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  • in reply to: Therapists”and Mesira #1981663
    ujm
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    “we lack the competence to assess the credibility of an accusation”

    TLIK: The Gedolei HaPoskim disagree with you. Rav Elyashiv paskened l’halacha, that accusations/allegations *cannot* be reported to any secular authorities — even by a “mandated reporter” — unless and until a *halachic assessment* on the particular case alleging abuse meets the level of Raglayim L’Davar (credible evidence — again, based upon halachic criteria of Raglayim L’Davar determined by a competent Posek.)

    OTOH, mandated reporters, in contravention to halacha, are mandated by secular law to report any allegations even if it lacks credibility. This is a direct conflict between Halacha and non-Jewish/secular laws. For Jews, halacha must take precedence.

    in reply to: Therapists”and Mesira #1981620
    ujm
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    Let’s not conflate accusations or allegations of abuse with actual abuse. While at times they coincide, at other times they do not.

    in reply to: Therapists”and Mesira #1981224
    ujm
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    TLIK: The mesira issue is live and viable and has not been put to rest. It is a serious concern and consideration in all cases.

    And mandated reporters are forbidden to report if it is mesira. And in some real cases it applies.

    (“mesora” was a spell-checker [inaccurate] correction. It obviously should have read mesira. And it isn’t I who sees mesira as evil; the RBS”O declared so in His halachos.))

    What I stated here and above is halachicly accurate and applicable.

    ujm
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    CatholicVIsitor: Quite an interesting perspective. May I ask how you’re seemingly well familiar with the Orthodox Jewish communities? Also, how do you personally practice the issue being discussed here?

    As far as the points you presented, I do think the the issues you highlighted as explaining why family sizes are continually dropping in mainstream society, namely contemporary society expecting women to go to college, make a living and be independent are essentially the same issue of women working outside the home. You’re just explaining the same thing in different words or examples and describing how women nowadays bring themselves towards that goal.

    What happened to simply being a good old fashioned housewife? Or to use modern terminology, a stay-at-home mom.

    ujm
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    Just to be clear, when women enter the workforce the calamitous declining fertility rate is only one of many social ills with negative effects on family life and on society in general. Let us certainly not forget the consequences to children who are born when their mothers are MIA from the home for large portions of the days.

    in reply to: Therapists”and Mesira #1980966
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    TLIK: Potential examples of mesora is reporting to, say, the police or to ACS (CPS). Lack of arrest does not make it not a mesora case, if the net result is the entity (police, CPS, etc.) will stick governmental power, even outside of detention or seizure of children, to make Jewish family lives miserable.

    Suspicion of a crime that lacks knowledge thereof, does not permit disregarding the halachos of mesira.

    At the very core, when the local non-Jewish laws mandate reporting (i.e. a mandated reporter) in insurances where the halachos of mesira are applicable and prohibit reporting, a Jew is bound by the halacha even though the secular law is otherwise.

    in reply to: Therapists”and Mesira #1980956
    ujm
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    Indeed their is an obligation to ask a Posek a shaila before reporting to a government entity. And the OP is correct that it isn’t always done. But true frum therapists do ask first. And follow the Psak issued.

    But, of course, it is vital before choosing a therapist to research through rabbomim if said therapist being considered asks shailos first. If not, one needs to find another therapist.

    If the halacha is that it is forbidden to report a person, any Jewish therapist cannot report even if the secular law is otherwise, as halacha takes precedence when it is in conflict with non-Jewish laws. And in these matters it is certain there are times and cases where Jewish law and local non-Jewish laws disagree.

    ujm
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    The Kaf HaChaim writes that one hour of learning before dawn is equal to many hours of learning during the day (1,24). Nonetheless, the Rambam indicates that it is preferable to stay up late and learn during the night (Deos 4,4). Other authorities support this view and encourage going to sleep after midnight (Arugas HaBosem 1).

    “It is better to sleep well at night than to cut back on sleep and be tired all day” (Taz, Even HaEzer 25,1).

    in reply to: Medicating vs Spanking #1980668
    ujm
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    All of the above.

    in reply to: The 5% Prime Minister #1980135
    ujm
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    Netanyahu torpedoed the last government because it was getting time for him to step down as PM and give the reigns to Gantz. And one thing Netanyahu cannot fathom is playing second fiddle.

    in reply to: Why do used car salesmen have a bad reputation? #1980102
    ujm
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    Car mechanics often have an even worse reputation.

    in reply to: Where have all the Yekkes gone? #1979764
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    Reb Eliezer: Debrecin is Chasidish? Didn’t think so.

    Participant: No mocking intended.

    in reply to: Where have all the Yekkes gone? #1979581
    ujm
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    The consensus seems to be that the Yekkes have become Litvaks (Yeshivish), and the few remaining are slowly but surely moving in that direction as well.

    Whereas the Oberlanders have more or less become Chasidish.

    That seems to indicate the Ashkenazic world is basically coalescing around the two big hashkafic kehilos: Yeshivish/Litvish and Chasidish.

    in reply to: Where have all the Yekkes gone? #1979580
    ujm
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    @Participant Thank you for participating in this thread and adding your two dollars (after inflation) worth.

    in reply to: Where have all the Yekkes gone? #1979333
    ujm
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    Here’s a blatantly plagiarized joke from almost a decade ago. Five points to whoever guesses who posted it (without cheating):

    You can tell everything by observing a kiddush.

    The people scarfing down herring and kichel are chassidish

    The people with a cup of vodka in each hand are Lubavitch

    The litvak is the one with cholent and kugel on his plate, but waiting for it to turn stone cold

    The ungarish oiberlanders are the ones who have their kugel on fancy plates.

    The unterlanders are licking the crumbs from the kichel off the table

    If there are any sephardim, which would be unusual, they are the ones being served by their wives and/or children

    The yekkes are the ones who are sitting at the table with one cookie

    in reply to: Where have all the Yekkes gone? #1979061
    ujm
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    Yseribus: That explanation doesn’t make sense. All mesoras or kehilos transmits through the sons. Daughters always follow their husband. That isn’t unique to Yekkes. Furthermore, if the sons would continue the mesora, then the population following these sets of minhagim would continue to grow as each son has, on average, multiple sons of their own. Obviously that isn’t happening.

    in reply to: The 5% Prime Minister #1979053
    ujm
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    The problem is the Likud refuses to put up another member other than Netanyahu as their PM candidate. If they’d do so right now, you’d have a right wing government led by Likud.

    in reply to: Where have all the Yekkes gone? #1978967
    ujm
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    Lostspark: German Jews (and their descendants.) But, as squeak would add, not all German Jews.
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    Which raises the question, for those Yekkes who stopped giving their Bar Mitzvah bochorim a Talis, have they also started waiting six hours, instead of three hours, between fleishigs and milichigs?

    in reply to: Where have all the Yekkes gone? #1978959
    ujm
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    For our newly identified Yekkes here, as well as those who proudly wear the label on their sleeve, is their any truth to smerel’s above contention that today’s generation of Yekke parents only donned the Talis as a bochor out of respect for their father’s (rather than from their own volition), but they don’t enrobe their own Bar Mitzvah bochor’lech with a Talis?

    in reply to: Where have all the Yekkes gone? #1978953
    ujm
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    Suddenly all the Yekkes are coming out of the woodwork.

    in reply to: ben shapiro #1978948
    ujm
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    The seforimblog isn’t reliable.

    in reply to: Where have all the Yekkes gone? #1978913
    ujm
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    Et tu, squeak?

    in reply to: stuff that don’t have a place #1978911
    ujm
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    Is there a cure to hoarding? Has it been proven effective for most hoarders?

    in reply to: Where have all the Yekkes gone? #1978825
    ujm
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    smerel: Since when does a bochor get to pick and choose which minhagim to follow or discard?

    Although, what you’re saying might also apply to the Oberlanders. They, too, there seems to be much less of over the last 20-30 years.

    in reply to: Where have all the Yekkes gone? #1978792
    ujm
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    LF: That reminds me of Feivel’s old joke: A Chosid and a Yekke were getting married. The Chupa started exactly 15 minutes late.

    in reply to: We don’t trust the people around you #1978720
    ujm
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    Every Jew a .22. Take your concealed weapon with you to Yeshiva.

    Kahana Chai

    in reply to: Halachah of sharpening pencils. #1978507
    ujm
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    The halacha is that you cannot sharpen them if they’re not yours — unless you have permission.

    If they’re your pencils, the halacha is you may sharpen them any of the six first days of the week. Unless the day is a Yom Tov.

    in reply to: Yiddish Language Control Board #1978435
    ujm
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    Yiddish is Yidden’s common tongue. As such, the only “control board” that exists are the hundreds of thousands Yiddish speakers. As they use the language, it makes it a living language.

    in reply to: Yiddish Language Control Board #1978434
    ujm
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    Yiddish is Yidden’s common tongue. As such, the only “control board” that exists are the hundreds of thousands Yiddish speakers. As they use the language, it makes it a living language.

    in reply to: Kid names #1978071
    ujm
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    Kalman Zechariah Eibish.

    in reply to: President Biden the new Regan #1978069
    ujm
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    President Ronald Reagan was the greatest American president since President Teddy Roosevelt. No one has come close since.

    Joe Biden is the new Jimmy Carter.

    in reply to: Constitutional Rights? #1977672
    ujm
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    It isn’t the Torah view.

    in reply to: Favorite Dips #1977673
    ujm
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    Fish juice, fish juice and fish juice. (Or, as some call it, fish sauce.)

    in reply to: Israel is the safest country for Jews #1977642
    ujm
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    Gershom Scholem is not a credible source.

    in reply to: Why Are We Complicit In Violence Against Jews? #1977641
    ujm
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    All of the AP’s competitors are as bad as they.

    in reply to: ECAP #1977640
    ujm
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    How was the environment unsuitable for Bnei Torah?

    ujm
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    And let’s not forget part one of this tragedy. Namely, mother’s abandoning a large portion of motherhood for the sake of a “career” outside the home. Leaving the innocent children home with who-knows-which cleaning lady babysitting and, effectively, bringing up her children for a large portion of their childhood, with the mother MIA from the home for a large part of the week.

    in reply to: an unremarkable and unknown person from England died #1977608
    ujm
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    So sad that William was vaccinated.

    in reply to: Chinese Lab Origination of Wuhan Coronavirus #1977530
    ujm
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    With President Trump proven correct, yet again on another issue the leftists mocked him for, or certainly now proven incorrect that those denying the origination of the Wuhan Coronavirus was from a Chinese lab, will the media and their leftist politician supporters apologize? Don’t count on them doing the right thing.

    ujm
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    To those responding in denial that this issue hasn’t grievously affected the frum communities, simply look at the prewar size of our own families. Whether you shtam from Litvish stock in Lithuania or Russia or whether you shtam from Chasidic stock from Hungary or Poland or whether your yichus is from the rich Sefardish cultures in Syria and Morocco, in the lifetimes of our grandparents or great-grandparents having 10-12 children in a family was the norm.

    in reply to: COVID food boxes in Brooklyn #1977081
    ujm
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    At Masbia.

    ujm
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    Yseribus: Where does Shas and Rishonim ever mention practicing birth control in a favorable sense?

    ujm
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    That’s a misnomer. Families have babies because the Bore Olam gave them babies; and they didn’t reject what offered. Having less babies by rejecting nature as offered to you by the RBS”O is a relatively new phenomenon that was in previous generations never even a consideration.

    ujm
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    A woman’s place is in the home. The feminists certainly don’t like hearing that truth spoken. But it absolutely is a Torah and Halachic truth that is a very central fact of human nature and society itself.

    Shulchan Aruch (73:1): A man must give his wife clothing like women normally wear outside. A woman should not go outside much. The beauty of a woman is to stay inside – “Kol Kevudah…”

    ujm
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    Amil: I would suggest you’re greatly mistaken. We have influence over social policy (via our electeds, etc.) that affects this issue as much as other citizens. This is a societal issue.

    ujm
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    Yaakov: Good catch; but a perfect freudian slip for this conversation.

    ujm
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    n0mesorah: Seriously, you think that social influences over the last half century have no bearing on the unfortunately rapidly declining fertility rate?

    ujm
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    akuperma: Furthermore, the tremendous gains in longevity, health, medicine and education as well as the technological improvements resulting in less work in the home in no way whatsoever mandate or somehow require people to choose to reduce their fertility rate.

    Indeed, the very factors you cite make it all the more possible to have the naturally higher rate of fertility designed and graciously offered by the Ribono Shel Olam. It should not be rejected.

    ujm
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    huju: It took me about 10 or 15 minutes to write this. It’s an unpaid, unhelped, original; if you like it I’m available for future articles on contemporary societal issues.

    ujm
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    akuperma: You don’t recognize the significant problems resulting from an aging population where the demographic population of the old are rapidly reaching the tipping point of outnumbering the young?

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