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  • in reply to: Short Skirts #2009786
    ujm
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    To add to AviraDeArah and Philosopher’s points:

    Would you find it objectionable if women critiqued a behavior of certain groups of men who were acting incorrectly in public? Such as, say, if some men made a habit of walking barechested past your house everyday on their way to the pool. You wouldn’t object if a woman started a thread here (or a conversation on the lawn in the bungalow colony or at a shul kiddush or at a community gathering) complaining of such unkempt and improper behavior.

    How much moreso when severe halachos (discussed above in this thread) are being violated by the perpetrators themselves — as well as causing thousands of more innocent bystanders to unwillingly violate halachos themselves by even inadvertently seeing them. לִפְנֵי עִוֵּר

    Nor do I think you’d object if a woman complained about the men’s sports team being too wild or noisy in the neighborhood. Or a woman complaining about some Kollel guys loafing in the street rather than learning in the Beis Medrash.

    Furthermore, as everyone knows and surely often heard, rabbonim can and often do directly discuss this (and related) issue of women’s tznius from the pulpit. And at Shiurim, drashos and mussar schmoozes for men (as well as for women.) And the last I checked most Orthodox rabbonim, other than those affiliated with Avi Weiss, are men.

    Finally, and perhaps most importantly, Halacha itself (see the Gemora, Shulchan Aruch, Rambam, sh”ut, and the Seforim Hakedoshim throughout the ages) clearly and unambiguously state and stress that the obligation and imperative to enforcing and insuring compliance with Hilchos Tznius are the direct responsibility of every husband and father regarding their wives and daughters. He is halachicly required and deputized to insure its compliance.

    The previous points made by AviraDeArah and Philosopher are just as important and are in addition to what I just added.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009766
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    “Then they should have put out a kol korei that all nice shaitels from the last 20 years should be thrown out.”

    You should address your criticism of these Gedolei Poskim to them, rather than to the public.

    in reply to: No apology yet from Bennet on Uman Libel #2009739
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    Why would it be “chas v’shalom”? There’s nothing wrong likening one mitzvah to another mitzvah.

    in reply to: Short Skirts #2009697
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    Ironically, before marriage they excuse their behavior with that they need to dress like that for shidduchim. After marriage they excuse their behavior with that they need to dress like that for their husband.

    While in Bais Yaakov I don’t think you’ll find much of this problem. It often starts (among those with this problem) after graduation.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009660
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    “But the poskim who are assering now didn’t asser 10-15 years ago!!”

    Oh, yes, they did.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009594
    ujm
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    DY, do you imagine that the poskim you’re claiming would be mattir a shaitel where the length of the hair reach her ankles?

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009538
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    “Okay. That has nothing to do with whether lace shaitels are assur.”

    Sure it does. A person can be completely untzniusdik even if technically any single aspect of their attire isn’t a direct written violation. Same with lace. In addition to whatever other halachic objections there are, it’s also untzniusdik based on the presentation alone, even absent other written objections.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009518
    ujm
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    Philosopher, Yasher Koach. You’re able to express the point much better than myself.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009452
    ujm
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    “A married woman with the appearance of being bareheaded is just as inherently untznius as that other appearance.”

    A married woman actually going in public bareheaded is untznius, as I’m sure you’d agree. As such, the comparison is spot on, since her appearing as bareheaded is comparable to her appearing in that full body dress/suit.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009444
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    “Silly comparison, because that appearance is inherently untznius, whereas uncovered hair isn’t”

    A married woman with the appearance of being bareheaded is just as inherently untznius as that other appearance.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009445
    ujm
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    DY, why can you not name any contemporary (choshuve) poskim that specifically discuss lace, and are mattir?

    in reply to: No apology yet from Bennet on Uman Libel #2009438
    ujm
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    Zionists never apologize for their multitude of crimes against the Jewish people over the last 100 years.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009383
    ujm
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    Additionally, DY, you’re grossly misapplying Rav Moshe in a manner Rav Moshe never indicated, implied or said. Rav Moshe mattired a wig that looks like real hair or even is actually using real hair (as opposed to synthetic hair, which was what must sheitels used then.)

    But Rav Moshe in no shape, manner or form implied, indicated or stated that a wig that doesn’t look like the person is wearing any head covering, and rather appears bareheaded, is permissible. That is a completely different creation/metzius/product than the natural hair wig Rav Moshe ruled upon. The wigs he is referring to can be seen as a wig, not appearing as bareheaded, by the public.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009222
    ujm
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    Whoever’s contemporarily mattir lace wigs (who are thus far unnamed, for some reason), how would their logic to be mattir give them any room to assur a full body dress/suit that makes the wearer look naked (even though they’re actually covered)?

    Or would they actually be mattir??

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009080
    ujm
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    DY, lace wigs didn’t exist during Rav Moshe’s lifetime and, thus, he didn’t opine on them.

    in reply to: COVID Vaccine and Fertility #2008817
    ujm
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    “And the chance of being harmed by the vaccine is even smaller.”

    So what? If the original risk is almost “non-existent”, why take another risk — even if it is “smaller”?

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2008492
    ujm
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    DaasYochid: There’s an outstanding question for you from Philosopher.

    in reply to: Women Driving #2008488
    ujm
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    Everyone should respect other’s psakim and minhagim. Those that hold women can drive should respect those that hold women cannot. And those that hold women cannot drive should respect those that hold women can.

    Rav Vozner paskens that women should not drive:

    http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=1414&st=&pgnum=9&hilite=

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2008442
    ujm
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    Reb Eliezer, which demonstrates you’re not allowed to be near a married woman whose hair is uncovered. (Including a lace wig, which her real hair is publicly visible under the lace.)

    in reply to: COVID Vaccine and Fertility #2008292
    ujm
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    BT: The argument is the other vaccines underwent far far longer testing prior to approval. Including fertility testing.

    in reply to: Effectiveness of the Covid Vaccine #2008241
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    “Also because their cases are generally more mild.”

    That’s, essentially, the point. I’ve been specifically referring to severe cases, which the vaccine is designed to minimize. Mild cases occur often even with the vaccine.

    in reply to: Effectiveness of the Covid Vaccine #2008237
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    Yseribus: About 46% of Americans aren’t fully vaccinated. About 35% of Americans aren’t vaccinated at all. That’s well over a hundred million people. If they’re very likely to get severe Covid, you should have had 50,000,000 Americans hospitalized from Covid, using your 30% over 6 months figure. That isn’t even close to the case, even over time.

    in reply to: Bagels in Middletown NY? #2008187
    ujm
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    Middletown is Yehupitsville, in Jewish terms.

    There’s Gombos in South Fallsburg.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2008149
    ujm
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    He isn’t the first or only non-Orthodox to post here.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2008145
    ujm
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    And, still, no one has an answer to the issue that the woman’s real hair is publicly visible under the lace wig.

    in reply to: Effectiveness of the Covid Vaccine #2008136
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    Yseribus: “@ujm Right now? Pretty likely. Especially if they hadn’t had COVID in over a year and they are in a place with low vaccination rates and don’t socially distance.”

    If it was “pretty likely” that all unvaccinated healthy people will get a severe case of Covid, then all of America’s Emergency Rooms should today be overfilled at 25 times their capacities.

    Obviously it is not pretty likely that a random unvaccinated person will get a severe case of Covid.

    in reply to: Effectiveness of the Covid Vaccine #2007804
    ujm
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    What is the likelihood of an unvaccinated healthy person getting a severe case of Covid?

    in reply to: Effectiveness of the Covid Vaccine #2007763
    ujm
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    “Does it still lower the total risk?”

    For mild Covid, yes. For serious Covid there’s no evidence that it does (for recovered patients.)

    in reply to: Effectiveness of the Covid Vaccine #2007735
    ujm
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    “In Eretz Yisroel it’s common. If the evidence holds up for its benefit, it will become common here.”

    In the UK it’s common for recovered Covid patients to skip the vaccine. Because evidence demonstrates they don’t need it.

    in reply to: Effectiveness of the Covid Vaccine #2007695
    ujm
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    2scents: Any more prevalent than a vaccinated individual who became infected and isn’t doing well?

    in reply to: Effectiveness of the Covid Vaccine #2007663
    ujm
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    P.P.P.S. The Biden Administration politicized the vaccination program by pushing it stronger than acceptable. By forcing recovered Covid patients and forcing children (!!!) to get the vaccine.

    Even 12 year olds aren’t young enough for Biden. He’s pressuring the FDA to approve the vaccine for little kids, whose risk is minimal. (And the vaccine itself contains risks, especially for kids.)

    in reply to: Effectiveness of the Covid Vaccine #2007662
    ujm
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    P.S. I believe most people should get the vaccine. Since most people aren’t young and healthy or recovered from Covid.

    P.P.S. It is extremely rare for a recovered Covid patient to get a severe case of Covid. Having recovered from Covid is for all practical purposes virtually at least as good as having been vaccinated.

    in reply to: Effectiveness of the Covid Vaccine #2007659
    ujm
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    “Not uncommon to get it again”

    It’s not uncommon for vaccinated people to get Covid.

    “vaccines have been proven to further reduce illness in recovered Covid patients.”

    Booster shots have also been proven to further reduce illness in the vaccinated. Yet very few people got booster shots.

    in reply to: My head is spinning #2007652
    ujm
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    Mazal Tov on your upsherin.

    in reply to: Effectiveness of the Covid Vaccine #2007649
    ujm
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    “death is a common side effect, as well as serious mental and physical issues in some”

    Actually, it is very uncommon in unvaccinated young healthy people. It is also very uncommon in unvaccinated people who previously recovered from COVID-19.

    in reply to: Effectiveness of the Covid Vaccine #2007616
    ujm
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    The parallel question necessary when asking the titled question is what are the risks of taking the vaccine.

    The honest answer is that all the the risks aren’t yet known.

    in reply to: Where is the line between halacha and dinas dimalchusa #2007279
    ujm
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    Avi, the measly amounts the Israeli government gives is far far less than what they steal… er, collect in taxes from the frum community.

    And uch un vey for anyone to take a philandering drunkard like MLK as their role model.

    And your differentiation regarding breaking the (based on what “one considers” the law) has no basis in the halacha of dina dmalchusa. It is at best a boich svara and at worst much worse.

    in reply to: Hagbah Fails #2007288
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    The entire kehila needs to make a taanis if chas v’shalom such a thing happens. Anyone who was present at the time who physically cannot fast, should give a notable amount of Tzedaka instead.

    in reply to: Hagbah Fails #2007271
    ujm
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    I’ve seen the guy or bochor doing hagbah hit the ceiling (and leave a dent in it) or chandelier. But that’s about it.

    in reply to: Car Repair courses needed in Lakewood #2007270
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    Newer cars costs around $60 per oil change in NYC. And that’s for the standard oil.

    in reply to: Where is the line between halacha and dinas dimalchusa #2007269
    ujm
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    Mr. Weiss is no more relevant than any other Reform/OO/Conservative clergyman.

    in reply to: Shorts #2007181
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    L’havdil, President Bush would stand when speaking to his father, President Bush Sr.

    in reply to: Sleeping in the sukkah #2007158
    ujm
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    Avira, how are people in America today any more in danger than the Yidden were for the last 2500 years in Europe or in Bovel?

    Au contraire.

    What you’re suggesting is a get out of jail free card for anyone, anywhere, that can always completely abrogate the Halacha.

    in reply to: Sleeping in the sukkah #2007114
    ujm
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    Reb Eliezer, if the weather isn’t cold then bochorim (as well as married men who aren’t allowed to be with their wife) have no excuse, lchol hadeios, to not sleep in the Succah.

    in reply to: Sleeping in the sukkah #2006976
    ujm
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    Mods, any idea why this thread isn’t showing up on the recent threads list, on the main page of the coffee room?

    let me work on it…

    in reply to: Where is the line between halacha and dinas dimalchusa #2006836
    ujm
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    Meir: Dina Dmalchusa only applies to monetary obligations to the State/government. Not to other individuals. The latter follow Choshen Mishpat, as you said.

    in reply to: Where is the line between halacha and dinas dimalchusa #2006777
    ujm
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    The Ran in Nedarim paskens that dina dmalchusa is completely not applicable in Eretz Yisroel. For the very reason Avira mentioned. Since dina dmalchusa is only applicable in the first place since we need to repay the local king for his allowing us to live in his country, so we must pay his taxes, etc (dina dmalchusa). But every Jew has an automatic Torah right to live in Eretz Yisroel. It isn’t dependent on the local monarch’s permission or graciousness. Therefore, dina dmalchusa does not apply in Eretz Yisroel.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2006769
    ujm
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    No one has still addressed the real outright halachic issue that the lace is parted and the lace is not lined, therefore you can see the woman’s real hair beneath the lace wig. Therefore, this wig doesn’t fully cover the hair.

    How’s a lace wig different than going in public with uncovered hair?

    in reply to: Sleeping in the sukkah #2006767
    ujm
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    Is there any limud zchus for non-married guys who r’l don’t sleep in the Succah?

    Regarding married men, the discussion above got zapped. What’s the basis for the limud zchus and when is it applicable? What excuse is there for those it isn’t applicable for?

    in reply to: Where is the line between halacha and dinas dimalchusa #2006723
    ujm
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    aIY: I don’t have the mekor offhand, but the OP is correct that dina dmalchusa is generally only applicable in issues regarding monetary obligations issued by the government.

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