Queen Bee

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  • in reply to: Whats the heter to be a moderator? #807922
    Queen Bee
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    I don’t like calling anyone out, but I want to show an example:

    “of course people can feel embarrasment when they have foolishly invested an illusory persona in an online character”

    You see right here, this can offend hundreds of people. Nobody knows what others are going through. The fact that you are not one of these people who are forced to create a fictional persona to deal with life does not mean others who have done this are “foolish”. One thing I noticed that is very lacking in our frum communities is acceptance. Everyone has lead different kind so of lives, been in hard situations. They deal with it the best way they can. We all need to understand that and accept the person for who he/she is.

    in reply to: Whats the heter to be a moderator? #807912
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    MiddlePath has a point. I’ve seen many times where posters have been rude/disrespectful to one another (If I’ve ever done so, I’m sorry). It’s true that this is online, but there is a person behind the screen.

    What’s the use in guarding yourself from non-Jewish music if you’re going to talk to your fellow Jew in such a manner (even if it is online).

    in reply to: Good Shabbos! #1135747
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    Good Shabbos!

    in reply to: Whats the heter to be a moderator? #807893
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    LOL…

    in reply to: Girls learning Gemorah?? #810310
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    I loved learning Chumash and Navi in school. They were my favorite subjects (other than algebra). But learning every meforash is a little too much, IMO. Just rashi, maybe a few others is enough. I’m not in school anymore, but I still try to learn Chumash and Navi with rashi every week.

    in reply to: I wish I were a Talmud Chacham #807548
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    Seriously? A girl should rather watch TV than learn gemara? Is there something they’re trying to hide from us women? (I’m not trying to be argumentative, just really???)

    in reply to: to whom it may concern: #809761
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    *raises hand* I’m 5’1/2″!

    in reply to: I put up a new song! #877582
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    Hey, MiddlePath. I love the Hebrew song. You sing it beautifully!

    Are you singing solo? Or is it your band?

    in reply to: Need a push #807993
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    Thanks, everyone 🙂

    in reply to: Retail Establishments with Forbidden Imagery #807846
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    I have a question: If a guy looks at a girl specifically for pleasure (she’s dressed perfectly modest), and she knows he’s doing it, is she sinning?

    Also, does the same go for women for looking at half dressed men? Women have a yetzer hara for this, too, you know…

    in reply to: I wish I were a Talmud Chacham #807542
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    MiddlePath, that’s so amazing! If I ever get married, I’d like to learn with my husband (if that’s allowed…)

    aries2756, I second MiddlePath.

    in reply to: Visiting Rome #807414
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    MiddlePath, that is VERY male!

    in reply to: Retail Establishments with Forbidden Imagery #807841
    Queen Bee
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    Okay, sorry if I offended anyone.

    in reply to: Retail Establishments with Forbidden Imagery #807832
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    popa_bar_abba, I just don’t understand why a picture of a woman’s head/face needs to be blocked. If she wasn’t dressed modestly, I’d get it. But she’s just smiling…

    in reply to: I wish I were a Talmud Chacham #807540
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    I’ve always wanted to learn. In elementary and HS, my favorite Hebrew subjects were Chumash and Navi. I feel like there’s a whole side to Judaism I’m not part of because women are not allowed to learn.

    If a woman picks up a gemara and starts reading on her own, is that assur? Let’s say I steal (ehem, borrow) my father’s Artscroll gemara?

    in reply to: Retail Establishments with Forbidden Imagery #807829
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    The frum grocery store I shop at covers the images of cereal boxes with white stickers. IMO, that’s going a bit overboard.

    If a person has an issue shopping in a goyishe store where there are “forbidden images”, don’t shop there. We don’t run the world, we are only less than 1% of the population. In my most honest opinion (and I am probably wrong here), I believe the best way for someone to deal with such problems is to build a resistance to them. Get used to the fact that you will see an indecent picture of a woman. What do you do? LOOK AWAY! Learn how to deal with it instead of taking the easy way out by covering them.

    But what do I know–I’m not a guy so I probably don’t get it.

    in reply to: Need a push #807988
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    Thanks, popa_bar_abba and Sam2 🙂

    MiddlePath and happiest, I’m glad others struggle, too. Thanks for the inspiration. I know Hashem is everywhere and that He controls everything, and I need to understand that He trully cares about me, even though He doesn’t show it sometimes.

    mommamia22, thanks for your personal story. It definitely makes me see things clearer.

    in reply to: Need a push #807982
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    popa_bar_abba, I think the right answer should be that I want to daven so that I can have a closer connection to G-d. But I’m not sure that’s the reason I want to daven. I just feel like I NEED to because it’s the right thing to do, just like I make a bracha before eating or wash my hands before eating bread, or like I don’t turn on the computer on shabbos.

    mikehall12382, thanks so much :). I’ll check it out.

    kapusta, I guess that’s really the problem. When I don’t daven and things don’t go right, I can blame myself because I didn’t daven for a good day, so what can I expect? But when I DO daven, and things go bad, the one I blame is G-d. I know that’s wrong and things happen for a reason, even if we don’t understand, but I still feel hesitiant. I feel I’m being selfish because there are people who go through horrific things, and I shouldn’t complain.

    Derech HaMelech, I’m trying to find shiurim online about the importance of tefila. Just need to find the time to listen to them!

    I feel a little embarrased that I’m struggling with this issue. It seems something teens go through and by the time they reach my age they have it figured out (I was the exact opposite as a teen–I was very strong in my beliefs). Guess that’s what I get for pushing aside the issue this long.

    Also, I davened a bit this morning. I didn’t feel any different. I wanted to feel better, closer to G-d, but…nothing. The one thing I did feel was proud that I promised myself I’d do it, and I did it.

    in reply to: Need a push #807976
    Queen Bee
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    Thanks, mommamia22. Your advice is very helpful.

    mikehall12382, In my mind I know that G-d wants to hear my tefilos, but I don’t feel that in my heart, I guess. I’m trying to work on that–believing that He DOES care.

    workinonit, LOL. You should be my alarm clock!

    brotherofurs, lists used to work for me, but not anymore. It’s a good suggestion, though. Thanks 🙂

    commonsense, good idea, thanks!

    yid.period, I’m not really sure why I stopped, and I’m not entirely sure why I want to daven. I feel like it something I have to do, just like I keep all the other mitzvos.

    RABBAIM, yeah…lol

    MiddlePath and kapusta: good advice. I have done that in the past–just talked to G-d–but I always felt like it was useless, that He wasn’t listening. I guess I feel ignored. I’m not really sure.

    in reply to: "Better Boys Than Girls??" #922821
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    cleverjewishpun: thumbs up

    in reply to: 9/11 memories #1178147
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    I was in middle of class. We had an assembly where we said Tehilim, then they sent us home early. I spent practically the rest of the day watching the same footage of the planes crashing into the towers over and over again on TV.

    in reply to: School is starting 2morrow!! #806601
    Queen Bee
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    Hatzlacha to all those starting school! 🙂

    in reply to: Dear Teacher, #806682
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    popa_bar_abba, I don’t think I will ever forgive my principal either (though, mine was in HS). It sucks when everyone else (including my parents) thinks the world of her when she made my life a living hell.

    in reply to: Check out my musical compositions! #806583
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    Really nice, MiddlePath!

    in reply to: JOBS in MONSEY or PASSAIC? #806342
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    I noticed on Luach.com that there are a few bookeeping/accounting positions in Monsey.

    in reply to: New Hangman! Join the fun! thread (to replace the broken one) #863942
    Queen Bee
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    T?

    in reply to: New Hangman! Join the fun! thread (to replace the broken one) #863937
    Queen Bee
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    N?

    in reply to: midwives.. #807224
    Queen Bee
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    I don’t see what the big deal is. Hopefully Geshmakke Mentch will get married during or after her schooling. She can work as a midwife then.

    in reply to: IY"H by you #806153
    Queen Bee
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    The way I see it: when someone meets a married friend, they say, “How are you, how are the husband and kids?” Etc. So for an unmarried friend, they say “IY”H by you.” Wouldn’t you say the same if the roles were reversed?

    But if they give pity faces, of course that would bother me. I don’t pity myself, so don’t pity me.

    in reply to: midwives.. #807210
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    I don’t see why not.

    in reply to: shud i feel guilty i am crying? #807948
    Queen Bee
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    2CUTE4U, I feel the same way. Not so much about the crying, but that other people go through so much, and who am I to complain? I feel really guilty, too. I’m really thankful to the other posters for making me realize that it’s okay for me to feel this way. Everyone suffers on different levels and we shouldn’t compare one to another. All we can do is daven, work on our emunah, and hopefully we can get through it.

    I wish you the best!

    in reply to: lonely.. #805983
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    workinonit, ever thought about writing? Creating characters in your head and creating a fictional world may help you feel not so alone. Worked for me when I was a teen.

    in reply to: Friends #805989
    Queen Bee
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    I’m in the same boat as you. One of the last of my single friends just got married. Try to keep busy, even if it’s just to help around in the house. Maybe play some games, take on some hobbies? Writing, reading, an instrument–or be a nerd like me and work on math problems? Trivia quizzes. I used to do some needlepoint. It’s relaxing (and no, it’s not just for old women!)

    One thing I started recently is learning a sefer. Right now, I’m learning Yehoshua. After that, I plan to learn shoftim, and move on to Shmuel and Melachim. I also plan to learn the parsha every week. You can say Tehilim, maybe learn some halachos from the kitzur. Listen to shiurim online (wish I had more time for that). Ummm what else? Maybe pick a random topic and research it online? I’m sure you can come up with things 🙂

    in reply to: Heels on Dates #1126025
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    taking a break, I’m with you! Well said. From one shorty to another 🙂 (and I’m even shorter than you).

    in reply to: Check out my musical compositions! #806563
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    Hey, MiddlePath. I finally had time to listen to your last song. AWESOME!! I love the part at 4:20.

    in reply to: Life as the son of a Child Molester: My story #819774
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    I was going to say the same thing as Aires, but she said it much better 🙂

    in reply to: Heels on Dates #1125947
    Queen Bee
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    Ugh.

    Okay, while looks are definitely important, I think judging a girl based on whether she wears heals is a little…ridiculous. Nothing against you, Joseph, but I think you need to pull back for a sec and think things through before complaining. Do you know what it’s like to wear heels? No, you don’t. I’m really short and I hate wearing heals, although I do wear them to weddings. Maybe the girl’s feet have been hurting, maybe she had a cut on her toe. I doubt your future wife will always wear heels, anyway. Will you still complain then? I think it’s really unfair. The girl probably worked hard picking out an outfit, deciding what shoes to wear (her [flat] shoes were decent?), and then you pick on something as irrelevant as her shoes? What ever happened to judging a girl on her inside?

    To be honest, if the guy I went out with had a problem with me not wearing heels, I’d dump him.

    I don’t mean to be harsh, but I think some people’s views on dating is so screwed.

    Ugh.

    MP + 2

    in reply to: Life as the son of a Child Molester: My story #819768
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    Hush was not published by Jewish publishers, probably because no one wants to touch such a topic. I borrowed mine from my library, and Amazon sells it. I’m not sure who the publishers are.

    in reply to: Mazel Tov! #1223694
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    Check out MiddlePath’s music thread.

    in reply to: College Professor Mocking Yiddishkeit/ Torah #805175
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    in reply to: Check out my musical compositions! #806551
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    Mazal tov, Adorable!

    in reply to: Check out my musical compositions! #806540
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    MP, you’re making me want to get back into the piano 🙂

    in reply to: what should i do?? #804930
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    MiddlePath, guess you can say I miss high school math, lol.

    workinonit, there are many sites for online games, but most are filled with chatrooms and that sort of the thing. Yahoo Games is safe, though. I was obsessed with zuma, dynomite, ball revamped as a teen. Perfect games for when you’re klutzing around, and they are really addictive.

    in reply to: what should i do?? #804928
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    Call me a nerd, but I do algebra quizzes online for fun. Maybe you can find some fun quizzes or trivia?

    in reply to: this is really cool!! #804696
    Queen Bee
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    Cool. I read it well on the first try.

    in reply to: Check out my musical compositions! #806527
    Queen Bee
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    Hi, MP

    No problem 🙂

    in reply to: can i date a girl without Shadchan????????/ #808636
    Queen Bee
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    I think I would be more comfortable without a shadchan because I have issues with the whole system, but on the other hand, it feels safer when a third party is involved. I didn’t know there was a source for this, so good to know.

    in reply to: How can I change my attitude #804514
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    Everyone’s posts got me thinking. If I were alone in an elevator and a guy walked in (Jewish or not) I would feel uncomfortable. So I’m glad frum guys don’t come in. I guess I was just bothered because I was so used to frum guys acting the way they do, and then when I attended college, EVERY single guy held the door for me. Even when I was a few feet away from the door, he would hold it open and wait. And they never struck a conversation with me–I just said thank you, he said you’re welcome, and that was that. I’m not saying frum guys should hold the door open for girls, but at least hold it open a bit so I can catch it before it slams into my face…

    You’re all right. It’s better that guys don’t look at women like the goyim do, BUT running across the street or into the woods seem a little over the top. At least to me. A guy can just keep his eyes right in front of him and continue walking, like I do.

    Aren’t girls taught not to look at guys either?

    in reply to: Who is your favorite member, responding to threads? #807111
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    Thanks, mustangrider, for mentioning me 🙂

    in reply to: Blatantly Staring #804966
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    I’ve been stared at my whole life. As a kid, adult…it really annoys me. One time I was in a store and a girl walked right up to me and just stared at my face. Maybe it’s because I have a different look, or dress a little differently I’m not sure. It is extremely rude, but I forgive the kids because they are kids and are curious. But I get really annoyed when the moms stare…

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