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“Why. Should a girl or guy have a plan? What’s wrong with figuring things out together???
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noone answered my question…. pple these days think that if you don’t have a plan your garbage. someone can have a plan and be really hard to live with since they have to stick to thier plan. and if the other person’s plan is not compatible, whst happpens then?”
There’s nothing wrong with figuring out things together, but people should have an idea of what they want in life; There will be areas of compromise, and areas of unbreakable standards. It is foolish not to prepare for the future, unless you are on a high level where you need no hishtadlus. Having a semblance of a plan is a direction. What you want in life. The key is knowing where to compromise and be flexible.
“Is there any one thing that every girl wants in a guy?”
All I know is that I’m certainly not drinking out of there!
imaofthree, send your extra junk (especially the chocolate) to me. Problem solved!
Nurse Practitioner is the way to go- both are a lot of years of schooling, but the advantage of an NP is its flexibility, great money, and the NP does not have to work under a doctor. PA requires many prerequisites before the actual schooling (can be finished in a year or 2); NP requires first a nursing degree. Both degrees can be completed through accelerated programs.
I hope this helps.
Great new topic starter, as I enjoy every Abie Rotenberg song, and consider them all my favorite. My current favorite is “Ride the Train.”
cpno, there are still many, many computer jobs available. In fact, even more now than there were years ago, thanks to great advances in technology. Although, part-times jobs are still limitted.
On another note, Costco’s is offering a great deal on Super Bowl tickets/ package 😉
OneofMany, regarding programming programs (as you do not seem content with your current schooling), many have informed me of the quality of Touro. I know many coffeeroomers have scoffed at the value of a Touro degree, but their computer major is respected in the secular world. In addition, Touro faculty works hard to find their students successful jobs. I personally, know of many of their alumni that currently have prestigious jobs in upper class firms.
“It is so late here”
Is that a hint?
That’t what you think 😉
Obaminator, you’re under the assumption that:
A- all yeshivishe guys make up for all their years not complimenting females, and miraculously learn how nice it is to do so after marriage
B- women don’t like to be complimented on how they look
This is not usually the case
Brooklyn (like everyone else)?
While I am not encouraging MiddlePath’s behavior, I am quite confident that he is a mentch, and most girls would prefer a guy like him that knows how to make a girl feel good and give a compliment, to the “yeshivish” guy who is above compliments…
Wow! Mazal tov! Thanks for sharing! May you be zoche to a long life of bracha, and hatzlacha, and siyaata dishmaya filled with simcha with your (future) spouse!!!
How about something like:
Thank you so much for attending my vort/ wedding. Your presence really enhanced my simcha! Your thoughtful/ generous gift is greatly appreciated. I look forward to putting it to good use. May we be zoche to share in many more simchos together!!!
I hope this helps. This is just a general letter- obviously open to personalization. Hatzlacha filling up all those thank you cards up!
haifagirl, would you consider foster care?
If it’s any consolation, if a thread or comment of yours is not posted or deleted, you can be certain that the MODS have read it!
President would be the YW editor, of course! Although, I don’t think that he can get impeached…
Is it just me or does reading this thread make you itchy?
Moskidoodle I’d have to guess
his intentions were portion
to that, he would surely confess
gavra_at_work & Health, you are right of course, but most people like to believe that they are “above” certain stigma, and deserve only the best. In reality, everyone has a skeleton in the closet. Daters should try to judge each situation individually.
bygirl93, Bh you have a whole year to forge beautiful, longlasting relationships. Since the other girls will be seeing you in many settings (outside the classroom), they will automatically become closer to you. I’m sure they will see much good in you, and will be eager to get to know you. I have no doubt that you will come back with a wonderful group of friends.
In general, seminary is a girl’s 1 year of self-discovery. Their opportunity to discover what they want in life, and to grow and mature into a true bas yisroel!
I wish all seminary girls much hatzlacha! Use this year (or 2) well!
I think their is something really beautiful and special about a friendship that isn’t bound by age!
The music they was very powerful and moving. Many were brought to tears by my shul. In this case, the music helped accomplish the purpose of the video, if it drew people to be inspired.
YW Moderator-42, I guess you have to live up to your subtitle by being on here 24/6!
Seahorse, I’m sorry that you had to go through such a difficult experience. It’s hard to return to the dating scene, especially after thinking that you were about to settle down for your bnb. Just remember you only need one guy to get married. Make sure you know what you want this time around (what’s important to you), look for those qualities when you are dating, and don’t settle for anything less.
Much hatzlacha! You are always welcome here for support 🙂
Reminds me of Gershon Veroba’s “Penina Coolada”
Thank you, Dvora, for sharing your story!
bortezomib, your name is certainly most original! I never would have guessed that.
Middlepath, along with all of the other posters, I am so sorry that you had to endure additional pain, and have to wait longer for your zivug. You speak today with a lot of strength and maturity. I have no doubt that you deserve better and will find better too. You should have no guilt or feelings of regret since this is her mistake- not yours.
Lots of hatzlacha!!! I’m rooting for you!
bpt, still waiting with great anticipation for your makeup post.
mikehall12382, agreed. I find it to be degrading and quite a chilul Hashem. As HaLeiVi mentioned, I looked carefully at the posts to see how this transpired, and it seems (as usual) to have been done unintentionally. People have to be really careful what they post.
Oy! It must be so upsetting! And during the nine days to boot!
Before I can correctly advise you, there are some factors that must be taken into consideration…
-How did your child get hurt
-What’s your relationship with this neighbor
-Are you sure their homeowners insurance does indeed cover it
-You are looking at the scar at its worst. Are you certain that scar cream or ointment won’t make the scar fade significantly
shlishi, much of it is dependant on mazal and siyaata dishmaya. I know a few people that tried many many times without success and then in a matter of years were zoche to red a spree of successfuly shidduchim!
Believe it or not, some of us have a life outside the cr! 😉 I can see however why the cr could becom so addicting. Perhaps you should join cr anonymous?
You bet. I’ve been living with this condition for many years now, but perhaps it is time to come out of the closet 😉
George Foreman: what can’t you make in it?
I have done fish, burgers, hot dogs, turkey, pastrami, chicken, vegetables- even bread! I confess that I have not done duck ala orange (yet).
adorable, are you sure that they meant all magazines or were they referring to specific controversial ones?
I don’t believe the girls are supposed to be the “learners,” and the guys don’t like that. Everyone has to relax sometimes and the hamodia or binah seem pretty harmless…
Chemistry is a general statement that can mean a variety of things. It doesn’t only have to mean looks. It can mean haskafah, personality, life goals, etc. It is a neutral excusable way of calling off the shidduch. The other “positive” way of calling off a shidduch is to say “he/ she is too good for him/ her.”
They were all beautiful! They are all so true! My favorites were:
I’ve learned…. That I can always pray for someone when I don’t have the strength to help him in some other way.
I’ve learned…. That being kind is more important than being right.
I’ve learned…. That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.
Englishman, I second that! In addition, if you are not familiar with one or both sides, don’t mislead the other side by “raving” about them. Be honest, and recommend that they do their own research. This advice is even more imperative if it is the close friend or relative playing shadchan, since the parents are more likely to trust someone they know.
ZachKessin, you are certainly ambitious! Let us know how that goes in 11 years time.
As for me, I probably should try deiyezooger’s idea…I am actually a pretty careful spender when it comes to big items.
The Goq, Much of what I wanted to say was already said, but I still want to let you know that what you went through was tragic. It is amazing that you are not shattered. That you moved on and grew from this experience. That you remained a g-d fearing jew when your key role model didn’t provide that positive image. I was shocked to read what happened to you, since all your posts are always filled with so much brilliance, knowledge, encouragement, and strength. Wow, the goq, I respect you.
I voted for McCain just like most of you, but I think we all were well aware that he stood little chance against Obama. What was interesting to note was how quickly the national debt rose, subsequent to Obama’s appearence in the oval office.
bombmaniac, really interesting and insightful work! Thank you for sharing your knowledge (and struggles) once more. It would be chaval not to have it published. Perhaps, like some other posters suggested, you should personalize it a bit more to make it more “appealing” to the readers.
If publishing this does not work out, be assured that many many cr members will help spread your message (I have some connections 😉 )
mod 80- that’s what I was saying. If someone has to eat before shacharis it is BETTER to make kiddush then.
So what’s wrong with the person making kiddush?
bpt, yes and no. Your scenario seems to makes sense, but you are generalizing a bit by assuming:
a- young couple isn’t there DURING the week
b- the young couple is remaining starry eyed for 5 years (I have yet to see that. It usually doesn’t take the young couple more than a month to stop seeing the stars)
c- women don’t find time to yent
d- people aren’t having “real insights” during the weekend, when the bungalow colony is plenty crowded with people
bpt, you sound like you’re doing a good job all on your own 😉 Keep going!
It will be hard
to get by the guard
without a card!