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it all boils down to basic TRUST…after all teenagers will have access to watevr/howvr and you have to give them the tools during those years to make their decisions….privacy is essential for a growing teenager and a child (under 11)needs it too but you have more leeway in no locks and stuff like that.
The only way people will go is if they feel the desire to further themselves. It’s an old issue and it’s amazing R’ Fingerer is and has always been reaching out.
there’s nothing wrong with going and who cares what other ppl would think… sometimes it’s the ppl who make the effort and go who are way better off in the long run (then ppl who care “oh I hope no one sees me”)
Why worry about something that’s inevitable and Jews are considered a liberal minority that are many times associated with gays. Separation of Church and State we can only do what we want when they keep this doctrine. We practice ours and ignore what we can’t change (it might be detrimental to change it)
It’s all relative, there’s no right answer. if those are ur intentions obviously u wouldn’t date a girl who’d be opposed to the idea
During dating there might have been cute stories, jokes or what not that you shared. Get her something memorable that unique to both of you. or she might have mentioned something she enjoys. Take notes on what she likes, you’ll be busy doing that during your marriage as well. Mazel Tov!
Try Chana Levitan’s book or Gila Mansolon’s books…start figuring out how much they’ll be able to digest and present it in piece work. Don’t throw it all at them. If it’s presented well, she’ll be able to take whatever she’s able to apply in her life. try looking at Aish for articles and would she be able to go to Jewish renaissance center shiurim on the west side? you’ll need a Rabbi to consult with as well(“stump the Rabbi”)
Those are great options good luck with everything! ya, darchei bina is similar to Michala. What are you looking for, Michala and Machon Raaya are different.
Why would we alienate people who committed suicide? They really have no neshama???
Part of being a teen is rebellion, I don’t know a single person who hasn’t rebelled (might not be as drastic as an outwardly flaunting). Girls in particular who rebel are looking out to see who’s watching and how they’ll react.
They need unconditional love, I can’t imagine that wearing pants will make you (a teacher) cringe yes. but try to show respect and not be shocked. WE sometimes like the shock value of look I can cross lines, and yes! I saw my teacher and looked like _____. I would only say that a good teacher (someone I had, would wish on e/o else would say omg, how are and ignore the dress. The comments aren’t necessary since she prob. knows you didn’t approve.
When you’re talking about an adult it’s different, but come on teens will be teens!
Check out Aish.comOctober 15, 2013 12:46 am at 12:46 am in reply to: Calling all N.J. people to get out and vote for Lonegan! #978980
“So are the values of single people not as important or as good as those who are married and kids? “
How are a candidate values measured:
1. Record/ What they accomplished
A single candidate may not relate to married family life struggles as well as someone who has to deal with supporting their own family. tuition, childcare, housing, expenses in general-
I don’t know much but I saw one debate and Booker is more charismatic than Lonegan, and they appear to be polar opposites, as Booker claims Lonegan represents the far right republican party. Which don’t compromise on moral values Booker is a real liberal both are extremes
(not that we’re affected since we make our own choices with our rights/freedom)
There must be a ZERO TOLERANCE for any of this. Children have to know we’re there for them. They have to be taught this and understand that we will protect, defend our children and exonerate the perpetrator. I really feel your pain and hope you’re able to find a qualified therapist that your child will trust and open up to and learn to feel safe and secure with himself. It’s by far the most heartbreaking thing a person goes through and hopefully we will continue to develop ways to maintain a safe environment in the community.
wishing you much hatzalcha in finding someone Relief -organization- might be able to refer you to someone qualified please google them
We need to fix this system…feel for all those involved it’s horrible that this is broadcasted over the news but maybe we’ll start getting the get system fixed…might start encouraging pre-nuptials,
Truth is each situation is different and there’s prob. not one rule.
I think we all agree on this, just some ppl prob. have bad experiences (and im not judging them either) but they seem to give us a negative rep. it just hurts to see it happen can think of another example where a blatantly anti semitic pro Nazi slogan was encouraged by an outwardly Chasidic guy…it’s embarrassing!
They love it, laugh behind our backs (huh? why do u practice ur religion if u make fun of urself)
I know, b/c I’ve been one those ppl that gets questioned about how modest or extreme Jewish groups appear to be and asked I try my best to keep the weelll e/o has extremist groups but don’t make urself sound like a Jew-Hater!!
It’s like if ur brother was insulted u’d stick up for him
funny I tried getting into schools myself prob. should have gotten a race change first..
It’s not a double standard if u can afford the vacation, chill if you can’t don’t… the social pressure is everywhere wherever you go live, basically you decide whether to succumb to it or not… sometimes social conformity is okay in some situations too.
Spending above your means is stupid(sometimes we do it just to feel apart of things)
Affirmativa Action hasn’t helped us, it’s easier to get in if ur another nationality/race/ethnicity
Penn is rated really high, excellent reputation, rigorous education, hard to get into though.
Still we’re able to sustain a thriving, successful and self-sufficient multifaceted community. Pretty big achievement in a relatively short amount of time(after WWII).
I’d recommend speaking to someone, figure out if you want college, seminary or and work.
You technically can do all three I know there are programs for 1/2 day sem, work /or college (college sundays too).
Good Luck! Take it easy and enjoy your year!! don’t kill yourself trying to make the decision you can always figure it out the next year(s) as well!!
would veer to caution if your trying to be mekariv her –prob. would mess up your friendship. if she asks why or what of your observances then answer but try avoiding kiruv ppl don’t accept unless they’re interested.
Personally grappled with similar friendships. Firstly, it’s impressive that your able to see that the friendship potentially influence you. But, my thoughts are if you enjoy chatting, phone, hanging out and try to keep how observant you are with respect that your at different places of observance. I think with some of my friends the respect allowed us to remain friends, we don’t talk about religious (“you do and I don’t”) I try to remain positive I’m doing what I feel is the best way and she is doing hers.
If you have internet access try to research (google) classes on Judaism over the internet.
Math shouldn’t impact your everyday living. With any disability it opens you to find what you are in fact capable of accomplishing. In your research I would suggest finding great accomplished individuals who had depression and Asperger’s syndrome. I’m sure you are gifted in areas you never knew you were.
Torah613: thanks, I know people wouldn’t and don’t do things intentionally,
I’m pretending to avoid my feelings I’m in touch with them and when I am it’s painful “…If you asked me how I’m doing I’d say I’m doing just fine I’d lie and say that…” it’s prob unhealthy and I can’t think of a better way I guess somedays you need to just escape and sulk(it’s unfortunate ’cause it’s sukkos)
very poetic, we all need those new beginnings. Chag Sameach
Just thought it would great to hear about some of the worlds finest kosher cuisine. I just might have to get around one of these days…
Being that with time we all change or we become influenced or used to our spouse, environment, work, family. We adapt and adjust to whatever forces knock us around.
Sometimes I feel like we become completely different people every couple of years.
Personally, I have and I can’t imagine I’m alone. As far as tznius changes that goes with any religious lifestyle change.
Is it deemed to bring so much tension because your spouse doesn’t recognize you? It might, but we all have witnessed or heard of amazing couples who held on tight even when the going went as rocky as ___..
Both, how would I know if I’m really depressed, I try to keep my mind off of these things and distract myself with stupidity. It’s not working. Why is life so crazy?
Everything, I’m a complete mess. I’m the type of person who seems like they have everything under control. My problem is when things swing out of my bounds and into others I lose control of them. Basically decisions are/were made without my input and it drives me insane. On the outside I’m trying/pretending to keep my composure.
I sound like a control-freak but I’m not. I’m not dealing and I think I’m getting depressed.
Right. His voice made it a big hit, I have it in my head right now, I guess it was elevated though
If you know the song gagman then for sure it takes away from the kedusha. I’m guessing some of the guests don’t, but it’s a great dancing song without the words right?
I heard that some nigunim or zemiros trace back to Russian marches. So I’m wondering if you could do that with contemporary secular music.(not just singing but as a Chazan in shul)
that makes sense it’s how the music affects you, do you teach secular classics?
Really a case for divorce?
Some of the Dylan songs are based on Judeo-Christian verses. Would those be allowed to use as inspiration if they refer to J?
guessing those threads discussed secular music. Have you found inspiration from secular music? Is that wrong?