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According to most Poskim “one brain” is assur miDeoraisa.
Oh my goodness… thanks for telling me. Since I have only one brain, I must now go out to the brain store, find another brain for myself (and everyone else in my family since they also have only one brain each) and find a way to stuff the additional brains into our heads. Perhaps up through our nostrils might be the best way.
Off to the brain store…
The Wolf
what do you think of it? do you wear it? you lets your kids wear it? i just want opinions.
Yes, I allow my daughter to wear nail polish. As long as it isn’t completely outrageous, I don’t have a problem with it for my daughter.
The Wolf
My daughter went with my mother, my sister and myself (along with my aunt and her boyfriend) to a Yankees game last year. We all had a great time.
The Wolf
My kids are allowed online, but then again, my kids are all in their teens. They need to use the Internet for research for school projects, send assignments to their teachers, etc. And, yes, they use it for entertainment too.
They know that all sites they visit are recorded.
The Wolf
What type of internet do you have?
One with computers. 🙂
The Wolf
What do/did you do?
We named after people.
My oldest was born on Succos and has three names that all come from the names of the Ushpizin… but that was just a coincidence. He would have received the same names even if he wasn’t born on Succos.
While we named our kids after people, we have no theological problem with naming after an time period (i.e. born on Purim) or just picking a name because we like it.
The Wolf
what about ????? ??????? ask a ???? ?????
In the middle of laining????
The Wolf
I lain Megillah in a large shul every year. I can tell you that, as a ba’al kriah, I hate disturbances of any type, including that of children crying. Part of the problem is that I have to balance the needs of the k’lal against that of individual people.
I don’t want people to miss the opportunity to be yotzei the mitzvah of Krias HaMegillah. The problem is that if I stopped (and went back) *every* time I hear a disturbance, the Megillah laining would take hours. So that means that I have to make a judgment call on whether to stop and go back or not.
The result is that every time I lain for the tzibbur, there are, undoubtedly, some women who were not yotzei, since I can’t *always* go back (and there are also, no doubt, some disturbances that I don’t hear but, nonetheless, cause people to not be yotzei).
The Wolf
In some respects, the teen years are glorious. In other respects, being older rules.
Just be happy for the age you are. You’ll be older before you know it.
The Wolf
I think her point is, that it isn’t the childs thing to give away. Its something that should be discussed with parents.
Yes, but it’s not something that worth ruining a shidduch over. It’s not even worth the bad feelings that may arise.
The Wolf
Wolf,
What about when you Daven by the Amud?
I don’t constantly daven by the Amud.
Dont worry ????? ????? ???? you have the ???? for ?????? ????? ?????
That’s very kind of you to say. Thank you.
The Wolf
My brother in law is a nurse. I also know of two other male nurses.
The Wolf
Who doesn’t want all of those things?
I’m lucky that the bracha specifies only those that refrain from talking during davening. If it also mentioned people who talk during laining, then I’d be out of luck (as I talk during laining all the time).
The Wolf
Don’t take any wooden nickles.
The Wolf
If they demand your first born, you can say that it wasn’t reasonable to expect that condition. If they demand that you not give someone else a free copy, you can’t honestly say that you didn’t expect that condition.
Well, I think we can all agree that a condition to give your firstborn is silly, as it would never stand up in secular court OR in a bais din.
A more similar condition would be that if you buy the CD, you can’t listen to track 5.
The Wolf
By my wedding, I was escorted down by my father and father-in-law. Please note that this isn’t because of any special minhag that I have (I had none in this area), but rather because by my wedding, my divorced parents would have felt uncomfortable walking down together — so even though that would have been my preference, I agreed to the other way. In the end, to me, it wasn’t terribly important and certainly wasn’t worth making anyone (and especially my parents) uncomfortable over.
By my sister’s wedding they were apparently okay with it, since they both walked her down the aisle.
As for my kids, I’m going to do whatever makes them happy. If they want me to walk them down with Eeees, I’ll happily do it. If they want me to walk them down with their future father-in-law, I’ll happily do that too. It’s their big day, not mine, and their wishes should be respected.
The Wolf
did you feel confortable going down that capet in back of your inlaws? was it only you two,the couple?) or any other married siblings from the family?
Since my in-laws were the parents of the bride, they walked in last (as is customary). As such we walked in ahead of them.
The chosson went first with his mother, then various grandparents and siblings of the chosson and kallah (including us) and then the kallah.
I still don’t see what the issue here is. If you think I did something wrong, just come out and say it.
The Wolf
P.S. Please learn to use the “em” tag, or at least put quotes around the part you are quoting from another poster. Your posts are difficult to read.
The Wolf
wolf- canine didnt start the accident one that was me. but i guess he stole my idea
I failed to notice that. My apologies.
The Wolf
i’m sure it felt very good when everyone saw you walking next to your pregnant wife.
It had nothing to do with whether it made me feel good or not. I did it because my sister-in-law wanted it and it was her wedding. End of story.
where were the parents?
I don’t understand your question. Her parents (my in-laws) were there. They walked down with her later.
The Wolf
Nonetheless, if it’s halachically permitted and legal in the jurisdiction where the couple live, why is it any business of yours? If you think it’s weird, don’t marry a cousin.
The Wolf
im talking abt cousins in the year 2011
In the year 2011, I am cousins with just about everyone on earth.
The Wolf
and if they werent “vehemently against smoking” you would be able to tell them who to marry????
No, the latter clause was not dependent on the former. It’s just in the nature of additional informaiton.
The Wolf
Is your name really Zev? 🙂
It’s possible. It’s also possible that it’s not.
The Wolf
We’re all cousins if you go back far enough.
The Wolf
Did everybody wish you “b’shaa tova”
I don’t remember, it was quite a while ago.
In any event, it’s not like we announced it at the wedding (we would never upstage someone else’s wedding like that). We were already eight months along and just about everyone there already knew about it long before.
The Wolf
I walked down the aisle with my wife (and unborn son) at her sister’s wedding.
The Wolf
That makes sense, since their names are Wilma, George, and Walter.
FTR, that’s not their names… no more than my wife’s name is really Eeees. In fact, my kids don’t have secular names at all (other than their last names).
The Wolf
would you marry a guy that smokes??
I would not marry a guy… smoker or not.
would you let your kid marry a guy that smokes??
My kids are all vehemently against smoking. That being said, when my kids get married they will be adults and I will not be in a position to “let” my kid marry anyone.
The Wolf
No. Nothing happened.
Is there a reason you keep asking these simple questions? Were you in a car accident and then arrested?
The Wolf
In our shul, two Mi SheBerachs are said:
1. For people who do not talk during davening.
2. For the American government.
The Wolf
Yes.
The Wolf
What’s the contradiction? Some people are out of work while others are not and can afford vacations. What is so difficult about this?
The Wolf
My kids call us Mom and Dad.
The Wolf
Quick — run down to the nearest video store and take out “The Princess Bride.” You will find great one-line quotes for almost any occasion. 🙂
The Wolf
whats a falg?
Reminds me of one of my favorite Calvin & Hobbes lines:
“I pledge allegiance to Queen Fragg and her mighty state of hysteria…”
The Wolf
I often leave small love notes on heart-shaped Post-Its around the house for Eeees. When she finds them, she hangs them up in the kitchen. Currently the entire doorframe leading from the kitchen to the dining room is covered in them. She says that it reminds her. 🙂
That reminds me that I need to pick up more Post-It notes.
The Wolf
WolfishMusings: This is one of my secret technics of getting to know all the anti-happy. (and you location is.. hold it, map it out..) Then we’ll strike with one..
Go ahead. You’re welcome to come and do it.
And the word you’re looking for is “techniques.”
The Wolf
If I post and I’m still yellow, if I log out will I lose me? 🙂
The Wolf
yes
Wolf- chill. We wont deprive u of anything. Ur obviously so infatuated with ur tools u cant hear my point.
A. I’m not infatuated.
B. I hear your point, I just think you’re wrong.
C. I don’t appreciate the condescending tone. I’ve treated you with respect here and ask the same.
But I hope u never have to witness the kind of devastating destruction that comes from these lovely “tools.” I have.. (maybe I should add to the divorce posts..) n that is why I think it is something to take into account, understand the dangers, n use with caution..
Again, there will always be people who misuse tools. And I agree with you that there should be training and education in the proper use of these tools. I never advocated just giving a kid a computer, an Ipod or whatever and saying “OK, here you go, do whatever you want.” There always has to be strict parental supervision at first and education on proper usage as time goes on.
So, let me ask you, what is your point, exactly? Do you advocate an outright ban on these items? Do you (like I do) favor education and training? Or is it something else? Aside from merely complaining that these items may be misused, do you actually have a position on the usage of these items? And if so, what is that position?
The Wolf
You think Hashem will give you more than you can handle without your intervention?
I’m not debating the point. I meant what I said, nothing more, nothing less.
The Wolf
(edited to remove my last statement — changed my mind on its appropriateness)
As many as my children can raise happily and successfully.
The Wolf
According to some people here, yes. See my earlier post on this thread.
Are those same people willing to give up their cars and microwaves and cameras and other such items?
The Wolf
(emphasis mine)
i dont think there is a single movie out there that is appropriate..no matter which age they say its for.. even for little kids.. they always put something in it..
and later (again, emphasis mine)
of course there is an exception to every rule.. but i think that most movies out there are innapropriate
Backtrack much?
and once a kid starts off watching movies.. do you honestly think he/she is gonna stop?
It depends on the age of the kid, of course.
A young kid shouldn’t be watching anything without their parents’ permission. But as a kid gets older, you have to allow him/her more freedom.
Part of the parenting process is not just shielding your kid from inappropriate things, but also giving them the tools to be able to discern for themselves if they should be watching/listening to/reading something. If you’re going to take the blanket approach and say “no” all the time, then your kids are never going to learn this appropriate skill — and if you think they’re not going to at least attempt to watch something once either when they become teenagers or adults, then you’re sadly mistaken.
I’m not necessarily advocating that you show you’re kids movies — but what I am saying is that if you want them to be able to learn to discern for themselves what is right and what is wrong, you’re going to have to educate them *with examples*.
Might they make a mistake at some point even if you try to train them? Certainly… but that’s a part of the maturation process — we learn from our mistakes most of all.
On a side point, I try to show my kids that there are plenty of movies out there that are pretty clean and fun. I’m pretty sure that my kids are the only kids in their classes who have seen such classics as Bringing Up Baby, It Happened One Night (despite the risque title, it’s a very clean movie), To Sir With Love, Arsenic and Old Lace, Rear Window and so on. I wanted my kids to know two things: 1. Movies can be clean and fun and 2. Good movies didn’t start with Harry Potter. 🙂
The Wolf
I am referring to electronic games/ipods/cell phones/palms with internet access. Lets try not to be naive..
I am not being naive.
However, I ask you to consider the following:
First, these products do serve a positive function and fill a need — entertainment. Yes, entertainment is a need. Granted, it doesn’t quite rank up there with food, clothing and shelter, but our lives would be pretty miserable without entertainment of some form or other.
Second, again, like any tool, these tools can be used properly or misused. As I mentioned above, you don’t “need” a car, an air conditioner, a camera or a microwave — but that doesn’t make them bad. I could use my car to drive to a shiur, or to drive to McDonalds for a cheeseburger. I could use my camera to take nice pictures, or I could take improper ones (however you want to define that). I could use my microwave to heat up kosher food and I could use it to heat up tarfus. And on and on. Every person has to be responsible for how they use any tool. Should I be deprived of my ability to listen to a shiur or watch a video on photographic technique or listen to a podcast on DIY plumbing or whatever just because some people choose to misuse it?
The Wolf
The Wolf: I don’t want to c”v make him think that I think he is a cheapskate.
It doesn’t have to be framed that way. It could easily be done by saying “Dad, I’ve noticed that you only drink grape juice on Shabbos. Is that an old family minhag? Or personal preference?”
The Wolf
Off topic:
When I first saw this thread, I misread it as “chosson management tips for pre-k” and my first thought was “boy… someone’s starting the shidduch search early!”
The Wolf
My father always objects to drinking grape juice during the week. Perhaps because it is a “Shabbos food”. Does anyone know the reasoning? Does it apply to any other foods (i.e. cholent)?
Why don’t you ask him why he objects to it?
The Wolf
wolf- whoooa. do u really think thats what i was referring to?
So then please clarify for me.
Thanks,
The Wolf
You should only bow to Hashem.
Bowing as a sign of respect (where there is no aspect of deification) is perfectly permitted.
The Wolf
what is the positive usage of electronic devises? (besides shiurim)
So, I suppose you’ll be forgoing the use of an MRI machine if the need arises? Or a smoke/CO detector? Or any of the other life-saving devices that we have?
And, keep in mind, you can’t just say “okay, we’ll keep those but get rid of others” since, very often, the technology from one type of item (which may not be necessary) is used as a model or built upon to produce other devices (which may well be necessary).
In the end, however, all these devices have positive purposes. Just because *you* may not appreciate being able to make a phone call wherever you does not, in and of itself, make it not positive.
do we really NEED all these devises?
Do you need a car? Do you need a camera? Do you need a microwave? Do you need an air-conditioner? The answer to all the above is “no.” And yet, we have them and I’ve never heard anyone speak out against them.
Life isn’t only about needs — and there is nothing wrong with having something even though it’s not a “need.”
The Wolf