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Pac-Man, Most men aren’t actually IN the woman’s section. They usually stand by the mechitza alternating between videoing the men and women.
mischief, lifeguards are usually not paid by the hour in camp, unless you are refering to private lessons
Hudi, I see that you are careful and motivated with hilchos tznius 🙂
Hudi, I don’t know what your last comment has to do with what I said. I’m sorry if you were insulted. I’m not judging your modesty (and you obviously care about doing the right thing if you are seeking advice), rather your comment shows a lack of maturity to seek advice from someone more capable of helping you than cr.
I mean things like glitter eye shadow, layered look, open toe, etc. Those are generally more grey and you cannot find those answers in halacha books.
Sender Av, that’s actually pretty funny
I’ve seen worse, like the person who was videoed as he cleaned his nose…
Pac-Man, ice cream is a yes or no answer. Tznius is not that point-blank. Tznius is also more personal.
I hear there’s a job opening in the local laundromat 😉
bortezomib, If you’re volunteering (as opposed to a committed job), would it be possible to take off 1 day to the see the tutor? It would be much easier than dealing with one of the other awkward possibilities.
‘not the red one’
baron, I don’t get it. Care to explain the depth behind that particular subtitle?
There wouldn’t be a problem if photographers knew their boundaries! Though photographers may sometimes be annoying, I do believe in the saying “a picture is worth a thousand words”
(round of applause for WIY)
Thank you for posting! You’ve inspired many (including me)
But Hudi, questions like that are meant for a rav or rebbetzin. There is nothing to be ashamed of for wanting to follow halacha. Better a rav that is familiar with you (and your “spiritual level”), but if you are too uncomfortable for that, then there are plenty of anonymous hotlines that you can call.
Every extra step you take towards doing the right thing, will only increase your schar! Don’t waste issues like that on the cr.
Well, you got me to open this thread. Let the “interesting”ness begin!
hatzlacha with the job hunting process!!!
Anything less than youth corp is a waste of time! Staff in most camps are barely paid for their time and effort.
bpt, $500 is more than I ever made. Maybe I should’ve attended that camp. But I do think 500 is a fair fee to ask for and definitely earned.
lol, kapusta!
I commend you on your thread dedication to such an important topic!
Unless your friends are a bad influence, I think you should keep them. Real friends are hard to come by. They might not share your depth, but I’m sure they still care about you and want whats best for you. There’s nothing wrong with having “fun friends,” especially if you have other close friends that you can relate to more on a deeper level and confide in.
Much hatzlacha!
Wow, Bomb! This is major! Thanks for letting us cr room members know. I’m sure the article will raise some of the much-needed awareness.
Tricky question, does your secular college have a calculus tutor? Most colleges supply free tutors to help out with the material.
I personally don’t rely on Starbucks, but I have many friends that do, since they say that in frummer areas, the Starbucks employees know not to break the rules and they can be trusted.
I’m not advocating either way- just sharing my (limitted) knowledge on the matter
DY, of course not!
Older singles should most certainly get married. The point I was trying to bring out is how foolish it is connect shalom bayis issues with immaturity. Each age has its own pros and cons.
I do however feel that it is more difficult for an older single to get married than say a “fresh out of sem or ey”, simply because older singles are usually less flexible and more set in their ways. That is a challenge for older singles but I certainly can’t imagine it stopping one from getting married.
A smartphone is almost like a palm sized computer. You can do almost anything on it- and fast. From emails, to games, to downloads, to your typical application.
Androids have some really cool downloads like a “shopping list,” bar code scanner…most of them free.
I hope that helps a bit.
I’m suddenly ever so grateful for my “safe” subtitle. Sorry Cooljude if that doesn’t make you feel better 😉
Hey! I know plenty of “oldies” with droids. You just have to be technologically savy. It’s a great phone for most ages
Yes, I’ve seen them, and have played with my friends droids. They really are cool. Now if only one of them would buy me one as a present…
ICOT, well said. When someone is going through a difficult challenge what’s most important is support; to know that people care and daven for you and hope for the best.
correction & alwayshere, remember that us coffee room members are here for you and wish you much hatzlacha and siyata dishmaya! 🙂
A sub-title is an honor that has to be earned…
Only those who are worthy will be knighted by a Mod to a befitting or embarassing subtitle
Yes, it is a very deep, and time consuming process
Pac/Man, I agree. It’s better that the couple should grow together, rather than that they should each be set in their own independent, mature ways.
People do some crazy things behind the wheel.
But I seem to notice that all to often it’s the innocent people that get “caught.” It’s hard to prove to a judge that the officer didn’t see what he claimed to see…
Dating younger is NOT the main cause of divorce or shalom bayis issues, although it is definitely a contributing factor. When younger people go into a marriage with the wrong ideals, they often need assistance to be “brought down to reality”
But immaturity alone can be worked on more easily than other BIGGER matters that can break a marrriage. I know of many immature people that needed help but definitely were on their way to a strong marriage with the proper guidance. Obviously there are always exceptions (though these people tend to have more problems than just immaturity).
Perhaps immaturity has to be clearly defined.
coffee addict, there are so many charity organizations, that it is so difficult to decide which one to give to. Instead of all the funds going purely to tzedakah, there are too many that go straight into the pockets of the leaders of the organization. Now, that makes me sick!
I hear ‘Our Place’ is a more reliable charity. Although it pains me that this is the means that they use to attract donaters, if they manage to bring in more tzedakah at the end of the day, then at least we can have the peace of mind that our money is going to help people- not pay for steak dinners!
Some Starbucks stores are more trustworthy than others…
BTW, There are plenty of Jewish places nowadays that make awesome (albeit a bit pricey) Frappuchinos
These are some pretty good tips!
If only people like me had enough self control to abide by them…
I’m usually cheap with myself, but I love spending money on others!!!
basket of radishes, maybe this is something that you would like to implement?
There are many, many kiruv movements, but unfortunately there are quite a few communities that are still overlooked.
correction, I’ve always found from experience that a good cry and a bowl of ice cream (can be substituted for any other fattening or caffeinated treat) can do a world of good!
And remember that people do care about you, and believe in your true worth!
I am also addicted. Maybe we should form a support group called CR Anonymous
I would presume the price of pizza is inflated enough- even without a tax! It has become a food of luxury! 😉
Obviously, I’m not in your situation so I can’t truly understand you, but it certainly helps to look for Hashem’s hashgacha in life. Every situation has a silver lining, some are just buried deeper.
Well you’re doing the right mature first step by seeking help.
I am sorry that you are in so much pain.
Write what you’re feeling down. Acknowledge your struggle. Perhaps you could discuss your pain with a mentor or wise friend.
Obviously, such pain would cause tears, but direct them to Hashem, it is a comfort to know thar He understands you.
On another note, I want to commend the Mods for allowing such a random thread with a such controversial title to make its way into CR. Go Mods!
Hm, I would if it’s low-fat
Zahavasdad, the problem is you can never be certain of the veracity of the story. You can’t believe everything you hear. Even a misleading word, is pure loshon hara (or motzei sheim ra). For everything you say, there will be a din v’cheshbon . All you can do sometimes is be careful.
Bottled water does taste better than gasoline…
Hudi, Real “grey area” tznius questions should not be entrusted in the hands of an anonymous cr member. It is frightening to think that anything within a halachic parameter would be relied upon “cuz someone said it, so it must be true.”
happiest, I wouldn’t call it loshon hara. I know too many people who have suffered from one form of abuse or another. Topics like this will hopefully maker them feel validated, not guilty, and will bring them to the awareness that they are not alone in their struggle. Abuse will not be tolerated. To limit loshon hara, posters should be careful before conveying personal stories, if it possible to identify any of the people involved. Make sure to say only what is l’toeles, because what you say can be seen by anyone…
Do air fresheners count?
MiddlePath, Chessed is a wonderful thing that keeps the world running! Because there is no set amount of Chessed one must do, the more that you can accomplish, the better. The gray area is when the Chessed comes at your expense, for example if you lack the time, energy, or funds. If you don’t mind, then go ahead and do it- theres nothing wrong with being a “push over”.