Always_Ask_Questions

ujm, I respect filters. I tried relying on them with kids and it did not really work – they find ways to go around. Even when I established a multi-layered defense at router, computer, and cellular level – they would find a free WiFi or, as a last resort, claim that my filters interfer with their legitimate work on the computer. Then, they will peak over my shoulder to see what I do to open that helicke website they need … Constant warfare … Somehow, soon after getting kids out of schools and making them do serious work on their computers lead to them using computers responsibly without any filters. It is not because they “grew up” as some are of the age that others were during the warfare times. I do keep basic network filtering and safety options in google search on all devices to prevent silly stuff appearing in the search results.

I am concerned as a couple of posters fashioned to refer to R Moshe’s S-I-L somewhat derogatory. I understand that you might disagree with him on some issues, or even doubt his veracity when quoting his F-I-L, suspecting that he puts a political slant.

I wonder – do you have any factual basis for your attitude:
– do you have evidence that R Moshe did not verify quality of the semicha of the chatan, so you don’t use R-?
– do you have cases, or even a pattern, of other witnesses contradicting R Tendler’s reporting of R Moshe’s words?

Also, keep in mind that people in the family tend to talk differently between each other. It is possible that R Moshe was focusing on the psak when talking to outsiders and revealed more of the underlying reasoning in the family.

Just a sevorah, I do not see a contradiction between a strong position against abortion and a position against government interfering in religious matters. R Moshe had Soviet experience with both murder and religious prosecution, so no doubt he understood policies here – and better than one-issue advocates in US.

with so many talmidei chachamim who live or lived in E’Y, could we agree that there are some exceptions to the Oaths?! Or it is not OK for Zionists to fight for E’Y, but OK for non-Zionists to arrive on El Al later on without fighting?

Also, is emphasis on E’Y or on fighting non-Jews in general (see example of Portugal above). In the latter case, maybe Jewish communists would be a prime example of what we should not do (see a simpler source than Oaths – Beitza 25 that Hashem gave Jews Torah from stopping us stepping over other nations).

that wife follows husband Igros Moshe 1:158

R Auerbach, quoted in Yom Tov Sheini K’hilchaso, pg. 188 – husband does NOT HAVE TO insist on his minhag – even possibly nusach or anything she wants. Maybe this could be part of a prenup?

someone suggests that this is coming from the klal of moving to a different place – husband’s house (YD 214:2). This matches Yevamos saying that a man should not live with in-laws (may not be operative now when most people don’t live with in-laws and wives are not always that younger than husbands).

Igros Moshe Even Ha’ezer 2:22 – a spouse can not force humros on others. R Ovadia Yosef quoted for the same (not using eruv). Some testify that R Moshe did not interfer with his wife drinking halav stam.

Rav Eliyashev – that some minhagim are nedorim and shoulbe kept (kitniyot)
For exceptions for candles, mikva, wig:
Igros Moshe EH 2:12
Beitzah 29b
R Auerbach, Halichos Shlomo, chapter 9 of hilchos Succah, footnote 37
Yaaakov Emden Teshuvos Ya’avetz 107.

I am wondering whether learning status of a woman might affect the decision. If the husband typically is the posek in the house and instructs the wife what to do – then, his minhagim should have weight. You don’t expect him to go to his M-I-L and learn from her! But if the woman is learned on her own, whether BY or YI, she might not need to ask her husband and he might not need to interfere.

ujm, women might follow their mother’s minhagim re: candles, etc.

I heard an “interesting” argument – yes, court has previously overturned previous decision – but they always did it “to expand liberties”, this is the first one “to restrict them”. In other words, it is OK to overturn decisions to make it more liberal, but not ok to make it more conservative.

To bring a religious angle here: one reason for avodah zara is people’s inability to connect things to the source – they are looking for some immediate source of fire or water or parnasa. So, among other middos, a religious person requires daas that helps him appreciate how events in the world connect back to the Prime Source. Without such daas, one might be ortho-prax just because he is trained to mumble brochos, bot not ortho-dox. So, when some people can not connect obvious things, such as government making oil business harder to increased gas prices shows that they can’t properly connect their life to Hashem also.

how do female doctors handle crazy med school and rotation schedules while having a family? any clues? The only one I saw have husbands who (even pre-covid) were able to spend lots of time at home – SW develpers or PhD students. (My daughters for this reason are looking into near-medical fields that are less demanding).

> I know of many many older frum people who are doctors and nurses.

indeed, a couple of decades ago, a friend went for an interview to a major NY hospital in a kippah, etc. The doctor he walked around with – who did not even “look Jewish” – at some point poured a cup of water, went with him into a small room, closed the door, took kippah out of his pocket, said shehakol …

RebE, Ashkenazi husband or ashkenazi wife?

Ballet pianist. I know someone who got a heter for this, but decided not to use it while he was single. I presume after he got married, it did not work out either.

Or we can reform the President – and make it a 3 people committee (like a beis din). This was one of the original suggestions, possibly one from north, south and the middle of the country.

Anyway, hopefully this tumult will take a month out of Congress timeline and we can save a trillion or two from last minute bills.

While in general we should be assisting the world to keep Noahide laws, I suggest we just stay away from this contentious issue: extreme positions on both sides are against halakha and the country does not seem to be inclined for middle ground right now.

Legally, the decision is a welcome support for federalism. If more issues will devolve to the states, we might stop talking about federal – Presidential and Congress – elections.

Practically speaking, this might reverse the famous “Roe effect” leading to more D- voters in 20 years.

Avira > with twisted gender, alphabet soup ideology being fostered onto preschoolers.

I think you and Kuvult envision different scenarios, both happening: you are talking about mixing with random people in a public or MO school, Kuvult seems to be talking to some special people with certain character that happen to be non- or less-observant.

I am not sure whether it was wise to have kids fully integrated even i the second scenario, but it is definitely wise to teach the kids that there are people with dignity and purpose that may not be wearing same hat as you.

n0 > The shtetl stirred up a lot of agnostic attitudes toward the Torah. Which is why irreligious sefardim (In the mid-east) did not have such attitudes until they met their western counterparts.

I just wrote about this in another thread. I don’t the shtetl itself created the stira – rather enlightment and russian oppression. R Berel Wein traces antagonism of Israeli commies towards religious organization to the russian law that made kahal responsible for providing cantonists – kids for pre-army military schools, leading to corruption and violence within the community.

Avram, I agree on changing priorities and kids. My kids do not stay in touch with those friends who became non-observant or moved into lax MO circles. Still, something is not right here. If you note, Sephardim seem to have more united communities, with many masorti people who feel like part of am yisrael even if not always observant or learned. Possibly, we suffer the post-haskala shock that we probably need to get over already. Number of reformim, socialists, OO is not that high any more, most non-observant Jews are ignorami rather than apikoiri.

This is interesting approach: admit that someone is a talmid chacham, and then proudly report that your teacher will not quote him. I am compelled not to believe your testimony despite it being so compelling as it reflects negatively on the talmidei chachamim you learned from. Reminder: beis Hillel would quote b shammai first and that was the reason for their success.

It might be that your teachers didn’t see you or your class up to the proper level of learning and would reduce debate to improper level, so they stayed quiet.

I presume that if Moshe had a choice of having script seen in the right way to himself and to others – he will choose to show it to the Jews the right way. After all, he already learnt them, his goal now was to show it to the rest of the yidden.

How big is the shul that would need $100k for new ac? Would it have 100+ people there? Can you all have a 5 year loan for this ac and pay 200 per year each? Also maybe some of the people in the shul are in construction business and can offer a discount for the job

y1836,
for last couple of centuries, we live through one of the greatest upheaval times of the Jewish and world history. It would be surprising, and even disappointing, if all opinions about modernity will be the same, disregarding personalities, opinions, environment in different places, etc.

so, I don’t think it is an issue of who is right or wrong or who is acceptable, but what different people were able to discover and how it will all get integrated at the end.

R Mordechai Dubin was in Latvian parliament

I feel I’ve seen this post before

have to answer the first question myself:
as we know, luchos were physically identical, but the first had way more text chiseled away – so, of course, 2nd was heavier.

Presuming, Moshe was carrying them as in the movie to show to Jews, then the first lucha will be on right side for the people, or in Moshe’s left hand, so the heavier 2nd lucha was in his right hand, corresponding to two ideas above. So, here sevora, gemora, and physics all match.

RebE > you are saying what the Rambam says

Indeed, I am not trying to come up with chidushim here or be controversial, I think this is a very traditional view that was lost due to modernishe opportunities in the goldene medina.

maybe we need to expand what “visible” is – this does not have to be a tall hat (Lincoln and Kennedy had that also) but might be how people walk, talk, and behave. Kiso, koso, vekaaso.