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pekak, amputation is a very valid medical solution to ailments. Yet, when your arm is ailing, you don’t start considering, thinking about or contemplating amputation. And even if and when amputation does become a necessary consideration, you try to consider every which possible way to avoid amputation.
Regarding your second comment, you are sadly mistaken. But it is a common error. In fact, in most cases children are better off living in a difficult parental home environment than in living in a broken home.
Hocker: How ’bout we retire them both to the and old age home?
So-called kosher is a more apt description.
All of the things and situations you mentioned, are evidence as to why divorce is to be avoided and refrained from to the greatest extent possible.
Did the old geezer stumble again while trying to remember his name?
Recess is at 11:00.
It depends on how you define frum. Is it enough for a daytrader to be wearing a yarmulka when betting on the market to be considered frum? Or are the requirements greater than that?
mdd: “Your sources to the contrary do not appear to be strong. And the Besht argued with the Arizal?!?!”
Menachem can throw back the same question upon you: You are arguing with the Abarbanel, with Seder Hadoros, with the Shomer Emunim, with the Migdal Oz, et al. (?!?!)
DaMoshe: What you’re describing are man bites dog situations; sure it exists – but they are rare exceptions to find such “extremely large quantities of alcohol being consumed.”
Stop pretending that every problem that ails the MO and secular communities “most also be the same in Lakewood”.
I second Shimon’s comment to SACT.
Never heard of this. Some new fad?
Does Chabad of Lakewood do kiruv?
Were you born yet??September 6, 2023 7:11 pm at 7:11 pm in reply to: Shidduchim Between Litvish Girls and Chasidish Boys #2223530
I know of a shidduch between a Ger young man and a Litvish young lady.
If you look at old medical journals from before the 1980s (starting when it became politically incorrect to note differences between ethnicities or races insofar as various maladies are concerned), you’ll find multiple scientific studies and references stating that Jews are known to have a very tiny rate of alcoholism.September 6, 2023 6:45 pm at 6:45 pm in reply to: Shidduchim Between Litvish Girls and Chasidish Boys #2223518
Fanatic: There’s nothing wrong with shaving, saying herr nur (or herr tzi) or with separate seating at home. In fact, all are beautiful Yiddishe minhagim, whether it is your minhag or not, and gidrei tznius. The Shulchan Aruch says that the more gedarim you have for tznius, the better.
So nothing is antisemitic. If it were, your faulting Ger would be no less antisemitic on your part.September 6, 2023 10:14 am at 10:14 am in reply to: Question of an ignorant, closed-minded Lubavitcher #2223376
It is time to rename Yeshiva World to Lubavitch World.
1: Basically referring to (you can use a different term if you’d like) 95+% of the Chasidish world that isn’t Chabad. Let’s be honest; the non-Chabad Chasidim are basically a different category than Lubavitchers. When people refer to “Chasidish” people, they are generally referring to the Chasidim who you are more likely to find in Williamsburg, Boro Park, New Square and Meah Shearim than in Crown Heights.
GHadorah: Also, the purpose a Chabad House and Shliach serves, would essentially be unnecessary in a heavily frum area.
Avira, are these frei Israelis that have a kosher kiddushin also getting kosher gittin?
Reform and Conservative married BTs generally are getting a new kidushin/chupah when becoming observant?
According to Rav Henkin, Reform and Conservative second marriages are creating masses of mamzeirim (due to a lack of kosher gittin from the first marriage)?
Is agreeing to keep a kosher kitchen and adhering to taharas mishpacha sufficient to permit a frum Yid to be married to a non-frum person? And is your answer the same you gave if the situation is where by a frum couple one spouse r”l suddenly stops being frum, whether they can continue to remain married?
CA: Which question are you answering? And why is your answer so unequivocal?
GHadorah: Mainstream Chasidim are all over Lakewood and still rapidly growing. And they are non-Litvish mosdos.
We certainly do not have the “same” problems are the outside world. The problems we have are different, the ones that have similarities are less prevalent and overall less severe. The exceptions are exceptions. And many of the problems of the outside world are almost non-existent in our communities.
CS, what occasion brings you to Lakewood?
CS, are you and/or your husband gezh?
Prices in Boro Park (speaking generally, not about anything specific) seem to be significantly less than in Lakewood.
His agenda is Torah. That’s an agenda certainly worth pushing and trusting.
“I’ve heard and seen enough of those type of shiurim in life to know that a secular Israeli could just as easily give a lecture”
smerel: So you should speak to the Rabbonim shlita giving these horrible shiurim and give them a piece of your mind, setting the record straight that they are dead wrong.
Leave them your number to consult with you before they make such future errors.
The Rosh Yeshiva ztvk’l almost singlehandedly kept the American Torah world out of any machlokes between Gedolim in Eretz Yisroel.
So it’s nothing more than the name brand…
Can an average person tell the difference if someone else is wearing a Trywhitt versus another quality shirt?
This is definitely a job for our very own in-house expert WolfishMusings. The Wolf is a major anav and will likely claim he’s not such an expert and/or he doesn’t do photography at events. But despite his great humility, and as a direct result of his absolute righteousness (something he’ll surely humbly deny), he most certainly will always be helpful to you and you can ask him to direct you in the right direction where to find a photographer shidduch for your simcha.
What makes Trywhitt shirts a higher quality than others?
Which brands are of equal quality as Trywhitt?August 22, 2023 8:40 pm at 8:40 pm in reply to: Shidduchim Between Litvish Girls and Chasidish Boys #2218610
ChabadShlucha: Shkoyach. (BTW, did you choose this thread intentionally relating to the current discussion here or you just needed somewhere to send me this pshat?)
The going rate in New York or the going rate in Milwaukee?
Ishpurim: To be very fair, JTS had much greater rebbeim than YU, such as Geonim Saul Lieberman. And is certainly on par and in the same category of Yeshiva like YU.
And as you pointed out, Hebrew National is a world recognized hechsher. So to be fair to RM, his comment that “YU is to yeshivas as Hebrew National is to Kashrus” is a fair statement. Both YU and Hebrew National are choshuv establishments.
hello99: Welcome back!! It’s been ages and ages…August 21, 2023 10:34 am at 10:34 am in reply to: Question of an ignorant, closed-minded Lubavitcher #2218072
qwerty: What is your response to what I posted on the previous page of what Rav Moshe Feinstein wrote against television?
Avira, Rav Akiva Eiger didn’t write a Haskala to it. I know what you’re referencing.August 20, 2023 7:57 pm at 7:57 pm in reply to: Question of an ignorant, closed-minded Lubavitcher #2217939
Please see my post #2217693 above (approximately 22 posts above this one, though it may be more by time this post is approved.) It was posted at 10:51 AM today, on this same page of this thread.
It addresses Rav Feinstein zt’l and his position on television.August 20, 2023 10:51 am at 10:51 am in reply to: Question of an ignorant, closed-minded Lubavitcher #2217693
qwerty: Does Rav Moshe Feinstein have enough Lower East Side credibility in your eyes?:
Torah Analysis of Television
1 Nisan 5735
See the Rambam z”l in Hilchos Avodah Zarah, Ch. 2, Halacha 2 who explains the prohibition to read books which have material relating to avodah zarah (idol worship) and also that it is prohibited to see the pictures in them, for the verse says “Do not turn to false gods,” even if are not turning to worship them, but just to see them (as we find in Toras Kohanim on Kedoshim). After this he writes as follows: “Regarding this it says ‘Lest you investigate their gods and ask how did the other nations serve [their gods]. You should not ask about the way they served, in which manner was it, even though you are not doing that service yourself. [Asking these questions] causes you to turn to [these activities] and to do like the did as it says [in the Torah] ‘I will also do as they did'”.
We can learn from [the words of the Rambam] to all types of sins. If a person begins to interest himself in them to know what they are, in the end he will be dragged after them and rebel against the Holy One Blessed is He, may G-d protect us.
And now what can we say regarding the impure monster called “television”? On it, the eye can see all the abominations in the world (idol worship, sexual perversion, murder, etc) with total explicit detail of the actions and the people committing them. Coupled with this there is intense propoganda and shocking motivation to live a life of debauchery and lawlessness and to throw off the yoke [of Heaven] Gd forbid. The Satan dances there, for it gives him a great power to draw people Gd forbid.
It is incredibly obvious that watching that impure device is a great danger to a person’s entire Judaism. Even a person who only watches occassionally has already cooled down his faith and his fear of Heaven G-d forbid. Someone who accustoms himself to watch it has emptied himself from any shred of faith or fear of Heaven and all the good inside of him. He has turned himself and destroyed his praises G-d forbid.
It is already well known in the world from experience that a person who puts his eyes on this impure device will turn into a evil person who throws off the yoke [of Heaven] G-d forbid. One who desires to guard his soul will distance himself from this, for in the end it will make him foul, for it is destruction.
Now we have heard that there are some people who strictly observe the laws of Torah and they themselves – as well as their older children – would never enjoy G-d forbid watching this impure device. However, they allow their young children to visit neighbors and to watch there (or they do not rebuke their children for going over to watch). They say “He is only a child, he is playing around. This device will not harm him.”
The truth is this is a grave mistake which could be considered willful [disobedience of G-d’s commands]. Really, it is the exact opposite. For children, the danger is doubled and redoubled. The desire to be curious and explore ([as the Torah says] “I will do like them”) is very powerful for children. (A child’s entire development and the way he lives his life is primarily based on this desire to do like other people do). When a child sees every kind of misdeed it is like “education” and “instruction” that he should also act this way. Additionally, a young person etches everything he sees clearly into his imagination (specifically what he sees when he is excited). These images will be etched into his memory for his entire life so that even if he merits to cling to the Torah in a place of Torah, nevertheless his soul and his Judaism will bear the bitterness of those abominable images which are engraved upon his memory just like life. This will cause him to be confused in his faith and bring shocking challenges upon him Gd forbid.
There is no doubt that there parents have a great requirement to supervise their children carefully so they should not have any contact or any glimpse of this impure device in order to save them from destruction.
In the merit of doing this, they will merit to see their children and their childrens children who learn Torah and keep the commandments. They will enjoy much nachas of holiness and in everything they turn to they will be successful for good and for blessing.
We wrote and sign for the sake of the Holy Torah and hope for mercy from Heaven and for the complete redemption soon in our days.
Rav Yaakov Yisroel Kanievsky (the Steipler)
Rav Elazar Menachem Man Shach
Rav Moshe Feinstein
Rav Yaakov Kamenetsky
March 13, 1975
smerel, yes, the sheva Mitzvos are all or nothing. If a goy keeps six but violates one, he is chayiv misa. In fact, he can’t be considered to keep the sheva mitzvos even if he happens to keep them unintentionally.August 19, 2023 11:42 pm at 11:42 pm in reply to: Question of an ignorant, closed-minded Lubavitcher #2217572
No Ben Torah watches TV.
This is a letter in 1940 from Rav Elchonon Wasserman. (The original handwritten letter in Hebrew on the Baranovitch yeshiva stationary is available.):
Baruch Hashem, Erev Shabbos Kodesh Naso
I received your letters but I have no ability to do anything with this, thus I did not respond.
The yeshivos in America which are able to bring over students are the yeshivas of Dr. Revel (named Yeshiva University) in New York and Beis Midrash L’Torah in Chicago, and they both are places of danger in terms of spirituality because they conduct themselves in a spirit of freedom. And what benefit is there to flee from a physical danger to a spiritual danger. But I sent your letter to the revered Gaon, Rabbi Moshe Heinman, Dean of Mesivtha Torah V’Daas in Brooklyn, and I suggested that he request of the revered Dean of the Mirrer Yeshiva that he should also write to Brooklyn to the address below:
Rabbi Shlomo Heiman
92 Martin Street
Blessing you with life and peace and all good things forever,
Elchanan Bunim WassermanAugust 17, 2023 5:23 pm at 5:23 pm in reply to: Question of an ignorant, closed-minded Lubavitcher #2217119
mdd, the Noam Elimelech, Rabbeinu Bachya, the Yerushalmi and the Zohar aren’t Chasidish.
qwerty, how old are you?
What I’ve found quite “enlightening” in this discussion is that several proponents of Modern Orthodoxy claim Moses Mendelssohn as their founding father. I haven’t heard this association previously. Especially considering that Mr. Mendelssohn is the father of the Haskala movement it seems rather shocking that at least some MO would still like to claim him as one of their own, as well.
Mr. Moses Mendelssohn’s children converted to Christianity.
Yaakov Doe: Based on your written description of yourself you could describe yourself as Chareidi, with all those attributes you ascribed yourself with. What, then, makes you MO and not Chareidi?
smerel: “none of them would say they ascribe to such a view”
Are you, therefore, declaring that Rav Aaron Kotler zt’l was wrong? The Conservative movement ascribes itself as a Halachicly observant movement that follows Halacha (unlike Reform, which admits that it eschews halacha.) Since the Conservatives do not ascribe themselves to a view of being Non-Halachic, do you therefore accept that the Conservative movement is Halachic?