🍫Syag Lchochma

Torah- wow, now I wish I was you!

And I’m not sure how that would fare well for you.

twisted – I like the horse part. That sounds like fun. When people say straw hat to me it reminds me of the straw farmer hat (shaped somewhat like a sombrero) we used to have for dress-up. I would love to see more of those on the streets.

Have no fear, that was a momentary disruption, not a tangent. Carry on.

I was obviously very careful.

Although, if you were here a few years back you would have seen a thread where I was actually referred to by name.

Here’s a hint that may work – my daughter went to shul alone because there was nobody else to sit on her side of the machitza with her.

Haifagirl – are you sure you read it and didn’t hear it from a former employer? 🙂

squeak – love it

Make sure you only daven in airconditioned places, carry it to shul, and only put it on when you get there. Problem solved.

I think you can wear a straw hat and then on your resume you can list yourself as “part time chareidi, part time independent party”

DY – hey, you stole my joke. I find that you often post what I was gonna post, are you from Chicago? or maybe it’s that “singular mind” thing.

if you look you should see that the upper edge says something like “press here to close” so you don’t need the x.

OOM: ^_^

I am so glad you understood that it was chizuk! I never doubted your love for them and I get the sleepless thing. My kids are awesome but lousy sleepers and I don’t think I slept through the night more than two or three consecutive days for 19 years. (Yes, I really do mean that)

I am sorry I can’t offer more without giving away all my trade secrets (No, I really do not mean that).

I went through a period like that and I worked hard to change my view because I felt like I was always frustrated at the wrong people and I knew they could sense it. It took work but brought me such tremendous menucha. It has been 20 years and I generally feel like the rest of life interferes with my time with my kids, as opposed to the other way around.

Here’s my own personal chizuk that I made up for myself. The reason it is sooo hard to be with your kids all day and feel useful is because it is such a TREMENDOUSLY HUGE mitzvah and tafkid that the yetzer horah works triple overtime to make you miserable. See, that’s how important you are, and that’s what you are up against! You are awesome, so kiss those pudgy cheeks and thank Gd it’s all temporary.

When I was in your situation I used to sit in a room that they could “be all over the place” in and read. Many interruptions, but I still read. I also used to cut out felt pieces for wall hangings and let them have pieces and scraps to hold and destroy. I learned to do these things with major interruptions and while nursing. If they feel they have your attention for a good solid chunk of time, you can always give them half attention for a bit of time afterward. Some kids involved more of my limbs than others so I adjusted. I often gave them a seat right near me and a piece of whatever I was doing and worked in short (or very short) spurts.

If you consider yourself babysitting when it’s your own children and they are making you “not able to do anything productive” then I would be happy to keep them for you 🙂 It takes a shift in perspective to realize that holding your kids is the productive part, and everything else is in the way. If you are able to make that shift, your life will be much easier, more pleasant and purposeful, and your kids won’t absorb your underlying feeling that they are, ch”v, in the way of your “real life”. It’s not always easy to come by but it is worth working on for your own well being as well as theirs.

I thought front load washers were cool to watch. I thought my dad was cool cuz he did so many cool things. He made a 6 foot hot air balloon that we used at the park and that was definitely cool. I also thought that it was so cool when the guy at carvel would turn my ice cream cone upside down into the sprinkles and it wouldn’t fall off.

Haifa- maybe she just realized it was Friday. Some of us aren’t so organized . . .

Mod – coooool!

TR – I appreciate your apology because, to be honest, I thought this thread was a joke and had no idea there were legitimate sofrim online. I had the exact same response as Zalman prepared and was very surprised to read subsequent posts stating that you and others have an online presence. Even still, I would be very surprised to find sofrim of your caliber actually posting and if I didn’t know your name as trustworthy (and my house is filled with your mezuzos) I would find that weird.

I know Rabbi Askotzky and can vouch for his kashrus 100%, but I don’t necessarily agree with his post (if that really was him). I think it is fair warning to tell someone not to buy tefillin online, and if you don’t have good reason to know that it is kosher (word of mouth, recommendations etc) than you have NO CLUE if anything you are seeing or reading is true. If you buy from his website it will be because you hear nothing but good things about him, not because it looks kosher.

you’re right squeak. Can you imagine if the FBI found it and considered it worth looking into?

Torah613 – I can so relate. Being bored almost sounds like a luxury at my stage in life. I was actually excited when I got the flu this year because I knew I had “permission” to sit in bed and do nothing. I didn’t get bored but I did feel bad for my husband.

**snicker**

ooo, thanks for the reminder. Torahanytime has some awesome shiurim online. So does Naaleh. That’s a great thing to do with your time.

It’s a nickname for Shana.

mdd – I hope you realize you just agreed with Joseph. That isn’t really going to help your position much.