    I’d like to ask mechilla of anyone and everyone I possibly hurt, or made feel inferior, uncomfortable, embarrassed or unwelcomed. I beg you from the bottom of my heart, please be mochel me. And of course, there’s no need to ask me for mechilla. I don’t remember anyone ever hurting me, and in case anybody did, I am mochel.

    May we all be zoche to have a wonderful sweet year, and may we all merit to see the coming of moshiach.

    A Gut gebentsht yar, to all.

    in reply to: Overcoming jealousy #815378
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    I too, struggle with jealousy and I’d love to hear advice. sapphire: There’s a thread called “Jealousy” in here, I think you should check it out. Perhaps you can make a search. (Sorry, I don’t know how to put up a reference.)

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167313
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    I couldn’t agree more, ClimbingMountains.

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167310
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    blabla: that poem to your therapist is beautiful. Your other poem is…sad. Oh, so sad! You can’t imagine how much it hurt me to read it. What should I say? What CAN I say to make you feel better, stronger, empowered? I want you to know, that although I’ve no clue who you are, I feel your pain and think of you quite often. What hurt me most was to read that you don’t keep shabbos.

    Why is that? Do you have questions? Please ask them! There are answers to EVERYTHING. I know, because I had them too, and they were answered. Hatzlacha rabba.

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167304
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    Not sure how I did that, but I’m glad to hear! Have a wonderful shabbos!

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167302
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    blabla: why’s rosh hashana a hard time for you? Think of it as an oppurtunity to ask for a new happy year. Good luck!

    PrincessEagle: I don’t work on Friday’s, so Good Shabbos!

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167298
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    Did you ever do research? Did you get answers to your questions? I know exactly how you feel, been there done that.

    in reply to: Should I donate my kidney? #836063
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    syag: May hashem grant you the kochos to overcome this difficult challenge. I’m amazed at your and your husband’s courage. Donating most of one’s liver is a great thing.

    I don’t think I’ll ever donate my kidney or liver, but I truly respect those who can do it.

    holykugel: If you have the approval of your rav and family and feel ready and willing to donate – kol hakovod to you. Hatzlacha rabba.

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167292
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    puppy: Why don’t you do some research?

    in reply to: I don't really belong in the CR #811942
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    MiddlePath: I understand your frustration. Simple: I (and I think most or everyone on here)have also felt the way you feel. We all come from different backrounds (chassidish, litvish, yeshivish, MO, conservative etc.) and we don’t agree with everything everybody says.

    Nevertheless, I think everyone would put their life on the line to help their fellow Jew. Whether MO, chassidish, yeshivish or even frei. And THAT is what’s so amazing. We are One. We have One Father, One Torah, and we as Yidden are One People.

    I think you’re a great asset to the CR and people gain from you. You are a great source of chizuk to all of us. It’d be a great loss to us if you’d leave. Hope you stay.

    Hatzlacha in whatever you do.

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167290
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    Princess, no. I didn’t get the chance to create a gmail acct. Probably will do tomorrow. Talk to you then…:)

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167285
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    Middle: Your poem moved me. I’d love to hear the song…

    in reply to: Relationship advice! #1049320
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    Thanks feif. Mmmm…I don’t think I’ll take your advice though, being that I’m still a kallah and I want to make a good impression.

    Have YOU ever tried doing it to your wife?:P

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167281
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    Do you excercise? Excercising helps me a lot. Even now, when I’m a bit anxious about something, I do some excercise (I jump on the trampoline – usually for 1/2 hr, somtimes 1 hr). It should also help you with your stomach aches.

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167279
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    Sorry, I didn’t mean to offend you. I’m glad you’re working on it. Have you asked your therapist what you can do to get rid of the nausea?

    in reply to: Relationship advice! #1049318
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    Welcome Binah! We really missed you. Wish you were back for good.

    Okay feif, now’s my turn.(thanks for the laughs so far)

    What do I do with a future MIL who seems to be very nice, but since she’s from E”Y (she currently lives in the US but hasn’t got rid of her “Israeli personality”) hasn’t a clue as to how she’s supposed to treat her future DIL (she really is caring and truly has good intentions)?

    in reply to: ATT POETRY PEOPLE #1167276
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    Of course I had stomach aches (which was my excuse not to eat). They were so often and so bad, I checked it out by the doctor. I actually did have a tiny cut in one of my intestines (I think) and took medication for it. Interestingly enough, when my anxiety was gone, so were the stomach aches. Stomach aches are a real sign of anxiety.

    Now, I’m not trying to be preachy or anything, but your sitting and waiting for some miracle to happen is not productive. Why don’t you order the CDs? Or go to your therapist? Or talk to a friend? Why don’t you do something to stop all this?

    in reply to: NOT TZNIUS "BUBBIES" (also some fish, honey, and vinegar) #1200287
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    Shprintze: The “Where-in-the-torah-does-it-say” attitude will get you nowhere. Did you expect the Torah to list every detail of untznius clothing? Do you want a malach to come and tell you exactly WHY you can’t wear pants, sleeveless dresses etc.?

    IMHO, tznius is a sensitivity and a maturity. It’s when you understand what we’re doing to the men and bochrim out there.

    I wish I were at that point. In the meanwhile, I’m working hard to get there.

    Hatzlacha rabba.

    in reply to: I need advice on how to handle this please #810169
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    Whoa. This is a tough one. It’s terribly painful to see one’s parents acting in a wrong way. And it’s even more painful when they’re doing it against your sister.

    First of all, our home is also Torahdik. My mother’s working and my father is still in kollel. My brothers and brothers in law are all learning (although they’re still in their 20’s). And I fervently pray and hope that my husband will learn, too. BUT, I can’t put him into a cookie cutter. What if I simply can’t go out and work? What if he WANTS to work? Honestly, I don’t know how I’d react to that. It would be terribly difficult for me as my lifelong dream was to marry a ben Torah. Nevertheless, if he’s a good spouse who’s treating me well, I’d have to allow him to work. An aiyshes chayil is supposed to support her husband’s decisions (unless it’s against the Torah). Also, it’s the husband’s responsibility to bring parnassa. If the wife’s willing to take it upon herself – ashrecha. But it’s no mitzva to overwork and be on the verge of breaking down r”l while your husband’s learning. Perhaps this was the case with your sister.

    I’d suggest that you have a talk with your parents (or one parent whichever one you feel close to). Tell them how torn you and your sister feel. Try pointing out that your brother in law’s really a nice guy who seemingly treats your sister well, and how happy your sister seems to be with him.

    My aunt married a great talmid chacham. Who also happened to be an abuser. How’s that for a spouse? Learning isn’t EVERYTHING. Ask them if they’d rather have a SIL who learns but is abusive or one with fine middos who works. Also, talk or write to your sister. She probably feels so lost and alone. Her husband wants one thing while her family rejects her because she’s supporting him. Just tell her that you love her, regardless of anything. You don’t have to feel it – just say it. Save the relationship while there’s still a chance.

    Hatzlacha rabba.

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