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It appears the day is coming when we will consider all chovevei-niks to be safek mamzerim.
With all due respect to his brilliance one is allowed to have a drink with a lemon wedge in a non-kosher bar without any issue whatsoever. A lemon is considered a “Dovor Charif” (sharp item) and when a non-kosher knife is used to cut the lemons the first lemon attains the status of non-kosher from the knife thereby rendering all other lemons cut as having being “kosher” with regards to the first lemon they are generally placed in a bucket to be used during the entire day and the first lemon would most prob be “botul beshisshim”
Sorry, that makes no sense. You aren’t even using terms correctly. You mean batul b’rov.
oomis:
I think you are misjudging the nature of these lounges. I invite you to visit any of the popular NY dating lounges with your husband, order a couple of seltzers, watch the yeshivish dates, and judge for yourself if the venue is inappropriate.
Try the Marriott Marque, it is very popular. Sit both in the area up the escalators, and in the revolving lounge on top. (I know much better places to go, but I shan’t be spilling my secrets here.)
what are afterteens?
has a bar, was a bar. If a place has a nazi with a gun, does it matter if the place itself is a nazi with a gun?
You live half an hour from a huge jewish community and you need a different one? Sure, New Haven is 37 minutes away, Stamford is an hour and a quarter, Providence RI is an hour and a half.
Once, on a date with a bachur who is brilliant in halacha, the bartender put a cut lemon in our sodas. He asked them to make it again without the lemon.
What kind of sheigetz takes a date to a bar?
lol
Remember the good old days when there were posters in the CR potentially worth dating? These days it’s all just a bunch of trolls and you.
For what it’s going to cost your parents, I hope you get something out of it besides getting fat from eating ice cream.
Hey! There’s children starving in Africa who are dying to get fat. And even some people in America who want to get fatter.
Ok, ok, I’ll bite.
What about my post was Randy? I’m not saying it’s fair that some people have more money than others, or fair that some people’s dads have more money than others–I’m just pointing out that its in the poor kids best interests to cut the rich kids some slack.
PBA everyone knows those are just time wasters.
half-time wasters. As opposed to the full time wasters.
I guess I don’t even notice it anymore.
Makes sense. If the rich kid leaves the school, then the poor kids won’t have a school to go to, while the rich kid will just go to another school.
So you aren’t favoring him to protect the rich folks. You’re protecting the poor folks.
You need to also stand on your head while wearing all your clothes including your shoes inside out, and say all the parshios in the tefillin backwards.
It is a bit tricky to turn shoes inside out; I suggest using soft slippers.
just go to half day right here in brooklyn.
How about a drink with cut lemon in a bar?
Sure, whatever. Feel free to think Hashem hates you. He loves you even so.
“Just read tehillim”
Just read your face. What kind of response is that? How about you just read yirmiah and yeshaya.
mdd is “popa”ing me. I’m the one who is supposed to state opinions as conclusion in a matter of fact way.
I guess I deserve it.
In any event, mdd, we’ve had this particular debate before I think, and I remain as I did, that parents should love their children even if they are hitler. Just as Hashem does.
WIY: No, only those who think their parents only value them as long as they are frum. Not very good parents in my opinion.
When I hear that someone has been living a hidden life from their parents, and is afraid to tell his parents of his life choices–I don’t really wonder why he made those life choices.
I know, right? But that’s what he said. I remember it clearly although it was about 17 years ago.
Thanks Sam.
To be precise, the rav said “those who quote the chayei odom don’t know how to learn.”
I spoke to a very chashuv NY posek about this. He said that it is completely muttar to play games with fake money on shabbos.
He said that the ??? ??? which people cite is talking about a situation where they were actually gambling and the fake money represented real money they would pay after shabbos.
He was concerned, however, about reading the cards on shabbos…
Popa
Aing davar omeid is a Gemara. I don’t have the source but it’s a well know Gemara
It is not a gemara, it is a well known made up narishkeit. It was invented by bad parents and teachers to explain why they were unable to motivate kids properly.
And it is apikorsus too. Since sometimes you will want to do something good and Hashem will not let you for whatever reason He has. Like Moshe entering eretz yisroel.
Popa
Aing davar omeid is a Gemara. I don’t have the source but it’s a well know Gemara
It is not a gemara, it is a well known made up narishkeit. It was invented by bad parents and teachers to explain why they were unable to motivate kids properly.
And it is apikorsus too. Since sometimes you will want to do something good and Hashem will not let you for whatever reason He has. Like Moshe entering eretz yisroel.
As Chazal put it, ain lecha davar haomed lefnei haratzon.
I’m sorry, but you have been duped by ignorant teachers. There is no such chazal anywhere.
Moreover, there could not be any such chazal, because it is apikorsus, since it posits that Hashem never stops a person from doing something they want to.
(Hat Tip Ben Sorotzkin)
If my spouse does anything, I will love her.
Who says that just because you get your whole list it isn’t work?
The author of the Mishna Berurah did NOT wear a black hat.
Are you basing that on the one picture that exists, in which he is not wearing a fedora?
I ended up with my whole list checked off.
I didn’t really have a list.
But if I did, it would have been all checked off.
I’m curious whether he also feels that way. And if he started to give you attention and googley eyes, I’m betting you’d change your tune.
And adopted siblings get married.
Oh, I don’t have anything against them actually getting married–I just think they shouldn’t have a romantic relationship if they aren’t planning to get married.
So if they have a close relationship, it is more likely to become romantic.
Whatever, I don’t think we’re exactly talking about the same thing.
where can we see it?
Or, if she wants to hit him with a cast iron skillet every night, he can say no.
Sure, if you want to stop being married, then that is just not being married.
There isn’t. That doesn’t mention cousins.
PBA, wrong — there are vetos al pi Halochah. This time you are off again, but to the left.
Why don’t you tell me what you are referring to and I’ll tell you why I think it is different.
PBA, it depends what type of cousin they are. There is a biological instinct to not desire your cousin since it might result in birth defects.
No there isn’t.
Most people do not have a Yetzer Harah for their cousin
I think that is false. Maybe people with ugly cousins.
I assume most people mare with the intent to grow. Not stay the same or get worth.
I assume most people discuss that while dating. If they don’t, they are retards anyway so who cares what they do.
However when making a personal change that will affect your spouse I agree that it must be done with his or her permission.
Permission? You don’t need permission in a marriage. There are no veto’s. You need to talk about things and take one another’s interest into account.
And you make it sound like these are big bold decisions. Like the guy comes home from work one day and says from now on he is only going to shul on shabbos. Or she comes home one day, rips her sheitel off and says she is never wearing it again. That isn’t how life works.
Agree with Torah.
WIY: I’m particularly intrigued that you assume that one spouse becoming less frum will always negatively affect the marriage, but that becoming more frum will usually not. In both scenarios you end up with a mismatch, so why do you assume a difference?
If the cousin is like a sister to him, I think there is far more harm in talking.
Do whatever you want. Stop crowdsourcing personal decisions.
The problem is that while the MO and the MO rabbinate respect the charedi and charedi rabbinate, it does not go both ways.
ummmm lol?
Usually when people spend 12 pages trying to convince everyone of something that doesn’t relate to them there is a reason.