Queen Bee

Not to go off topic, but what if you have the opposite–a girl who doesn’t like to wear makeup. Will she have a hard time getting married?

Hello and welcome =)

Hey, triplet! Thanks for the welcome =). How’s it goin’? I think I’ll let you be the CR queen because I’m pretty sure I’ll get overthrown!

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Thank you, my loyal subjects!

Welcome back, QB!

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Wun Uv Meny

Those who don’t play games don’t understand how fun they are and NOT a waste of time. I don’t think those non-gamers have the right to call other people’s hobby a waste of time.

Nope. I’m a gamer girl (adult) and proud of it 🙂

PinkOcean88, I don’t want to be offensive, so if I come off that way, I apologize. If you feel that all the guys you’ve dated are not up to par, is it possible that you’re dating the wrong “type” of guys? If all the guys you’ve gone out with are the way you described in your OP, maybe you should try to date other types of men.

I don’t think a girl should ever lower her standards, but maybe yours is too high? Date the guys you want to date. From your post it sounds as if you’re forced to date these guys. I can be wrong, though. Maybe I misunderstood your post. But please don’t blame the guys (even if, yes, they aren’t as good as girls). You need to go find the guys you want.

bpt, I like your thinking!

I really don’t like singling out only one person’s poem out of everyone else’s, but, blabla, your poem stood out to me because I could relate. I had a difficult time in high school, and I too dreaded waking up every morning. I also referred to HS as hell. I was cleaning out my basement a few months ago and came across my notes. I couldn’t believe some of the stuff I wrote, how I felt about school and the teachers and everything. I hope you hang in there because life does get better after HS. I’m sure people have told you this many times, and it’s hard to imagine that life could get better, but please have faith. When you’re out of HS and are able to make your own decisions, try to choose the path that you feel is best for you.

I hope my words gave you some comfort. I wish you lots of luck and know that we all care about you. Keep posting in this thread because it’s a great way to release your feelings. Sending some virtual hugs your way =)

I’m not going to argue here, but not all men know all the halachos very well. Since tznius is a woman’s mitzvah, I believe a girl needs to be taught what’s appropriate and not have to constantly be told by her father, which can make her feel uncomfortable. Okay halacha dictates that the father needs to enforce the halacha, but imo, it would be best for him to tell his wife to tell the daughter. I personally don’t have a problem in this area, but I would not appreciate it if my father told me how to dress.

I think when a girl reaches a certain age it’s not a good idea for the father to tell her how to dress because it would make the girl feel very uncomfortable, she might feel that she lost her father’s respect, and that may cause her to lose respect in herself, therefore her clothes become less respectful as well. I think the best way to get a girl to dress appropriate is by leading by example. Mothers, aunts, teachers, and all the other women that the girls respect need to show their girls how one can look good while being dressed appropriately. And if a girl is dressed in an immodest manner she should be told in the most respectful way how she should dress. Not by saying, “how can a Yiddishe maidel dress this way” or “your family should be ashamed of you”. Rather, show her how beautiful being modest can be.

I agree with Cinderella.

Woops, sorry I forgot to add their meanings:

1) brb=be right back

2) hw=homework

3) dw=don’t worry

4) btw=by the way

5) ikr=I know, right

6) lol=laugh out loud

7) wth=what the heck

8) ttyl/s=talk to you later/soon

9) gm=good morning

10) gb=goodbye

11) bb=be back

12) hth=hope that helps

13) jas=just a suggestion

14) otoh=on the other hand

15) iirc=if I recall correctly

16) gg=good game

17) gtg=got to go

18) gj=good job

19) rofl/lmao=other ways of saying lol

MP +1!

Sorry you’ve been feeling ill over this =(. I’d hate to see you leave the CR because of some idiots who won’t behave like respectful, mature adults. I don’t think these people will change, so try not to let them bother you. They’re not worth all of this.

soliek, exactly! I couldn’t have said it better myself! I have so many really great ideas for frum novels, but I know that editors won’t even touch it once they find out the actual plot. There are so many real, authentic, believable stories to tell that I think will entertain so many frum readers, but publishers just won’t allow it. I think if I ever do want to publish a frum novel, it would have to be through self-publishing. Have you ever thought of doing that? I think it would be great if you wrote a REAL frum novel!

Thanks so much for apologizing and not getting mad at me =).

“If you are screaming at them L’shem Shomayim, then there is nothing wrong.”

Maybe you’re right that there is nothing “wrong”, but I think speaking in a soft, respectful way is better than screaming. And has a greater effect.

And I completely agree with MP’s post. Middos rise above all.