WolfishMusings

wolf, I didn’t know you had it in you

Had what in me??

The Wolf

exposed yourself to the fact that there are divorced people and OTD kids

Considering the fact that I was born OTD and that my parents are divorced (and hence I’ve been exposed to those concepts since birth), I guess I’m hopelessly corrupted. 🙁

The Wolf

is stating the truth offensive?

Sometimes it is. Going up to an ugly person and stating “boy, you’re ugly” is offensive, even if it is the truth.

The Wolf

maybe your kids will have a good influence on you:)

Nah. I’m completely and utterly incorrigible.

The Wolf

Even pay and fay

You do realize that Pay and Fay are really the same letter, right?

in Hebrew, whatever letter you see is what it is and always will be, it doesn’t change

I know that in some circles it is fashionable to pronounce a cholom as “oy,” but in others, a cholom without a yud after it is “oh” and with a yud after it is “oy.” Likewise, a shuruk can have a different sound depending on whether or not a yud follows it.

based on the next letter

Usually not, but often on the preceding letter (such as the rules surrounding when a dagesh is used, or whether a sheva is a nah or nach).

Ultimately, I think your original premise is flawed. You are comparing two languages (Hebrew and English), concluding that Hebrew is easier to read (which may or may not be true) and then concluding that Hebrew must be easier to read than ALL languages. Needless to say, your conclusion is not supported by the premises of your argument.

The Wolf

Why not wait until around Erev Shavuvos for Haircutting.

Why should we wait if there is no reason to?

The Wolf

Thank you… that helps quite a bit.

I’ll make a recommendation in a moment, but before I do, I’d like to make the following observation: all the points you stress are probably not that important for preschool. Probably any school where your kid won’t feel like an outsider and that teaches your general hashkafah would be acceptable for preschool.

In addition, keep in mind that you are in no way “locked in” when you choose a preschool. It’s not as if the decision that you make today is going to determine his academic future for the next ten years.

That being said, I would recommend (depending on your geography, of course) Yeshiva Toras Emes Kaminetz*. The hashkafah of the school fits what you are looking for. The rabbeim there are generally excellent, motivated and do a very good job. The secular studies department at the yeshiva is well-run and the kids come away learning quite a bit. Rabbi Engelberg is a true professional in education.

The Wolf

* I state all this about the elementary school. I know very little about the high school — but that really shouldn’t be a concern for you at this stage of the game anyway.

I know this is going to sound silly, but I’m going to ask anyway.

Labels such as “heimish” and “good secular education” are meaningless, in that almost every school labels themselves in such a way.

To get a good recommendation for a school that will fit your child and the goals you seek for him/her, I suggest you answer the following questions:

1. Boy or girl? And what age/grade?

2. What exactly do you mean by “heimish?” Do you mean what is commonly called “yeshivish?” Do you mean “chassidic?”

3. What are the goals for this child in terms of limudei kodesh? Are you looking for a school that will emphasize “all-learning, all the time” or you are looking for a school with a more balanced approach?

4. What type of environment would best suit your child? Does you child need the type of school where there is little or no variation in the schedule day-to-day, or does your child need a school where the routine is sometimes broken up by a small trip or outing?

5. What are the secular education goals for this child? Do you want a school that will prepare him/her for college? Or just teaching to pass the Regents exams?

The Wolf

IANAL, but I have heard that parody falls under Fair Use. For example, Weird Al Yankovic is an artist who has made a living by taking popular songs and putting new (and funny) lyrics to the tunes.

From what I’ve read, Yankovic is not required by law to get permission from the artists he parodies. He does so anyway, because he wants to maintain good relationships with the artists, but if were so inclined, he could parody a song with no copyright issues.

The Wolf

You’ll note that my “I AM A THREADKILLER!” thread itself was removed.

The Wolf

Google Translate does Yiddish.

Thanks.

msseeker,

If insisting on the truth makes one a ??? ????? ??? ??????? ???? then I proudly wear the badge. I’d rather be one of the ??? ????? ??? ??????? ???? than excuse “frum” dishonesty any day of the week. And if that makes me an apikorus, a moser, a troublemaker, a malshin, a “frei yid,” a “meshuga” or whatever dirty labels you want to throw at me, then that’s fine too. I don’t really care.

And lastly, if you’re going to insult an entire group of Jews, at least have the courage and decency to do so in a language that they understand.

The Wolf

That’s “freedom of speech”.

So is the right to criticize them for it.

The Wolf

“Who is the real Taliban? The chasidim who mind there own bussiness and dont tell anyone alse how to live there lives, or those who try telling them (in not the most flattering way) what standerds they should or shoudent have?”

I have to wonder at just how sincere the apology is when they turn it around and call their critics “the Taliban.”

The Wolf

so why can’t we Jews also believe that no harm was intended, accept their acknowledgement of poor judgement, and move on.

Because even though the paper apologized, there are still people here on this very forum saying that the paper was absolutely correct in doing what they did and that removing Mrs. Clinton was the absolute right thing to do.

As soon as the people here are willing to admit that the paper made a mistake and that it would have been more honest to either not publish the photo (or publish it with a notification that it was altered), then I’d be willing to let the matter rest and “move on.”

The Wolf

OK, SO NOW HOW DO I TELL HIM THAT I WANNA LEAVE???

Firstly, don’t shout.

Secondly, go into his office, and explain, calmly and rationally, that you need a paycheck. Normal ethics would say that you should give two weeks’ notice, but in this instance, I think leaving without that is justified.

Tell him that you are leaving because (a) you’re not getting paid and (b) you don’t see any changes on the immediate horizon. In addition, tell him that you are not relinquishing any rights to any monies you are already owed and that if you don’t see payment by (pick a reasonable date), you will be taking him to bais din and/or secular court. Then you leave.

That’s all there is to it. If he’s not paying you, he’s already broken the cardinal tenet of employment. You don’t owe him any consideration beyond civility.

The Wolf

and I again assert that seeing that picture would not make anyone specifically think that she wasn’t there.

It would definitely make something think she wasn’t sitting in that chair, no?

The Wolf

You say that “people viewing the photo would have believed that they weren’t in the room”, which is not true; they merely might not have known that they were not in the room, which is completely different.

Do you realize we’re heading into “it depends on what the definition of ‘is’ is” territory? C’mon, you’re splitting that hair so thin that there’s barely anything there.

The bottom line is this: if you were to ask an average person, upon seeing the doctored photo, if Hillary Clinton was there, sitting next to whoever it was she was sitting next to, most people would say no — and that includes the readers of this paper. They would not say “Oh, that must have been Hillary’s spot, but she was taken out.”

The Wolf

My father is not frum. Of course I wanted him by my wedding and I wanted him to be happy. On the other hand, most of my guests would have wanted separate seating (as I did at the time).

The compromise: we had separate seating, along with two tables of mixed seating (on the men’s side) for my father and his friends.

The Wolf

but can’t make a decision

It’s really not all that difficult. Ask yourself the following questions:

Can you afford to go on without a paycheck?

Do you love your job so much that you’d do it for free (as a hobby)?

Is the comfort you have at your job going to cause you discomfort regarding the lack of a paycheck (i.e. would your spouse [if any] be unhappy about it? Which discomfort is greater?

Is there some compelling reason to remain there even without a paycheck (i.e. they will provide some valuable experience that you can’t get elsewhere)?

Answer those questions and you’ll see very clearly what you need to do.

And once you move on, make sure you drag his butt to bais din and/or civil court for the back pay that he owes you.

The Wolf

as in The Wolf

My apologies. I do not mean to imply in any way that I am a deity.

the wolf

(And I don’t think that citation proves anything. I can find you somewhere where it says any aveira is the worst one.)

Please find me a cite where it says that breaking the bone of the Korban Pesach is the worst aveira possible. 🙂

(Not that I disagree with your overall point… just picking up on the challenge presented.)

The Wolf

Wolf: I already posted that (though I was more discrete with my rebuke).

My apologies. I failed to notice that.

And if you truly feel it is an issue, you should not be quoting it in lowercase either.

I disagree. In the interest of clarity (I have no idea if HIE will even remember his OP), I *always* quote what I’m responding to. In this case, IMHO, it’s necessary so that he can see what it was I was objecting to.

That’s just my opinion. You are, of course, free to disagree with me if you wish.

The Wolf

rely on the one above.

Next time, when you’re referring to HKBH, capitalize (i.e. the One Above). It’s considered proper respect.

The Wolf

Oh, c’mon Wolf. There must have been one experience you had that was head and shoulders above the rest. One tish, where you really got into the zemiros, or one mitzva tanz which brought tears to your eyes.

The answer to your question is no. I’ve never been to a tish or a mitzvah tantz. I sing z’miros in my home, but I assume that doesn’t count for the purposes of this discussion.

I have davened in chassidic shuls of various denominations, but none of them really impressed me over any other.

But even if the answer to your question was yes, so what? Is any branch of chassidus so shallow that it’s defined by the mitzvah tantz or tish? If I’m going to make a decision on which I feel most connected to, shouldn’t it be on the basis of something more than a tish or a mitzvah tantz? Shouldn’t it be based on their philosophy, their approach to yahadus or their feelings about what brings you closer to HKBH? Telling me that I should have a favorite chassidus simply because a chassidic zemer might have brought tears to my eyes is, IMHO, very shallow indeed.

The Wolf

Eeees rarely (if ever) wears makeup, so I don’t have this issue. But if she did, I wouldn’t have a problem with her doing it in front of me.

The Wolf