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WolfishMusings, WOAH, why are you so defensive.
I am not being defensive. If I were defensive, I would have said something along the lines of “We have milchig meals and if you’re going to say that it’s forbidden, my reasoning for doing so anyway is X, Y and Z.” Defensive implies a defense. I made no such defense.
My response was along the lines of “We eat milchigs on Shavuous (and other Yomim Tovim) and if you think it’s assur, too bad.” That is not a statement of defense. It’s a statement of indifference.
The Wolf
Is there not a proscription against being friends with an akum? Is a ger’s blood relatives excluded from that?
Considering that Rav Leff says that a ger is permitted to engage in yichud and touch his/her close relatives, it is also understood that s/he can remain in social contact with them.
what happens if a parent has a child who converts…therefore he is now considered “parentless”
In a certain halachic sense, yes. Hence the rule that a ger is “as a newborn child.”
then later on, the parents convert…are they now deemed parent and child again?
To the best of my knowledge, no.
The Wolf
If your test review materials are on PDF, they can be imported to the Ipad via Itunes or Dropbox. There’s an excellent PDF app called “Goodreader” that I use all the time to read PDFs on my Ipad.
The Wolf
I guess since I hold the door open for men and women, I’m going to hell twice over, since I’m surely violating some halacha or other.
The Wolf
Are you sure you are on the correct thread? You presented no question to me.
Usually, when one rebuts your argument, you either counter or retract. I rebutted your statement with a statement from R. Leff saying that it is permitted. You did not counter nor admit that you were wrong.
What, pray tell, did you read into that?
A lack of respect. I would never call a Rav you respect “that Rabbi.”
The Wolf
Pac-Man,
Your lack of response here is noted.
The Wolf
You aren’t living up to your name.
There are lots of things that I’m not living up to.
The Wolf
No, it does not.
The Wolf
Me: I have enough problems with my own religion. I don’t need to go borrowing your religion’s problems too.
The Wolf
Sorry… I don’t particularly like cheese cake and don’t really eat it on Shavuos (or any other day).
Yeah, I know that me the moral equivalent of Haman in some people’s eyes. 🙁
The Wolf
Here’s a silly question…
When YWN asserts it’s rights to monetize anything we write on this site, is it asserting *exclusive* rights, or just the right to use?
For example, if I post something here, if YWN has an exclusive right, then I cannot later post it to my blog (without permission, of course). If the right is not exclusive, then YWN can use it as they see fit, but I, too, can monetize it (and I still keep the copyright as well).
YW-Editor, can you please step in an answer this question? I think this is an important question that needs to be answered if people are going to contribute to this site.
Mods, if you would bring it to the Editor’s attention, I would be grateful.
Thanks,
The Wolf
The Wolf
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Thank you all for the kind thoughts, but, trust me, you don’t want to meet me in person.
The Wolf
We have some milchig meals and some fleishig meals.
I have no doubt that someone will come along and start yelling “ain simcha ele b’basar v’yayin” or the like and feel the need to tell me that I’m doing something wrong… but I really don’t care.
Guess what? We sometimes have milchig/pareve meals on other Yomim Tovim too.
The Wolf
Absolutely.
It shouldn’t be that way, but it is. It’s very easy to tell from my posts when I’m not doing well.
The Wolf
this Rabbi
Interesting choice of words to use…
The Wolf
Does this Rabbi maintain that position if the parents are non-Jewish or only if they converted?
The question was:
“How, exactly, does one relate to his non-Jewish family after conversion?”
Furthermore, R. Leff says in his answer that they would be allowed to have physical contact as if they were Jewish relatives. Obviously, that indicates that the relatives are still non-Jews.
The Wolf
PAC- from what you are saying it would sound like he cannot act towards his mother as a mother but she becomes a strange women to him like anyone else. she cannot sing in front of him….they cannot touch…is that true?
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No way around it. (Unless he marries her.)
Rabbi Zef Leff disagrees with you. In the audio link below, he states that because they are still physically related, a convert is allowed to engage in yichud with his parents/grandparents/children and is allowed to touch them (including hugging and kissing).
[audio src="http://www.rabbileff.net/shiurim/answers/1250-1499/1372.mp3" /]
The Wolf
M’ikur hadin he can even marry his “mother”.
By the same token, m’ikur hadin you can have your chicken with milk.
The Wolf
*this is a joke, for those with no sense of humor*
Understood.
My point was a reference to another poster who took me to task (calling me “a shvitzer” for some reason that I cannot fathom) for “portraying myself as a tzaddik” in another thread when I actually did no such thing. So, I figured, since here I actually admit that I did something good (one of the few times in my life), I will surely be taken to task by that same person.
The Wolf
FWIW, I had a similar issue at a Build-A-Bear store a few years ago with my daughter where I made sure to pay for an item that the cashier missed*. I used it as an object lesson.
The Wolf
(* Yeah, I know, there will be people saying that this post is simply “the shvitzer” using the opporunity to “portray himself as a tzaddik” again. Too bad.)
Here is a list of famous people who have had stuttering disorders in their lives.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_stutterers
While I can’t vouch for the entire list, I’d be willing to bet that a good portion of them went on to find spouses and have good, happy marriages (and careers).
The Wolf
In business, honesty is always the best policy.
The Wolf
How do we know which Gedolim have the most accurate interpretation of the 613 Mitzvos, most favored by G-d. Which does G-d prefer?
That’s when you get into a discussion of “Eilu V’Eilu.”
The Wolf
I find it interesting to note that a husband is allowed to annul his wife’s vow of nezirus on the grounds that he doesn’t want a bald wife.
If HKBH takes such a view that he’ll allow a husband to overrule a wife’s neder (which is otherwise an issur d’oreisah) with regard to such matters, surely He’ll overlook it if the OP doesn’t want to shave her head because it will cause shalom bayis problems in her home.
The Wolf
I also found Jastrow to be more helpful, at the start. Then I noticed, as others had warned, he throws in his poison subtly in many instances, which can really be detrimental to one seeking Dvar HaShem.
Can you give an example or two of a translation in the Jastrow dictionary that is mistranslated or “slanted” in such a way to be considered “poison” that is “detrimental to one seeking D’var HaShem?”
The Wolf
“…more and more of our imports are coming from overseas.”
-George W. Bush
Considering the fact that you CAN have imports from Canada and Mexico (which are not “overseas,” this is not as stupid as you might otherwise think.
“Better make it six, I can’t eat eight.”
The same quote is often attributed to Yogi Berra. Sometimes I wonder if Berra really said even half the things that are attributed to him.
The Wolf
One of my favorites is by Groucho Marx:
“Outside of a dog, a book is a man’s best friend. Inside a dog, it’s too dark to read.”
The Wolf
BTW, people who really are being sarcastic or mean to be funny (in their opinion), shouls use the 😉 symbol after what they write, to show it is meant in fun.
I didn’t use a smiley, but I did immediately follow it up with a sentence indicating that I wasn’t being serious.
The Wolf
why does em mean italics
It doesn’t. I believe it stands for “emphasis.”
The Wolf
And if it WAS eaten?
Then you have to rush down to the hospital and have surgeons remove it from your stomach.
OK, no… I’m not serious. Don’t do that. If you did it, then so what? If it was an accident, then you are at worst a shogeg and probably an oneis. If you did it purposely, then you need to do teshuva. That’s all.
BTW, how do you italicise?
Use the “em” tag.
For example:
< em > Your italicized text < /em >
Just remove the spaces in the brackets and the text will be italicized.
The Wolf
would you rather your son-in-law sit in kollel all his life and struggle to make ends meet or a boy who went to harvard and will (key word)IYH! make a good living support his wife, your daughter and be a baal chesed and have regular sedorim?
I would rather my son-in-law do what’s right for him and my daughter. He will have to decide, with his wife, based on his abilities, temperament and the way they want to live their lives what the right choice is for them.
The Wolf
Find me a woman that likes any of the above, and I’ll show you woman who can drink like a guy.
My wife likes cholent, and she doesn’t drink. Then again, from that list, I only like cholent too and I don’t really drink either.
The Wolf
Well I can tell you that you sound like a great husband and your wife is lucky to have you!
Thank you for the kind words.
I think some posters here will disagree with you, based on my religious views.
The Wolf
I don’t think WM or PBA answered the OP’s question. If your son-in-law asked your advice should he attend Brisk or Harvard, what would you advise him?
Why should I advise him based on what *I* want? I should advise him to do what is right for him and his family, whether it be Brisk or Harvard or anywhere else. What *I* want and what *I* would prefer is really irrelevant.
The Wolf
Well, I’d rather have the one my daughter wanted, even if it is the rotten person from Harvard.
True enough.
The Wolf
It is assur to own a dog. If you see a jew with a dog, you can’t eat at their house or drink their wine, or give them an aliya, or bury them in a jewish cemetery.
You have to bury them in a dog cemetery.
Is that a permanent p’sul, or does it disappear if you no longer own a dog?
Also, what if you are a dog? A wolf is more or less just an undomesticated dog anyway…
And what about someone who owns a hamster?
The Wolf
not have to shave it every month like a Nazir
Minor nitpick — a Nazir/Nezirah only has to shave every month if they make a vow of multiple terms of Nezirus each for a month. If not, they have to let their hair grow until the end of their term (however long it is, with a minimum term of 30 days), until they can go to the Bais HaMikdash and bring their sacrifices.
This would not apply nowadays. Since a person cannot bring sacrifices today, a Nazir/Nezirah cannot complete his/her first term. As a result, even if a person made a vow for multiple monthly terms, they would not be able to shave after the end of the first month (unless, of course, the Bais HaMikdash is rebuilt before then). They would have to let their hair grow indefinitely until they could complete their first term.
The Wolf
You don’t have to drive y’know. You can take rides with others or use mass transit.
I don’t know where the OP lives. It’s possible s/he lives in an area without mass transit.
Has anyone ever been in this situation, and how long did it take you to get over it?
The first few times, it was scary for me. You quickly get used to driving. Don’t worry so much.
The Wolf
I know I’m going to be called a “moderne apikorus” for this, but I don’t care:
I’d rather have a mentsch from Harvard than a rotten person from Brisk.
I’d also rather have a mentsch from Brisk than a rotten person from Harvard.
And if the choice is between two people who are both mentsches, one of whom went to Harvard and the other to Brisk, then my choice would be which ever one my daughter wants.
The Wolf
I don’t think men should be reading this thread.
Why not? Who better than men would know how they like to be treated?
The Wolf
let’s talk specifics.
At a bare minimum, treat him the way you’d want to be treated. Ideally, treat him much better than you treat yourself. The same advice applies to a husband regarding how he treats his wife.
The Wolf
my wife wore a burqa, i still have no isea what she looks like.
You joke, but we have such a poster who advocated just that — that a husband should not know what his wife looks like.
An important lesson from last weeks parsha for married people
The Wolf
A library is assur because of seforim chitzonim. The Mishna in Sanhedrin 10:1 that says a person loses his Olam Haboa by reading the wrong books since it corrupts his mind.
So why does everyone give me grief every time I say that I lost my Olam HaBah because I’ve read seforim chitzonim? I have a clear mekor in the Mishna quoted. Thank you, Pac-man for the confirmation of my eternal status regarding my reading that book on SQL optimization (among other books).
The Wolf