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  • in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2014529
    eishis chayil
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    this discussion about the kiosk is not the point of my conversation. all i want is help and opinions about disciplining and raising my family. who cares if some random unknown poster dislikes my comments and calls me a troll. anyone can call anyone a troll. yes i agree with just myself that i do use somtimes quisquam kiosk but thats not always, i sometimes use an other one too.

    I  think you have both given us enough reason to believe this is a joke. The problem is that this topic isn’t funny. Find yourself a new persona. Thread closed.

    in reply to: Was the 2020 election stolen? #2014282
    eishis chayil
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    absolutely no. biden won fair and square

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2014099
    eishis chayil
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    i dont understand. i ask here for help with discipline and help going out of my childhood scars and trauma and my discipline and problems and all i get is harassments from some unknown posters. so what if i use the same kiosk as her, there are hundreds of people using this kiosk. though she claims she knows me i have no idea who she is and i dont know why you believe her fake lies about me torturing my kids more than me myself that says that i dont torture them.

    JUST MYSELF. i think its time for you to stop lying here and trying to make people think that i am bad and ruining shiduchim for my daughter

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2013264
    eishis chayil
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    JUST MYSELF: > i remember it well, i remember how you suffered. i remember well how your mother belted you in the school yard during recess time

    what else do you know about me? i am just wandering if you really remember or you just somehow heard it from me or someone ever

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2013263
    eishis chayil
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    JUST MYSELF: >

    I have no idea who you are and i dont care, but excuse me and please mix out of my discipline, my kids have no fear and i am not like my mother, though i am strict and do have issues discipline and lose control often. i am still not a monster like you called me. stressed out or losing control and going wild and doing things you would not do does not make me a monster, also that is the reason i am here. i am open to listen for help and want to hear when to punish and for what and how to punish, and for each age etc.
    if you know me go ahead and tell me how to discipline for what and for who etc.

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2013071
    eishis chayil
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    MOD. – 29: >
    ALWAYS ASK QUESTIONS: >
    If you are not trolling, please get yourself help.

    ok, Mod-29 may be right, I give up…If it is not a troll, Rav Dr Twerski recommends Nefesh Organization 201-384-0084 to find a frum psychologists who can help look at the issues without personal bias

    i am not looking for organizations. yes i was raised with severe punishments and i do have some after shocks or scars from it and have some minor issues. i am also a bit unstable when it comes to punishments etc. all an outcome from the way my mother raised and disciplined me. (and by the way i have weak feelings and was extremely hurt by that that i was called a troll, etc. and just pouring salt on my wounds instead of bandaging it) thats why i am here in coffee room, to hear peoples advice and get some ideas and help on how, when and for what to give which punishments etc. according to age etc.

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2012838
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    anyone else??

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2011795
    eishis chayil
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    always ask questions: > could you do a count in your head for the last 24 hours: how many times you interacted positively and negatively with kids?

    If you are trolling, move along elsewhere, these posts are not funny. If you are not trolling, please get yourself help. – 29

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2011789
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    always ask questions: i understand the rambam. but i think here specifically its not applicable

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2011698
    eishis chayil
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    these magazines contradict each other the whole time. and no spoiled brats is not a good think, i rather have good disciplined kids like how ES PAHST FAHR BNOS YISROEL

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2011679
    eishis chayil
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    always ask questions: it doesnt make sense to suddenly from being a {control freak dictating monster and} controling mother to a helpless mother who will just be mafkir her kids, no way will i stop being mechanech my kids with the torah way of reward and punishment. if the only time for punishment is when they run in front of a zooming truck which will kill them and even then just a nicely friendly talk, they will just grow up hefker kids etc.

    ignoring trouble and not even yell just a simple talk for danger of danger, running to a zooming truck, is just liberal discipline and against the torah way in general an chasiddish way in particular

    just to understand: i dont sit the entire day punishing, i only do it when i have no other choice

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2011375
    eishis chayil
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    Always_Ask_Questions > Rambam writen in Deos that one should bend the other way trying to fix a middah. When you are affected by a bad middah, it is natural to you to try just to “decrease’ it without fully feeling the wrong of this approach. As you are already aware of the problems you had, it is imperative to you to err the other way towards chesed.

    i am not getting what you are trying to say, is it that i should not even think of punishing my child if they ran in front of a zooming truck chas veshalom? if i would do that when i was young my mother would show me what i deserve, and believe me boy would she show me. so do i have to in this case too do the exact opposite and not even tell my kid what they did is bad?

    just to correct your words, i dont think i was affected in any way by the way i was treated, i am 100% healthy and normal like anyone else. okay so i had a bit hard times growing up, thats all

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2011199
    eishis chayil
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    AviraDeArah: > We’ve been down this road before from the same poster, who unfortunately seems to have a preoccupation with this subject. I wish her the best

    well, i am ashamed though. i feel like i am not doing the best as a mother, i dont see my kids behaving and i am trying to help myself but no one seemed to be as helpful. i meant to ask here in this post what will be the best way for me to discipline when needed by a specific punishment for certain crimes and by age. i was raised in a way no one wants to be raised. and i will never raise my kids that way either. i am not against petch, but i am against my mothers petch and discipline

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2010985
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    what will be the best way for me to discipline when needed by a specific punishment for certain crimes and by age

    in reply to: shiduchim #1994685
    eishis chayil
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    GOTAGOODPOINT: > אשת חייל – Sure!
    (BTW, do you have anything to lose by telling?)
    I MEAN I CAN TRY TO TELL YOU IF YOU WISH, BUT I DOUBT YWN WILL PUT IT ON. THOUGH I THINK IT MAKES NO DIFFERENCE IF YOU KNOW MY PRIVATE LIFE

    in reply to: shiduchim #1993118
    eishis chayil
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    GOTAGOODPOINT: do you think it will make a difference for you if i tell you?

    in reply to: shiduchim #1989288
    eishis chayil
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    okay whatever, do you think i should stay to some type of community or group? like belz, ger, vizhnitz, etc, or pick any that comes up?

    in reply to: shiduchim #1989255
    eishis chayil
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    COMMON SAYCHEL: > Lets see, he is tall, thin, cute smile learns in Israel, wears glasses, has siblings in BP Lakewood and Monsey, I hope it narrowed it down,

    oh, so what does this help me?

    in reply to: Favorite sefirah song #1988791
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    none, no such thing as favorite sefirah song. there is a reason why its permitted in the 3 weeks, because it makes you sad and miserable.

    in reply to: growing up #1988790
    eishis chayil
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    ALL POSTERS: i really meant it as in childhood memories remembering and sharing stories from your parent’s discipline and punishments growing up in their home

    I don’t know if you are trolling or sincere but I  believe it’s time to move on from this topic.

    in reply to: shiduchim #1988683
    eishis chayil
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    COMMON SAYCHEL: > she sound perfect for my nephew, he has yichis, looks, money, speaks a fluent yidddish. lets do it

    do you think i know who he is?? how in the world can i know which of the boys he was redt is your nephew? is he willing to sign? ready for everything else?

    in reply to: shiduchim #1988672
    eishis chayil
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    RATIONAL: > I am far from this hashkafah, but I must ask eishis chayil: If you use shadchanim exclusively in your chassidishe environment, what did you think the Coffee Room could possibly offer you?

    a shadchan is to help me find her bashert one. i am here to listen abd get advice about what type to choose etc.

    in reply to: shiduchim #1988532
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    GEDOLHA DORAH: > You have a rare baas yisroel with a good parnassah on her own and also holds strictly by halacha and a “super” chassidish hashkafah and everyone (including her mom) seems to assume she won’t find her own chosson? Leave her alone and don’t make her crazy with shadchonim.

    do you think that in such a super chasidish strict family and crowd girls find shiduchim on their own?? we use shadchanim

    in reply to: shiduchim #1988531
    eishis chayil
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    PARTICIPANT: > just a piece of advice: if you want your daughter to get married, don’t ask anyone to sign on terms and conditions.

    well, i have news for you, my husband married me with worse demands and terms and conditions to sign, and he signed. we are still married, happily married

    in reply to: Funny Shidduch Stories #1987898
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    boy was on the bus from his yeshiva in jerusalem to bnei brak to meet a girl in her parents house. on the bus ride he felt sick and through up and his pants got dirty. he needed a change of cloth or else the girl will not even meet him
    he borrowed a cell phone, and called his parents who lived in bnei brak to wait him outside with a new pair of pants
    as soon as he gets there he takes the bag and goes in, apologizes, asks if he could please be shown the bathroom because he had a long trip.
    takes the bag in to the bathroom and doesnt know what to do with his old pants, he decides he has no choice and opens the bathroom window and throughs it out,
    he opens the bag he got from his mother and sees his mother had mistaken, he sees in the bag…..A SKIRT…..

    i think he is still in the bathroom red faced till now

    in reply to: ger rebbi vs. r’ shaul alter #1987886
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    UJM: with what and how are they on the same page??

    in reply to: shiduchim #1987884
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    PARTICIPANT: do you realy think i will set up a beshow with an unknown poster, do you match her qualifications? do you agree with her terms and conditions? is yiddish your first language with both parents? etc.? etc.? etc. etc…………………

    UJM: > What other “decisions” has she made?

    what did you mean by this??

    in reply to: ger rebbi vs. r’ shaul alter #1987883
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    UJM: > There’s no versus. They’re on the same page.

    obviously, they are both tzadikim. i meant, the kehilla of reb shaul vs. the real gerrer chasidus. etc.

    in reply to: shiduchim #1987807
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    i am not here to say all her private info. but her income is more than anyone her age, and wants a true ben torah, and will not compromise on any of her decisions

    in reply to: shiduchim #1987792
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    she doesnt just find boys out there, thats not our way we hear from a shadchan and decide if we should meet them or not, depending on agreements

    in reply to: shiduchim #1987248
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    PARTICIPANT: have i hurt you? is there a problem with looking for a shiduch for my girl? what are you trying to hint me? i dont understand

    in reply to: Favorite Dips #1987234
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    my favorite is schug from golden taste, hot enough hummus, extremely spicy tomato dip, jalapeno dip, these are all my sisters favorite too, my husband loves olive dip and home made tomato dip, my girls love all the spicy dips like me and some of them will not mind olive dip or my home made tomato dip like my husband.
    who can share here some good recipes of home made dips, i am looking for some good recipes please

    in reply to: shiduchim #1987193
    eishis chayil
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    THE FRUMGUY: > Despite your efforts, the moderators won’t allow any personal contact between posters.
    Hatzlacha anyway.

    can you explain what you mean? have i tried any personal contact with a poster? tell me. mayby i did notice something.

    in reply to: shiduchim #1987194
    eishis chayil
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    UJM: > Stick to a family strictly adhering to all proper practices.

    what type of family are you prefering too? to any specific community?? a specific chasidus? or just someone who their methods and practices meet mine?

    in reply to: shiduchim #1987156
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    extremely super chasidish, girl. has a beautiful income

    my real question is, my daughter was raised in very strict backgrounds in school and even more severe strict at home, can explain if you wish, so is it better to get a boy from a open not so strict family or rather a boy from the same type of harsh strict up bringing

    in reply to: Medicating vs Spanking #1986791
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    so you are trying to convince me that what i do is wrong

    in reply to: Medicating vs Spanking #1985725
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    our rav will not hit his kids, he will just yell at them or punish etc. i am not just an anonymous poster. i am a poster just like you and everyone else. i was mistreated, correct, but i will never do it to my kids, i do believe in potching but only regular petch and not for small crimes and not done with happiness, only done with a broken heart

    in reply to: Medicating vs Spanking #1985466
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    seriously?? specific?? do you think that any rebbi, rosh yeshiva etc. will slap his kid in front of the entire shul so everyone can see and let you know?? i know for a fact that my rav is an extremist when it comes to chinuch, he raises his kids with yiras shamayim and obviously with petch when neccesary. i hear from my husband how the rav will yell in shul on his kids or punish them. he suggests parents to potch when neccesary, he is a chasidic rav in a certain kehilla.

    i think your comment is not so derech eretz toward rabbanim and talmidei chachamim.

    also a parent has a right in disciplining her kids without consulting her rav etc. taking in consideration that its just normal discipline which 99.99 percent of parents do, a potch can be normal discipline if not done cruelly like my mother who would give me gezunte petch as a teenager for the smallest thing. i had no therapy and had to torture myself and fight for my life to grow up normal and self confident as i am. i had a miracle that i am normal.

    anyway, just whatever you do to your kids make sure that its really out of love and care and chas veshalom punish with happiness. i always show my kids my face as sad and half crying that i have no choice and potch them, they see how i hate to do it and know its just out of love and i have no choice and give them that potch so they behave. REMEMBER: NEVER EVER GIVE GEZUNTE PETCH EVEN IF YOU SHOW THEM HOW YOU CRY AND HATE TO HIT THEM, I SUFFERED MISSERABLY FROM MY MOTHERS GEZUNTE PETCH

    in reply to: Medicating vs Spanking #1985271
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    yes johnklets. i agree with you. petch is the way to raise kids if done normally

    in reply to: To Potch or Not to Potch #1985260
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    the gemara says about a father that kills his son from petch……
    its the yidishe mesorah…. petch is a good thing for kids

    in reply to: Can use some help in deciding what to call my sefer #1984770
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    a name? oh, name it after your great grand father, thats a nice name. LOL

    in reply to: Medicating vs Spanking #1984767
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    opinion still stays opinion. i see what people write here, but i still did not read here something that will really make me change my strict way of discipline, or lower my amount of petch and punishments, no one here proved anything or mentioned anything with the way i take care of my kids. and no matter what people will say, i still think i am right with how i deal with things at home, and now in the summer when my kids go off t camps i fell much less stress at home, after all, my teenage kids are missing and all the behavior is now on their camps staff tp take care of

    in reply to: Medicating vs Spanking #1984701
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    why are people telling others what to do and how to discipline and be mechanech their children. every mamme and tatte may use whichever method they wish, including petch and soap. i think i can say for certain and positive that most mammes will give petch and soap for misbehaving. it is okay, there is nothing wrong with it. lets see here how many mothers hit their kids or will use soap, all mothers who hit r soap please speak up and share your voice and opinion, or husbands speak up for your wives.

    in reply to: Medicating vs Spanking #1981615
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    why consider? dont you see that these are more effective?

    in reply to: Medicating vs Spanking #1980775
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    so one second, do you have so much soap in your house?

    i hope your kids really hate the taste of the soap so they dont get it often.

    just curious, do you use liquid soap, dish soap or do you make them lick and scrape with the teeth bar soaps??

    in reply to: Medicating vs Spanking #1980518
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    coffee addict, ujm,

    only for nivvul peh??

    how about lying?? answering back?? chutzpah??

    in reply to: Corporal punishment must remain an option for teachers #1980502
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    rr44, you sound just like my mother, she was a witch and would follow that mechanechs words, i was terribly beaten as a kid, i am now 40 with 10 kids and i treat them like kinderlech and not like i was treated

    in reply to: To Potch or Not to Potch #1980493
    eishis chayil
    Participant

    i am not sure where i exactly i saw it here on this thread……

    but trust me, believe me, i know what it means, no one wants a spouse who disciplines her/him. i can explain if its needed

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